Posted by LethalFantasiaWise
Don't do it unless you want a family for the right reasons
Posted by VictoriousAmen to that. It makes me cringe when I hear women say they feel the need to get pregnant because of their age.Posted by MyStarsShineI agree, some people shouldn't have kids.
Please don't....
You don't really want them and you wouldn't be a good mother either.
You smoking throughout the pregnancy says it all.click to expand
Posted by Sonia1Wise advice ma'am
Since you're old enough to know better...
I'll still tell you that
you're selfish and irresponsible. Use protection.
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by justagirlShe did it on purpose
Wow- have any of you that are shaming her ever lost a child to a miscarriage or lost a child period?
I can guarantee she already feels shame, guilt and blames herself without others adding to it.
Yes smoking or drinking or doing many things is not a good idea while pregnant, but you can do everything right and STILL lose a baby.
I really hate dxp some days, show some respect.
Sorry you lost the baby 😔click to expand
Posted by justagirlThanks for your condolonces..
Wow- have any of you that are shaming her ever lost a child to a miscarriage or lost a child period?
I can guarantee she already feels shame, guilt and blames herself without others adding to it.
Yes smoking or drinking or doing many things is not a good idea while pregnant, but you can do everything right and STILL lose a baby.
I really hate dxp some days, show some respect.
Sorry you lost the baby 😔
Posted by ClairDeLuneThat's what i want. At least for a year.Posted by FurtherMovementThat all does sound rushed, why not just slow down for a bit and enjoy the marriage first?Posted by justagirlThanks for your condolonces..
Wow- have any of you that are shaming her ever lost a child to a miscarriage or lost a child period?
I can guarantee she already feels shame, guilt and blames herself without others adding to it.
Yes smoking or drinking or doing many things is not a good idea while pregnant, but you can do everything right and STILL lose a baby.
I really hate dxp some days, show some respect.
Sorry you lost the baby 😔
But i admit it is because my selfish and immature state of being that caused the miscarriage.
I was not up to it. It happened too fast. Even the marriage too with him (we got married after finding out i was preggo, although he sincerely wants to marry me to begin with). In less than a year of our relationship, everything went too fast for me. Him not having visa and struggling financially here, and marriage stressed the hell outta me. In less than 3 months time, everything changed drastically.
By the time we found out the miscarriage, i blurted out, "you know.. if we'd known that i will be miscarriage, we hadn't gotten married this soon." And he got pissed off saying, "shut up."
Soon as we had sex again regularly, one night by the time i thought he came again inside me, i broke off getting all bitchy toward him yelling how i am not ready to get pregnant, he started saying how i have been lying for letting him believe that i loved him. How even though we are married, he didn't feel he has a right to have anything with my body and thinking of letting go of his wishes to have kids with me.. i was like, i am just not ready! That everything happened too fast..
But we are okay now...
Those what he had said though got to my mind. And i am thinking right now to really get serious with him and be brave for all the commitments.
Mostly because we are both, especially him struggling to survive in this new phase we are having..
It's not that i dont want things to happen..
But it all just happen too fast.
We love each other though... i sincerely love him and i do start to think about having kids with him indeed and truly be a wife for him.click to expand
Posted by thinktankPiscesHence "people with CERTAIN mental disorders"Posted by enfant_terribleLogically it depend on the type of "mental disorder".
People with certain mental disorders probably shouldn't have kids anyway
Is it dangerous or not.
Not all mental disorder are dangerous.click to expand
Posted by MacDaddyInfiniteMiscarriage isn't that bad of a thing until you have one and hoped down the line you'd give birth to a healthy baby 💙Posted by justagirl
Wow- have any of you that are shaming her ever lost a child to a miscarriage or lost a child period?
I can guarantee she already feels shame, guilt and blames herself without others adding to it.
To be frankly honest, I could care less to shame her because I don't even think a miscarriage happening is that bad of a thing. It's no different than abortion.
But I think it's ridiculous as hell to try and twist this kind of situation around and say it's not her fault and make her seem like a victim. That's the completely wrong way to take this situation.
Like you couldn't get more bluntly of a "Yeah she most definitely killed the baby." than this situation. Just don't do it. Don't do the dumb oversensitive feminine emotionalization. Just don't.click to expand
Posted by MacDaddyInfinitePosted by brianafay
macdaddyinfinite
Since that’s who you really posted this for
You're trying too hard. Since the breakup she hasn't even remotely acted like it's phased her at all. Shrug.click to expand
Posted by MacDaddyInfiniteOf course, duh. I shared all of these stories just to get your attention.Posted by brianafay
No she’s trying too hard 😂
You mean to tell me you didn’t see this post and roll your eyes because you knew she wanted you specifically to see it??
Actually you may have a point. Now that I think about it.
This story is a bit, extensive. So she gave up her virginity, had sex, got pregnant, and miscarriaged by smoking? As a Muslim who was bent on marriage before sex, etc?
She COULD be making it up to get a reaction out of me. But at the same time, I wouldn't be surprised she was telling the truth.
So. It's whatever. But this would be the exact wrong way to get my attention. I know that much.click to expand