How do you deal with anger?

Some often wonder how I can be such an angry person for a small person. I don't know why but I just sometimes feel so passionate about something that I can easily get triggered or pissed. I've always been like this especially from my adolescence. Astrologically it checks out cause I got fire moon conjunct mars in a fire house plus both are square and opposition to other personal planets and pluto. I often have to check myself or else I can easily explode on a matter. It does not feel good or healthy to hold back the emotions. Things that help me release my anger are venting to my mom and certain friends. I wish exercise worked to help me release it but it only works when I'm sad vs angry. I just can't seem to focus on exercising when I'm angry. It appears I absolutely need to be able to verbally let out my emotions in order to feel better. Either that or crying *shudders* I need ideas on how to train myself. There's like a TV cliche on screaming into pillows. Yeah no, I tried that once and just felt stupid.

I buy a watermelon and smash it with a hammer.

Seeing the red guts pleases me.

I buy some other things and smash them, but I’d rather not say what they are in public.

Posted by WarAngel

Deep-rooted insecurity is my guess.

Sure just like everyone else I have some insecurities I'm working, or I'm just a brat who often thinks I'm better than others and get frustrated when others don't get on my page asap. Still working it out.

Our son was angry as a child because he was picked on at school. He’d arrive home raging sometimes poor kid.

I made sure he channelled all that emotion into physical activities...punch bag, running around the garden screaming 😃 and one day he asked if he could thow some eggs at the barn in the garden (I joined in lol). He also used to do some crazy dancing to loud music

He’s not angry now..just irritable and critical lol but the rage has gone

He is fire dominant

Can you find a deserted place and scream ... I used to do that and it really helped. Also very intense dancing.

Let it out, I spent a while doing that and now I’m one of the calmest people you’d meet

Posted by DMV

I buy a watermelon and smash it with a hammer.

Seeing the red guts pleases me.

I buy some other things and smash them, but I’d rather not say what they are in public.

Are you being for real about the watermelon? Like be honest 🤣

I've noticed I DO NOT at all cost want to inflict my anger onto any objects or my possessions (humans are another story...). I personally cannot fathom spending money on something just to ruin/waste it. I wonder if shooting ranges would help 🤔

It takes a lot to get me angry and when I do, I let the person have it, talk about it until it comes to a conclusion and then let it go.

But I think it's easy for me since I don't get upset often.

If I got triggered often, I probably would just cut the person off and start avoiding them.

I hate negative emotions running through me, and if someone is the root cause of them often, they need to be eliminated from my life.

At least you know how to get a handle on yours, since you feel so much.

Sometimes I wish I had the stamina to be angry and keep fighting. Looks like fun from the outside looking in.

What are you so angry about? Do you have some control issues?

Isn't that usually why people have hot tempers?

Posted by SassyKiwi

Posted by DMV

I buy a watermelon and smash it with a hammer.

Seeing the red guts pleases me.

I buy some other things and smash them, but I’d rather not say what they are in public.

Are you being for real about the watermelon? Like be honest 🤣

I've noticed I DO NOT at all cost want to inflict my anger onto any objects or my possessions (humans are another story...). I personally cannot fathom spending money on something just to ruin/waste it. I wonder if shooting ranges would help 🤔

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Yes! I highly recommend.

It’s watermelons season right now.

That first hit is glorious

You could even put someone’s picture on the watermelon and go to town.

They have centers where you can go and break things

Exercise is big for fire moons. We often have too much energy so make sure you're tiring yourself out so you get enough sleep. I have a pushup bar so I do anywhere from 30 to 50 a day. Any sport is good though. I play basketball 🏀 so I focus on my form and shot which allows me to zone out/decompress.

There's places now where you can pay to demo a whole room, smash furniture lamps and dishes etc.

Feed my spiders.

I'll be honest nothing really angers me at this point. I've become quite numb to the world. Things just don't surprise or bother me anymore. I've removed upsetting content from my life for the most part, and if I can't I just completely zone it out. Like I've perfected turning off the switch that is supposed to care. I don't have road rage, and never have a situations that angers me. Its not even being so self absorbed I can't see outside myself, because I don't really care about that either. I can still see and hear the world outside myself, it just doesn't trigger any type of response or feeling within me anymore.

Posted by MyStarsShine

Our son was angry as a child because he was picked on at school. He’d arrive home raging sometimes poor kid.

I made sure he channelled all that emotion into physical activities...punch bag, running around the garden screaming 😃 and one day he asked if he could thow some eggs at the barn in the garden (I joined in lol). He also used to do some crazy dancing to loud music

He’s not angry now..just irritable and critical lol but the rage has gone

He is fire dominant

Can you find a deserted place and scream ... I used to do that and it really helped. Also very intense dancing.

Let it out, I spent a while doing that and now I’m one of the calmest people you’d meet

Dancing to music only makes me feel better when I'm sad, not when I'm angry lol. Now that I really think about it, often being very irritable and critical describe me better... I've always wanted to scream in a deserted place but I live in a big city so a perceived deserted place wouldn't really be deserted and I really don't want anyone thinking there's something horrible going on causing the cops to be called. You did a good job encouraging healthy outlets for your son to release his anger.

Posted by stardustmop

I go for a long drive with the music up really loud or I go on a long hike and argue with the person in my head. After I hike I’m usually too exhausted to care anymore.

Omg when I'm irritable or angry driving isn't good for me.. I get a little too acceleration happy. I also enjoy long walks out in parks which I have neglected for a while so I guess there's definitely a correlation there for being more irritable. I guess I need to go back to being more grounded with nature.

Posted by MareInfame

If I were you, I’d go for martial arts, kick boxing… some type of combative sport mixed in with DISCIPLINE. Wrestling…sex(sorry had to go there, Scorpio and all).

You have to physically exhaust yourself and then you can see the vulnerable feelings more clearly. Once you see the vulnerable feelings, you have to learn to address them in a more mature manner. Vocalize the issue without the emotions getting in the way, without anticipating reactions, without anxiety (if you also have air in your chart).

Combative sports with discipline teach you how to channel that energy more efficiently where it becomes an asset to have moon and Mars in fire rather than a hindrance.

You make some good points and it's funny because when I really think about it, I've been awful at discipline throughout most of my life (Aqua energy lol). I’ve always kind of gotten away with doing the bare minimum in whatever I had to do. You’re also spot on about air energy giving anxiety. I would LOVE to vocalize issues without all those getting in the way. Do you have less masculine examples to help with discipline?

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Posted by DMV

I buy a watermelon and smash it with a hammer.

Seeing the red guts pleases me.

I buy some other things and smash them, but I’d rather not say what they are in public.

Are you being for real about the watermelon? Like be honest 🤣

I've noticed I DO NOT at all cost want to inflict my anger onto any objects or my possessions (humans are another story...). I personally cannot fathom spending money on something just to ruin/waste it. I wonder if shooting ranges would help 🤔

What about having a Sag near by?!?! Because she was FUNNY when she said that… and humor is the best thing to have around when getting caught up in intense anger. It’s really disarming 🤣😂🤣😂

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I sadly do not have any Sag friends on standby anymore. I would love to have some!

Any Sag wanna come and adopt my pathetic butt? *sniff sniff*

Posted by saggurl88

What are you so angry about? Do you have some control issues?

Isn't that usually why people have hot tempers?

I'd say very irritable, intolerant and critical describes it better. It's usually not any particular person as I don't keep close to me anyone who would make me feel that way. It's mostly any general stuff like when dealing with customer support, insurance companies, clients, etc. Like for sure weekly something will get me super riled up and just cause me to get emotionally heated.

Posted by DMV

You could even put someone’s picture on the watermelon and go to town.

They have centers where you can go and break things

Omg hahaha okay wow. Honestly I love watermelons and fruits (please note my username) so I just couldn't bring it in me to do such a thing to them. Plus I'm squirmy when it comes to blood so is smashing it suppose to represent a head?! Honestly for me it's not a specific person. Thankfully I feel no grudge or ill feeling towards anyone, even those who have wronged me. It's more like dealing with the feelings of easily getting irritable and intolerant on a regular basis towards general people or situations. The state of the country with the whole antimask and antivax thing is not helping of course.

Btw a thing my friends and I used to do is have a BBQ with some really good food and at the end burn pictures of people who did us dirty. It felt sooo good. Just slooowly watching those pictures burn edge by edge. Then we burned sage and ended it off with smores (: I highly recommend it, even by yourself.

Posted by MyStarsShine

I've seen this stuff and feel it's such a waste and honestly me being clumsy and all, I'd end up cutting or hurting myself and then just feeling more worse afterwards! Not all irritated/angry people want to be violent! Such a misconception! Maybe that's a way some people end up expressing themselves 🥺 If I had good rhythm I'd probably be able to create edgy songs out of it but I wasn't gifted with that talent.

Posted by Nightcap-

Exercise is big for fire moons. We often have too much energy so make sure you're tiring yourself out so you get enough sleep. I have a pushup bar so I do anywhere from 30 to 50 a day. Any sport is good though. I play basketball 🏀 so I focus on my form and shot which allows me to zone out/decompress.

If I get angry enough, my anger easily tires me out lol. I actually think lack of enough sleep contributes further to becoming easily irritable. Look at you all easily managing your lives and angers with your perfect sleep schedules! I am so jealous. I think the only sport that doesn't bore me is badminton. Yes I'm a sissy. But mind you all, it's internationally very popular after soccer. Maybe the answer is getting back into that... But that requires finding a dedicated partner to accompany me 🥺

Posted by LadyNeptune

There's places now where you can pay to demo a whole room, smash furniture lamps and dishes etc.

It is such a misconception that all angry/irritable people have violent tendencies!!! Those things don't interest me at all. Now what could possibly interest me is a place where they have a bunch of teddy bears and dolls whose heads you can cut/break off... Does it exist? A good business idea? Authorities could flag you? But not exactly if you have that hot crazy bitch look right?

Posted by Bumboklaat

Not much de escalates the situation because for me to be pissed off, the judgement zone clicks in my brain. (I have lot of squares in fixed and oppositions)I usually avoid as much as I can. You can't rectify idiots and insecure people. Trust me

I also have lots of fixed and oppositions and like avoiding people, but when you're forced to deal with the stupid on a regular basis, you can end up snapping often. I want to be able to not easily get irritated from these low vibration creatures.

Posted by Soul

Feed my spiders.

I'll be honest nothing really angers me at this point. I've become quite numb to the world. Things just don't surprise or bother me anymore. I've removed upsetting content from my life for the most part, and if I can't I just completely zone it out. Like I've perfected turning off the switch that is supposed to care. I don't have road rage, and never have a situations that angers me. Its not even being so self absorbed I can't see outside myselft, because I don't really care about that either. I can still see and hear the world outside myself, it just doesn't trigger any type of response or feeling within me anymore.

Because all that is considered apathy monsieur.

My issue is the opposite. I can end up caring too much about helping not so bright people (whilst getting paid for it) that sometimes I forget you can only help someone so much if they don’t want to help themselves. Idk. I just end up getting angry at people for not helping you help them. Why can’t people be more cooperative for their own good?

Posted by SassyKiwi

Some often wonder how I can be such an angry person for a small person. I don't know why but I just sometimes feel so passionate about something that I can easily get triggered or pissed. I've always been like this especially from my adolescence. Astrologically it checks out cause I got fire moon conjunct mars in a fire house plus both are square and opposition to other personal planets and pluto. I often have to check myself or else I can easily explode on a matter. It does not feel good or healthy to hold back the emotions. Things that help me release my anger are venting to my mom and certain friends. I wish exercise worked to help me release it but it only works when I'm sad vs angry. I just can't seem to focus on exercising when I'm angry. It appears I absolutely need to be able to verbally let out my emotions in order to feel better. Either that or crying *shudders* I need ideas on how to train myself. There's like a TV cliche on screaming into pillows. Yeah no, I tried that once and just felt stupid.

I never understood why people equate emotional expression with one's physical appearance.

Anyway, how I deal with anger is situational. Really does depends on the issue, relationship with the person that triggered my anger and generally my mood. If I really can't be bothered, I'm not giving it focus/energy so I will use that energy elsewhere in a productive way (exercise, art, dance, sex). If I care, I speak on it at some point to address the problem and hopefully move on. If we can't come to a reasonable conclusion, then *deuces* and see option 1.

Posted by DMV

I buy a watermelon and smash it with a hammer.

Seeing the red guts pleases me.

I buy some other things and smash them, but I’d rather not say what they are in public.

*like* Lol.

Posted by MareInfame

If I were you, I’d go for martial arts, kick boxing… some type of combative sport mixed in with DISCIPLINE.…sex (sorry had to go there, Scorpio and all)...

*like* Funny how we see this as very therapeutic and a better use of energy than just blowing up at people.

🧐I use to clean while playing loud music 🎼. Now, I have to go outside, preferably on a long walk, always with my headphones and loud music 🎶

Signed Aqua sun Sag moon 📝

Catch phrase serenity now

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Posted by Sleepyquantro1

🧐I use to clean while playing loud music 🎼. Now, I have to go outside, preferably on a long walk, always with my headphones and loud music 🎶

Signed Aqua sun Sag moon 📝

I like cleaning when I’m mad too. I’m productive as hell when I’m angry I can get a lot of shit done 🤣🤣

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It definitely use to work for me lol

Posted by SassyKiwi

Some often wonder how I can be such an angry person for a small person

😒

Boxing helped me out alot. Eased my mind to a powerful degree. And getting quiet silence to myself. Mediitating helped me in leaps and bound and writing in a journal.



Last year I was on the verge of fighting everyone breathing. It just seemed like i was going thru shit left and right and ppl like to pick so I had more than my fair share of explosions.

take a nap or bike ride all good!

Posted by Truemara

Catch phrase serenity now

Great movie, the sequel we deserved

Posted by SassyKiwi

Posted by DMV

I buy a watermelon and smash it with a hammer.

Seeing the red guts pleases me.

I buy some other things and smash them, but I’d rather not say what they are in public.

Are you being for real about the watermelon? Like be honest 🤣

I've noticed I DO NOT at all cost want to inflict my anger onto any objects or my possessions (humans are another story...). I personally cannot fathom spending money on something just to ruin/waste it. I wonder if shooting ranges would help 🤔

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Shooting helps with focus which can help you control yourself better—but I’m worried about telling someone with rage to be around guns 😂 I throw knives and recently hatchets, and it’s very good for getting anger out and also for focus and calming oneself.

I usually just bottle it up and save it for a later date. 🌋 lol

Posted by LadyNeptune

There's places now where you can pay to demo a whole room, smash furniture lamps and dishes etc.

Cringe.

How would you know this? What a weirdo.