Ask a Transgender Woman

Posted by MysteryShopper
Were you born the same day as prince Harry

Posted by Effervescent
I support you girl... But get ready for a shitstorm. The people on here can be super mean...


*Hides under a desk and chews on my popcorn*

Posted by MyStarsShine
A woman i know has allowed her teenage daughter to transition from female to male....the op didn't go too well. He is 15. Do you think that is too young to make such a huge change?


She tells me, he has started to wear eyeliner....

Posted by MilaniKisses

Posted by MyStarsShine
A woman i know has allowed her teenage daughter to transition from female to male....the op didn't go too well. He is 15. Do you think that is too young to make such a huge change?


She tells me, he has started to wear eyeliner....

No not at all. Kids identify their gender at a very young age. Look at Jazz Jennings. Her parents knew she was meant to be a girl from a very young age and she has now blossomed into a beautiful young woman.


As for me, when I came out to my mom that I was transgender, she said "I knew already"... I think its one of those things as parents - they know if their child is gay or for this instance, transgender. Its just a matter of how accepting the parent is of knowing this knowledge and their support/love for their child.

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Posted by Effervescent

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Effervescent
I support you girl... But get ready for a shitstorm. The people on here can be super mean...


*Hides under a desk and chews on my popcorn*

Well anyone that does is a redneck ignorant fool who is living in the dark ages


Small minds

Agree 1000%

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by MilaniKisses

Posted by MyStarsShine
A woman i know has allowed her teenage daughter to transition from female to male....the op didn't go too well. He is 15. Do you think that is too young to make such a huge change?


She tells me, he has started to wear eyeliner....

No not at all. Kids identify their gender at a very young age. Look at Jazz Jennings. Her parents knew she was meant to be a girl from a very young age and she has now blossomed into a beautiful young woman.


As for me, when I came out to my mom that I was transgender, she said "I knew already"... I think its one of those things as parents - they know if their child is gay or for this instance, transgender. Its just a matter of how accepting the parent is of knowing this knowledge and their support/love for their child.

Thanks


I wasn't referring to the acceptance part, but the operation. The parents are amazingly open minded, thankfully. I was talking to my 18yr old about it and he said, it seems too young to have the op and they could have waited till the girl was 18? I tend to agree

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Posted by P-Angel

Why would anyone have questions?


I think we all get what a transgender is, right?



Sounds to me like you have something to say, and so are trying to prompt people into starting the conversation.

Posted by MilaniKisses

Posted by P-Angel

Why would anyone have questions?


I think we all get what a transgender is, right?



Sounds to me like you have something to say, and so are trying to prompt people into starting the conversation.

I'm sorry you have a misunderstanding of this post. I've noticed your responses to other posts always have a negative vibe to them. Bitter much?

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Effervescent
I support you girl... But get ready for a shitstorm. The people on here can be super mean...


*Hides under a desk and chews on my popcorn*

Well anyone that does is a redneck ignorant fool who is living in the dark ages


Small minds

?????


Why do they have to immediately be a redneck though?


Isn't it called chav over there?

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Posted by sagoya
I can ask anything? I hv a lot because im soo curious and nosy ??


If you dont want to answer some of them, i understand..


How old were you when you realised you're suppose to be a woman?


When you were a toddler, what type of toys did you play with?


Are your parents strict and orthodox or were they a modern parent who implement positive discipline and explain things to you?



How old were you when you got your first sex education?


If you could remember the time when you were kid, ans watching disney movies.. do you 'imagine' yourself as the princess or the prince?



Does your family support you?


I watched a clip where kaitlyn jenner is about to undergo her surgery and her family cried because they feel like losing her.. did that happen to you too?

Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
How do you explain the difference between being trans and being gay?


Uh......other than the glaringly obvious, naturally.

Posted by -Flo-
I have a question.


How often are you approached by straight men? Are you pre op or post op?


I ask because my ex is a dick head who likes to lie a lot. At this point I just resent his existence but I can't do much because he's my daughters father.


I personally feel he's hiding in the closet but won't tell me due to fear.

Posted by Fun4Life
You poor, poor person - I pity you, feel sorry for you....and will pray for you!

Posted by MilaniKisses

Posted by Fun4Life
You poor, poor person - I pity you, feel sorry for you....and will pray for you!

Idiot. I dont need your prayers.

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Posted by P-Angel

Your soul is androgynous ... the only thing you've accomplished is satisfying the ego consciousness.


How you appear to others, in form ..... has no meaning to the true self.

Posted by LillyPetal

Posted by P-Angel

Your soul is androgynous ... the only thing you've accomplished is satisfying the ego consciousness.


How you appear to others, in form ..... has no meaning to the true self.

It is very important to have harmony between our inner selves and our outward existence.

or whether it's to become physically a woman so that society treats you as you are.

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Posted by MilaniKisses

Posted by -Flo-
I have a question.


How often are you approached by straight men? Are you pre op or post op?


I ask because my ex is a dick head who likes to lie a lot. At this point I just resent his existence but I can't do much because he's my daughters father.


I personally feel he's hiding in the closet but won't tell me due to fear.

I'm approached by straight men all the time. On dating apps, 90% of the men that I talk to are cool with it... However, of that 90% only 10% of them are open about it and are open to dating. Most of the straight guys that contact me are only interested in sex or experimentation.


Straight men view me as a woman - just an 'Exotic' woman. They do not see my genitalia as a 'male' part... simply just a different kind of 'lady' part than the norm.

Yeah that's what I figured.. so does the sex consist of anal because you still have a male part?


I still consider that having sex with another man just dressed as a woman. My only thing is, I don't care who he sticks his peen in but don't come at me lying about it. That's what burns me up. Main reason I don't want to be with him, can't stand him. I'm not the the type of woman to gives a millions chances, my dad taught me better than to be a fool to a guy playing games with me. I dropped him the second he was being really shady and messing up our family. I will not respect him trying to live two lives, he needs to know one or the other.


Ex:

A man supporting his wife and children but on the Down low is having a gay affair, instead of leaving her to find happiness and be completely honest. He leads the second life for years til he drops the family and just stays with the other person.


I wonder if that's what the aqua was doing with you..

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Posted by LillyPetal
I have two questions:


Q1: How do you feel about Caitlyn Jenner acting as a spokesperson for transgendered individuals?


Q2: Are bathroom laws as important to the transgender community as it is for the white, liberal heterosexual community?

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Posted by saweetz1988
Are you having sex like a woman then? I know you can replace a penis n make it into a vagina ! Again I'm from Thailand so I'm extmelry open minded ..() good on u on opening this thread girl,! So your Aqua, is he gay then? I'm confused sorry . Or he's bi sexual?

what the hell kind of question is that? a man can date a transwoman and be completely straight. because she's a woman.

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Posted by P-Angel

Posted by LillyPetal

Posted by P-Angel

Your soul is androgynous ... the only thing you've accomplished is satisfying the ego consciousness.


How you appear to others, in form ..... has no meaning to the true self.

It is very important to have harmony between our inner selves and our outward existence.

or whether it's to become physically a woman so that society treats you as you are.

Every person's inner self is both males and female ... the harmony existed before you were even born.


My thoughts remain ... I see no point in changing your gender to satisfy the ego, and especially not for the purposes of acceptance by society.


I've not met a person yet, who doesn't feel both feminine and masculine at certain given times and situations .. and that's because the soul isn't specifically gendered one way or the other.


I just don't see a rational reason for it, other than to prove something to others. If you know who you are, but, you're not going to live by that ... then what's the point of even having your life? ... if you're not going to live by the knowing of who you are, and you have to prove shit to other people to feel valued?



::::: shakes head ::::::




In the scheme of what's important in life ... gender is not one of them, specifying a particular gender is irrelevant.

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Posted by DonJohn
what if you change your mind one day?

Posted by rekt

Posted by saweetz1988
Are you having sex like a woman then? I know you can replace a penis n make it into a vagina ! Again I'm from Thailand so I'm extmelry open minded ..() good on u on opening this thread girl,! So your Aqua, is he gay then? I'm confused sorry . Or he's bi sexual?

what the hell kind of question is that? a man can date a transwoman and be completely straight. because she's a woman.

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Posted by -Flo-

Posted by rekt

Posted by saweetz1988
Are you having sex like a woman then? I know you can replace a penis n make it into a vagina ! Again I'm from Thailand so I'm extmelry open minded ..() good on u on opening this thread girl,! So your Aqua, is he gay then? I'm confused sorry . Or he's bi sexual?

what the hell kind of question is that? a man can date a transwoman and be completely straight. because she's a woman.

No,


I would call her a woman if she's post op not pre op. A dick is not a woman, that's a man.

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Posted by MilaniKisses

Posted by LillyPetal
I have two questions:


Q1: How do you feel about Caitlyn Jenner acting as a spokesperson for transgendered individuals?


Q2: Are bathroom laws as important to the transgender community as it is for the white, liberal heterosexual community?

*Q1: How do you feel about Caitlyn Jenner acting as a spokesperson for transgendered individuals? Not a fan of her - Do not like her speaking for transgenders.


*Q2: Are bathroom laws as important to the transgender community as it is for the white, liberal heterosexual community? Absolutely - There are transgender people out there that you would never be able to tell that they were once something else than who they are today. Is it fair for a trans woman who doesnt look anything but a female, be forced to use a men's restroom? They subject her to possible hate crimes or even rape. We just want to go pee, thats all! :-)

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Posted by LillyPetal

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by LillyPetal

Posted by P-Angel

Your soul is androgynous ... the only thing you've accomplished is satisfying the ego consciousness.


How you appear to others, in form ..... has no meaning to the true self.

It is very important to have harmony between our inner selves and our outward existence.

or whether it's to become physically a woman so that society treats you as you are.

Every person's inner self is both males and female ... the harmony existed before you were even born.


My thoughts remain ... I see no point in changing your gender to satisfy the ego, and especially not for the purposes of acceptance by society.


I've not met a person yet, who doesn't feel both feminine and masculine at certain given times and situations .. and that's because the soul isn't specifically gendered one way or the other.


I just don't see a rational reason for it, other than to prove something to others. If you know who you are, but, you're not going to live by that ... then what's the point of even having your life? ... if you're not going to live by the knowing of who you are, and you have to prove shit to other people to feel valued?



::::: shakes head ::::::




In the scheme of what's important in life ... gender is not one of them, specifying a particular gender is irrelevant.

I believe our inner selves deal with energy, both the masculine energy and feminine energy. It is not the same as how we predominantly feel. I mostly feel feminine, and so I am physically woman and it aligns and is in harmony. I can't speak about what it's like to feel feminine, yet have my outward appearance conflict with that. The only thing I can relate it to is the cognitive resonance I experience any time I do something that goes against my inner moral values. Or, when people misjudge me based on my appearance - it is everyone's desire to correct someone else's misconception of him or her because it is important to humans to be seen as they wish to be seen and to be treated as they want to be treated. Heck, people are even proud of their astrological placmements and go through a process to know excalty what they are. Why not just choose the sign you most feel like and live by that? Why the need to correct people if they call you a Gemini when you're an Aries, for example? Identity is a powerful thing. Satisfying ones ego (ego has been stigmatized to being a dirty word) is part of human psychology and we all do it.


Dismissing how society treats us as being irrelevant is reckless because, whether we like it or not, we are social animals and our identity isn't entirely our own. Part of our identity is shaped by how society treats us and the expectations it has of us. So, if an innocent man goes his entire life being treated as a criminal, he will carry a strong desire for the world to know he's innocent because only knowing it himself is not enough because how he's treated isnt in harmony with his inner knowledge of his innocence.


What do we say to people who have been born with both sexual reproductive organs? I can't pretend to begin to understand what the transgendered community goes though because I will never have to make such a tough decision. I'm sure most people would choose the easier path, the path that doesn't lead to societal outrage and discrimination or negative familial backlash. I certainly don't remember being asked if I wanted to be a heterosexual female.

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Posted by LillyPetal

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by LillyPetal

Posted by P-Angel

Your soul is androgynous ... the only thing you've accomplished is satisfying the ego consciousness.


How you appear to others, in form ..... has no meaning to the true self.

It is very important to have harmony between our inner selves and our outward existence.

or whether it's to become physically a woman so that society treats you as you are.

Every person's inner self is both males and female ... the harmony existed before you were even born.


My thoughts remain ... I see no point in changing your gender to satisfy the ego, and especially not for the purposes of acceptance by society.


I've not met a person yet, who doesn't feel both feminine and masculine at certain given times and situations .. and that's because the soul isn't specifically gendered one way or the other.


I just don't see a rational reason for it, other than to prove something to others. If you know who you are, but, you're not going to live by that ... then what's the point of even having your life? ... if you're not going to live by the knowing of who you are, and you have to prove shit to other people to feel valued?



::::: shakes head ::::::




In the scheme of what's important in life ... gender is not one of them, specifying a particular gender is irrelevant.

I believe our inner selves deal with energy, both the masculine energy and feminine energy. It is not the same as how we predominantly feel. I mostly feel feminine, and so I am physically woman and it aligns and is in harmony. I can't speak about what it's like to feel feminine, yet have my outward appearance conflict with that. The only thing I can relate it to is the cognitive resonance I experience any time I do something that goes against my inner moral values. Or, when people misjudge me based on my appearance - it is everyone's desire to correct someone else's misconception of him or her because it is important to humans to be seen as they wish to be seen and to be treated as they want to be treated. Heck, people are even proud of their astrological placmements and go through a process to know excalty what they are. Why not just choose the sign you most feel like and live by that? Why the need to correct people if they call you a Gemini when you're an Aries, for example? Identity is a powerful thing. Satisfying ones ego (ego has been stigmatized to being a dirty word) is part of human psychology and we all do it.


Dismissing how society treats us as being irrelevant is reckless because, whether we like it or not, we are social animals and our identity isn't entirely our own. Part of our identity is shaped by how society treats us and the expectations it has of us. So, if an innocent man goes his entire life being treated as a criminal, he will carry a strong desire for the world to know he's innocent because only knowing it himself is not enough because how he's treated isnt in harmony with his inner knowledge of his innocence.


What do we say to people who have been born with both sexual reproductive organs? I can't pretend to begin to understand what the transgendered community goes though because I will never have to make such a tough decision. I'm sure most people would choose the easier path, the path that doesn't lead to societal outrage and discrimination or negative familial backlash. I certainly don't remember being asked if I wanted to be a heterosexual female.

LillyPetal - This was well put. Thank you for responding to the previous message.

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Posted by MagicMona
i'm trying to articulate my thoughts without coming across as rude. i believe in people living as they want, but i disagree with "woman" and "man" being used so loosely. in your mind, you are a woman, and i'm not here to tell you how to feel or think. but in my small opinion, men can never really change themselves into women. you don't have a menstrual. you do not have a womb. you cannot give birth. you don't experience a lot of what natural born women go through physically. i'm not saying this in any bad way; i just feel like being a woman is more than a "feeling" and shaping one's body to look the part. you got the opportunity to surpass a lot of what cis females had to endure in order to grow into women. it's kind of hard to accept you as an equal.

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question : could you help ands assume himself as who he is?

It is burning him from the inside out and becoming so obvious every passing day

Thank you ??


And do this for firebunny too.

?

I'm sorry ands, that was a butch move.

It's cool as long as you give me a dick massage if I am ever in the area ?

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Posted by MagicMona
i'm trying to articulate my thoughts without coming across as rude. i believe in people living as they want, but i disagree with "woman" and "man" being used so loosely. in your mind, you are a woman, and i'm not here to tell you how to feel or think. but in my small opinion, men can never really change themselves into women. you don't have a menstrual. you do not have a womb. you cannot give birth. you don't experience a lot of what natural born women go through physically. i'm not saying this in any bad way; i just feel like being a woman is more than a "feeling" and shaping one's body to look the part. you got the opportunity to surpass a lot of what cis females had to endure in order to grow into women. it's kind of hard to accept you as an equal.

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Posted by saweetz1988
Are you having sex like a woman then? I know you can replace a penis n make it into a vagina ! Again I'm from Thailand so I'm extmelry open minded ..() good on u on opening this thread girl,! So your Aqua, is he gay then? I'm confused sorry . Or he's bi sexual?

what the hell kind of question is that? a man can date a transwoman and be completely straight. because she's a woman.

Really? I don't know, I asked all my straight friends n they all said no... unless they r bi sexual

that's because your friends are transphobic. not everyone is.


i've dated transmen and transwomen and had no issues with anything. and i'm a lesbian. well technically i'm closer to pansexual because i date trans people. but i didnt' really want to get into that. smh.

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Posted by DonJohn
what if you change your mind one day?

Most trans people have a euphoric self discovery when they realize who they are and should be. When I had mine, I cried out of happiness because it all made sense - Life made sense! All of my puzzle pieces have come together. Most powerful experience I ever had!


With that said, for me, I know I will never go back. Those that do go back though, probably originally did it for show, didn't know who they truly were, or the transition was too difficult for them to handle.

What do you mean by self discovery?


Like you weren't always transgender? Or just discovery of the term transgender and being like, "oh that's totally me"?


Cause I hear from a lot of gay people that they always knew they were gay or attracted to the same sex.


And there's also people who say they were confused at first and then discover they are gay much latter in life.

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Posted by -Flo-
Do you not answer my question because it reveals the truth?


I am the experience of a woman who has had a tranny come in between a family, I want to know answers.


This is a sensitive topic, this is a topic people need to be aware about. None of that festive, none of that pride, none of those parades. This is real life shit.

jfc the truth comes out. Happy I avoided this

This is what I've gone through. This is my life and not in any sort of way a joke.


I'm glad I avoided you too..

Continue going thru life betating others because your ex was a douche..


Makes perfect sense.

I'm asking questions. To back up my statement, Milani was doing the same thing with the aqua guy and his girl. So in sense, no I can't respect that.


You weren't even being understanding to how I felt without assumptions. This is a painful experience.

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Posted by MagicMona
i'm trying to articulate my thoughts without coming across as rude. i believe in people living as they want, but i disagree with "woman" and "man" being used so loosely. in your mind, you are a woman, and i'm not here to tell you how to feel or think. but in my small opinion, men can never really change themselves into women. you don't have a menstrual. you do not have a womb. you cannot give birth. you don't experience a lot of what natural born women go through physically. i'm not saying this in any bad way; i just feel like being a woman is more than a "feeling" and shaping one's body to look the part. you got the opportunity to surpass a lot of what cis females had to endure in order to grow into women. it's kind of hard to accept you as an equal.

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Posted by MagicMona
i'm trying to articulate my thoughts without coming across as rude. i believe in people living as they want, but i disagree with "woman" and "man" being used so loosely. in your mind, you are a woman, and i'm not here to tell you how to feel or think. but in my small opinion, men can never really change themselves into women. you don't have a menstrual. you do not have a womb. you cannot give birth. you don't experience a lot of what natural born women go through physically. i'm not saying this in any bad way; i just feel like being a woman is more than a "feeling" and shaping one's body to look the part. you got the opportunity to surpass a lot of what cis females had to endure in order to grow into women. it's kind of hard to accept you as an equal.

Man the giving birth part and raising a child.. it takes a real woman... and I wish I can be a man on my next life that's for sure

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Posted by MagicMona
i'm trying to articulate my thoughts without coming across as rude. i believe in people living as they want, but i disagree with "woman" and "man" being used so loosely. in your mind, you are a woman, and i'm not here to tell you how to feel or think. but in my small opinion, men can never really change themselves into women. you don't have a menstrual. you do not have a womb. you cannot give birth. you don't experience a lot of what natural born women go through physically. i'm not saying this in any bad way; i just feel like being a woman is more than a "feeling" and shaping one's body to look the part. you got the opportunity to surpass a lot of what cis females had to endure in order to grow into women. it's kind of hard to accept you as an equal.

Right - Totally understand what your thoughts are and do not find it rude. I say in general terms that I am female, but yes, I know that I am a transgender female.

The reproductive part of a natal female I will never experience correct - but what about those females that are sterile/never able to bear children due to some health conflict.... They, as me, will never experience child birth - what do you call them then?


Also, I have cried that I wouldn't ever be able experience those things... I've cried that I wouldn't be able to give the man I love a child. I do envy and respect all what natal females have - I wish I could have menstrual cycle, along with the cramps, and the chance to have a child.

they are sterile, yes, but they are natural women. they still had to go through puberty, physical changes, and all the bullshit that comes along with being women. yes, you look the part, but being able to relate is still debatable.

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Posted by -Flo-
Do you not answer my question because it reveals the truth?


I am the experience of a woman who has had a tranny come in between a family, I want to know answers.


This is a sensitive topic, this is a topic people need to be aware about. None of that festive, none of that pride, none of those parades. This is real life shit.

jfc the truth comes out. Happy I avoided this

This is what I've gone through. This is my life and not in any sort of way a joke.


I'm glad I avoided you too..

Continue going thru life betating others because your ex was a douche..


Makes perfect sense.

I'm asking questions. To back up my statement, Milani was doing the same thing with the aqua guy and his girl. So in sense, no I can't respect that.


You weren't even being understanding to how I felt without assumptions. This is a painful experience.

Actually, your situation does not related to mine. So please stop with the comparison. My aqua man duped me, used me as his rebound - They werent together when he and I got together. So he didnt cheat on her as your husband did you... In fact, I was the victim in all of this when he cheated on me to get back with her. That day that he cheated on me is when I found out that she was pregnant already too.

Yes i continued to see him after learning this, but it was mutual and he was still not with his ex. Yes I still talk to him, because I fell in love with him and I am trying my best to walk away - trust me! But like I've stated before - I had NEVER connected with someone so deeply as I did with him. I love that man.


And as for her being pregnant, I was totally supportive of him supporting her during the pregnancy and afterwards. A baby does not solve relationship issues - they've already broke up twice before. Its bound to happen again.


So again, my situation has no relation to yours. Please don't compare the two.

They were always together, he lied to you. You were the side. Not the way other way around because he knew of the pregnancy all along. If he wasn't initially with her, he wouldn't have ran back to her so quickly. So when you decided to stay with him regardless of still being with the baby mama? It shows comparisons.


It took dxp to help you see that.

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