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Sep 30, 2011Comments: 712 · Posts: 13125 · Topics: 157
If your boyfriend, girlfriend, ex, whatever, were to find out about this site, knew what your username is- what would be the 1st thing you would remove? I just got busted and i removed my most telling threads in case he decides to join or look around, darn nosy scorps! Im now being called WaterCup by him, not sure if i like it coz this place was like my dirty little secret.
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Which means you're a cheater.
You're cheating him out of something, or decieving him in some way ... if you have to actively log in to remove incriminating evidence.
Hopefully he catches wind of you, and dumps you.
He will anyway the moment he realizes that you think a kid doesnt' need love from grandparents.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
Good question, watercup. Mine probably wouldn't like that I put too much of our relationship on here. But I haven't said anything that would embarrass him.
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Pangel, hello grandma. I had U in mind when i wrote that, which child would need such negativity, u need to grow up and i might change my mind. And nah im not a cheater, i just dont like a man to know too much about me. Some of the things i said are meant for strangers only and not for people ill have to deal with daily.
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I can see where when someone has lied about someone else to a bunch of strangers on the internet that they would naturally want to cover their tracks and delete such "incriminating" evidence...
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Trucap, understandable, but would u like him to know about how he hurts u, how much u miss him when u guys arent talking, etc? Your private thoughts and feelings, stuff that u only tell to your close friends or write in a diary. I ask this bcoz ive seen some pretty obsessive stuff in here and i always imagine the reactions of the mentioned ppl, total ego boost i would think.
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Lildoll, oh i can see now why capricorn is such a depressing and pessimistic sign, ur living proof. Thanks Gawd im an aqua and saturn is like a part-time father! FYI, I didnt lie, i just dont want him to know what fabulous arsehole i actually am! Satisfied?
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The above might turn him on and u know how i dont like a hot horny mess on my hands. Lmao. I prefer to keep him cool, scorpio can go on for hours, yanno? And we dont want that to happen, no mam.
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Posted by P-Angel
Which means you're a cheater.
You're cheating him out of something, or decieving him in some way ... if you have to actively log in to remove incriminating evidence.
So by your logic you should know EVERYTHING about your partner or else they're hiding something? Really? So you have no sense or regard for privacy? You're like an open book yourself then?
There are plenty 'inner thoughts' here that I've shared that I wouldn't share with my friends and family. Often it's easier to be blunt about your inner workings with strangers than it is with the people around you, it's natural. Most of the time it's not WHAT I'm saying, it's HOW I'm saying it. You can tell a lot about a person by the way they reason, their insecurities, fears, etc.
In here it's like raw material, and the stuff that's finally used IRL is the edited version.... and certainly the best. Who'd really want to sit through my personal dailies anyway?Signed Up:
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I wouldn't remove or modify a thing If it's not appropriate then I just won't post it
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I don't understand why we need "mystery" in relationships.
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Seraph, some stuff i wrote here are none of his business and i want them to remain so. If i were to share some with him, it would be all up to me- hell have to wait. I left things im not concerned about coz they were simply childish and i suspect he is aware of that about me (my childishness) unless he has an IQ of a french-fry. Plus i felt naked with all that out there and me naked is not a pretty sight- ill do just about anything to feel dressed.
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lblibra, well i write a lot of stuff that i later regret writting, uranus moments. But i dont remove them just because..Are u telling me that u never write/say things that u later regret, EVER? U must be a perfect specimen or thorough thinker then.
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Amandus, what i dont get is total openness, especially if im not his Mrs- i owe him nothing! Any person in a relationship or not needs some kind of privacy or secresy, thats why u dont find a toilet for two. What u choose as your private no-entry place is all up to u as a person.
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Posted by WaterCup
lblibra, well i write a lot of stuff that i later regret writting, uranus moments. But i dont remove them just because..Are u telling me that u never write/say things that u later regret, EVER? U must be a perfect specimen or thorough thinker then.
Oh no I,m far from perfect, sure I say things i regret but rarely let my emotional side totally take over as I,ve seen what some people are capable of when they loose it completely and for posting on the internet I do hold back alot because once its put out there its out there for good. Your words can ruin your reputaion as quik as a bad movie of you having sex.Signed Up:
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Dazed, i dont think of myself as an emotional cheater, i just conduct my relationships the way i see fit. I share what i share with him if it makes me comfortable, he is not emotionally neglected otherwize he wouldnt be here. If he is then i havent been told yet, which would make him as bad as me in that instance. The doors are open for him to take an exit if he wants a blabber mouth or an autobiography. I come here to detox so i can be all cleansed when i meet him. 1 thing about me, once i let something out of my mouth, its instantly out of my system- i was angry about his comment, talked about it here and now we are lovey-dovey again. Its all forgotten.
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Dazed, i think too much, i give myself a break sometimes. I tell him what i think all the time, sadly he doesnt like most things i think which ends up in an argument so to avoid that i come here instead of battling with him. Btw, we havent had any serious fight that needs a serious talking to, ill cross that 1 when i get there.
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Dazed, incriminating can be interpreted in many different ways and whats incriminating for me might not be for u. I guard my privacy in real life and there are some things i would not like a lover to know about myself. Im sure he has things too that he would rather keep mum and he has a right to all that, so do i. I write here bcoz i dont care about what u guys think, but i do care what he thinks which is why i dont want him exposed to what i see as my privacy. No safe deposit boxes for me, u guys are here! Sharing is learning
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You know, he could be here...right now.
Hi!
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Dazed, dont tempt me, chaos is my middle name when the mood strikes- i may bring The bold n the beautiful up in here. Joking aside, ill have to be more careful about what i say and thats all-i hate it already.
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Im deleting nothing, i dont deal with paranoid fools, ill just drop him- im not a fucking shrink! And that would be his problem and not mine.
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Dazed, i felt tempted when u said u guess i would share some place else now. If it fails, it fails, not the end of the world. And if my lack of sharing would mean the end so be it-it would just prove how shallow the whole thing was. Theres still a lot i dont know about, theres a lot i discovered on my own without him telling me therefore i owe him nothing as far a revealing myself to him. Cant clap with one hand so im not gonna even try.
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Dazed, birds of the same feather flock together, he is no better than me, at least im upfront about everything except what i feel is none of somebodys business. He can walk, hop, do flips, i wont stop him-i dont have problems being single
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Dazed, im anticipating it, cant wait! We just started dating, the pace we are going is fine by me, at least i know some important things there is to know about him so far- his name, his dick size, etc.
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Seraph, CHECK MATE.
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Posted by WaterCup
Dazed, im anticipating it, cant wait! We just started dating, the pace we are going is fine by me, at least i know some important things there is to know about him so far- his name, his dick size, etc.
Ah yes, the most important things...
Superficial much? Oh, shit, I forgot, you're an Aqua...Signed Up:
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Dxp and the members here are like your private confidants, I totally understand why you don't want your partner or family here and I also know there are a lot of us on here that feel exactly the same. Change your name for when you want answer to anything that you don't want him to read about knowing it's you. My partner is curious about this site too, I always just say I'm on my forum...just as well he's not that great on a computer he might want to snoop...but this is my private world!
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He can come right in because I have nothing incriminating on here...Umma good gurl 
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Nothing I write on here would incriminate me at all, so I have nothing to fear if this site was discovered by anyone I know personally....however I choose to make this my personal diary and get advice on situations in life that I don't feel I can get from friends/family.
You come here to play with people and stir and in the short time you have been here you have posted more times than the 10 years I've been around. We all use the site for different reason never is right or wrong...
And incriminating...weren't you the one that posted a pic of his dick?? What if I were to have saved that and threw that out on the internet? Yes you really do have to watch what you put out there don't you??
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Where is that like button again???
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Mar 24, 2006Comments: 163 · Posts: 6615 · Topics: 326
Well that's just your opinion and obviously others share that opinion as do others like myself and many here that keep this site to themselves.
When you use words like lying and cheating, maybe you are directing them at WC, I wouldn't know I haven't seen her posts but it certainly looks like you are saying that to all of us that want to remain innominate.
You address me Sir, I answered back 
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@ EB and others, probably the biggest reason I don't announce this site is because people I know think astrology is a bunch of Bullshit!
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
Posted by WaterCup
Trucap, understandable, but would u like him to know about how he hurts u, how much u miss him when u guys arent talking, etc? Your private thoughts and feelings, stuff that u only tell to your close friends or write in a diary. I ask this bcoz ive seen some pretty obsessive stuff in here and i always imagine the reactions of the mentioned ppl, total ego boost i would think.
True. But, alas, the therapy of an anonymous on line forum! And the best advice that is unemotional, unbiased, honest and that you can't get anywhere else!
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
What if your s/o was also on here and you didn't know it. Then, there was someone you thought that had similar placements as your s/o and you private messaged them asking for their thoughts.... and your s/o was the one giving you advice, although they didn't know it was you. Scary! Food for thought!
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Posted by TaurusBadGirl
Only 2 people in here know who i am..and the reason they know is because i trust them...
... trust no one on dxp.... thats my advice...
lol ....
That's like the weatherman telling you it's rainy sunny day.
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Posted by truecap
What if your s/o was also on here and you didn't know it. Then, there was someone you thought that had similar placements as your s/o and you private messaged them asking for their thoughts.... and your s/o was the one giving you advice, although they didn't know it was you.
That would mean that both of them were having a very private conversation about their private lives with a person outside of thier relationship, as far as they were concerned.
There isn't a person out there who would be "ok" with their partner having private conversations with another wo/man about their intimate issues.
She sounds like she's probably a slut, though, so all of this is probably normal for her.
Wonders how her man feels as he reads this and realizes how everyone feels about her and the things she has said about him.Signed Up:
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Scorps care about their integrity, and go above and beyond not to be viewed as douchebags .... so, he's likely pretty pissed off now that he reads this and knows she talks smack about him.
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It absolutely amazes me, the amount of women who play on mens feelings.
You're probably right, it's probably all a game to her.
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She's an Aqua... you expect anything less?
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Good morning. Lildoll, fix that selective sight of yours at once! I said name, dick size AND ETC, the etc is between me and him-i wont be embarrassing my honey anymore in here. Elle, ur being ridiculous. His discovery was totally unplanned. He sees me on my phone all the time and figures that im on mxit (a popular trashy hookup site here) and i told him no i wasnt many times so he choze to check my browsing history while i was out. It just proved to him that i told the truth and he was being an idiot. Pangel, whatever, he knows how much im liked in real life so what internet peeps think is SO irrelevent.
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Posted by DazedScorp
Posted by WaterCup
Seraph, some stuff i wrote here are none of his business and i want them to remain so.
I would think that things said behind my back (i.e. The things you have said about your Scorpio to strangers on the internet), are my business.
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If she's talking behind his back to acquaintances who know him, then yes, it is his business. Venting anonymousely on an open forum, sorry Scorp, that's none of your business! You don't have the right to her mind!
All of you who don't understand the need for privacy, either you are boring people with nothing truly private or personal about you, or you are simply keeping "the goods" off the forum. As for myself, I'm bluntly open here and it's a liberating but vulnearble position, hence the "secrecy".
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Word, enfant. Theres a song but im not sure who sings it, the lyrics go something like this- i need a girl who knows how to talk, knows when to act stuckup and KNOWS WHEN TO SHUT THE FUCK UP. I looove that song.
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Posted by P-Angel
That would mean that both of them were having a very private conversation about their private lives with a person outside of thier relationship, as far as they were concerned.
There isn't a person out there who would be "ok" with their partner having private conversations with another wo/man about their intimate issues.
I wouldn't mind, if the person in question is a total stranger and doesen't know me or my girlfriend IRL. In fact I'd pretty much expect it sooner or later.... obviousely I'd want her to talk to me first, but sometimes you just need to vent outside of the relationship because you are venting ABOUT the relationship. So I'd be happier if she did it with a stranger than spilling her guts with intimate details about us to her friends. That my friends is the true definition of talking behind someone's back. It's when your ego, pride and dignity is at stake! *Spoken like a true Leo*
But with strangers, who cares what they know or don't know about you.
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I honestly dont get whats the big deal here, for me its simple- if we arent siamese twins, u aint sharing every aspect of my life, noh-noh-noh. If some of u think its ok for a partner to know every single little thing about u, good for u but im not like that and peanut man is very much aware of that coz he values his privacy too. Nobody is cheating or being untrue, its so innocent in my book. I have MY world and OUR world and i like being the only resident in my word. We arent married or been in a relationship for that long so ill continue keeping things that dont concern him away from him- im not a love sick retard who reports everything back to him.
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Jynja, if a person gets suspcious over every little thing said or done maybe they shouldnt be in a relationship in the 1st place. Insecurity in a partner is a major turn off especially if there is no history of distrust. Your insecurity, your problem, it has nothing to do with the partners actions.
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Jynja, your POINT is lost to me bcoz its MY THREADS and i can do what i want with them- plus im being insecure about my actions and not his. And who said anything about stuff being used against me? Its surely not me, lol. Im not comfortable with him reading my stuff so i deleted them end of story. Just today he was calling his ex about their son and about money and he made the call outside- i didnt shadow him, huff-puff or thought he was cheating, nada. Every relationship is different.
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EEE, wrong or right im still not sharing things with him that dont concern him- hell know whatever i want him to know and it ends there. Having your own sanctuary away from the relationship is good, u dont lose yourself that way and it saves a lot of heartbreak bcoz u dont make your partner your world. Thats just me, i know not everybody is like that.
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Jynja, if u see it that way and thanks for dropping by. I learnt a lesson about leos too, the males and females are different, see enfant gets what i mean and u dont. Oh well
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EEE, we are not people here, we are our signs, lol. Some people just dont understand that there are different ways of doing the same thing- we all relate differently due to our own experiences or whatever. Nice song EEE but im going to put on my sinatra cd and listen to MY WAY, that song makes me feel special, lol. Im watching ninja warrior now and its the final stage, i need to concentrate. Laters
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Posted by Jynja
Enfant, simple question:
If you found your girlfriend's diary and perhaps handed it to her - lets just say you didn't read it, but just gave it to her - only for her to get in a frenzy and start ripping pages out, what would that tell you?
Look, I don't know what this WaterCup is all about, I was addressing P-Angel's thoughts on the subject from the first page.
But as you said, IF my girlfriend was in total panic about it, like flushing the pages down the toilet, it would make me suspicious. But I also know that if someone I knew found out that this is my account I'd probably delete it and create a new one. It doesen't mean I'm hiding something juicy, it means I have decided to post anonymousely, and my friends and acquaintances reading something of mine not meant for them to read is a violation of my personal inegrity. IT'S JUST A MATTER OF PRIVACY.
I mean think about it, would you want someone reading all your thoughts and opinions? No, what's private is private.....