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This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by Sag898 on Monday, November 12, 2018 and has 14 replies.
Sexting or porn is cheating? I’m not sure. Personally I need space to have a fantasy life. I think most people do. There are sexual things that I’d like that I didn’t feel comfortable saying to a partner before and have had chats with sexy strangers like once or twice.

Not real life in anyway. You know?
Posted by VenusRetrogade

Posted by Sag898

Sexting or porn is cheating? I’m not sure. Personally I need space to have a fantasy life. I think most people do. There are sexual things that I’d like that I didn’t feel comfortable saying to a partner before and have had chats with sexy strangers like once or twice.

Not real life in anyway. You know?
Tricky situation. How would u feel if he is doing the same?

I agree about having a fantasy life because tbh I am the same. But i used to hide it from my ex and it didn't feel right. Now i bring my fiance to this fantasy life of mine. We can talk dirty and experiment on things, send nudes to each other etc. And its much more fun because i dont feel a creeping guilt inside me of whether or not im doing something wrong.
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Oh no, cause I believe it’s part of human nature. I fall in love/want to have sex with like every 3rd person I met LOL male or female. Obviously if I’m with someone I control this physically 100% if that’s what we decided. But mentally I have to have my moments. Which I think is healthy.
Posted by Antiochus

No.

Those fantasies can be or become an integeral part to balance your actual relationships or your life in general.

Prohibiting and supressing them can actually be damaging for a relationship.

Edit: Sexting is problematic due to the emotional factor.
Could you explain that
I don’t get people that can sext with strangers but not with their partner. It’s so backwards. Why even be with someone you don’t feel comfortable opening up to sexually?

Posted by Sag898

Sexting or porn is cheating? I’m not sure. Personally I need space to have a fantasy life. I think most people do. There are sexual things that I’d like that I didn’t feel comfortable saying to a partner before and have had chats with sexy strangers like once or twice.

Not real life in anyway. You know?
Damn, a person's imagination is weak as fuck if they need another person in some physical way.

Develop your inner T.V.
I’m not talking about sexually incompatible. I mean can any of you honestly say your WHOLE sexuality belongs to another person? Please be realistic.
Posted by HeartofTopazz

Posted by Sag898

I’m not talking about sexually incompatible. I mean can any of you honestly say your WHOLE sexuality belongs to another person? Please be realistic.

Are you seeking reassurance or genuine opinions?
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I’m looking for honesty haha
Posted by Sag898

I’m not talking about sexually incompatible. I mean can any of you honestly say your WHOLE sexuality belongs to another person? Please be realistic.
I'm not sure what you mean by whole sexuality but yeah if I'm with someone they are the only one I want sexually, physically, mentally, and emotionally. I never understand people who would want to have other relations or fantasies of other people it's uncomfortable to me. But to each their own.

And yeah sexting is cheating if both people aren't on the same page about it. I don't see how porn is. However if we're able to have sex and instead my partner watches porn alone w/o me I'd be a bit miffed.
LOL nvm @ this thread! You guys can front all you want. I know you are all freaks! I see the filthy stuff you post 😂😂
Posted by Antiochus

Posted by Sag898

Posted by Antiochus

No.

Those fantasies can be or become an integeral part to balance your actual relationships or your life in general.

Prohibiting and supressing them can actually be damaging for a relationship.

Edit: Sexting is problematic due to the emotional factor.
Could you explain that
In a nutshell:

It's unfair to expect one person to be able to fulfill all your desires.

Then there are cases where one partner is into more specific forms of sex like bondage etc. but the other isn't.

It can't expected from the other partner to fulfill those if they feel uncomfortable with it. Instead of breaking up just because of this one thing while the rest works wonderfully they can outsource this aspect.

Then there are emotional needs the partner for whatever reason can't statisfy. Those too can be outsourced while the relationship improves or becomes more stable and harmonious. Talking about fantasies to others is completly harmless in my opinion.
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Posted by Arkansassy

Really depends tho..

If he/she are trying to find a 3rd for us, I wouldn't mind them sexting. I want to see the convo.
You can read the texts anytime babe
If my partner was sexting someone else, I would leave his ass. I don't know if you'd call it cheating because it's not the same as physically having sex but it's pretty close.

Porn doesn't bother me but he doesn't watch porn since we've been together because he gets off on me and isn't into watching random strangers. I'm kind of territorial so I'd be cool watching it together but I probably wouldn't be comfortable with him watching it behind my back but it's not a deal breaker or something I'd make him stop if he was into it. As long as my needs are met it's ok
Just found out that one of my all time favorite pornstars has died for almost a year.

RIP Shyla style z 😩
Posted by HeartofTopazz

Sexting, yes

Porn, no
same