Sometimes

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by WaterCup on Thursday, May 9, 2013 and has 15 replies.
I feel sorry for women. Well, today I met this lady, she is 35 & 4 wks pregnant by some guy she barely knows. Apparently the guy is married & the wife works in another province, and only comes home at the end of each month. This guy took advantage of the wife's absence & hooked up with this lady, one time. She says it was so good lol that she kept calling him several times after & he ignored her every time. She then decided to go to his house one night, crawled into a window, got undressed & slept next to him. He freaked out, told her to leave bla bla bla, but she ignored him & slept anyway. Sadly, she thought he was acting & secretly wanted her there.
During the night, he got turned on lol & she thinks its a sign that he loves her & thinks she is hot *sigh* Come morning, he told her to leave, she refused & he called the police. The police told her nicely to leave the man alone cause he doesnt want her. She says 2 wks later she found out she was pregnant & when she told him, he said "do what you want". She now decided to terminate & her appointment is on monday.
Why are (some) men so heartless?
I get to hear so many painful stories from women & its like many men are beasts out there. One actually told me that her husband brings girls to the house, have sex with them & tells her "this is how you should fuck. Watch what she is doing!" Sad. Why, why, why do we stick around in such situations?
I'm just thinking out loud, so never mind.
How the hell did she find out she was pregnant just after two weeks after having sex? She would have had to have had a blood test.... planned? She sounds nuts enough!! I'm curious who she may have had sex with in the weeks before... more probable that it is one of theirs. *smh*
After that story, I wouldn't feel sorry for the lady. That's completely nuts...climbing into the window to sleep next to some guy and being so delusional that she thinks he likes her. She's definitely not right in the head. If she's actually pregnant, then that's unfortunate, but it's not only the guy's fault...it's both of theirs. So, I can't feel sorry for her.
As for the other story you mentioned, yeah, that guy is disrespectful and the girl needs to get up and leave. If you let people treat you badly, then you can't expect anyone to feel bad for you or try to help you. You need to help yourself, first. Or try to, at the very least. And that guy will only find himself with girls who don't respect themselves, and if that's the type he likes, then he probably won't get any retribution, unfortunately.
Girls are pretty crazy, too, so there are some guys you should extend that thought to, as well. : )
Does she have a mental imbalance? Or have a disability that decreases her ability to recognize what is and what is not acceptable behavior? The guy sounds like a loser. If he didn't want her there, why didn't he call the police the minute she crawled into the window?
Posted by WaterCup
Why are (some) men so heartless?

I'm just thinking out loud, so never mind.



Why are (some) women so fucking stupid?
Posted by tiziani
Psychopathic behaviour on her part.


I thought so too, but still I couldnt stop feeling for her. Her attachments seem unhealthy & at 35 one would expect her to have better control of herself, etc. She told me she has 4 kids & I guess no father/s.
Posted by lildol
How the hell did she find out she was pregnant just after two weeks after having sex? She would have had to have had a blood test.... planned? She sounds nuts enough!! I'm curious who she may have had sex with in the weeks before... more probable that it is one of theirs. *smh*


lol i dont know, i meet these people at work & i also doubt if the guy is the only one she has slept with. You dont just start to sleep around out of the blue.
Posted by SUT2pointoh
Takes two to tango. This type of situation they're both at fault.
Only times a man or women is 100% responsible is rape IMO. Otherwise its two people to blame.There arent victims here just apathetic,passive participants.


true, but sometimes you cant help to notice how some men are nice when they want what they want & turn into something different the moment they get it. Both were careless imo, didnt think about the risks involved.
Posted by Scenic
After that story, I wouldn't feel sorry for the lady. That's completely nuts...climbing into the window to sleep next to some guy and being so delusional that she thinks he likes her. She's definitely not right in the head. If she's actually pregnant, then that's unfortunate, but it's not only the guy's fault...it's both of theirs. So, I can't feel sorry for her.
As for the other story you mentioned, yeah, that guy is disrespectful and the girl needs to get up and leave. If you let people treat you badly, then you can't expect anyone to feel bad for you or try to help you. You need to help yourself, first. Or try to, at the very least. And that guy will only find himself with girls who don't respect themselves, and if that's the type he likes, then he probably won't get any retribution, unfortunately.
Girls are pretty crazy, too, so there are some guys you should extend that thought to, as well. : )


your 2nd part is on point, i guess one knows when its enough for them & you cant really make them leave if they're not ready to, or dont have resources.
Posted by truecap
Does she have a mental imbalance? Or have a disability that decreases her ability to recognize what is and what is not acceptable behavior? The guy sounds like a loser. If he didn't want her there, why didn't he call the police the minute she crawled into the window?


i dont know her, i met her at work. She just mentioned she was pregnant & i congratulated her, then she told me the story about 'the father'
Posted by tiziani
Was woman #2 saying it in the sense that she didn't like it or that she liked it? Some couples just like that kind of thing.


lol who would like that? The thing is with most women here, or the culture, tradition,etc..men still pay dowry & most think its = ownership of the women and they can do as they please. And a dirvocee is looked up upon with judgmental eyes, so many stay for those reasons.
Posted by LIBRA1234
Posted by tiziani
Psychopathic behaviour on her part.


I see that article was beneficial Winking
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i'm curious to know what you mean by this
Posted by LetltB
Posted by WaterCup
Why are (some) men so heartless?

I'm just thinking out loud, so never mind.



Why are (some) women so fucking stupid?

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but some men have nice tales & you get to find out the truth later, but its not reason enough to act stupid i guess
Posted by tiziani
Posted by WaterCup
Posted by tiziani
Was woman #2 saying it in the sense that she didn't like it or that she liked it? Some couples just like that kind of thing.


lol who would like that? The thing is with most women here, or the culture, tradition,etc..men still pay dowry & most think its = ownership of the women and they can do as they please. And a dirvocee is looked up upon with judgmental eyes, so many stay for those reasons.


Fair play. There are masochists though who get off on that type of thing in a relationship. I was involved in a swinging relationship myself. That's why I was wondering if she was relating the story to you in an upset tone or something else haha
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lol @ swinging. Tiz!!! I'm so over these women now lol, that was yesterday- its their lives so whatever.
Posted by Grey
The problem is usually in the woman not men. you are so easily deceived by words and develop feelings so quickly. you so desperately always want relationships to be full of that drama, passion and intensity. You get caugh up in so many monets and so many edb and flows of emotions........
Just so you know vanity is a feminine trait in nature. Also you have stokcholm syndrome along with not understanding limits.
Th ideal woman should love like venus or sun and be in control like saturn.
I am not trying to be mean and blame her because it is his fault too but i usually find females do some bullshit to start it all off.


the above is so true to me as I was deceived twice. The 1st one i was involved with, the 2nd one i was almost involved with, but due to what i learned with #1..i caught on fast & ended it. I think thats why i sort of felt for the pregnant lady. Being deceived is not a nice feeling, makes you feel foolish, etc. Eyes wide open now & the heart is caged.

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