Unwanted Attention

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by Montgomery on Tuesday, February 11, 2014 and has 25 replies.
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Unwanted Attention
It's happened to everyone, at some point.

For instance, someone who:

1. Calls too often, or for no reason
2. Talks with no end in sight-- holds you hostage on the phone
3. Tells you all about his/her life (you didn't ask)
4. Sends you unsolicited pictures of him/herself

I'm not talking about indecency or anything of that nature.
Just generally speaking-- and usually, it's the opposite sex (though not always!).

How do you manage or get yourself out of these situations?
Do you conduct yourself differently when it's someone at work?

Do you tolerate it because you don't want to be perceived as mean?
Or are you blunt, and to the point?

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Oh well Montgomerantly, too Bad for you isnt it?
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Must insult yer self so only so much. Diddums. *Sheesh some people around mutters to self*
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I do not answer my phone. Ever.
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Posted by Rabbit
Posted by Andalusia
I do not answer my phone. Ever.


Is it because of my heavy breathing?

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Partly. And while we're on the subject - you can stop taking out radio ads if your breathing too. Hipsters keep thinking it's a dupstep track and requesting the remix.
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Posted by Andalusia
Posted by Rabbit
Posted by Andalusia
I do not answer my phone. Ever.


Is it because of my heavy breathing?



Partly. And while we're on the subject - you can stop taking out radio ads if your breathing too. Hipsters keep thinking it's a dupstep track and requesting the remix.
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*OF your breathing
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Posted by Rabbit
The behavior.
Not your thread Tongue


Thanks smile
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Posted by duchessedenemours
I don't really understand why this is a problem. I don't answer either. Tends to go away on it's own.


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Posted by Montgomery
Do you conduct yourself differently when it's someone at work?
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You don't always have that luxury when you work with the person.
Because you have no way of knowing if it's regarding work, or not.
And even if it is, it doesn't stop the listed behavior.


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Posted by Nell55
I usually just try to give small signals for them to pick up after a while so they will move on, but sometimes they get really aggressive with these things I don't see a reason to not be aggressive back and bluntly tell them that I am not interested. Sometimes people do this from a far because they are cowards but I can't stop them and that's when I decide to act differently because it is only myself I can control.


Exactly!
And it's frustrating-- I don't want to be rude, but wtf.
And the ingratiating language --feels like a guilt trip, or something.
Bleh.
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i'm blunt. don't bother wasting your time, guy. Tongue
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Lol. This is one of those times where I'm glad to have an Aqua rising. Libra Merc be damned, it's like whatever I'm bored now lol.
People calling that I don't feel like dealing with? I either don't answer the phone, pretend that it's a dropped call or just hang up.
Obnoxious coworkers or family? I'll try to politely misdirect them first. Ask if they got x project done or spoke to y person. Maybe hint that they have something stuck in their teeth. If all else fails I just say "we're done here" and walk off.
Unwanted attention from the opposite sex? Well, "I'm gay" usually works alright. When it doesn't I think it's hilarious to grab my crotch like I'm adjusting myself and then ask if having a penis is a problem for them lol. And "oh, by the way, I'm a top" seals the deal.
When in doubt just say no and keeping walking until the problem goes away. Or stare at them without blinking and start breathing heavily. Don't say anything. Just stare and breathe. Devil
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Posted by size zero superhero
I disagree that neediness is more or less prevalent between people of different sexes. Unfortunately, those annoying tryhard qualities exist across the board.


Fair enough.
I'm speaking of my own experience; I should have clarified.

Posted by size zero superheroWhen this becomes a problem with coworkers, or those I have no choice but to deal with, it is indeed much more challenging to drive the point home without burning a bridge--those people are usually prone to easily-induced butthurt as well & often get bent out of shape without much of a stimulus.
In my social life I avoid clingy, suffocating types at all costs. If they keep blowing up your phone and feel entitled to monopolizing your free time, patience, etc...IMO you have every right to cut 'em off at that point.
(When I say that many of the folks I've met who fit this description show some signs of developmental/personality disorders, I'm dead serious & not even trying to be rude here. In some cases, I suspect this could be a factor influencing these needy behaviors.)
Needy adults have to learn the error of their ways sometime or another, rather than expect others to tolerate, accommodate & validate them all the time.

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No, I agree about that.*
My thought was that monopolizing someone's time with one-sided conversation (a monologue) could be attention deficit hyperactivity disorder-- the kind where even red food dye is a no-no.
One tangent only serves to lead into the next, and I can't get a word in edgewise.
And you're right-- it *is* tricky when you work with someone (esp when they've begun to use the company phone, and caller ID shows the work number).

Thanks, szsh ~

* Interesting article on that #axzz2t4PA6677">here.

And +1 @ "easily-induced butthurt" lolol


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Posted by Jynja
This is why everyone should have Scorpio Jupiter.
Shock them!
Interrupt them and say you're sorry for not paying attention much, but you were out on one of your rounds last night and unfortunately messed up. Worse is, someone saw you, and you now know his house, but you just don't know what to do with their body yet so you're pre-occupied for a moment. Do they mind coming back later so you can discuss his cousin's fat ass again?
Works every time. Big Grin



I love it.
Can I borrow yours?
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One day you will all understand that this is exactly what I knew you would all do to me so thats why I dont bother to acknowledge you and give you what you want some call it 'attention' I call it unwanted attention and the steps you describe clearly state exactly what I want for you al to do doing for me, thank you very much! Claps hands together for the little kids. Round of applause to you all.
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Posted by CluelessCancer
This is hilarious thread, i don't know what the op is saying, cause i cant' read her, but i read the thread topic, its hilarious coming from the op, cause she super stalks individuals who dont' want anything to do with her.
unwanted attention coming from a stalker is just hypocritical.


lmao!
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Posted by CluelessCancer
This is hilarious thread, i don't know what the op is saying, cause i cant' read her, but i read the thread topic, its hilarious coming from the op, cause she super stalks individuals who dont' want anything to do with her.
unwanted attention coming from a stalker is just hypocritical.

You have continuously trolled my comments in the is there a generation gap here thread on misc board and my red pill or blue pill thread. Sometimes even a minute after I posted, while saying you've had me blocked. Then when I've called you out on such absurdities, you've had to make public statements later on saying that ok everybody I'm unblocking this individual so I can read their thread. More backsliding and lying. Not a very good use of the block button, if you continuously troll and bully individuals, you claim to have blocked. This is akin to getting in a disagreement with a coworker, and putting your fingers in your ear but still talking smack.
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Posted by Montgomery
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Unwanted Attention
It's happened to everyone, at some point.~


omg





I just smh.
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Posted by mrdesperado
You have continuously trolled my comments in the is there a generation gap here thread on misc board and my red pill or blue pill thread. Sometimes even a minute after I posted, while saying you've had me blocked. Then when I've called you out on such absurdities, you've had to make public statements later on saying that ok everybody I'm unblocking this individual so I can read their thread. More backsliding and lying. Not a very good use of the block button, if you continuously troll and bully individuals, you claim to have blocked. This is akin to getting in a disagreement with a coworker, and putting your fingers in your ear but still talking smack.
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Ehh she posts in all of my threads, too.


It shows she cares ???. Big Grin

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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
the work thing....
I'm on call 24/7 because I'm in IT.
All calls go to voicemail so I can screen them first, except the boss.



And this is what I do, now-- but it still makes me feel a little guilty.
Intellectually, I know it shouldn't, but it does.
Ultimately, though, I think it pisses me off-- I don't like being put in that position.
And as size 0 mentioned and I agree, I think there are other factors involved.
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I keep sticking pins in a voodoo doll, but the bitch just wont go away.

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Posted by Wynter
I keep sticking pins in a voodoo doll, but the bitch just wont go away.





Try running it over.
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I used to mess around with this tauri guy years ago, I mean like 4 years ago. He still calls and texts me. I NEVER answer.
fixed signs never seem to go away if youve made an impression.
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Take the phone to the toilet with you. Make sounds of distress. Mumble something about recently eating something that's gone off. Splashing optional.
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Posted by DMV
I used to mess around with this tauri guy years ago, I mean like 4 years ago. He still calls and texts me. I NEVER answer.
fixed signs never seem to go away if youve made an impression.



This is just a co-worker, for petes sake-- we don't even work on the same days.
And Good Lord-- four years? What you must have done to that poor man lolol Big Grin
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Posted by Brobian
Frankly, I would just tell them that I wasn't interested, and kindly ask them to please leave me alone.


What do people say when you tell them that?
I'm interested.
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Posted by Montgomery
Posted by DMV
I used to mess around with this tauri guy years ago, I mean like 4 years ago. He still calls and texts me. I NEVER answer.
fixed signs never seem to go away if youve made an impression.



This is just a co-worker, for petes sake-- we don't even work on the same days.
And Good Lord-- four years? What you must have done to that poor man lolol Big Grin

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aww he has a crush smile
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