Posted by Astrology101
If someone treated me like crap.. I'd remember it for sure. Just because a boyfriend buys you an expensive watch will you forget the fact he slept with 10 women? (I'm assuming you're into monogamy here)
People remember how you make them feel.
Posted by PVJamzI've actually been there before. Stayed with a cousin tho. When I moved close to my college, didn't want to stay in the dorm, was her idea for me to stay, 2 weeks went by and everything I did was wrong. It got to the point where she didn't want me to clean because, in her eyes, she cleans a certain way and I should ask how she cleans to make sure I do it how she likes.Posted by mzmee
Witnessed an argument today.
Basically a woman, when she was younger, got put out by her mom. Went to stay with a friend and the entire two months there, her friend and the people that lived there treated her like complete crap. This young lady gets her things together and goes to a homeless shelter. Cuts contact with the friend and their family. Fast forward... today.
She sees her old friend and didn't look her way, didn't speak or anything. Old friend comes and tries to hug her, the woman avoids her embrace and told her she cut them off for a reason. In a time of need, she needed a friend yet they treated her like shit. I can elaborate if need be.
Old friend and her mom double teams her telling her she's very unappreciative because they took her in. Woman tells her that complete strangers treated her better in a homeless shelter than they ever did.
Sitting here with family, they're calling this woman all kinds of wrong and ungrateful.
If you were ever in a position of need and a friend took you in yet treated you like "a war criminal" while there, do you appreciate the fact they they allowed you to stay, regardless of the mistreatment or do you cut them off.... forever???
Not quite as bad, but when I relocated for work I had to stay with a friend. It was week to week and she made me feel like a burden sometimes. Each week I had to ask to stay, even though shre knew I had no other options. I only stayed about 5 weeks and then I hurriedly got my own place. I kind of treated her with a long handed spoon for a while, but I never ended contact completely. She just showed me what type of person she really is.click to expand
Posted by PVJamzAnd they will act as if they had no clue as to why you become so distant with them. Hence them coming to the conclusion that you didn't appreciate what they did for you. Crazy!!!Posted by mzmee
Witnessed an argument today.
Basically a woman, when she was younger, got put out by her mom. Went to stay with a friend and the entire two months there, her friend and the people that lived there treated her like complete crap. This young lady gets her things together and goes to a homeless shelter. Cuts contact with the friend and their family. Fast forward... today.
She sees her old friend and didn't look her way, didn't speak or anything. Old friend comes and tries to hug her, the woman avoids her embrace and told her she cut them off for a reason. In a time of need, she needed a friend yet they treated her like shit. I can elaborate if need be.
Old friend and her mom double teams her telling her she's very unappreciative because they took her in. Woman tells her that complete strangers treated her better in a homeless shelter than they ever did.
Sitting here with family, they're calling this woman all kinds of wrong and ungrateful.
If you were ever in a position of need and a friend took you in yet treated you like "a war criminal" while there, do you appreciate the fact they they allowed you to stay, regardless of the mistreatment or do you cut them off.... forever???
Not quite as bad, but when I relocated for work I had to stay with a friend. It was week to week and she made me feel like a burden sometimes. Each week I had to ask to stay, even though she knew I had no other options. I only stayed about 5 weeks and then I hurriedly got my own place. I kind of treated her with a long handed spoon for a while, but I never ended contact completely. She just showed me what type of person she really is.click to expand
Posted by PVJamzYes ma'am. No one gets to treat me like shit. Even today, my family on some water under the bridge type shit. Please.Posted by mzmeePosted by PVJamzI've actually been there before. Stayed with a cousin tho. When I moved close to my college, didn't want to stay in the dorm, was her idea for me to stay, 2 weeks went by and everything I did was wrong. It got to the point where she didn't want me to clean because, in her eyes, she cleans a certain way and I should ask how she cleans to make sure I do it how she likes.Posted by mzmee
Witnessed an argument today.
Basically a woman, when she was younger, got put out by her mom. Went to stay with a friend and the entire two months there, her friend and the people that lived there treated her like complete crap. This young lady gets her things together and goes to a homeless shelter. Cuts contact with the friend and their family. Fast forward... today.
She sees her old friend and didn't look her way, didn't speak or anything. Old friend comes and tries to hug her, the woman avoids her embrace and told her she cut them off for a reason. In a time of need, she needed a friend yet they treated her like shit. I can elaborate if need be.
Old friend and her mom double teams her telling her she's very unappreciative because they took her in. Woman tells her that complete strangers treated her better in a homeless shelter than they ever did.
Sitting here with family, they're calling this woman all kinds of wrong and ungrateful.
If you were ever in a position of need and a friend took you in yet treated you like "a war criminal" while there, do you appreciate the fact they they allowed you to stay, regardless of the mistreatment or do you cut them off.... forever???
Not quite as bad, but when I relocated for work I had to stay with a friend. It was week to week and she made me feel like a burden sometimes. Each week I had to ask to stay, even though shre knew I had no other options. I only stayed about 5 weeks and then I hurriedly got my own place. I kind of treated her with a long handed spoon for a while, but I never ended contact completely. She just showed me what type of person she really is.
It was to a point all I wanted to do was stay in my room. I went to my parents for a weekend and came back, she packed all my belongings and sat them at the front door saying if I have somewhere to sleep, I don't need to be there with her. Never spoke to her again.
Wow. And that's family. Yeah I wouldn't speak to her either.click to expand
Posted by mzmeeTheir house = Their rules
It got to the point where she didn't want me to clean because, in her eyes, she cleans a certain way and I should ask how she cleans to make sure I do it how she likes.
Posted by DamnataThat, I can understand. I could have stayed with my parents still. It was her idea for me to be there.Posted by mzmeeTheir house = Their rules
It got to the point where she didn't want me to clean because, in her eyes, she cleans a certain way and I should ask how she cleans to make sure I do it how she likes.
I'm going to take a wild guess that the majority of people have never been in a position where they really had no other place to go. Most people have safety nets they never appreciate.
If they were in that position, they would change their tune real quick and humble themselves.
Like a cynical line in a movie I love goes "You're too poor to afford dignity and pride right now"click to expand
Posted by DamnataAccording to the woman, they were the only people she could trust. And uuuhhh, from the stories she told while they were there, they was a piece of shit.Posted by mzmeeTheir house = Their rules
It got to the point where she didn't want me to clean because, in her eyes, she cleans a certain way and I should ask how she cleans to make sure I do it how she likes.
I'm going to take a wild guess that the majority of people have never been in a position where they really had no other place to go. Most people have safety nets they never appreciate.
If they were in that position, they would change their tune real quick and humble themselves.
Like a cynical line in a movie I love goes "You're too poor to afford dignity and pride right now"click to expand
Posted by ShadowcatI haven't. Netflix?
Have you seen grave of the fireflies?
Posted by LillyPetalThis all day.
"The best judge of character is how you treat someone who will never be able to pay you back."
What's undignified to me is how they seemed to want some sort of ego stroking? To do "good" only to then hold it over someone's head is just icky. They should leave that woman alone.
Posted by mzmeeHere's my perspective from the stories people tell: They exaggerate a lot and are quick to claim abuse.Posted by DamnataAccording to the woman, they were the only people she could trust. And uuuhhh, from the stories she told while they were there, they was a piece of shit.Posted by mzmeeTheir house = Their rules
It got to the point where she didn't want me to clean because, in her eyes, she cleans a certain way and I should ask how she cleans to make sure I do it how she likes.
I'm going to take a wild guess that the majority of people have never been in a position where they really had no other place to go. Most people have safety nets they never appreciate.
If they were in that position, they would change their tune real quick and humble themselves.
Like a cynical line in a movie I love goes "You're too poor to afford dignity and pride right now"
Her only place, a women's shelter.
Their house, their rules, yep. If I'm in your house and you treat me like shit, I will not excuse you because it's your house. You still treated me like shit. Sorry not sorry.click to expand
Posted by mzmeeI don't think there is value in justification for feelings honestly. People will feel what they want and based on what they feel...they will come up with the subsequent justification. So it's...arbitrary and within that person's call. I don't think her feeling any way is wrong or right.
@Damnata
So in this case, she was not justified in how she felt?
Posted by DamnataLet's not exaggerate, yeah my cousin did treat me very unfair. To say abuse, nope, never. I made no knee jerk reaction, she packed my things. She was family too, I'm trying to see your point. Help me, seriously. No sarcasm involved.Posted by mzmeeHere's my perspective from the stories people tell: They exaggerate a lot and are quick to claim abuse.Posted by DamnataAccording to the woman, they were the only people she could trust. And uuuhhh, from the stories she told while they were there, they was a piece of shit.Posted by mzmeeTheir house = Their rules
It got to the point where she didn't want me to clean because, in her eyes, she cleans a certain way and I should ask how she cleans to make sure I do it how she likes.
I'm going to take a wild guess that the majority of people have never been in a position where they really had no other place to go. Most people have safety nets they never appreciate.
If they were in that position, they would change their tune real quick and humble themselves.
Like a cynical line in a movie I love goes "You're too poor to afford dignity and pride right now"
Her only place, a women's shelter.
Their house, their rules, yep. If I'm in your house and you treat me like shit, I will not excuse you because it's your house. You still treated me like shit. Sorry not sorry.
I don't get why this is an either/or question. I will not put up with what I cannot put up with and if I have a place to move, all the better. But if I don't, having a knee jerk reaction isn't helping me since roof over my head is better than no roof over my head. And for that I will appreciate it because I didn't have to fathom what living on the streets is like.
Nothing in the story you shared about your own living situation was abusive behavior in any way yet you end it with you would not treat a dog like that. What you would do or wouldn't do in your house is irrelevant. No one forced you to live with them and you had a safety net which was a family so the path to the door was never blocked. You didn't have to worry you'd end up on the street at any point.click to expand
Posted by DamnataBack to the point, after all was said and done, her not embracing them was a form of unappreciation and being ungrateful?Posted by mzmeeI don't think there is value in justification for feelings honestly. People will feel what they want and based on what they feel...they will come up with the subsequent justification. So it's...arbitrary and within that person's call. I don't think her feeling any way is wrong or right.
@Damnata
So in this case, she was not justified in how she felt?
My perspective? Unless I was imprisoned, I always had the option to just exit the door. I would chuck it up to..not one of the best moments of my life but I would appreciate someone accepting me into their home if I had no other option but them.click to expand
Posted by -elle-Going from what I heard at the cookout, they knew her situation. They were the ones that mentioned it. She was 18 at the time. To justify the way they treated her, they brought up the fact that she didn't have many clothes and they weren't clean, hygiene products or basic necessities.
I have been on both sides of this coin and all I can say is it takes all kinds of people to make this world go round.
The guests I had that were the best....moved on and became self sufficient.
The guests that I had...that I now wouldn't piss on if they were on fire.....bounce from house to house with the same sob story and the last person they lived with is always "a horrible person.....how dare they treat me like a dog."
You really don't know unless you were with them to witness it.
I had one chic use the..."my mom was on drugs, please help me" story and she ended up being no better than her mother and she's on the fourth living arrangement hustle now.