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Oct 02, 2012Comments: 2 · Posts: 2726 · Topics: 31
So, yesterday my biological brother called me for the first time. (We were both adopted into different homes).
I was extremely excited to hear from him, we talked about our lives growing up and our plans for the future.
He said he was proud that I was going to school and even though he is two years older than me, I'm his source of inspiration.
Things were going great... Until we talked about our plans for the day.
I told him I was just going to lounge around the house and do little things...
That's when he told me he was hopping on the bus to go see a girl friend of his, and that they were going to smoke some weed, and he was hoping he could take advantage of her....
Now, at first I thought he was just joking, but he repeated himself more than once..
And then he said to me, "don't let guys take advantage of you, but, yeah, I'm going to try to take advantage of this girl."
I really wanted to speak up and say something about his comments, but I didn't know how to put my disgust/dismay into words.
I'm really not sure what to do here.
While I really want to have a relationship with my brother, (he is the closest sibling in age to me), I'm obviously not okay comments/behavior like this.
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Oct 02, 2012Comments: 2 · Posts: 2726 · Topics: 31
Whether he went or not, is a mystery to me. But, I still don't agree with the fact that he felt it was okay to disclose such thoughts to someone, let alone a sister he just contacted.
Also, sorry for any spelling errors, it's late.
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Mar 30, 2012Comments: 1243 · Posts: 16617 · Topics: 170
"Dude, that's fucked up." would be an adequate response haha.
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May 09, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 1530 · Topics: 124
Guys are retarded and sometimes take a gold metal out of saying that shit. woudnt take it too seriously now...but a you get closer maybe hve a tlk with hi tellin him, as a girl, how disrespectful and nkt okay it is.
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Oct 02, 2012Comments: 2 · Posts: 2726 · Topics: 31
Maybe I did take it a bit personally, it was probably just a weird choice of words.
He's an Aquarius with a Scorpio moon, btw.
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May 04, 2012Comments: 4373 · Posts: 50653 · Topics: 564
for all we know, the brother's girl that he's going to take advantage of, is a woman who LIKES to be taken advantage of.
we don't know their dynamics.
the OP is making a mountain out of a molehill and just making her brother look like a real creepo. Maybe he is.
*shrug*
but she sure is upset at him. That's serves him right for talking so chummy with his sister, who isn't into that stuff.
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
People just want to be so positive, that they refuse to look at reality.
this is a negative, him saying that ... not a positive.
Because he doesn't know you ... he says it to gain your trust.
If a person wants you to trust them, then they don't turn around and say shit like, "I'm gonna fuck that bitch, I'm gonna use her", or whatever bullshit he said. The point is he's full of shit, because a brother who wants respect from you and respects you wouldn't talk like that to you.
so, in knowing that something is wrong with this picture .... why doesnt' your brain (and apparently others who responded from my comment) comprehend that his words are full of shit - to include false praise?
It's like people pick and choose what they want to hear ... and then are shocked when they're fools.
Are people really that stupid? Really?
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May 04, 2012Comments: 4373 · Posts: 50653 · Topics: 564
personally i think he's just having fun with her.
but he should know better than to talk to his sister like that (especially if she's not that type of girl)
I mean, when i was having jokes with my husband, there are some things we can't joke around with ...even around his mother or cousins or other people he's close to.
it's just between us.
Her brother just doesn't know her well enough to even say something like that even if it's a joke. that's his failing. Or he's testing. (he does have a Scorpio moon)