gemini bf wants me to get a girl for a threesome

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Is this the same gemini who kicked you out of bed at 2 a.m. in the snow and didn't walk you to your car?

I thought you were done with him.
ive been seeing him still. i know you were with a gem so i am asking for your advice. he wants a threesome, hides his phone and freaks if i i leave stuff at his house. i feel its my fault. i feel im not enough for him and he needs others. i feel im not enough for him
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That's a big red flag. I'd be running in the opposite direction as fast as I could. Blackphase ain't got time for that shit!

Girl.. where do you find these guys? You seem to catch all the bad fish!
also he doesn't like me to leave stuff at his house and guards his phone like the plague. so i know he is seeing others.
Yeah, that doesn't sound like someone that is committed to you. If commitment is what you are seeking.. He ain't the one hunnie 😢
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he didn't get me anything for valentines either. not even a flower,
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Is this the same gemini who kicked you out of bed at 2 a.m. in the snow and didn't walk you to your car?

I thought you were done with him.
ive been seeing him still. i know you were with a gem so i am asking for your advice. he wants a threesome, hides his phone and freaks if i i leave stuff at his house. i feel its my fault. i feel im not enough for him and he needs others. i feel im not enough for him
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My advice? Dump him.
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Posted by truecap
Is this the same gemini who kicked you out of bed at 2 a.m. in the snow and didn't walk you to your car?

I thought you were done with him.
I've been seeing him still. i know you were with a gem so i am asking for your advice. he wants a threesome, hides his phone and freaks if i i leave stuff at his house. i feel its my fault. i feel im not enough for him and he needs others. i feel im not enough for him
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You're not being serious, right? The answer is in what you just typed? I'm not sure why you're questioning any of this. I promise I'm not being rude but it's right there, the answers you're wanting are in what you're saying.
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Posted by Finbuff
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There's another woman going thru the same thing on here, but she shall remain nameless.
What is it with guys these days? Seems to be a lot of this going around.
is it my fault? am i not enough?
PM me if you need to. I think this is a very personal thing that will only get you denigrated, mocked and shamed on these pages.
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No, I don't think that is what people would do if she wasn't stating the obvious. He is clearly NOT in a relationship exclusively with her. I realize she is in her early 20's but it's not hard to figure out when a guy is being shady like how he is. When a guy freaks if you leave something at his house and hides his phone, makes her leave a 2am and doesn't bother to walk her out, asks her for a 3some. I'm telling you that's not a hard one to figure out. She may like him and want him but he isn't going to commit to her. He is a player.
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i feel this is a sign he has no love for me. why would he need or want another girl? im not enough? y would he think i would be ok seeing him make love to another woman in front of me? also, i feel he is sleeping with and seeing other women in addition to me.
it is him, who let you walk away at night alone from his house?
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🙂 This is why! He needs someone to walk her out of his house. So the other girl will do it.
So it is out of love. Possible?
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There's another woman going thru the same thing on here, but she shall remain nameless.
What is it with guys these days? Seems to be a lot of this going around.
is it my fault? am i not enough?
PM me if you need to. I think this is a very personal thing that will only get you denigrated, mocked and shamed on these pages.
No, I don't think that is what people would do if she wasn't stating the obvious. He is clearly NOT in a relationship exclusively with her. I realize she is in her early 20's but it's not hard to figure out when a guy is being shady like how he is. When a guy freaks if you leave something at his house and hides his phone, makes her leave a 2am and doesn't bother to walk her out, asks her for a 3some. I'm telling you that's not a hard one to figure out. She may like him and want him but he isn't going to commit to her. He is a player.
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agreed @ exclusive
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Posted by Finbuff
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There's another woman going thru the same thing on here, but she shall remain nameless.
What is it with guys these days? Seems to be a lot of this going around.
is it my fault? am i not enough?
PM me if you need to. I think this is a very personal thing that will only get you denegrated, mocked and shamed on these pages.
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i will
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There's another woman going thru the same thing on here, but she shall remain nameless.
What is it with guys these days? Seems to be a lot of this going around.
is it my fault? am i not enough?
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No. Men like that are abusers. It is never your fault, but with guys like him, they are wolves... and wolves sniff women out that they target and can tell they will be able to use them, psychologically abuse them, and not always because they're evil or want to hurt someone. It is because they are suffering from their own problems and don't realize that they need to have power over somebody to make themselves feel better about their shitty lives.

Take care of yourself first.

Sorry if this sounds offensive or preachy, I just see way too many good people in bad relationships and stay in them, making them worse, and more likely to find someone even worse for them once that ends because their self esteem keeps getting knocked down a peg and they can't see what's good for them, and don't believe they deserve better.

HUGS
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He treated you like shit (kicking you out in the cold) and you continue to open your legs for him. He has laid the precedent for how he will treat you and you go along with it.

Acting shocked at his treatment of you is silly at this point. You continue to reward his bad behavior with pussy, why should he change? He's getting exactly what he wants.

You say you see red flags from him but continue your behavior as before. One can only assume that either...

1. You are really that stupid, or

2. You thrive on the drama playing victim brings to your life.

...perhaps it is both
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Is this the same gemini who kicked you out of bed at 2 a.m. in the snow and didn't walk you to your car?

I thought you were done with him.
ive been seeing him still. i know you were with a gem so i am asking for your advice. he wants a threesome, hides his phone and freaks if i i leave stuff at his house. i feel its my fault. i feel im not enough for him and he needs others. i feel im not enough for him
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You're such a bored troll