Missing blatant signs of interest..

Posted by VenusAquarius
Say what now?

Posted by Infinite8
I refuse to assume or read into things... so, I end up being oblivious to their types of moves. I honestly can't tell when they are treating me differently than the rest.

Posted by Infinite8

Posted by Damnata

Posted by Infinite8
I refuse to assume or read into things... so, I end up being oblivious to their types of moves. I honestly can't tell when they are treating me differently than the rest.

I just had an epiphany this morning that the whole crux for me is that I have to really really like you to the point where my fire placements overcome my sun and venus. If I'm at that stage I won't even think if you like me or not and then I will be blatant in a way you won't miss. I also will not care to decipher hints coming from you because I will be obvious myself


But if I just..kinda like you? Then I go into overthinking. I hate assumptions and I am very friendly so in my mind it's better to assume people are friendly than just be vain and go "Oh they are totes into me". Idk, I feel it as vanity. Virgo innocence I guess. *halo*


Funny...when it comes down to it, it has to be me making that call and there's no way to endear yourself to me if I'm not feeling you from the start.

I'm exactly the same way... but my reasoning for not assuming is different. I just don't always trust my instincts and I don't want to be wrong and be the fool (pride I guess).


So... you feel like you need to be making the call? In a way, initiate? Definitely sounds fiery and Aries-like. I've said it before and I'll say it again - I know you would be obvious when you really want someone. You get fired up.


For me, I like feeling the fire and passion from the person and that is what usually makes me also much more passionate. Otherwise, I'm pretty much in control of myself.

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Posted by Infinite8
I'm super oblivious with friendly people showing interest. Somehow, I assume their friendliness with everyone includes me being a part of that "everyone" bunch... and I don't see clear signs.



I refuse to assume or read into things... so, I end up being oblivious to their types of moves. I honestly can't tell when they are treating me differently than the rest.


This mostly happened with Air Suns...??‍♀️

Posted by Damnata

Posted by Infinite8

Posted by Damnata

Posted by Infinite8
I refuse to assume or read into things... so, I end up being oblivious to their types of moves. I honestly can't tell when they are treating me differently than the rest.

I just had an epiphany this morning that the whole crux for me is that I have to really really like you to the point where my fire placements overcome my sun and venus. If I'm at that stage I won't even think if you like me or not and then I will be blatant in a way you won't miss. I also will not care to decipher hints coming from you because I will be obvious myself


But if I just..kinda like you? Then I go into overthinking. I hate assumptions and I am very friendly so in my mind it's better to assume people are friendly than just be vain and go "Oh they are totes into me". Idk, I feel it as vanity. Virgo innocence I guess. *halo*


Funny...when it comes down to it, it has to be me making that call and there's no way to endear yourself to me if I'm not feeling you from the start.

I'm exactly the same way... but my reasoning for not assuming is different. I just don't always trust my instincts and I don't want to be wrong and be the fool (pride I guess).


So... you feel like you need to be making the call? In a way, initiate? Definitely sounds fiery and Aries-like. I've said it before and I'll say it again - I know you would be obvious when you really want someone. You get fired up.


For me, I like feeling the fire and passion from the person and that is what usually makes me also much more passionate. Otherwise, I'm pretty much in control of myself.

Yeah I was actually thinking of that!


Was low key hoping you were going to answer to this topic.


100% .


Now for me to write a novel about a Sag dude (I'm sorry Sag dude, wherever you are).

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Posted by justagirl
have to hit me with a brick for me to notice them signs...

Posted by Infinite8
I'm super oblivious with friendly people showing interest. Somehow, I assume their friendliness with everyone includes me being a part of that "everyone" bunch... and I don't see clear signs.



I refuse to assume or read into things... so, I end up being oblivious to their types of moves. I honestly can't tell when they are treating me differently than the rest.


This mostly happened with Air Suns...??‍♀️

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Posted by Damnata

Posted by Infinite8

Posted by Damnata

Posted by Infinite8
I refuse to assume or read into things... so, I end up being oblivious to their types of moves. I honestly can't tell when they are treating me differently than the rest.

I just had an epiphany this morning that the whole crux for me is that I have to really really like you to the point where my fire placements overcome my sun and venus. If I'm at that stage I won't even think if you like me or not and then I will be blatant in a way you won't miss. I also will not care to decipher hints coming from you because I will be obvious myself


But if I just..kinda like you? Then I go into overthinking. I hate assumptions and I am very friendly so in my mind it's better to assume people are friendly than just be vain and go "Oh they are totes into me". Idk, I feel it as vanity. Virgo innocence I guess. *halo*


Funny...when it comes down to it, it has to be me making that call and there's no way to endear yourself to me if I'm not feeling you from the start.

I'm exactly the same way... but my reasoning for not assuming is different. I just don't always trust my instincts and I don't want to be wrong and be the fool (pride I guess).


So... you feel like you need to be making the call? In a way, initiate? Definitely sounds fiery and Aries-like. I've said it before and I'll say it again - I know you would be obvious when you really want someone. You get fired up.


For me, I like feeling the fire and passion from the person and that is what usually makes me also much more passionate. Otherwise, I'm pretty much in control of myself.

Yeah I was actually thinking of that!


Was low key hoping you were going to answer to this topic.


100% .


Now for me to write a novel about a Sag dude (I'm sorry Sag dude, wherever you are).

it sounds like you all need someone who will PURSUE you.



none of the women on this site pursues men.

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Posted by Astrology101
Then one fine day he asked for my number... I thought he just wanted to hang out because we had been pally.


Then we were talking... and he asks me if I have a guy in my life. I'm still thinking he's curious .. gem curiousity.


Then he said would you like to be my girlfriend?


And I was blank.


That was the most oblivious I have ever been.

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Posted by Damnata

Posted by Astrology101
Then one fine day he asked for my number... I thought he just wanted to hang out because we had been pally.


Then we were talking... and he asks me if I have a guy in my life. I'm still thinking he's curious .. gem curiousity.


Then he said would you like to be my girlfriend?


And I was blank.


That was the most oblivious I have ever been.

I put down a lot to curiosity too because curiosity killed me and then proceeded with the metaphorical cat.

Yes i have gem rising... i say things i don't want to all the time.


I just think people are like me lol

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Posted by Lilianni
I had a guy approach me and would go out of his way to walk over to my desk to give me the sign in sheet. He would walk past my desk occasionally and peek at what I was doing. Once I gave him a hug and he went in and kissed me on the top of the head.


I had a feeling he liked me but I wasn't sure. I couldn't tell if it was just friendly affection or more.

Posted by Damnata
Years ago I met this Sag Dutch guy on Okcupid. He had just moved to Bucharest with work and kept asking me about places to visit and pubs and stuff so being the helpful Virgo that I am I kept sending him links for about a month.


Then one night he tells me he had just been at a pub with some friends and if I'd enjoy a midnight stroll. I love myself midnight strolls so I was really happy to go out and walk for a bit. I meet up with him and I suggest we go walk in this park near my house. We get to this street and it was heavy traffic weirdly at that hour so he takes my hand and we cross the street. I proceed to drop his hand when we got to the other side.


So we're walking in the park and I know he's buzzed so I say we should sit on a bench. He leans on my shoulder, I tell him "Hey you can lay your head down in my lap, if you feel wobbly or anything." He does that and we talk about culture and travel and just snobby European things. I'm a Sag rising, I lap that up, same for stories. We're talking and I absent mindedly play in his hair (a compulsion I checked out of for the most part years ago)


He's telling me about the Netherlands and at some point he mentions this ex Romanian girlfriend he had who went there on an Erasmus scholarship and how we are beautiful and how I am pretty. I say thanks and tell him foreigners always mention that. Then he asks me if I have a boyfriend, to which I reply with "No, tell me more about the Netherlands".


...it's now really late and I remember he worked close to my house but lived far away so I ask him if he wants to come over and sleep because I have a project I am working on that night and I will be at the computer so he can sleep in the bed. He asks me if I'm sure about that, I say yeah, no water off my back.


We get home and I motion in the direction of the bed while I go to the computer. I start working on my project and I feel him staring at me. I look at him and ask him if he's comfortable..he says yeah, kinda. I ask him if he needs a blanket (did I mention this happened in July?) he just...looks weird at me and does not say a thing. I bid him goodnight.


I woke him up in the morning with coffee and he just got dressed quick and stormed out of there with a cold goodbye. I messaged him to see if he got to work safely, he never talked to me again.

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Posted by Lilianni
I had a guy approach me and would go out of his way to walk over to my desk to give me the sign in sheet. He would walk past my desk occasionally and peek at what I was doing. Once I gave him a hug and he went in and kissed me on the top of the head.


I had a feeling he liked me but I wasn't sure. I couldn't tell if it was just friendly affection or more.

Ah Virgo women. Every time I run into one this topic shows up and it's just...I laugh tears at the stories I've heard.

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Posted by Damnata
Years ago I met this Sag Dutch guy on Okcupid. He had just moved to Bucharest with work and kept asking me about places to visit and pubs and stuff so being the helpful Virgo that I am I kept sending him links for about a month.


Then one night he tells me he had just been at a pub with some friends and if I'd enjoy a midnight stroll. I love myself midnight strolls so I was really happy to go out and walk for a bit. I meet up with him and I suggest we go walk in this park near my house. We get to this street and it was heavy traffic weirdly at that hour so he takes my hand and we cross the street. I proceed to drop his hand when we got to the other side.


So we're walking in the park and I know he's buzzed so I say we should sit on a bench. He leans on my shoulder, I tell him "Hey you can lay your head down in my lap, if you feel wobbly or anything." He does that and we talk about culture and travel and just snobby European things. I'm a Sag rising, I lap that up, same for stories. We're talking and I absent mindedly play in his hair (a compulsion I checked out of for the most part years ago)


He's telling me about the Netherlands and at some point he mentions this ex Romanian girlfriend he had who went there on an Erasmus scholarship and how we are beautiful and how I am pretty. I say thanks and tell him foreigners always mention that. Then he asks me if I have a boyfriend, to which I reply with "No, tell me more about the Netherlands".


...it's now really late and I remember he worked close to my house but lived far away so I ask him if he wants to come over and sleep because I have a project I am working on that night and I will be at the computer so he can sleep in the bed. He asks me if I'm sure about that, I say yeah, no water off my back.


We get home and I motion in the direction of the bed while I go to the computer. I start working on my project and I feel him staring at me. I look at him and ask him if he's comfortable..he says yeah, kinda. I ask him if he needs a blanket (did I mention this happened in July?) he just...looks weird at me and does not say a thing. I bid him goodnight.


I woke him up in the morning with coffee and he just got dressed quick and stormed out of there with a cold goodbye. I messaged him to see if he got to work safely, he never talked to me again.

Posted by Damnata
...from your preferred gender.


Either you missing them entirely or them missing yours.


Share stories of obliviousness.

Posted by Astrology101
I usually get the hints.


The only time I didn't was with a Gem guy.


We used to talk.. but I never got that "he likes me vibe".


Then one fine day he asked for my number... I thought he just wanted to hang out because we had been pally.


Then we were talking... and he asks me if I have a guy in my life. I'm still thinking he's curious .. gem curiousity.


Then he said would you like to be my girlfriend?


And I was blank.


That was the most oblivious I have ever been.

Posted by Infinite8

Posted by P-Angel

Just adding to make the distinction .....



refusing to read into it, or refusing to make the assumption is NOT the same as being oblivious

Very true... I decide to be oblivious and not read more than what is clearly evident.

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Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Damnata

Posted by Infinite8

Posted by Damnata

Posted by Infinite8
I refuse to assume or read into things... so, I end up being oblivious to their types of moves. I honestly can't tell when they are treating me differently than the rest.

I just had an epiphany this morning that the whole crux for me is that I have to really really like you to the point where my fire placements overcome my sun and venus. If I'm at that stage I won't even think if you like me or not and then I will be blatant in a way you won't miss. I also will not care to decipher hints coming from you because I will be obvious myself


But if I just..kinda like you? Then I go into overthinking. I hate assumptions and I am very friendly so in my mind it's better to assume people are friendly than just be vain and go "Oh they are totes into me". Idk, I feel it as vanity. Virgo innocence I guess. *halo*


Funny...when it comes down to it, it has to be me making that call and there's no way to endear yourself to me if I'm not feeling you from the start.

I'm exactly the same way... but my reasoning for not assuming is different. I just don't always trust my instincts and I don't want to be wrong and be the fool (pride I guess).


So... you feel like you need to be making the call? In a way, initiate? Definitely sounds fiery and Aries-like. I've said it before and I'll say it again - I know you would be obvious when you really want someone. You get fired up.


For me, I like feeling the fire and passion from the person and that is what usually makes me also much more passionate. Otherwise, I'm pretty much in control of myself.

Yeah I was actually thinking of that!


Was low key hoping you were going to answer to this topic.


100% .


Now for me to write a novel about a Sag dude (I'm sorry Sag dude, wherever you are).

it sounds like you all need someone who will PURSUE you.



none of the women on this site pursues men.

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Posted by Infinite8

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Infinite8
I'm super oblivious with friendly people showing interest. Somehow, I assume their friendliness with everyone includes me being a part of that "everyone" bunch... and I don't see clear signs.



I refuse to assume or read into things... so, I end up being oblivious to their types of moves. I honestly can't tell when they are treating me differently than the rest.


This mostly happened with Air Suns...??‍♀️

i cant always tell if air signs are interested either. and i'm air sign.


mostly they are just super friendly. but then i'm used to the assertiion and drive of the level of interest fire/water does (the combo)


air signs in general dont pursue in my opinion. you have to pursue them. they're just gonna be friendly and be on their way.


unless they are dominant fire then i can see the pursuing.

Actually, two Libra guys declared their romantic interest very bluntly and before I even knew them properly. I would say they pursued.


But IME with some Aqua and Gem Suns.... they pretend to be your friend and sometimes set little traps or flat out tell others they & you are official without even telling you about it. That infuriated me - here I am thinking we are friends and they go tell others we're an item ?


Anyway... the distant friend approach never made me feel more than friendship... so, it just doesn't work out for me.


I agree with you - fire and water bring out the passion in me.

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Posted by Infinite8

Posted by Damnata

Posted by Infinite8
I refuse to assume or read into things... so, I end up being oblivious to their types of moves. I honestly can't tell when they are treating me differently than the rest.

I just had an epiphany this morning that the whole crux for me is that I have to really really like you to the point where my fire placements overcome my sun and venus. If I'm at that stage I won't even think if you like me or not and then I will be blatant in a way you won't miss. I also will not care to decipher hints coming from you because I will be obvious myself


But if I just..kinda like you? Then I go into overthinking. I hate assumptions and I am very friendly so in my mind it's better to assume people are friendly than just be vain and go "Oh they are totes into me". Idk, I feel it as vanity. Virgo innocence I guess. *halo*


Funny...when it comes down to it, it has to be me making that call and there's no way to endear yourself to me if I'm not feeling you from the start.

I'm exactly the same way... but my reasoning for not assuming is different. I just don't always trust my instincts and I don't want to be wrong and be the fool (pride I guess).


So... you feel like you need to be making the call? In a way, initiate? Definitely sounds fiery and Aries-like. I've said it before and I'll say it again - I know you would be obvious when you really want someone. You get fired up.


For me, I like feeling the fire and passion from the person and that is what usually makes me also much more passionate. Otherwise, I'm pretty much in control of myself.

Yeah I was actually thinking of that!


Was low key hoping you were going to answer to this topic.


100% .


Now for me to write a novel about a Sag dude (I'm sorry Sag dude, wherever you are).

it sounds like you all need someone who will PURSUE you.



none of the women on this site pursues men.

I did ✋️

Kind of

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Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Damnata

Posted by Infinite8

Posted by Damnata

Posted by Infinite8
I refuse to assume or read into things... so, I end up being oblivious to their types of moves. I honestly can't tell when they are treating me differently than the rest.

I just had an epiphany this morning that the whole crux for me is that I have to really really like you to the point where my fire placements overcome my sun and venus. If I'm at that stage I won't even think if you like me or not and then I will be blatant in a way you won't miss. I also will not care to decipher hints coming from you because I will be obvious myself


But if I just..kinda like you? Then I go into overthinking. I hate assumptions and I am very friendly so in my mind it's better to assume people are friendly than just be vain and go "Oh they are totes into me". Idk, I feel it as vanity. Virgo innocence I guess. *halo*


Funny...when it comes down to it, it has to be me making that call and there's no way to endear yourself to me if I'm not feeling you from the start.

I'm exactly the same way... but my reasoning for not assuming is different. I just don't always trust my instincts and I don't want to be wrong and be the fool (pride I guess).


So... you feel like you need to be making the call? In a way, initiate? Definitely sounds fiery and Aries-like. I've said it before and I'll say it again - I know you would be obvious when you really want someone. You get fired up.


For me, I like feeling the fire and passion from the person and that is what usually makes me also much more passionate. Otherwise, I'm pretty much in control of myself.

Yeah I was actually thinking of that!


Was low key hoping you were going to answer to this topic.


100% .


Now for me to write a novel about a Sag dude (I'm sorry Sag dude, wherever you are).

it sounds like you all need someone who will PURSUE you.



none of the women on this site pursues men.

I did ✋️

Kind of

I can kindof tell...you seem quite assertive, almost aggressively so, but not masculine.


it maybe your moon square mars action too. both in cardinal signs. and your venus aries? I forget if you're aries venus as well as moon.

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Posted by Astrology101
I usually get the hints.


The only time I didn't was with a Gem guy.


We used to talk.. but I never got that "he likes me vibe".


Then one fine day he asked for my number... I thought he just wanted to hang out because we had been pally.


Then we were talking... and he asks me if I have a guy in my life. I'm still thinking he's curious .. gem curiousity.


Then he said would you like to be my girlfriend?


And I was blank.


That was the most oblivious I have ever been.

How soon have you snapped out of it? LOL

Still blank

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Posted by Astrology101

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Posted by Astrology101
I usually get the hints.


The only time I didn't was with a Gem guy.


We used to talk.. but I never got that "he likes me vibe".


Then one fine day he asked for my number... I thought he just wanted to hang out because we had been pally.


Then we were talking... and he asks me if I have a guy in my life. I'm still thinking he's curious .. gem curiousity.


Then he said would you like to be my girlfriend?


And I was blank.


That was the most oblivious I have ever been.

How soon have you snapped out of it? LOL

Still blank

Is he still waiting?

Lol no.

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Posted by Damnata
Years ago I met this Sag Dutch guy on Okcupid. He had just moved to Bucharest with work and kept asking me about places to visit and pubs and stuff so being the helpful Virgo that I am I kept sending him links for about a month.


Then one night he tells me he had just been at a pub with some friends and if I'd enjoy a midnight stroll. I love myself midnight strolls so I was really happy to go out and walk for a bit. I meet up with him and I suggest we go walk in this park near my house. We get to this street and it was heavy traffic weirdly at that hour so he takes my hand and we cross the street. I proceed to drop his hand when we got to the other side.


So we're walking in the park and I know he's buzzed so I say we should sit on a bench. He leans on my shoulder, I tell him "Hey you can lay your head down in my lap, if you feel wobbly or anything." He does that and we talk about culture and travel and just snobby European things. I'm a Sag rising, I lap that up, same for stories. We're talking and I absent mindedly play in his hair (a compulsion I checked out of for the most part years ago)


He's telling me about the Netherlands and at some point he mentions this ex Romanian girlfriend he had who went there on an Erasmus scholarship and how we are beautiful and how I am pretty. I say thanks and tell him foreigners always mention that. Then he asks me if I have a boyfriend, to which I reply with "No, tell me more about the Netherlands".


...it's now really late and I remember he worked close to my house but lived far away so I ask him if he wants to come over and sleep because I have a project I am working on that night and I will be at the computer so he can sleep in the bed. He asks me if I'm sure about that, I say yeah, no water off my back.


We get home and I motion in the direction of the bed while I go to the computer. I start working on my project and I feel him staring at me. I look at him and ask him if he's comfortable..he says yeah, kinda. I ask him if he needs a blanket (did I mention this happened in July?) he just...looks weird at me and does not say a thing. I bid him goodnight.


I woke him up in the morning with coffee and he just got dressed quick and stormed out of there with a cold goodbye. I messaged him to see if he got to work safely, he never talked to me again.

? You are WAAAAAY worse than me.


I would never have run my fingers through his hair. To me that is an obvious sign. Everything else though... I would probably also interpret as friendship (if good friend... if new friend - I would never invite to my home) .



Aaaaayyy Damny.... that's awful ?

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Posted by Infinite8

Posted by P-Angel

Just adding to make the distinction .....



refusing to read into it, or refusing to make the assumption is NOT the same as being oblivious

Very true... I decide to be oblivious and not read more than what is clearly evident.

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Posted by Infinite8

Posted by Damnata

Posted by Infinite8

Posted by Damnata
Years ago I met this Sag Dutch guy on Okcupid. He had just moved to Bucharest with work and kept asking me about places to visit and pubs and stuff so being the helpful Virgo that I am I kept sending him links for about a month.


Then one night he tells me he had just been at a pub with some friends and if I'd enjoy a midnight stroll. I love myself midnight strolls so I was really happy to go out and walk for a bit. I meet up with him and I suggest we go walk in this park near my house. We get to this street and it was heavy traffic weirdly at that hour so he takes my hand and we cross the street. I proceed to drop his hand when we got to the other side.


So we're walking in the park and I know he's buzzed so I say we should sit on a bench. He leans on my shoulder, I tell him "Hey you can lay your head down in my lap, if you feel wobbly or anything." He does that and we talk about culture and travel and just snobby European things. I'm a Sag rising, I lap that up, same for stories. We're talking and I absent mindedly play in his hair (a compulsion I checked out of for the most part years ago)


He's telling me about the Netherlands and at some point he mentions this ex Romanian girlfriend he had who went there on an Erasmus scholarship and how we are beautiful and how I am pretty. I say thanks and tell him foreigners always mention that. Then he asks me if I have a boyfriend, to which I reply with "No, tell me more about the Netherlands".


...it's now really late and I remember he worked close to my house but lived far away so I ask him if he wants to come over and sleep because I have a project I am working on that night and I will be at the computer so he can sleep in the bed. He asks me if I'm sure about that, I say yeah, no water off my back.


We get home and I motion in the direction of the bed while I go to the computer. I start working on my project and I feel him staring at me. I look at him and ask him if he's comfortable..he says yeah, kinda. I ask him if he needs a blanket (did I mention this happened in July?) he just...looks weird at me and does not say a thing. I bid him goodnight.


I woke him up in the morning with coffee and he just got dressed quick and stormed out of there with a cold goodbye. I messaged him to see if he got to work safely, he never talked to me again.

? You are WAAAAAY worse than me.


I would never have run my fingers through his hair. To me that is an obvious sign. Everything else though... I would probably also interpret as friendship (if good friend... if new friend - I would never invite to my home) .



Aaaaayyy Damny.... that's awful ?

You'd think I would've figured it out when he left but I didn't.


My mindset was "Was it the coffee? Not good enough? Were the sheets dirty or something" and then my mind settled on "I probably offended him with some view I expressed last night in the park" and then *shrugged* and went about my life.


Months later...having a convo with the friend that's known me the longest. We were discussing men of different nationalities.


Me: Dutch men are so touchy!

Him: Why do you say that?

Me: *tells story*

Him: O_O

Me: What?

Him: O_O

Me: Why are you looking at me like that?

Him:....I think you just established a new record in obliviousness. Let me tell you what actually happened.

Me: Ok

Him: *tells me*

Me: Oh

Why did you say that Dutchmen were touchy, if you were the one running your fingers through his hair?



From what you wrote, it seems like he only held your hand to cross the street, no? Or did he do more?


I just read back and saw that you met him on OKCUPID..... hahahahahahhahahahahahahaha....

And you thought he was just a friend ?



I agree with your friend on setting a new record ?????????

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Posted by Damnata
Years ago I met this Sag Dutch guy on Okcupid. He had just moved to Bucharest with work and kept asking me about places to visit and pubs and stuff so being the helpful Virgo that I am I kept sending him links for about a month.


Then one night he tells me he had just been at a pub with some friends and if I'd enjoy a midnight stroll. I love myself midnight strolls so I was really happy to go out and walk for a bit. I meet up with him and I suggest we go walk in this park near my house. We get to this street and it was heavy traffic weirdly at that hour so he takes my hand and we cross the street. I proceed to drop his hand when we got to the other side.


So we're walking in the park and I know he's buzzed so I say we should sit on a bench. He leans on my shoulder, I tell him "Hey you can lay your head down in my lap, if you feel wobbly or anything." He does that and we talk about culture and travel and just snobby European things. I'm a Sag rising, I lap that up, same for stories. We're talking and I absent mindedly play in his hair (a compulsion I checked out of for the most part years ago)


He's telling me about the Netherlands and at some point he mentions this ex Romanian girlfriend he had who went there on an Erasmus scholarship and how we are beautiful and how I am pretty. I say thanks and tell him foreigners always mention that. Then he asks me if I have a boyfriend, to which I reply with "No, tell me more about the Netherlands".


...it's now really late and I remember he worked close to my house but lived far away so I ask him if he wants to come over and sleep because I have a project I am working on that night and I will be at the computer so he can sleep in the bed. He asks me if I'm sure about that, I say yeah, no water off my back.


We get home and I motion in the direction of the bed while I go to the computer. I start working on my project and I feel him staring at me. I look at him and ask him if he's comfortable..he says yeah, kinda. I ask him if he needs a blanket (did I mention this happened in July?) he just...looks weird at me and does not say a thing. I bid him goodnight.


I woke him up in the morning with coffee and he just got dressed quick and stormed out of there with a cold goodbye. I messaged him to see if he got to work safely, he never talked to me again.

? You are WAAAAAY worse than me.


I would never have run my fingers through his hair. To me that is an obvious sign. Everything else though... I would probably also interpret as friendship (if good friend... if new friend - I would never invite to my home) .



Aaaaayyy Damny.... that's awful ?

You'd think I would've figured it out when he left but I didn't.


My mindset was "Was it the coffee? Not good enough? Were the sheets dirty or something" and then my mind settled on "I probably offended him with some view I expressed last night in the park" and then *shrugged* and went about my life.


Months later...having a convo with the friend that's known me the longest. We were discussing men of different nationalities.


Me: Dutch men are so touchy!

Him: Why do you say that?

Me: *tells story*

Him: O_O

Me: What?

Him: O_O

Me: Why are you looking at me like that?

Him:....I think you just established a new record in obliviousness. Let me tell you what actually happened.

Me: Ok

Him: *tells me*

Me: Oh

Why did you say that Dutchmen were touchy, if you were the one running your fingers through his hair?



From what you wrote, it seems like he only held your hand to cross the street, no? Or did he do more?


I just read back and saw that you met him on OKCUPID..... hahahahahahhahahahahahahaha....

And you thought he was just a friend ?



I agree with your friend on setting a new record ?????????

Touchy as in easily offended. I honestly thought I must have said something wrong amidst all the banter and I had offended him.


I met friends on okcupid which were friends and not dates. Then again what do I even know.

Oh... yeah,that makes more sense.


Well, I was making fun of your innocence, but at the same time... I like it.


I also like how you made friends in a website like OKCupid?. Perhaps you are the only one thinking it is only friendship, BUT perhaps not. Perhaps you actually managed to make friends in a site like OKC. If so, I congratulate you!! I have Uranus in the 1st and have Uranus conjuct Sun... so, I do have a bit of a rebellious streak that REALLY loves how you broke the mold!!



Bravo Damny??

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Posted by Virgorean
I was visiting a long time Pisces friend of mine. I talked of wanting to travel again and he suggested I come visit him since the last time we saw each other before then was around 5 years ago. He made an itinerary on an actual excel spreadsheet. When I arrived there we were giddy, jumping with joy, and embracing each other like old time pals. During the visit, he drove me everywhere and showed me around the city. I paid for some of his meals to repay the favor. While having the typical life discussion and what’s been new, he chimed in next time he’ll come to visit me and I could show him around again since the area has changed since he last visited. Said it sounded like a plan and immediately told me what dates he would be visiting so I set reminders on my calendar.


Where I live, there isn’t a lot of scenic nature spots so one of my requests was to visit a lot of parks/trails. This city was known to have a lot of rain so I packed an umbrella ahead of time. We arrived at a park and it begins to rain after walking a few yards from the car. I tell him we need to go back to the car because I forgot my umbrella. He tells me not to worry about it because he already brought one. I looked at his umbrella, laughed, mentioned how small it was, and we both wouldn’t fit under it. We went back to the car to get my umbrella. Later that night we drove to a lookout point where we could see the city skyline. I remarked how beautiful the view was (at this point, we were standing outside). He responded “Yea, it’s pretty amazing” while looking directly at me. I whined how cold I was and suggested we head back. He thought it was too short to leave suddenly so he grabbed a throw in the backseat of his car for me. I delightedly wrapped myself completely in the throw leaving none for him. I figured since he was already used to the cold weather he didn’t need any.


The final day of my trip we ate at a restaurant and he exclaimed how he had a surprise for me. This dude pulled out a jewelry box and inside was a nice pair of earrings. I had the most confused look on my face.


Him: “I saw it and thought of you. I always see you wearing earrings that dangled and remembered how blue was your favorite color.

Me: “I don’t understand, what for?? I can’t accept these. How much did it cost?”

Him: “It’s to celebrate for having you back into my life.”

Me: “Are you sure it’s nothing more?”

Him: “It’s not a big deal, really. I always get my friends gifts. I think it would look pretty on you.”

Me: “Well thank you so much! I have missed you! Cheers to our 5 year friendship and reunion!”

*Proceeds to eat while he’s staring at me*

Him: “Aren’t you going to wear them? I think you should try them on to see how it looks.”

Me: “But it’s raining right now . I'll wear them later, I don’t want to get them wet.”

Him: “Ok…..”


About a week after I returned from my trip he tells me he had to cancel his trip to visit me because something came up and booked a two week backpacking trip to Europe instead.

Posted by Damnata
Years ago I met this Sag Dutch guy on Okcupid. He had just moved to Bucharest with work and kept asking me about places to visit and pubs and stuff so being the helpful Virgo that I am I kept sending him links for about a month.


Then one night he tells me he had just been at a pub with some friends and if I'd enjoy a midnight stroll. I love myself midnight strolls so I was really happy to go out and walk for a bit. I meet up with him and I suggest we go walk in this park near my house. We get to this street and it was heavy traffic weirdly at that hour so he takes my hand and we cross the street. I proceed to drop his hand when we got to the other side.


So we're walking in the park and I know he's buzzed so I say we should sit on a bench. He leans on my shoulder, I tell him "Hey you can lay your head down in my lap, if you feel wobbly or anything." He does that and we talk about culture and travel and just snobby European things. I'm a Sag rising, I lap that up, same for stories. We're talking and I absent mindedly play in his hair (a compulsion I checked out of for the most part years ago)


He's telling me about the Netherlands and at some point he mentions this ex Romanian girlfriend he had who went there on an Erasmus scholarship and how we are beautiful and how I am pretty. I say thanks and tell him foreigners always mention that. Then he asks me if I have a boyfriend, to which I reply with "No, tell me more about the Netherlands".


...it's now really late and I remember he worked close to my house but lived far away so I ask him if he wants to come over and sleep because I have a project I am working on that night and I will be at the computer so he can sleep in the bed. He asks me if I'm sure about that, I say yeah, no water off my back.


We get home and I motion in the direction of the bed while I go to the computer. I start working on my project and I feel him staring at me. I look at him and ask him if he's comfortable..he says yeah, kinda. I ask him if he needs a blanket (did I mention this happened in July?) he just...looks weird at me and does not say a thing. I bid him goodnight.


I woke him up in the morning with coffee and he just got dressed quick and stormed out of there with a cold goodbye. I messaged him to see if he got to work safely, he never talked to me again.