Help!! Moving across the country...prone to bouts of depression.Need your opinion

I'm moving to Philadelphia from LA in a couple of months for school.

I'm a little worried that I'm going to get lonely and fall into depression.

Especially with the weather and all.

My plan to prevent this is to join a lot of clubs and organizations on campus

but also make sure my living accommodations are on point.

Help me chose between

Option 1 -









pros-

nature

clean aesthetic

quiet ( important for studying)

more space - aka room for my homebrew operations as I'm learning to make my own craft beer



cons-

not practical because of 1 hour commute time

rural

possible issues with racism? I've heard stories about rural areas in PA that were a little unnerving.



option 2-



















pros- this place has everything.

including covered parking for my car

fully furnished

the right exercise equipment

business center with iMacs and free printing

etc

it's pretty much a cross between a dorm and a luxury apartment



cons-

-it's expenisve - $ 2-300 more in rent

-I've read many reviews complaining about management and other things

-possibly vermin?

-as well as noise issues...as there are a lot of young undergrad students partying at all hours

and thin walls

-the building is also poorly/cheaply constructed even though it doesn't look like it in pics

-large building ...which means there is a lot of people...i don't like crowds

Which school?

Posted by DiamondAce
I've moved around a lot cross country and I'd say 2nd option would work best (if I were you) for the for two years as it'll keep you away from depression unless noise makes you depressed. Then when you get used to the new state, move to option 1.

I'd love to live in either of those places!! Nice options.

Yeah option 2 is akin to living in a freshman dorm/frat house.

might remind me of college the first go around...which was the first time I experienced major depression.

If option 2 only catered to young professionals and grad students...it would be easy.

Posted by Gemitati
Which school?

UPENN.

Are you an introvert or extrovert?!

If you're an introvert - option 1 can be an awesome antidepressant! ?

Even something as simple as some morning or late night walks out into the nature - can have some beneficial effect on your state of mind. You can also place a blanket on the ground and read a book or simply relax. ? As you pointed out - rural areas are usually more quite too. ?

If you're an extrovert - you might have better luck with option 2 - cause you'll find plenty of people to interact with (: maybe play a game of pool once in awhile, have a swim and so on...) Not such a good place for study tho (for obvious reasons). As an introvert - the 2nd option can actually make you more depressed (more stressed out). Though, in the right company (if you find some good friends) - beyond stress - you might have more fun. It goes with the territory (or else it will drive you mad).

Option one looks lovely...i would choose that...all the greenery is very uplifting

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Posted by Gemitati
Which school?

UPENN.

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My child's friend is in there. She is loving it.

Even though noise makes me angrier than anything, I would still go with option #2. Option #1 is nice if you only have class two days a week and are good at making friends or already have friends there. For me, option #2 is easier because of commute and also because I'd have a higher likelihood of making friends there. I would probably end up spending my whole time there friendless if I didn't live on campus.

Posted by PVJamz
Is there no option 3?

Option 1 is impractical. A 1 hour commute every day is very taxing. And with traffic your commute could double.

Option 2- Did you say vermin? I don't do mice. And heed the complaints about management.

If these are your only two options let's be honest, option 2 is the best. Pay more to live closer, it's worth it.

Idk I just feel living within the city will depress me

and being around a lot of people doesn't necessarily help with my depression.

depends on the type of people.

Posted by AneemA08
I also would have problems deciding, I would want option 1. But I know I would need option 2.

Option 1 offers focus and serenity to balance yourself.

Option 2 offers energy and dynamic to keep the fire going.

Not sure.

I think you might want to contemplate on this of what you said.

"I'm a little worried that I'm going to get lonely and fall into depression."

and therefore, I personally suggest, option 2, at least there would be more chance to feel people's presence. Very hectic though, which may overwhelm you, I assume.

But idk fpr the case of coping with weather, I heard LA is hot and winter isn't so severe, Idk about philadelphia.

Any reveal of how your current environment is like?

I live by the beach in one fo the quieter neighborhoods of LA.

I purposefully avoid going out on the weekends so that I won't have to deal with the large crowds and traffic.

LA is the best place to live an only drawback is a number of people.

Whenever I start feeling a little down all I have to do is leave my apartment and feel the ocean breeze on my face and my mood instantly changes.

Posted by neves
Are you an introvert or extrovert?!

If you're an introvert - option 1 can be an awesome antidepressant! ?

Even something as simple as some morning or late night walks out into the nature - can have some beneficial effect on your state of mind. You can also place a blanket on the ground and read a book or simply relax. ? As you pointed out - rural areas are usually more quite too. ?

If you're an extrovert - you might have better luck with option 2 - cause you'll find plenty of people to interact with (: maybe play a game of pool once in awhile, have a swim and so on...) Not such a good place for study tho (for obvious reasons). As an introvert - the 2nd option can actually make you more depressed (more stressed out). Though, in the right company (if you find some good friends) - beyond stress - you might have more fun. It goes with the territory (or else it will drive you mad).

I'm a secretly an introvert.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by PVJamz
Is there no option 3?

Option 1 is impractical. A 1 hour commute every day is very taxing. And with traffic your commute could double.

Option 2- Did you say vermin? I don't do mice. And heed the complaints about management.

If these are your only two options let's be honest, option 2 is the best. Pay more to live closer, it's worth it.

Idk I just feel living within the city will depress me

and being around a lot of people doesn't necessarily help with my depression.

depends on the type of people.

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it sounds like you already picked 1

Posted by WitchmitchAries

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by PVJamz
Is there no option 3?

Option 1 is impractical. A 1 hour commute every day is very taxing. And with traffic your commute could double.

Option 2- Did you say vermin? I don't do mice. And heed the complaints about management.

If these are your only two options let's be honest, option 2 is the best. Pay more to live closer, it's worth it.

Idk I just feel living within the city will depress me

and being around a lot of people doesn't necessarily help with my depression.

depends on the type of people.

it sounds like you already picked 1

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in my heart but I have a higher chance of living in option 2.

option 1 is a house share and the lady still hasn't gotten back to me yet.

plus I haven't figured out the logistics of me commuting to class.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by WitchmitchAries

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by PVJamz
Is there no option 3?

Option 1 is impractical. A 1 hour commute every day is very taxing. And with traffic your commute could double.

Option 2- Did you say vermin? I don't do mice. And heed the complaints about management.

If these are your only two options let's be honest, option 2 is the best. Pay more to live closer, it's worth it.

Idk I just feel living within the city will depress me

and being around a lot of people doesn't necessarily help with my depression.

depends on the type of people.

it sounds like you already picked 1

in my heart but I have a higher chance of living in option 2.

option 1 is a house share and the lady still hasn't gotten back to me yet.

plus I haven't figured out the logistics of me commuting to class.

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are you sure there are no other options? maybe another house or apartments?

Posted by WitchmitchAries

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by WitchmitchAries

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by PVJamz
Is there no option 3?

Option 1 is impractical. A 1 hour commute every day is very taxing. And with traffic your commute could double.

Option 2- Did you say vermin? I don't do mice. And heed the complaints about management.

If these are your only two options let's be honest, option 2 is the best. Pay more to live closer, it's worth it.

Idk I just feel living within the city will depress me

and being around a lot of people doesn't necessarily help with my depression.

depends on the type of people.

it sounds like you already picked 1

in my heart but I have a higher chance of living in option 2.

option 1 is a house share and the lady still hasn't gotten back to me yet.

plus I haven't figured out the logistics of me commuting to class.

are you sure there are no other options? maybe another house or apartments?

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99.99 % of the other options I've seen depress me.

it's why I've been dreading this move.

These are the first two viable options in my price range.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by WitchmitchAries

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Posted by WitchmitchAries

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by PVJamz
Is there no option 3?

Option 1 is impractical. A 1 hour commute every day is very taxing. And with traffic your commute could double.

Option 2- Did you say vermin? I don't do mice. And heed the complaints about management.

If these are your only two options let's be honest, option 2 is the best. Pay more to live closer, it's worth it.

Idk I just feel living within the city will depress me

and being around a lot of people doesn't necessarily help with my depression.

depends on the type of people.

it sounds like you already picked 1

in my heart but I have a higher chance of living in option 2.

option 1 is a house share and the lady still hasn't gotten back to me yet.

plus I haven't figured out the logistics of me commuting to class.

are you sure there are no other options? maybe another house or apartments?

99.99 % of the other options I've seen depress me.

it's why I've been dreading this move.

These are the first two viable options in my price range.

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well see how 1 works out with the lady calling and look at the ways to come commute first. once you know that stuff you should have you answer. and if you end up in the 2 option. well i dont have anything for that yet. something will come to me late i am sure. lol crazy eye looks can help. how? when people drive you crazy give them the crazy eye look and all good in the world. hope this helps.