Respect

Do you think DXP veterans get more respect on here? Or the newbies? Or does it matter? Or does everyone get treated the same?

Do you think the way questions are worded makes a difference?

What makes some people get reamed and some people get nice responses?

Do you feel respected here?

I'm just curious.

Nice topic. Some "old timers", I've noticed, think they own this site, and I also sense that they think they deserve some kind of respect. Everybody, I believe, should be treated equally regardless of how long they've been here...with respect of course. There's no queen or king here & I think thats what some people need to get.

Personally, I respect anybody who respects me, old or new, but I dont tolerate disrespect...dont care where its coming from. Respect should go both ways, I believe.

And some people seem to think you should act a certain way, to match how long you've been here, I guess. I had this pointed out to me recently and my answer is NO FUCKING WAY, I'll act as I damn well please even if I've been here a 100 years or a 100 minutes. I'll be me all day everyday, no amount of time here will dictate how I should act. Some may evolve or w/e, but I came here as me & will leave this place the same way. Jesus, people take internet so serious.

Seraph, I dont care, they may own the site or w/e but they dont own the rights of respect from members. And they sure as hell dont own me, what I say or who I should respect.

No I think it all comes down to the individual person and how they are feeling on the day.

I have come here and gotten real short with people when they make numerous threads about the same deal because they didn't get enough advice on the subject the first time around or they continually ignore good sound advice from several DXPers and make excuses for shitty behaviour.

And tbh, sometimes because you have been here sooooo long you see the same old same old senario over and over again, different people same shit, so you are shorter and quicker to throw out harsher responses, if you even bother to take the time!

SH, then leave if you get bored of reading same old stuff or even better...IGNORE. No matter how shitty your day is going, doesnt give you right to take it out on an innocent person. There seem to be a lot of that going on, btw. People attacking with no provocation. Its sickening. I sometimes feel sorry for the new people because they are unaware of how many miserable bullies there are in this place. My advice to them, fight back!

As I said if it is the same old shit different user, I generally don't bother..which is why you very rarely see me commenting on posts.

Why should you mind in the 1st place? They arent posting directly TO YOU. Personally, I could care less what people post, If I dont like a thread I keep it moving...no need for cuntery. So, forgive me when I say "I DONT GET THE BOTHER".

And, one last thing, sorry truecap. I'm also bothered lol by the issue of dxp "life gurus", those who think they know it all & have answers for every thread topic. If I didnt ask for advice, dont fucking give me unneeded advice. Respect that I dont give a shit about your 'wise words'. Dont deep-throat me with unsolicited bullshit lol. Find another patient or another person whose brain operates ONLY on slow motion & cant think quick enough to solve their own shit. I'm not them. I'm sick of all this forced advice.

At the end of the day I leave my 2 cents and if it sparks conversation I'd gladly follow through. Else it's just another day on the interwebs 🙂 If people either choose to dismiss what I say purely because I'm not popular I can only wish them the best, must be a great way of life.

I think wording of a question definitely attracts more attention. I generally just write a whole bunch of rubbish with all the details in there because I'm too lazy to answer any inconsistencies but I guess it doesn't have the same 'fishing' effect *shrugs*

I feel welcome here 🙂 Mainly because I stick to Aqua board and the times I do poke outside it hasn't been that bad. Then again respect can come from a challenge so I don't think it's based on agreement. E.g. I have respect for P because there's always a shred of truth in what she writes etc.

Seraph, yeah I'm pissed alright. Look, everybody has a right to choose who they wanna listen to, and if I dont like your advice or challenge, dont insist its the right one & I should listen to it when I obviously DO NOT want it. Thats all. And, besides, when I post personal stuff its usually AFTER I have sorted it out, so my 'personal stuff posts' are OBVIOUSLY (to the naked eye) only me thinking out loud, rantings or just wanting to see things clearer, AFTER THE FACT. I never post during a personal crisis, I deal with it 1st then post after, so I dont need yada-yada about what I should do when its already been done...WaterCup's way. I'm the CEO of my life & I dont need a PA. I dont make it a habit to post about my problems and unless the thread title says "HELP!" dont give me a fucking headache about what I should do. I resent that.

Do you think DXP veterans get more respect on here? Or the newbies? Or does it matter? Or does everyone get treated the same?

Veterans get more respect for the most part. Nobody gets treated the same, depends of how they come across.

Do you think the way questions are worded makes a difference?

Yes, but not that much really. People will react differently to the same stimulus.

What makes some people get reamed and some people get nice responses?

Many things. Generally if you are nice, you will get nice answers. If you are rude, people will treat you rudely.

It doesn't always work that way, though. People are sensitive/insensitive, have prejudices, bad days, etc.

Do you feel respected here?

I'm not respected by everyone here. That's expected because I don't respect/treat everyone as functional human beings either.

Pretty much I'm fine with the way I'm treated. I would have fled this place otherwise.

Do you think DXP veterans get more respect on here? Or the newbies? Or does it matter? Or does everyone get treated the same?

I think anyone who is being respectful will in turn receive respect as well.

Do you think the way questions are worded makes a difference?

Yes, definitely. If a person words a question and what they want to know is unclear, well the answers they receive may not be applicable. Likewise, if someone is coming off whiny or rude or something like that I think it can affect how some people choose to answer, or how seriously other users take the question. Of course this depends on individual choices, but I do think it can make a difference.

What makes some people get reamed and some people get nice responses?
Tone? Receptiveness to the answers? How much respect a person shows other users? I'm not entirely sure. Maybe it's done randomly lol It all just depends.

Do you feel respected here?
Yes. I don't think I've been disrespected at all in all my time on DXP. Of course that could just be because I'm not that much of an active member. But I mean I always try to be respectful so I think that I am respected in turn.

Do you think DXP veterans get more respect on here? Or the newbies? Or does it matter? Or does everyone get treated the same?
I believe respect is not correlated to how long you're on here, but by what you say, or how you say it. And, that's pretty dynamic since you could gain respect from someone by really blunt and real, but others would view that differently. To me, people get respect by being civil, objective, helpful, and insightful. New members may have to gain others' trust before they gain respect, but not always the case.

Do you think the way questions are worded makes a difference?
Sure. If a question makes you sound mature, angry/spiteful, etc, they all make people perceive it in different ways.

What makes some people get reamed and some people get nice responses?
A lack of experience tends to get people rammed. Slightly related, I've heard tons of comments lately about age, such as 'You're only so and so age, when you're older, you'll understand.' Therefore, what those people say are less likely to get people to take you seriously and could also lead to a lack of respect...which could lead to negative responses. That would only be a small percentage, though. Other times, if you seem immature or disrespectful, angry, or say something others think is absurd...that could all lead to bad responses.

Do you feel respected here?
Um...I feel on an upper-neutral level on this. I don't necessary think it's respect, but a toleration? Which, is all I need.

Feb16, that's interesting. You think owners or co-owners of this site should announce themselves & by doing that, it should get them respect?
I beg to differ lol, who they are shouldnt matter at all when it comes to respect. This is not their REAL HOUSE, its an online site & its open to everybody to say their views...views which the owner dont own. With that said, if you knew who the owner was & knew how full of shit they were, would you continue to respect them just because they were the owner? I find behavior like that to be phony lol. You know I love you but thats libra moon stuff lol, the fake niceness just because. I personally ONLY respect those who respect me and them being an owner wouldnt automatically make me respect them more or less...they should earn whatever amount of respect they get by being respectful to guests of their so called home lol. About human nature, well, go human nature elsewhere unless I ask you to human nature me. Its annoying tbh. Some may like that kind of stuff, unsolicited advice, but I honestly dont cause it rubs me the wrong way. So many preachy people here, ones who think the little info you posted = your entire life which they think they know & knowing that little info they think it buys them shares into your business. I dont think so! Everything else on here I'm fine with it.

M, you're right everything is VOLUNTARY & that means I choose who I wanna listen to, and I challenge what I dont think applies to my situation. People can post no problem, but dont shove your way of thinking or words down my throat. Example, i ignore a comment I dont care for & reply to the 1 i relate to. Ignored user starts rambling and calls me names just because I didnt acknowledge their 2c. Taking advice or words of encouragement shouldnt be forced, the person can take whatever works for them & discard useless blah blah blah, its their right. Now there are those who think their word is gospel & SHOULD be listened

Dazed, i dont need lubrication, I'm not menopausal yet lol. I have no issue with harshness, just dont enforce yourself on me with the words you offer. Suggest, dont enforce. Personally, I've liked things you said in the past cause your words, the way I saw them, had options...take or leave. I didnt feel like they were commands or lectures.

Plus, you were gentleman enough to bow out when I didnt agree with you & that I respect about you. I still remember you "giving up" on a scorpio moon thread I made on the aqua forum & I admired that. You didnt try to nail your views into my skull unlike others.

ps. "whatever" @ your win

To be mushy, I think ur a great person tbh, just misunderstood. I get you & where you come from the majority of the time even if I dont agree half the time. You give good insight. I didnt forget some of the things you said in the past, things that were useful & I chose to utelise in my life. I'm not gonna say which, dont wanna be feeding no leo moon lol. You are not bad, honestly

Lol @ Tiziani. That post have creepy undertones lol. Are you being for real?

Oh, you & I are a different breed, love, but I still get your point thou. I'm too straightforward & blunt to be civil to an a-hole unless its work related. My aries rising just goes wild, my scorpio moon cant pretend & well, you know about aqua lol.

What should we do now? Agree to disagree lol.

Why arent sleeping? Awesome aqua thoughts keeping you awake?

You get me because we are both watery aquas lol. You have a lot of pisces, right? I'm mainly scorpio so maybe the 2 energies feel 1 another. You teach spinning, as in exercise? How's that? I always wondered about people who teach some exercises, wondered if they dont get exhausted lol. For the life of me, I just cant exercise lol..its too painful. Hahaha. Lol @ your ram comment, you are too naughty. Enjoy the heat

Do you think DXP veterans get more respect on here? Or the newbies? Or does it matter? Or does everyone get treated the same?
I don't think it should matter who is on here. The more independent/honest minds the better.

Do you think the way questions are worded makes a difference?
Absolutely. If I don't understand I usually ask. If I answer honestly and directly and the op gets pissed off, then I know it's one of those posters that only want to hear what they've already concluded in their own minds, and was not actually here for advice, but to waste our time.
What makes some people get reamed and some people get nice responses?
lol..Well, that's quite obvious all over these boards. My thoughts are this, if you don't like what I have to say or share, ignore. I'm not dependent on nice answers, but if they do come I acknowledge. It's very easy to see who are dependent on others for validation around here

Do you feel respected here?
I respect myself, nuff said.

Great thread by the way cap 😉