so can I ask a question..? (guys? :o)

I could've asked this my male friends..but I didn't want to implant a wrong idea (even if that is a very small one.. lol) in their heads..by asking this sort of question.. (well, I don't know why, but I have confided with guy friends before with similar questions in this department, and..that somehow made them get all the wrong idea.. ah lol it seems like I do not have guy friends after all.. sex almost always comes between me and them lol ah guys.. lol)
..so I came here asking for your help..male users on this site 🙂


so once, I had sex with a guy (not recently lol..unnecessary info, I guess lol)
and he got his erection all okay..there was a foreplay..
then of course, he put his penis in me..
but then he asked soon after.. I wasn't counting seconds or minutes lol so I don't remember exactly how much time had passed since he was inside me lol.. so I just have this vague idea..
like it was about 1 or 2 minutes after.. he asked me 'can I come?'
and I automatically 😆 (lol lol) blurted out '..ah, yeah?' (I know lol I probably shouldn't have?!)
and he came right after my answer..

I have been wondering since then..what made him come quite quick..?
my guesses were..

1. he was nervous .. that was the first time for us..but he wasn't a virgin, definitely 🙂
2. I was very much tight for him .. he even told me this when he entered me & after sex
3. other..?

actually, I don't think he even moved that much inside me.. (can't tell with certainty.. it was our first sex, and I was excited so.. I wasn't really dissecting everything happening there.. if you know what I mean hehe 😆)

he wasn't drunk, neither was I lol..

it's just a pure curiosity.. why makes a guy cum quick? ..if not this guy..then in general? :o
I would like to hear from males..since well, males would know better about this matter..? :o

not why but *what.. what makes a guy cum quick..? typo.. 🙂

Posted by DonJohnson
could be any of these.....


didn't care about pleasing you

premature ejaculator

didn't ejaculate for a period before sex

etc

hmmm.. yes, could be any of those.. I would never find out unless I ask him.. but then I don't think I just can go & ask 'so why did you cum so quick..?'
I don't..think..I should..do..it.. lol


thank you for your reply 🙂

Posted by DonJohnson
could be any of these.....


didn't care about pleasing you

premature ejaculator

didn't ejaculate for a period before sex

etc

then what makes a guy a premature ejaculator? just born that way..? :o
or psychological factors..? :o

just curious..

Posted by Nemesis
well, i am not a dude but have experienced the following three situations with my guy:

1.) pre-mature ejaculation - he was extremely aroused and just could not hold back anymore; this was when we started dating and getting to know our bodies

2.) an errection that went away - caused through insecurity and other factors. when these worries or factors were cleared out of the way it lead to

3.) "normal" errections with great sex for both involved. he actually had great pleasure in holding back a bit cause he said it was mindblowing letting go after he had pleased me.

it varies now.

hmmm.. number 1 situation sounds a lot like mine case..
and probably with the number two factor as well..


thank you for your response 🙂

I'm guessing sun in Gemini.

Posted by xvll27
How many pages a Gemini girl could type per day ?

I recall you said some where your mercury is in Gemini

Some day you will be good writer or producer 🙂

lol this is actually a problem for me.. :s
I text too much, I talk too much.. and I even don't interact with lots of people daily..but still my texts outsurpass all of those of the people around me..

yes I've gem merc..sometimes I just want to sew up my mouth! :x

So why don't premature ejaculators just change the pace or something when they feel they're about to come?

And they say women are complicated. lol

Posted by atsirk69
I'm guessing sun in Gemini.

..and how did you know? :O ..lol

Posted by xvll27

Posted by xxixxi

I text too much, I talk too much.. and I even don't interact with lots of people daily..but still my texts outsurpass all of those of the people around me..

yes I've gem merc..sometimes I just want to sew up my mouth! :x

And when you dislike some body you don't text or talk to them at all 😄

How do exactly Gemini do that ? all of a sudden they lose their interest does this happen ? pretty often ...are you familiar with Gemini mood swings ? and don't sew up your lips ..your all good 🙂

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you're right about on it.. I don't know how it happens..but it just happens.. the urge to communicate, chat, exchange ideas, thoughts..all those just stop.. at once.. when I stop caring about someone..

of course, I still can make conversations..keep them going.. but people just seem to notice the difference - they say 'there isn't that spirit of yours - not any more..'
and that spirit thing..is something I cannot force.. it comes up naturally..when I'm interested in something, or someone.. and it goes *whoof* (don't know if this is the right expression lol I'm just feeling like this..that I can make this word or whatever up & use.. and too lazy to look up in a dictionary lol) when there's no longer interest..and some sparks..and chemicals..

it's not something I do it with my will..it just happens.. and it seems that pretty much I can't do much about it when that happens.. 😢 even if I do want to try.. it's sad, actually..

yeah, I may not need to sew my lips up.. but probably just tie up my fingers..lol so I can stop typing pages and pages of texts?! lol

Dude is just lucky that you are an infinitely more patient woman than I am. I never would have let someone get away with that butter.

Posted by enfant_terrible
So why don't premature ejaculators just change the pace or something when they feel they're about to come?

And they say women are complicated. lol

I wouldn't know..? lol I'm not a guy..

I think with the guy in my post..he was really just cuming..and him asking me if he could cum..was just kind of a cover..

after having written this post & thinking back more.. I think he didn't even last 2 minutes.. he was in me and pretty much soon after asked me if he could cum.. as I wrote he didn't even move inside me..

well.. I would never find out why he cum so fast unless I ask him directly..but which I would not lol
so this remains a perpetual mystery..? lol
I am more inclined to take one of those guesses - it was our first sex and he was too excited & I was very -maybe too much- tight

lol not chemicals.. but *chemistry.. typo again.. (?_——_)

Posted by TMV



Dude is just lucky that you are an infinitely more patient woman than I am. I never would have let someone get away with that butter.

for some unknown reason I cannot see the gif..

it wasn't like me letting him get away with that though.. it just happened..so unexpectedly lol and I was somewhat lost there.. like '..? what just happened?!' lol

1. he was nervous .. that was the first time for us..but he wasn't a virgin, definitely
2. I was very much tight for him .. he even told me this when he entered me & after sex
3. other..?

1st point you pretty much answered your own question and other? Maybe he goin too fast? Tell him to slow down (maybe YOUR nervous and not saying much? Which leads up to undesirable situations. Sex is supposed to be about being aware and communication, not flappin about about like dyin fish lookin for air)

your description makes it sound like you were not very active either during the intercourse. Was it the case?

Posted by tsar322
1. he was nervous .. that was the first time for us..but he wasn't a virgin, definitely
2. I was very much tight for him .. he even told me this when he entered me & after sex
3. other..?

1st point you pretty much answered your own question and other? Maybe he goin too fast? Tell him to slow down (maybe YOUR nervous and not saying much? Which leads up to undesirable situations. Sex is supposed to be about being aware and communication, not flappin about about like dyin fish lookin for air)

I was ready to communicate lol I talk lots and do that even in the bedroom..I'm all about communication if not anything else.. I tell them directly a guy what I enjoy and like in the bedroom department..I demonstrate and say verbally, and direct them, lead them to the parts where I'd like to be touched, &. .. I don't hesitate to tell & show what I like..

it was just..happened so fast.. like he entered me and I was like 'okay..now I'm going to enjoy it..?'
then right at that moment, he was asking 'can I cum?'
I was taken aback..didn't totally see it coming.. (because I had never had this with any other guys I had been with.. except one..but he was a virgin, so that was very understandable..) so I blurted out '..ah, yeah?' ..it was more like in a sense 'excuse me, what did you just say?' ..

now I feel more like his asking 'can I cum?' was more like a cover..he had already been cuming or on the very verge of it, and he asked me if he could cum.. I didn't even have a time or chance to communicate.. but.. well.. I am taking my guesses that he was super nervous or too aroused + me being tight, maybe too tight..

Posted by hydorah
your description makes it sound like you were not very active either during the intercourse. Was it the case?

no, not really.. I was active..and I am in the bedroom..unless I'm totally uninterested in sex or too tired to do anything..with both cases, I just call it quit..

just what I've written to tsar322.. it ended all soon..probably too soon.. even before it really started.. 😭

my descriptions in the first post..well, I was trying not to be too descriptive nor graphic.. lol thought no need to do that.. but maybe I could've or must've elaborated a bit..
..he was touching, petting, exploring my body and I was responsive, showing him where I liked to be touched, led his hands, lips to the parts on my body where I liked to be touched, &.. I said 'yes, I like that, please keep doing that.. yes, that feels so good.. you're good..'
and he was all good.. lol I wasn't/and am not saying those things just so or just because..
then he was entering me.. then it just was over.. I didn't even have a chance to utter a single moan or a word.. because he was asking 'can I cum?'

ahh..this feels awkward now lol am feeling like I've shared too much..maybe very likely too much information.. lol - I may take down this thread for that reason lol I'm feeling a bit embarrassed now lol 🙂 -

sounds like premature ejaculation, it can happen

Posted by hydorah
sounds like premature ejaculation, it can happen

yes that happens.. 😭

Posted by aqulibini
you are too hot to handle!

if this isn't enough, there is a validation forum.

lol I wish I were that hot..!!

Well speaking of hotness.. He was a hottie.. Very hot.. 🙂 (but the sex...😭)