So Bored With Life

So I'm 25 years old pushing 26 this month. I've had my own place to live since I was 22 years old and have lived alone. I've been through some turmoils that life throws. This is the longest I've been single since I was 17. I'm at a new job with a bunch of girls that I love (I'm not sure they feel the same). And I'm just bored! We've all hung out together once. They all talk outside of work. I don't have many good friends. No family. I usually have a "lead" on a guy but I recently found out the guy I'm crushing on has a gf. And idk I'm just bored. I do think the other girls like me and I live vicariously through them and all of their fun stories. I go to work. I come home. I watch tv. How do people meet people at my age? I've been doing great at work and I'm even finally going back to college after being a dropout. And I'm very proud of myself and how far I've "come along" but how do people meet new people?

Is this normal? I consider myself very independent. But I'd like some companionship and human interaction when I'm not in work. Anybody go through the same thing?

Hon, state your sun/moon whatever you can please.

I want a great job and career, which I'm hopefully on the path to getting. I also want people in my life. I just want some good friends. I wanna get married someday and have a bunch of children with someone I love but I'm not sure how to go about meeting people. I'm lazy when I am home and sometimes I enjoy being alone but I want people that I love and that love me in my life

Posted by Gemitati
Hon, state your sun/moon whatever you can please.

Libra sun/Aries moon

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Posted by kmri365
So I'm 25 years old pushing 26 this month. I've had my own place to live since I was 22 years old and have lived alone. I've been through some turmoils that life throws. This is the longest I've been single since I was 17. I'm at a new job with a bunch of girls that I love (I'm not sure they feel the same). And I'm just bored! We've all hung out together once. They all talk outside of work. I don't have many good friends. No family. I usually have a "lead" on a guy but I recently found out the guy I'm crushing on has a gf. And idk I'm just bored. I do think the other girls like me and I live vicariously through them and all of their fun stories. I go to work. I come home. I watch tv. How do people meet people at my age? I've been doing great at work and I'm even finally going back to college after being a dropout. And I'm very proud of myself and how far I've "come along" but how do people meet new people?

Is this normal? I consider myself very independent. But I'd like some companionship and human interaction when I'm not in work. Anybody go through the same thing?

well, what do you want out of life?

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Maybe you? Lol

I think when people are in this state of mind - they can't really tell what they WANT?

She did say partnership outside of work...

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Posted by ChrisxKodak

Posted by kmri365
So I'm 25 years old pushing 26 this month. I've had my own place to live since I was 22 years old and have lived alone. I've been through some turmoils that life throws. This is the longest I've been single since I was 17. I'm at a new job with a bunch of girls that I love (I'm not sure they feel the same). And I'm just bored! We've all hung out together once. They all talk outside of work. I don't have many good friends. No family. I usually have a "lead" on a guy but I recently found out the guy I'm crushing on has a gf. And idk I'm just bored. I do think the other girls like me and I live vicariously through them and all of their fun stories. I go to work. I come home. I watch tv. How do people meet people at my age? I've been doing great at work and I'm even finally going back to college after being a dropout. And I'm very proud of myself and how far I've "come along" but how do people meet new people?

Is this normal? I consider myself very independent. But I'd like some companionship and human interaction when I'm not in work. Anybody go through the same thing?

well, what do you want out of life?

Maybe you? Lol

I think when people are in this state of mind - they can't really tell what they WANT?

She did say partnership outside of work...

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Huh??

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Posted by kmri365
I want a great job and career, which I'm hopefully on the path to getting. I also want people in my life. I just want some good friends. I wanna get married someday and have a bunch of children with someone I love but I'm not sure how to go about meeting people. I'm lazy when I am home and sometimes I enjoy being alone but I want people that I love and that love me in my life

It sounds like you are currently focused on the first two (job and career)

If you are a bit introverted, you need to find a comfortable way to meet people who value the same things you do.

- Social Media

- Dating Sites

- Meetups

- Small Friend Group Hangouts -meet friends of friends

or you can learn to stretch and start meeting face to face in social functions. lol

*being proactive instead of passive*

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Thanks for the input. I'm just sooo boooored lol I usually have something of interest going on even if it's only mentally stimulating but I got nothing. Maybe it's just my lifes time to chill and get my s**t together

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Posted by kmri365
So I'm 25 years old pushing 26 this month. I've had my own place to live since I was 22 years old and have lived alone. I've been through some turmoils that life throws. This is the longest I've been single since I was 17. I'm at a new job with a bunch of girls that I love (I'm not sure they feel the same). And I'm just bored! We've all hung out together once. They all talk outside of work. I don't have many good friends. No family. I usually have a "lead" on a guy but I recently found out the guy I'm crushing on has a gf. And idk I'm just bored. I do think the other girls like me and I live vicariously through them and all of their fun stories. I go to work. I come home. I watch tv. How do people meet people at my age? I've been doing great at work and I'm even finally going back to college after being a dropout. And I'm very proud of myself and how far I've "come along" but how do people meet new people?

Is this normal? I consider myself very independent. But I'd like some companionship and human interaction when I'm not in work. Anybody go through the same thing?

"but how do people meet new people?"

This is probably going to sound way too simple, but start with 1 small, seemingly trivial, thing. It sounds silly... I know, but something as seemingly meaningless as: going to a different grocery store than you normally would, getting your coffee from a different place, or go to the park for an hour on your day off has the potential to open up new possibilities which include helping you meet new people. You don't have to flip everything you've worked for.

'Anyway... Even if you think I'm crazy... don't you at least owe it to yourself to give what I suggest a try? It's not going to harm ya', and if I'm wrong... well, I'm wrong; however, if I'm not...'

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I life in farm country pretty much lol. Normal to go to movies alone?

Pfft. I've been single for almost 4 years, haven't so much as touched a girl's hand in close to 3 years. I've talked to / flirted with 3 girls in that period, and while all seemed interested, none went so far as to actually go on a date or anything. The last girl I liked seemed pretty interested in June, and still says that she's interested, but in reality she's been giving me the slow fade.

I have no actual friends. The closest I have to a friend is someone that moved about 2000 miles away several years ago. We keep in touch about once every week or two on Snapchat, but always just vague "hey what's up" messages, nothing meaningful.

Excluding waiters and waitresses, the last time I've spoken with anyone was 2 weeks ago (for my birthday). Before that, maybe a month.

I'm on Tinder, Bumble, and OKC, and spend 30-45 minutes a day swiping right through profiles (I swipe right on pretty much every profile, excluding the obviously fake ones). I couldn't tell you the last time anyone swiped right on me.

And as a strong extrovert, that's pretty tough.

I live in a rural area, too, so I totally get it. You're absolutely not alone!

I think about death a lot these days. Not suicidal, just... the best way to go. I'm definitely depressed, but I can't send any way to change it. I feel like I've peaked, I've made whatever contribution to society that I had to make, and I'm looking forward to going out sooner rather than waiting for cancer or something.

Normal to go to movies alone?

Of course it is! And as a bonus, you might actually get to hear it instead of dealing with someone interrupting it the whole time with stupid questions.

Besides, think of this way... anyone judging you obviously isn't your friend, so they don't matter. And there's a slim chance that someone else will be alone, and ask if you want to watch it together. What do you have to lose?

How ironic. I'm 25 and I'm in the same situation. But I work from home. I've tried to make friends and find love. I work, go to the gym sometimes and home. Everyone I've tried with never tried even as hard I've tried to establish meaningful relationships. I moved 3,000 miles away from home to put myself in unintentional isolation. And that sucks. My family isn't apart my life anymore. I understand waht tire dealing with entirely im dealing with too.

Posted by csdude55
Pfft. I've been single for almost 4 years, haven't so much as touched a girl's hand in close to 3 years. I've talked to / flirted with 3 girls in that period, and while all seemed interested, none went so far as to actually go on a date or anything. The last girl I liked seemed pretty interested in June, and still says that she's interested, but in reality she's been giving me the slow fade.

I have no actual friends. The closest I have to a friend is someone that moved about 2000 miles away several years ago. We keep in touch about once every week or two on Snapchat, but always just vague "hey what's up" messages, nothing meaningful.

Excluding waiters and waitresses, the last time I've spoken with anyone was 2 weeks ago (for my birthday). Before that, maybe a month.

I'm on Tinder, Bumble, and OKC, and spend 30-45 minutes a day swiping right through profiles (I swipe right on pretty much every profile, excluding the obviously fake ones). I couldn't tell you the last time anyone swiped right on me.

And as a strong extrovert, that's pretty tough.

I live in a rural area, too, so I totally get it. You're absolutely not alone!

I think about death a lot these days. Not suicidal, just... the best way to go. I'm definitely depressed, but I can't send any way to change it. I feel like I've peaked, I've made whatever contribution to society that I had to make, and I'm looking forward to going out sooner rather than waiting for cancer or something.

Feel free to dm me!

Get a newspaper and listen to local radio for all kinds of events, concerts, volunteer oppurtunities, etc. Ever been to a local city hall meeting?

adopt a dog or cat :p

Posted by whatisthisallabout
adopt a dog or cat :p

Really classic idea.

You'll get along with Hollyhock here.