I don't like my parents
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They keep telling me what to do!!! 
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Grow up already.
I don't believe you're 28, tbh. You act like a perpetual 18 year old boy locked in a basement with his hentai.
I don't believe you're 28, tbh. You act like a perpetual 18 year old boy locked in a basement with his hentai.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Grow up already.
I don't believe you're 28, tbh. You act like a perpetual 18 year old boy locked in a basement with his hentai.
Is that not every guy on dxp..........
I hate it that they messed up with my plans by telling me to do everything as they tell. It's so annoying. Now, I'm directionless. I don't know what to do in life. To think that I belong to the top 2% of the population when it comes to intelligence. @_@
I seriously need advice. No jokes please.
Posted by Cricket808
You're a grown ass women and can do what you please to do.
Of course, I can... but my parents always get in the way. In every decision that I have to make, they try to influence me. It's annoying.
This is so funny to read while I'm high lol
do you still live at home?
Posted by jeane
do you still live at home?
Yes coz I'm not yet married. But I'm contemplating about leaving my family if they still continue doing this. It's so annoying.
Posted by starlover
Oh Bunny
You are going to have to assert yourself
It's your life....not theirs
Thanks for the advice. I'm contacting my friend from another city asking her if I can live with her and find jobs there.
Posted by cuteboyPosted by Magenta_Azure
This is so funny to read while I'm high lol
you stay highclick to expand
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Posted by firebunnyPosted by jeane
do you still live at home?
Yes coz I'm not yet married. But I'm contemplating about leaving my family if they still continue doing this. It's so annoying.click to expand
while you're living at home it can be virtually impossible to make a stand.
unless you are dependent on them financially, i would try to see if you can move out. although it may mean a period in the wilderness where they stop speaking to you for a bit of time. moving out of the city will be easier though than just moving out of the house while remaining local.
Posted by jeanePosted by firebunnyPosted by jeane
do you still live at home?
Yes coz I'm not yet married. But I'm contemplating about leaving my family if they still continue doing this. It's so annoying.
while you're living at home it can be virtually impossible to make a stand.
unless you are dependent on them financially, i would try to see if you can move out. although it may mean a period in the wilderness where they stop speaking to you for a bit of time. moving out of the city will be easier though than just moving out of the house while remaining local.click to expand
Thanks Jeane.
Posted by firebunnyPosted by jeanePosted by firebunnyPosted by jeane
do you still live at home?
Yes coz I'm not yet married. But I'm contemplating about leaving my family if they still continue doing this. It's so annoying.
while you're living at home it can be virtually impossible to make a stand.
unless you are dependent on them financially, i would try to see if you can move out. although it may mean a period in the wilderness where they stop speaking to you for a bit of time. moving out of the city will be easier though than just moving out of the house while remaining local.
Thanks Jeane.click to expand
don't worry. been there. had a taste of it.
Posted by jeanePosted by firebunnyPosted by jeanePosted by firebunnyPosted by jeane
do you still live at home?
Yes coz I'm not yet married. But I'm contemplating about leaving my family if they still continue doing this. It's so annoying.
while you're living at home it can be virtually impossible to make a stand.
unless you are dependent on them financially, i would try to see if you can move out. although it may mean a period in the wilderness where they stop speaking to you for a bit of time. moving out of the city will be easier though than just moving out of the house while remaining local.
Thanks Jeane.
don't worry. been there. had a taste of it.click to expand
How was it? was it the best decision you've made in your life?
I don't mind if I don't speak to them. I can withstand days and weeks without talking to them. I'm pretty independent, just not financially though...
Posted by firebunny
How was it? was it the best decision you've made in your life?
it was. i took off as soon as i could. i saw how it affected my brother and didn't want to stay a moment longer than i needed to. it took me a few years though to fight my way through the emotional and mental fog.
you have to remember though that in their mind they are doing the very best they know how for you. it's not that they are evil bastards, they don't wake up every morning thinking how can they make your life as difficult as possible but it is a different age and a different culture. they are just doing what they think is right to give you the best start and protect you the only way they know how.
Posted by jeanePosted by firebunny
How was it? was it the best decision you've made in your life?
it was. i took off as soon as i could. i saw how it affected my brother and didn't want to stay a moment longer than i needed to. it took me a few years though to fight my way through the emotional and mental fog.
you have to remember though that in their mind they are doing the very best they know how for you. it's not that they are evil bastards, they don't wake up every morning thinking how can they make your life as difficult as possible but it is a different age and a different culture. they are just doing what they think is right to give you the best start and protect you the only way they know how.click to expand
Was it difficult at the beginning?
Posted by starloverPosted by firebunnyPosted by jeane
do you still live at home?
Yes coz I'm not yet married. But I'm contemplating about leaving my family if they still continue doing this. It's so annoying.
You don't have to be married to leave home Bunny??
Most young people here leave around 18 to go to Uni and be independentclick to expand
It's different here in the Philippines. Lol. But maybe I have to leave home as soon as possible. Can't stand my parents controlling my future. I honestly envy my siblings coz they get to choose whichever career they want to practice.
Posted by starloverPosted by firebunnyPosted by starlover
Oh Bunny
You are going to have to assert yourself
It's your life....not theirs
Thanks for the advice. I'm contacting my friend from another city asking her if I can live with her and find jobs there.
No problem Bunny.....try and put your plan into action
It has nothing to do with your parents which path you choose in life...
I was with a guy years ago who was dominated by his parents. His mother had decided before he was BORN that he was going to be an accountant. He was a gifted artist and guess what he became?.......an accountant.... I couldnt wait to get away from that family....my father called them the *Mafia* lol
He had no backbone at all and let them dictate his life choices
Sadclick to expand
OMG. I am a CPA and my mum chose that career for me. I wanted to be a banker/economist... not an accountant!
Awww starlover, can you be my mum? At least here on DXP? 
Posted by firebunnyPosted by jeanePosted by firebunny
How was it? was it the best decision you've made in your life?
it was. i took off as soon as i could. i saw how it affected my brother and didn't want to stay a moment longer than i needed to. it took me a few years though to fight my way through the emotional and mental fog.
you have to remember though that in their mind they are doing the very best they know how for you. it's not that they are evil bastards, they don't wake up every morning thinking how can they make your life as difficult as possible but it is a different age and a different culture. they are just doing what they think is right to give you the best start and protect you the only way they know how.
Was it difficult at the beginning?click to expand
not really. i was fairly young so maybe stupidity paved the way. the longer you stay the harder it will be to break free. and you know, you quickly learn things, people help and you have all the skills already to do it. the hardest part is believing you can and embracing the unknown.
you can still get into banking. cpa is the same ball park (not really i know but closer than lion tamer). there is lot of time to change but realise that time goes by very quickly. you're 28 now? in a few months you'll be 30. do you still want to be in the same situation then?
it really was the best thing. i shudder to think where i would be now if i hadn't gone. i moved country. move city, stay with your friend but have some money saved up before you go. my father told me i would be back within 3 months. i never returned. the money i had kept me afloat while i overcame inertia and the slow start it always takes before momentum takes over. if you leave try your best not to go back, it will make things doubly harder to break free a second time.
Posted by starloverPosted by firebunny
Awww starlover, can you be my mum? At least here on DXP?
...well i was in a past life remember?
I think loving means letting someone be happy, not making oneself happy by controlling them
Maybe you say that to your over controlling parentsclick to expand
if they are anything like my parents then they will say loving someone and being a parent is guiding their child to do what is best (and morally right etc) and as they are firebunny's elders and parents they know far better than firebunny what that is.
you should listen to your parents. respect them, obey them and don't question them.
Posted by starlover
and jeane, guiding and controlling are two different things
go back and read what bunny wrote
i've read it. it's just that firebunny's parents won't see it as controlling. you and i and firebunny see it as controlling. they see it as being good parents.
Posted by starlover
.....if your parents truly love you, they will raise you and guide you enough to make your own decisions when you become a man/woman
if you don't question your parents, you will never grow or become mature, you will always remain in the *child* state
As Bunny is discovering this is not healthy
my parents loved me, it didn't mean that they didn't insist i obey them and all their instructions well beyond the age of consent.
it's not a western culture. it's hard to explain if you don't understand how permeating their influence can (and to them, must) be.
My step sister falls in the same boat. 34 and still someone 'controlled' by my parents. She bitches about it all the time but never does anything about it.
YOLO.
YOLO.
same
do you have any uranus aspects?
i'd just have a talk with them, let them know what you think and where you stand, and that if they can't respect your decisions that it is going to create a divide in your relationship with them.
do you have any uranus aspects?
i'd just have a talk with them, let them know what you think and where you stand, and that if they can't respect your decisions that it is going to create a divide in your relationship with them.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Grow up already.
I don't believe you're 28, tbh. You act like a perpetual 18 year old boy locked in a basement with his hentai.
you mean 12 years old
you could go live with Damnata for a bit
Posted by firebunnyPosted by starlover
Oh Bunny
You are going to have to assert yourself
It's your life....not theirs
Thanks for the advice. I'm contacting my friend from another city asking her if I can live with her and find jobs there.click to expand
What is it.with you virgo men and always asking FEMALE friends to help you out...
Posted by starloverPosted by GreenteaPosted by firebunnyPosted by starlover
Oh Bunny
You are going to have to assert yourself
It's your life....not theirs
Thanks for the advice. I'm contacting my friend from another city asking her if I can live with her and find jobs there.
What is it.with you virgo men and always asking FEMALE friends to help you out...
I was married to a Virgo man for a long time....he was the opposite...always helping others. I have always found Virgos to be very giving and not taking at allclick to expand
Oh I know they're giving..but when they do ask it's always to a female is what I've seen.
Posted by engagement_hotdogPosted by hydorah
you could go live with Damnata for a bit
that would be like a twist on perfect strangers.
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that would be like perfect strangers with 2 balkis
Get a job, move out, vote independent, wash your sheets once a week.
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Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by rockyroadicecream
Grow up already.
I don't believe you're 28, tbh. You act like a perpetual 18 year old boy locked in a basement with his hentai.
Is that not every guy on dxp..........click to expand
Now that you mention it...
Posted by aquasnoz
My step sister falls in the same boat. 34 and still someone 'controlled' by my parents. She bitches about it all the time but never does anything about it.
YOLO.
That's the point. I'm 30 and still live at home. My parents feeds me plus I get an allowance. It's an awesome life.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by rockyroadicecream
Grow up already.
I don't believe you're 28, tbh. You act like a perpetual 18 year old boy locked in a basement with his hentai.
Is that not every guy on dxp..........
Now that you mention it...click to expand
I will take care of you forever.
Posted by starloverPosted by bawlikestogomooPosted by aquasnoz
My step sister falls in the same boat. 34 and still someone 'controlled' by my parents. She bitches about it all the time but never does anything about it.
YOLO.
That's the point. I'm 30 and still live at home. My parents feeds me plus I get an allowance. It's an awesome life.
30 and till at home??? Which country do you live in?
Do you never want to grow up?click to expand
I live in the US. I'm happy with having my parents take care of me. It has its limitations, but having free living and food expenses is pretty awesome.
Posted by starloverPosted by bawlikestogomooPosted by starloverPosted by bawlikestogomooPosted by aquasnoz
My step sister falls in the same boat. 34 and still someone 'controlled' by my parents. She bitches about it all the time but never does anything about it.
YOLO.
That's the point. I'm 30 and still live at home. My parents feeds me plus I get an allowance. It's an awesome life.
30 and till at home??? Which country do you live in?
Do you never want to grow up?
I live in the US. I'm happy with having my parents take care of me. It has its limitations, but having free living and food expenses is pretty awesome.
They raised you and now it is time for you to become independent......yes?click to expand
Nah. It's nice not having to worry about money. I wake up and theres food on the table. I don't have to cook, clean, etc. Not ready to let any of that go. The only downside is not having a GF. I have two hands that have served me well.
Posted by tizianiPosted by starloverPosted by tizianiPosted by starloverPosted by tizianiPosted by starloverPosted by bawlikestogomooPosted by aquasnoz
My step sister falls in the same boat. 34 and still someone 'controlled' by my parents. She bitches about it all the time but never does anything about it.
YOLO.
That's the point. I'm 30 and still live at home. My parents feeds me plus I get an allowance. It's an awesome life.
30 and till at home??? Which country do you live in?
Do you never want to grow up?
Technically speaking I'm 30 and still live at home. Maybe I live here with just me and my cousin but we certainly don't own the deeds to this place.
You live with your mum, tiz?
She doesn't live here. She moved out so I could move out of my apartment and move in here. Then my cousin moved in later. But we didn't pay for this place and we live here free. She could easily take it back anytime.
Living with your cousin is different to living with your mum, Tiz.....the guys that stay for years with theirs freak me out a bit
Chatting up a woman *I am in my 30s and still live with my mother*
Just, no
I suppose so. I was never on the dating scene so I never really had that dilemma. I don't know why people have hangups over the issue either way. People just have to do what's best for them regardless of how it looks to others.click to expand
Let's be roommates, dear.
Posted by starlover
......and shame on any woman that raises a son to be dependent on them
*shakes head*
My mom is the best!
Posted by starloverPosted by bawlikestogomooPosted by starlover
......and shame on any woman that raises a son to be dependent on them
*shakes head*
My mom is the best!
....but she didn't teach you to grow up
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I never asked to
Posted by starlover
...you shouldn't have needed to
A part of parenting is to let go of children and help them to become adults
I know of guys who still live with their mothers in their 40s and 50s
There is some weird dynamic where the mother wants to hold on to her son and thus rendering him dependent on her
Unhealthy
I hope my parents live until I'm in my 50s. My mom and dad have moderate to severe diabetes.
Posted by starloverPosted by bawlikestogomooPosted by starlover
...you shouldn't have needed to
A part of parenting is to let go of children and help them to become adults
I know of guys who still live with their mothers in their 40s and 50s
There is some weird dynamic where the mother wants to hold on to her son and thus rendering him dependent on her
Unhealthy
I hope my parents live until I'm in my 50s. My mom and dad have moderate to severe diabetes.
Both have the same illness?
Is it genetic.....are you at risk and if so, do you know how best to prevent it?click to expand
Yeah, both have it. They got it later in life so I think it's type I. Anyway, they are both on insulin.
I know it has a lot to do with diet and exercise. Ands has been giving me tips on how to work out, so that is helping me lose some weight.
Posted by tizianiPosted by WestsidekodakPosted by firebunny
They keep telling me what to do!!!
I just realized this guy is almost thirty. LMAO
Arab families are like this as well though, let's be honest. I remember when my friends and I were early 20s or so and we had a few who would hang with us in the evenings on Xbox and poker nights who were anywhere from 28-35ish. We looked up to them because they were driving S classes and 7 Series to go out to the club, but at the end of every night they still had to pick up the phone to their mother ringing or their father calling from abroad asking them if they were a doctor yetclick to expand
Why would anyone want to be a doctor? They are stupid, evil, and push pills on you to make money.
Posted by tizianiPosted by bawlikestogomooPosted by tizianiPosted by WestsidekodakPosted by firebunny
They keep telling me what to do!!!
I just realized this guy is almost thirty. LMAO
Arab families are like this as well though, let's be honest. I remember when my friends and I were early 20s or so and we had a few who would hang with us in the evenings on Xbox and poker nights who were anywhere from 28-35ish. We looked up to them because they were driving S classes and 7 Series to go out to the club, but at the end of every night they still had to pick up the phone to their mother ringing or their father calling from abroad asking them if they were a doctor yet
Why would anyone want to be a doctor? They are stupid, evil, and push pills on you to make money.
Some of them even come up with crazy experiments to mess with your eyes. And they get you while you're young, too. It's crazy.click to expand
Eye doctors are the worst. I cringe just thinking about going to see one. Come hold me tiz 8(
Posted by WestsidekodakPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by rockyroadicecream
Grow up already.
I don't believe you're 28, tbh. You act like a perpetual 18 year old boy locked in a basement with his hentai.
Is that not every guy on dxp..........
Nice generalization.click to expand
Pls is sarcasm broken
I actually think there's more anime loving women on here than men so I guess that's ok
Anime is still weird
Posted by starlover
...you shouldn't have needed to
A part of parenting is to let go of children and help them to become adults
I know of guys who still live with their mothers in their 40s and 50s
There is some weird dynamic where the mother wants to hold on to her son and thus rendering him dependent on her
Unhealthy
That's what I believe but unfortunately there's enough parents out there who do the opposite. Many condition their children to feel crippled without their dependency and guilt trip them into not becoming independent from them. It's horrible and unhealthy but blame the parents and their deep attachment issues.
If they're in their 40s and 50s living with their parents instead of their parents living with them (to take care of them through old age or whatnot), there is a MAJOR problem.
Posted by WestsidekodakPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by WestsidekodakPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by rockyroadicecream
Grow up already.
I don't believe you're 28, tbh. You act like a perpetual 18 year old boy locked in a basement with his hentai.
Is that not every guy on dxp..........
Nice generalization.
Pls is sarcasm broken
I actually think there's more anime loving women on here than men so I guess that's ok
Anime is still weird
Do you come with an english setting? Lmaoclick to expand
No habla ingles
Posted by WestsidekodakPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by WestsidekodakPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by WestsidekodakPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by rockyroadicecream
Grow up already.
I don't believe you're 28, tbh. You act like a perpetual 18 year old boy locked in a basement with his hentai.
Is that not every guy on dxp..........
Nice generalization.
Pls is sarcasm broken
I actually think there's more anime loving women on here than men so I guess that's ok
Anime is still weird
Do you come with an english setting? Lmao
No habla ingles
Porrrr queeee!!
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Posted by bawlikestogomoo
I will take care of you forever.
Doubtful. You can't even take care of yourself.
Posted by bawlikestogomoo
Yeah, both have it. They got it later in life so I think it's type I. Anyway, they are both on insulin.
I know it has a lot to do with diet and exercise. Ands has been giving me tips on how to work out, so that is helping me lose some weight.click to expand
That'd be type 2, honey.
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