My boyfriend is a workaholic and it's causing problems in our relationship

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by Rainbow87 on Monday, November 12, 2018 and has 11 replies.
Hello

I desperately need some advice because I don't know what to do.

I love my boyfriend to death and we get along pretty well. He's really affectionate and caring but has one problem. He cares a lot about money and makes it a priority.

He's a workaholic and I admire him for being ambitious but he works every day and doesn't have time for himself or for our relationship. He's not punctual when we agree to meet because he has such a busy life style .

Sometimes I feel like he doesn't know how to use money wisely because he spends it on things that aren't necessary. One time he bought a t-shirt of $ 200 dollars and I think it's too much. It was not dressy, just a normal t-shirt. It's good that he works hard to buy things but he also needs to relax and he never does. His ambition is so big that he gambles with his friends for money besides working long hours.

I'm really worried because he makes very little time for ourselves and I've had fights with him over this. I've told him he needs to organize his life better but he's already used to that life style . I don't want to leave him but I don't know how to solve this issue.

Right now he wants to buy a brand new car because he sold his old car. But he wants an expensive car, not just a normal good car.

As I said before, he's a great guy and says he can't see himself without me yet he puts his work and money before our relationship.

What advice can you give me?
Is he a Leo? If so.... nothing you can do!!!!
you have expressed your frustration but he's not having it so it's your choice if you want to live that way
a cancer sun (clingy) and leo moon (me, me, me) complaining about not having enough attention.

I don't know what to think about this threat Confused
It’s only been 5 months lol, so don’t get lust and love mixed. Be practical with yourself in what you’ll be able to handle long term because you will become miserable if you hope he’ll change any time soon or ever. Guys like him get off on a certain high from work and earning that no woman would be able to replace for him.
What’s he do for a living?
I’m surprised with all your Leo placements you aren’t out spending his dough lol I would love to be dating a dude with money haha one day
Can you tell us more about his relationship with work.

Does he own a business he is building?

Is he trying to move up the ladder in his company?

Is he in sales?

Basically is there an end in sight for the 7 day work week for him? Or is this his life style .

I'm a workaholic but I'm trying to kill myself now so that later on I can work that 25/30 hr week and still be making 6 figures ya know.
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Posted by Sag898

I’m surprised with all your Leo placements you aren’t out spending his dough lol I would love to be dating a dude with money haha one day
we don't do that. 1) we're very independent 2) we think people who spend their money on stupid sheet like a 200 $ t-shirt to be idiots

yes our leo placements want us to spend like crazy, but we are always trying to balance it out

im a miser and very cheap

i bought my brother 4 $ wine yesterday cause he begged me for wine for 2 hours

im thinking about thanksgiving which will cost me 200-300 $ since i will cover most of the meal

and thinking i prefer to have funds for that instead of overspending now

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That’s probably your Virgo mars too lol but I’m not a huge spender either. They are certain things I will spend a lot of money on cause I want quality.

If my partner wants to spend money on me I’m fine with that.

I don’t think these people are joined financially? If they are, than this whole thing is a different story.

I can’t imagine sharing my money with someone 100% to the point where they would tell me what to do with it. Hell no that’s MINE lol.
You can spend a lot and still live under your means. If he makes a lot, he can afford nice things.

It seems like the root is that you want his butthole more than he want yours.
If he can afford expensive stuff means he is capable enough to earn it. Are you jealous coz he doesn’t spend on you lol. Only Red flag is gambling for $ , gambling as a hobby/entertainment is ok.