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This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by Libra4rmTX on Thursday, March 21, 2024 and has 30 replies.
Aight. Met a new lil flame and I like to chase. I don't mind it at all. It's just being aggressive doesn't work for me that well. Cuz I try lol I truly have to be "smooth". Working on it

We'll have some good back n forths then she just disappears. Now, I don't mind chasing. But I don't like reaching out again after a person just disappeared from the convo. So I'm kinda just letting play out however it does.

So my question is....if someone casually stops texting do you reach out again? Or do you wait for them to respond? I'm not the type to reach out again but too many ppl have told me they do it anyways. I feel like you shouldn't have to as much especially if it happens more than once. What y'all think?
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How can you like to chase while simultaneously also not be willing to re-initiate conversations? When exactly do you chase then?

If you find yourself constantly being the one to have to initiate conversations after the previous have died, maybe it’s not the best mental connection or she isn’t a good virtual communicator. This already sounds like a lot of effort for the very beginning stages when it should be extremely easy and organic.
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Posted by nanochip
How can you like to chase while simultaneously also not be willing to re-initiate conversations? When exactly do you chase then?
If you find yourself constantly being the one to have to initiate conversations after the previous have died, maybe it’s not the best mental connection or she isn’t a good virtual communicator. This already sounds like a lot of effort for the very beginning stages when it should be extremely easy and organic.
I've reinitiated a few times. I let it be this time. But I was curious to what everyone else thinks of situations like those. And you're right about that bottom part.
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What sign is she?
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It depends on what she wants.. does she want to be chased? If it's unclear, just give it more time as she might open up. But Im familiar with this Libra uncertainty.

"Do I leave her alone? Do I chase her? Should I let her be because it would be rude to intrude. Well, I didn't know you wanted me to reach out. I'm sorry" 🤣
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Posted by AquaClassy
I heard interesting opinion recently. Is that we put to much emphasis on texting when meeting in person on regular basis and how people act during date is more important
I know you air sign and connsistent communication is important for you, but try to think about what I said
That's an interesting take. I guess when it's new you're still tryna figure somebody out
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Posted by RollergirlOrc
It depends on what she wants.. does she want to be chased? If it's unclear, just give it more time as she might open up. But Im familiar with this Libra uncertainty.
"Do I leave her alone? Do I chase her? Should I let her be because it would be rude to intrude. Well, I didn't know you wanted me to reach out. I'm sorry" 🤣
Lol yea I ain't gon front I wanna keep pressing but y'all don't know how aggressive I've already been lol so I just take it as a sign to chill
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Posted by DonnaLibra
What sign is she?
A Virgo. And I always go thru this with em lol but I wanted to see how everyone else handles something like this
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It depends on how new things are. If it’s that early on and you want to text then text. Don’t start playing games of who goes first. Or holding back on purpose. I feel like you need more information before you start projecting and imagining things. Be yourself but be observant. You’ll know soon enough.
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If it's more than once that she leaves you on read, that's a red flag imo. I would give it 3 tries unless you're really feeling it. I'm pretty persistent myself when I care but sometimes you just get the vibe they don't want it as much.
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"a person just disappeared from the convo."

Maybe she's fallen asleep...

Maybe she had things to do...

Maybe she thought the convo ended for now...

Maybe she's not used to saying goodbyes after a bit of texting

Maybe she wanted your conversation to end on a high

Maybe she was taught to leave the dinner while still hungry (like our former queen)

Or maybe she's gone...forever

There is only one thing to find out....ask her!
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Yes, I will reach out three times before I throw in the towel
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Posted by Libra4rmTX
Posted by DonnaLibra
What sign is she?


A Virgo. And I always go thru this with em lol but I wanted to see how everyone else handles something like this
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Virgo men are the same way from what I hear. I was involved with a Virgo man a long time ago when I was single and before texting. He wasn't one to stay in constant touch with me; but boy did he put in effort when he saw me. He was one of the great loves of my life.
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Posted by Libra4rmTX
Posted by DonnaLibra
What sign is she?


A Virgo. And I always go thru this with em lol but I wanted to see how everyone else handles something like this
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Dude, the answer's right there.
Virgos are shitty communicators, both men and women. So, what you've assumed to be disinterest is simply her being a dumb Virgo.
Of course, nearly every Virgo woman I briefly interacted with ended up disappearing off the face of the earth, for reasons unknown to me, so it would be best to bear that in mind as well.
In summary, Virgo women are a slippery bunch and often a pain in the ass.

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What you don’t realize is that you must have done some good in your Caprcorn life that the universe is saving YOU from these controlling, double standard psychos. Even a Cap’s patience will run out with them. 😆 My mom wasted three yrs on a Virgo man. He was excessively secretive, neurotic, complainer, cheap and constantly jealous of other people. The only good was that he was clean and hygienic.

Virgos end up divorced and the only time they don’t is when they have a masochistic doormat who is predominantly Pisces or Cancer…or a Libra.
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Dating shouldn’t be complicated. It’s overthinking that ruins things. If you feel like messaging, then just do it. At some point you’ll start to see a pattern form. If you catch that you’re doing the initiation most times or the girl only responds to you or barely initiates, then she’s not interested. Ditch her.

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Posted by Libra4rmTX
Posted by DonnaLibra
What sign is she?


A Virgo. And I always go thru this with em lol but I wanted to see how everyone else handles something like this





Virgo men are the same way from what I hear. I was involved with a Virgo man a long time ago when I was single and before texting. He wasn't one to stay in constant touch with me; but boy did he put in effort when he saw me. He was one of the great loves of my life.
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That's crazy. I always say Virgos and libras have a strange chemistry. What happened between y'all?
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Posted by geminiflyby
It depends on how new things are. If it’s that early on and you want to text then text. Don’t start playing games of who goes first. Or holding back on purpose. I feel like you need more information before you start projecting and imagining things. Be yourself but be observant. You’ll know soon enough.
This comment really made me think. So much to the point where I had to come back a week later to respond lol I had a lot more info. I just didn't share it here. I did try but that last time was it. I mean, it's kinda obvious when someone isn't really interested at the moment. Could be for many reasons. I decided that it wasn't my reason to figure out so I let it go.


You're right I found out tho lol and I won't make assumptions I'll just base it off facts that I've seen and been told from her in that short duration. She really had some potential but eh, that's life.
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Posted by Libra4rmTX
Aight. Met a new lil flame and I like to chase. I don't mind it at all. It's just being aggressive doesn't work for me that well. Cuz I try lol I truly have to be "smooth". Working on it
We'll have some good back n forths then she just disappears. Now, I don't mind chasing. But I don't like reaching out again after a person just disappeared from the convo. So I'm kinda just letting play out however it does.
So my question is....if someone casually stops texting do you reach out again? Or do you wait for them to respond? I'm not the type to reach out again but too many ppl have told me they do it anyways. I feel like you shouldn't have to as much especially if it happens more than once. What y'all think?
Never been a fan of chasing. You're conditioning her to make things difficult for you.. if someone likes you, the communication is magically clear and their schedule always seems to be open. Don't try too hard.

Ball is in her court and now you find something to occupy yourself. Women a lot of times are indirect so she may reach out with a meme or a random response. Boom, now you ask her out if interested. If she deflects then move on or wait a week.

Don't get rejected more than twice and understand any answer besides yes or a counter-offer time is a "no" for women.
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Posted by Libra4rmTX
Aight. Met a new lil flame and I like to chase. I don't mind it at all. It's just being aggressive doesn't work for me that well. Cuz I try lol I truly have to be "smooth". Working on it
We'll have some good back n forths then she just disappears. Now, I don't mind chasing. But I don't like reaching out again after a person just disappeared from the convo. So I'm kinda just letting play out however it does.
So my question is....if someone casually stops texting do you reach out again? Or do you wait for them to respond? I'm not the type to reach out again but too many ppl have told me they do it anyways. I feel like you shouldn't have to as much especially if it happens more than once. What y'all think?





Never been a fan of chasing. You're conditioning her to make things difficult for you.. if someone likes you, the communication is magically clear and their schedule always seems to be open. Don't try too hard.



Ball is in her court and now you find something to occupy yourself. Women a lot of times are indirect so she may reach out with a meme or a random response. Boom, now you ask her out if interested. If she deflects then move on or wait a week.



Don't get rejected more than twice and understand any answer besides yes or a counter-offer time is a "no" for women.
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I feel ya but I ain't have feelings for her lol this was really for me to gather intel on how ppl look at situations like that when they're in em. It wasn't supposed to go as deep as it did lol but I liked all the responses
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It's something that I've been conscious of and learning myself @Libra4rmTX because my imagination will fill in the blanks and usually I find I'm not even near the truth as a result. I try to be my authentic self, no games, good communication, etc. and if things aren't going as they should I just get very watchful, try to gather facts, try more communication and then when the picture gets clear I know if it's a stay or go.
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Posted by geminiflyby
It's something that I've been conscious of and learning myself @Libra4rmTX because my imagination will fill in the blanks and usually I find I'm not even near the truth as a result. I try to be my authentic self, no games, good communication, etc. and if things aren't going as they should I just get very watchful, try to gather facts, try more communication and then when the picture gets clear I know if it's a stay or go.
You seem like you got a clear way of thinking that's for sure. And that's great wisdom to live by. I try and do that same but I know at times I can close myself off and, like you said, let my imagination get the best of me.
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Posted by Libra4rmTX
Posted by DonnaLibra
What sign is she?


A Virgo. And I always go thru this with em lol but I wanted to see how everyone else handles something like this
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Dude, the answer's right there.
Virgos are shitty communicators, both men and women. So, what you've assumed to be disinterest is simply her being a dumb Virgo.
Of course, nearly every Virgo woman I briefly interacted with ended up disappearing off the face of the earth, for reasons unknown to me, so it would be best to bear that in mind as well.
In summary, Virgo women are a slippery bunch and often a pain in the ass.

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They watch your socials and stalk your friends

Fucking weirdos
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Posted by AquaClassy
Now I'm wondering if Virgo men like to be chased too? 💅
Notorious ghosters
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Posted by DMV
Posted by AquaClassy
Now I'm wondering if Virgo men like to be chased too? 💅





Notorious ghosters
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Usually cause their wife entered the room whilst they were pretending to be single.

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Posted by AquaClassy
Now I'm wondering if Virgo men like to be chased too? 💅


Notorious ghosters
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Who ya gonna call?
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Posted by Saturn_Returns
If she starts playing games or hard to get, I'm out.
That kind of mentality is indicative of how she'll be in a relationship: immature.

Oh yeah..

And the sad part is thar I see this a lot in single women already on their 30s and 40s.

Complete immaturity when it comes to be in a rship or dealing with the oposite sex. It's like they got stuck on their teenage years.. I dunno how to describe it better.
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Posted by Saturn_Returns
If she starts playing games or hard to get, I'm out.
That kind of mentality is indicative of how she'll be in a relationship: immature.






Oh yeah..




And the sad part is thar I see this a lot in single women already on their 30s and 40s.




Complete immaturity when it comes to be in a rship or dealing with the oposite sex. It's like they got stuck on their teenage years.. I dunno how to describe it better.

They still foolishly believe a miraculous strategy exists but they just need to tweak theirs, when they really should be taking their blinkers off and looking at themselves.



It also doesn't help that female friends often delude to each other, telling each other what they want to hear.

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Ohh you did hit the jackpot in there mate.

If I had a dime for the number of advices that I gave to women in the lines of "the problem is not them, it's you"....

And you know, somehow I think it would be obvious by the 30th failed time...but no. It's always the other person, or they have a strategy (that always fails), or a miraculous comeback that only occurs in movies\tv, or even some tarot cards (something of that sort) that will light the path to the el dorado....lol

I don't want to say every women, or majority, but from my experience, when faced with an adversity, it seems that women have a very hard time coming with the realization that the problem lies on their side or in the human side of things (be it in any situation)....And that's why they are very much into esoteric things...there must always be a superior motif...When in fact, there is none. There is only action, reaction and chaos.

And ohh the Sisterhood of emotional understanding. Love it. Especially when I see them dragging each other to the mud. They really don't care if her sister is happy or if that's the best for her, that is never the point... They just want someone that understand them and that listen to them. Someone that they can share their woes... What they really don't want is to be alone in an emotional level. They crave that emotional understanding. Yet another copping mechanism that desperately tries to deny reality as it is.

As a man would say, it is what it is.

Fun thing is, that this emotional thing and seeing emotions above all, is a vital part for us as a Human race. There is a special case, where being emotionally attached to someone above all and all meaning of reason that is crucial to our survivability as a Human race. And that's when they are a mother.

I believe this is the reason why they are wired like this...It's all a means to avoid rejecting her baby. A baby needs her mother to survive in the early years, and our genes\dna don't know if we are living in the modern age (where you could buy food fit for a recent born baby) or in the bronze age (where the baby would need another lactating woman). So yeah...

Well shit, I got carried away hehe
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Posted by AquaClassy
Now I'm wondering if Virgo men like to be chased too? 💅
No, they will chase you when interested. It's just that they won't stay in constant touch because they are super busy. They will make glorious plans to do something special with you when they are available.
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Posted by Libra4rmTX
Posted by DonnaLibra
Posted by Libra4rmTX
Posted by DonnaLibra
What sign is she?


A Virgo. And I always go thru this with em lol but I wanted to see how everyone else handles something like this



Virgo men are the same way from what I hear. I was involved with a Virgo man a long time ago when I was single and before texting. He wasn't one to stay in constant touch with me; but boy did he put in effort when he saw me. He was one of the great loves of my life.
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That's crazy. I always say Virgos and libras have a strange chemistry. What happened between y'all?
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He ended up cheating on me with an Aries girl and married her. Then tried to come back and cheat with me but thank God I was too smart, or too proud to fall for that.
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Posted by AquaClassy
Posted by DonnaLibra
Posted by AquaClassy
Now I'm wondering if Virgo men like to be chased too? 💅



No, they will chase you when interested. It's just that they won't stay in constant touch because they are super busy. They will make glorious plans to do something special with you when they are available.
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I’m saying that because I heard opinion that they like to be main character in relationships
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What do you mean by "main character"? If you mean the one who is wanted most, who doesn't? They certainly want to be sure you're into them. The one I had was an attorney and he was extremely busy and heavily into his career. If you like him show him that you're busy taking care of business too and go out of your way to show him how much you appreciate him if he's worthy. If you are a good cook, make him a good dinner. They love home cooking and will reward you with a romantic 6 course meal at a fancy restaurant.

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