Need Help with a Text

I’m debating to end it, but need some feedback. If you need details, I’ll gladly share but for now

“I’ve been thinking, but am wondering how are you overall about us and what are your needs/ wants? Lately, there’s a shift in energy and I’m not sure if it’s because of me or just life in general. Basically, should we still continue the way things are or should we go back being friends without the benefits? Don’t want to continue imposing myself if you’re not comfortable 😞 regardless of anything, I’m still your friend and will be there for you”

Basically we finally spoken today after a week of no contact and when I checked in, he send a massive paragraph. After he vented and I helped him, I gave a sexy selfie to make him smile, and he just ❤️ reacted and continued venting 💀 I don’t even know if we’re still in it, but it felt like a soft rejection. But yeah, I’m not sure if I should send it immediately or wait a few days after we texted. There’s also been history in our 2 years that he’ll just pick me up when it’s convenient

Posted by IceStorm
There’s also been history in our 2 years that he’ll just pick me up when it’s convenient

And you’re ok with this? I mean honestly ok with this? You’re ok with a guy treating you like a doll that he can pick up and play with, then put back on the shelf until the next time he is ready to play with you?

You’re checking in with him and how he is feeling, but have you checked in with yourself?

I did and hence I’m coming to the decision to end this. It’s my fault I haven’t said of anything of this earlier because of fear of the repercussions

“ There’s also been history in our 2 years that he’ll just pick me up when it’s convenient”

There’s your answer ….

Posted by WarEternal
I’m debating to end it, but need some feedback. If you need details, I’ll gladly share but for now

“I’ve been thinking, but am wondering how are you overall about us and what are your needs/ wants? Lately, there’s a shift in energy and I’m not sure if it’s because of me or just life in general. Basically, should we still continue the way things are or should we go back being friends without the benefits? Don’t want to continue imposing myself if you’re not comfortable 😞 regardless of anything, I’m still your friend and will be there for you”

Basically we finally spoken today after a week of no contact and when I checked in, he send a massive paragraph. After he vented and I helped him, I gave a sexy selfie to make him smile, and he just ❤️ reacted and continued venting 💀 I don’t even know if we’re still in it, but it felt like a soft rejection. But yeah, I’m not sure if I should send it immediately or wait a few days after we texted. There’s also been history in our 2 years that he’ll just pick me up when it’s convenient

Stop asking him what he wants.

You’re fully capable of taking control of your own life and not sitting around waiting for some guy to tell you if it’s okay to go to the bathroom or not.

Posted by WarEternal

Posted by IceStorm
There’s also been history in our 2 years that he’ll just pick me up when it’s convenient
And you’re ok with this? I mean honestly ok with this? You’re ok with a guy treating you like a doll that he can pick up and play with, then put back on the shelf until the next time he is ready to play with you?
You’re checking in with him and how he is feeling, but have you checked in with yourself?

I did and hence I’m coming to the decision to end this. It’s my fault I haven’t said of anything of this earlier because of fear of the repercussions

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What is the fear?!

That he won’t talk to you anymore? That you’ll be lonely?! Fear that you will lose access to him?

Breadcrumbs are not a sustainable diet.

The mind, body, and soul requires a helluva lot more.

You fear the loss of a state, dry breadcrumb

I wouldn’t even text him anymore.

Just fade to black and go live your life

if i've learned anything from wiser women than myself, men always know what they're doing and they always know what they want. they've married strippers, women from a different religion, left crown and country to be with the woman they love.

he didn't want you in 2 years.

and should he be given another 2 years, 2 months, 2 minutes he still wouldn't.

Idk

“After he vented and I helped him, I gave a sexy selfie to make him smile, and he just ❤️ reacted and continued venting “

Why you helping him?

He’s the one using you

What I’ve learned is three month is enough to decide if they want to remain exclusive