For context, it’s been 3 months no contact with a friend of mine long distance (of 4 years) that I had intimacy with back in September (wholeheartedly regret) and the dynamic has changed. I know it’s going to be a tad awkward but I don’t want to give up on him. That period I needed to heal to get over my feelings of him and give him space. I feel it’s a good time to reach out since I saw he’ll be touring in my town. I sent a funny video and he just laughed at it, but before I can say anymore, is this good to send? Despite not talking, we still follow each other on Instagram. I muted him, but he still watches my stories
“Anyways, the reason I texted is not only to check up, but also because I just wanted to say that I needed the time to self reflect and leave you alone. Unless I was wrong, I’ve felt the vibe had changed after we hung out and times that I tried to engage and be playful, it got shut down and it had left me confused if I did something wrong. It’s okay to say you weren’t feeling it, but knowing how you are sometimes, you don’t like confrontation nor want to hurt my feelings. Maybe you had a bad day, I don’t know😔 despite all this, know that I still have love and care for you, always. I’d still love to see you next year at the place we’ve met that begun a wonderful friendship. Only this time, we’re friends and I can cheer for you loudly in my hometown. If not, take care and wishing you all the best in your endeavors”.
If there’s anything more or take out, feedback is welcome. Please don’t be too harsh on me. I’m sad and I miss my friend dearly
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Nov 16, 2023Comments: 718 · Posts: 557 · Topics: 10
I mean you can send this to him like it is, but I don't think it's going to be received well. The man had feelings for you and now that's forever changed.
I don't think you'll be able to be friends like it was with this man ever again. If it's going to be awkward from here on out, just cut them loose entirely.
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Nov 05, 2019Comments: 357 · Posts: 2725 · Topics: 27
How has the dynamic changed specifically?
If dude not reaching out after sleeping together for 3 months doesn't sound like he is the one with a issue after the fact. This is why I'm asking for clarification as to what changed.
" How's my favorite LDR friend doing❤️?
Am I going to get a hug when you get into town?"
Boom. Friend zone announcement + love+ wanting to keep in touch.
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Oct 21, 2023Comments: 245 · Posts: 198 · Topics: 4
if people have access to your socials it’s not really zero contact.
Also if you text him you’ll likely regret it further down the track because the guy sounds like a real knob. Dismissing you and being a jerk was why you put distance between yall. He hasn’t put in any effort to reconnect so match his energy.
Would leave it alone. Seems like a waste of time if he's not reciprocating contact. Communication should atleast be the basic. You deserve better.
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Oct 11, 2017Comments: 3 · Posts: 3193 · Topics: 7
I'm sorry but he doesn't seem interested and if you send that message it's like begging him. Let him go and block him.
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Jan 15, 2014Comments: 1549 · Posts: 2111 · Topics: 139
Soliciting a response from someone, sometimes no matter how sweet, they will not respond. Better to just let it be.