Vuneral/ Viewing Etiquette

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by RaeofSun on Wednesday, September 4, 2013 and has 4 replies.
I am interested in other's opinions regarding funerals and viewings of those who have passed. If someone doesn't know the person or only met them a couple of times, but they go to the viewing and funeral, do you think it is disrespectful?
A part of me thinks that sometimes people view these as social functions or want to show their face to be like "yeah, that's so sad, we hung out a few times"... and brag about knowing the person, but when that person was alive, could care less or never hung out with them.
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Only if you feel comfortable going. You're showing your respect. And as long as you don't make an ass out of yourself, like the example you gave, you're fine.
One thing that drives me up a wall with these things is when people do exactly what you said- either they didn't give a rat's ass about the person, or they disliked/talked about/made fun of a person, once they're dead, THEN it's the theatrics about what such a good person they were, they were BFFs, etc.
Hate, hate, hate it! It's so freaking fake and I find it far more disrespectful than not going/or just being there without all the theatrics.
I saw the very same thing happen with a coworker. She was made fun of, a pseudo friend to several people at work, etc. The second she died, cue all the bs mentioned above. I found it so incredibly fake and disrespectful.
But our media does the same too. :/
I think that people really overdo it and tread on eggshells a little too much when it comes to these things. There's really not many right or wrong ways to handle this. If you feel comfortable going to show your respect, then go. But if you don't, don't go. People understand since you weren't that close. Unless you were formally invited, I wouldn't stress.
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Yes, I agree, everyone will have an opinion and there is no right or wrong. I will say though, that it drives me crazy to hear people talk about how good of friends they hung out with that person a lot. A friend of mine did that recently, and it struck a nerve, because in the 6 years I've been close with my friend, not once did she mention this person or hang out with them. So, in my mind, I thought "so, how close were you really?" Then another wants to go to the funeral but only met the person once.
It's annoying to me that when someone passes, all of a sudden everyone was their friend and so on and so forth, and in my mind I'm thinking "where was everyone when this person was alive?"
It just pisses me off and saddens me all at the same time.
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Some people indeed go because it's the appropriate thing to do (should be seen there), others out of love, others out of respect and some to support those they love.
You should only attend a funeral out of love and/or respect. Never for personal gain or social acceptance.
As to not knowing someone well and attending a funeral:
My daughter went to a military charter high school. A classmate was killed in a car accident. School closed the day of the funeral. 99% of the 500 students still showed up at school that morning dressed in their dress blues. They all walked together up to the church about a half mile away to honor their fallen comrade (if you could imagine the site). My daughter was only 15 at the time. She was not personal friends with the student yet went anyway to pay her respects. Insisted on us buying the family flowers as well.
No, it's not disrespectful to attend the funeral of someone you don't know well, but be sure you're doing it for the right reasons.
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