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Sep 20, 2008Comments: 1470 · Posts: 13777 · Topics: 204
Reading the topic title I thought Robyn finally wrote something from her heart. Oh well
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Dec 01, 2015Comments: 33 · Posts: 5490 · Topics: 118
One of the challenges I face as a woman is to stay true to who I am - or, rather, who I WANT to be, after going through certain experiences that almost leave me no choice but to change or,cat the very least, leave me strongly justified in why I changed.
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Dec 01, 2015Comments: 33 · Posts: 5490 · Topics: 118
"They will still choose to reinforce their dominance with a reminder that they could hurt me if they wanted to, and that I should somehow be grateful if they don’t. This has made me defensive. It has put me more on my guard than I would like to be."
Whilst admiring my BF's strong wrists and big hands I told him: "You know, you could strangle me to death with these hands, but you choose not to. Knowing that you have the potential to kill me if you wanted, but choose not to, increases my affection for you." Then I snuggled up into his neck.
He knows very well he's dating an insane person, so don't go feeling sorry for him.
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Oct 02, 2012Comments: 348 · Posts: 5327 · Topics: 266
but what if the bouncer was a really attractive guy?
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May 25, 2012Comments: 122 · Posts: 5590 · Topics: 41
I pretty much agree with the author's assertions. The only issue I have is that the larger context is often not discussed. Men often face the same issues but in different ways. But wrong is wrong.
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Mar 20, 2014Comments: 569 · Posts: 4816 · Topics: 128
@KinglyCrab I'll break this down for you... Woman would be less motivated to attack molest or just violate another woman, and the average woman doesn't typically have a far greater physical advantage over another average woman. So if the bouncer would be a woman, the situation and context would be completely different.
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Aug 07, 2013Comments: 14265 · Posts: 5321 · Topics: 61
i agree with this. i've had my share of negative, even frightening, experiences with random men. for example, the other day i was introduced to a male friend of my neighbors and asked to wait with him while the neighbor ran to the corner store and back. while my neighbor was gone, this 40 something year old man asked if he could kiss me and made advances even when i said no. and when i said no, he actually had to ask why?! to which i could only reply at the time, "I'm just not that kind of girl" and excused myself. he was still trying to "persuade" me as i left. all of this made me feel dirty or bad, like i did something wrong. I'm 30 years old and one thinks id be used to this.. but then i think why?! why would anyone get used to this or even have to?! i dont like feeling sexually intimidated. for someone especially with a past of abuse, it can cause almost a PTSD reaction...
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Mar 20, 2014Comments: 569 · Posts: 4816 · Topics: 128
Its not about women knowing how to handle themselves she obviously got through it fine, and she's not making a big deal or trying to address what happened, rather expressing how it affects her and colors her experiences with other men.
I disagree with the idea that humans berate each other as a human condition. How often are women psychologically berating in person as adults?
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Oct 02, 2012Comments: 348 · Posts: 5327 · Topics: 266
this woman put a light on something momentarily in her angry rant which she claims isn't a angry rant but it is a angry rant.
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Jun 25, 2015Comments: 744 · Posts: 2905 · Topics: 57
Maybe you should learn to enjoy a drink at home amongst friends like cultured adults do and avoid the clubs/shady watering holess.
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Feb 10, 2016Comments: 240 · Posts: 2142 · Topics: 10
this is why i am so glad
that my dad taught us
self defense.
this is why my daughters'
father will do the same.
thank goodness not all
men are brainless raging
barbarians.
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Mar 20, 2014Comments: 569 · Posts: 4816 · Topics: 128
I don't see it as angry, nor do i see it as momentarily, because the whole point is that these are the moments that we carry with us.
I think part of the point is that some men even good well intentioned ones, have a hard time identifying and understanding how it feels to be the more vulnerable sex. And they lack that point of view and experience.
I was once at a bar on a busy dance floor, dancing with like 5 of my girlfriends. When a guy came up to me blocked me away from my friends grabbed my wrist forced my legs open and dry humped me right there. I didn't even know how to react, it was really loud and he was so strong I could hardly struggle to even make it look like there was anything wrong.
So what does that teach me, fuck this shit can happen in a totally public place while I'm with my friends, I can't feel safe anywhere.
So when she says her friends call it the "rape room" or catcalls... she's telling them that i don't think you realize what we go through because if you did you wouldn't put that extra stress and fear on us for a joke.
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Mar 20, 2014Comments: 569 · Posts: 4816 · Topics: 128
I have failed to see a guy make the point where this situation is equal both ways, because of the physical advantages men have over women its hard to put it in the same context.
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Jun 25, 2015Comments: 744 · Posts: 2905 · Topics: 57
Fair enough, you get in what you put out. Ill be waiting for the next complaint thread to point out fallacies.
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Jun 25, 2015Comments: 744 · Posts: 2905 · Topics: 57
Best thing to do is nip it in the bud, if it continues avoid said person or situation then call police.
Recently was harassed by a former friend I cut ties with a month earlier. Called police first and they gave me those exact steps. All they could do is write a report for record keeping purposes
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Jun 25, 2015Comments: 744 · Posts: 2905 · Topics: 57
I don't recall typing those exact words.
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Oct 02, 2012Comments: 348 · Posts: 5327 · Topics: 266
i guess everyone went home