Posted by GoodBunnythat's really depressing. never really thought about mine before but guess most women in my family usually gets slapped around by the men guess that might be the curse. not me tho coz i actually chose someone decent. my cousin also married someone pretty decent. prob witnessing violence made me super jittery in dating men who showed even the slightest sign of violence (even in language not just action).
I have two.
1. I believe there is a generational curse that causes some women to die young in my family and leave their daughters to raise their siblings. Without going into detail, I feel like I was next in line. I'm glad I didnt have kids, but I am still unsure if I will live to see retirement. 😬 Hopefully not having kids breaks the curse.
2. That I will only meet my"soulmate" right before I die. Thus, when I meet the one, it might mean death is near. 😭
Virgo moon, aquarius mercury, libra mars
Posted by GoodBunnydid you not have a child on purpose coz of your deep belief in this? (you don't have to answer if you don't feel comfortable).Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by GoodBunny
I have two.
1. I believe there is a generational curse that causes some women to die young in my family and leave their daughters to raise their siblings. Without going into detail, I feel like I was next in line. I'm glad I didnt have kids, but I am still unsure if I will live to see retirement. 😬 Hopefully not having kids breaks the curse.
2. That I will only meet my"soulmate" right before I die. Thus, when I meet the one, it might mean death is near. 😭
Virgo moon, aquarius mercury, libra mars
that's really depressing. never really thought about mine before but guess most women in my family usually gets slapped around by the men guess that might be the curse. not me tho coz i actually chose someone decent. my cousin also married someone pretty decent. prob witnessing violence made me super jittery in dating men who showed even the slightest sign of violence (even in language not just action).
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My bad. Number 2 is just this weird thought I have, possibly past life trauma. Most likely a self construct.
Number 1 unfortunately has been a pattern since my Great Great Grandmother. It doesnt feel coincidental at this point, it feels like a curse.click to expand
Posted by TXCowboythen indirectly might mean also afraid of marriage?
Good question.
I guess I'm almost irrationally afraid of divorce.
That's about it.
Posted by GoodBunnyas the eldest, i can relate tho I never really tried too hard to mother my siblings.Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by GoodBunnyPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by GoodBunny
I have two.
1. I believe there is a generational curse that causes some women to die young in my family and leave their daughters to raise their siblings. Without going into detail, I feel like I was next in line. I'm glad I didnt have kids, but I am still unsure if I will live to see retirement. 😬 Hopefully not having kids breaks the curse.
2. That I will only meet my"soulmate" right before I die. Thus, when I meet the one, it might mean death is near. 😭
Virgo moon, aquarius mercury, libra mars
that's really depressing. never really thought about mine before but guess most women in my family usually gets slapped around by the men guess that might be the curse. not me tho coz i actually chose someone decent. my cousin also married someone pretty decent. prob witnessing violence made me super jittery in dating men who showed even the slightest sign of violence (even in language not just action).
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My bad. Number 2 is just this weird thought I have, possibly past life trauma. Most likely a self construct.
Number 1 unfortunately has been a pattern since my Great Great Grandmother. It doesnt feel coincidental at this point, it feels like a curse.
did you not have a child on purpose coz of your deep belief in this? (you don't have to answer if you don't feel comfortable).
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At first no, I didnt notice the pattern. But then one day I was talking to my niece about our family history and it clicked. And I was like wow, I am glad I didnt have kids, and now I dont want to. Let this curse die with me hopefully.
To give you some reference, my great great grandmother died, so my great grandmother helped raise her siblings. Then my grandmother died so my mom helped raise her siblings. Then my mom died, so I had to help raise one of my siblings. Don't get me wrong I don't regret my decision. But I wouldnt want that for my child. I lost part of my youth I can never get back.
Also, I am sorry your family has experienced so much domestic violence.click to expand
Posted by TXCowboymaybe best to always be careful, never trust too quickly.Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by TXCowboy
Good question.
I guess I'm almost irrationally afraid of divorce.
That's about it.
then indirectly might mean also afraid of marriage?
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Yup, most women I've met are shit.click to expand
Posted by SassyKiwii believe it. my libra uncle gave my taurus aunt a shut up ring coz he's the type of man who was too busy chasing different women. both miserable and eventually divorced. he still can't stop womanizing and he really should've just remained single tbh, would've spared everyone the bother.
Idk how irrational it sounds but I am very convinced that unless a man is extremely eager to marry you on his own (he doesn’t feel pressured), he won’t really be a good husband.
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@SassyKiwi also reminds me of this
absolute truth coz i've exerted more effort in maintaining a relationship with an ex who ended up cheating on me. but when i became the more willing side to scrap a relationship, I end up married 🤦🤦🤷🤷
Posted by KachiWhat would you tell someone if you read this on here?Posted by SassyKiwi
Idk how irrational it sounds but I am very convinced that unless a man is extremely eager to marry you on his own (he doesn’t feel pressured), he won’t really be a good husband.
What if it's someone who just doesn't know how to take the initiative in a r/s, super busy and emotionally inept but shows he loves you through acts of service.click to expand
Posted by KachiFor the most part, it's the same thing, long term partners and marriage, no? Idk where I stand entirely on marriage so I guess I can't really say shit.Posted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SassyKiwi
Idk how irrational it sounds but I am very convinced that unless a man is extremely eager to marry you on his own (he doesn’t feel pressured), he won’t really be a good husband.
What if it's someone who just doesn't know how to take the initiative in a r/s, super busy and emotionally inept but shows he loves you through acts of service.
What would you tell someone if you read this on here?
Given that I'm not the one in the r/s, it's hard to say. I haven't been in a situation where I'm with a partner for more than 5 years and you just want to know whether you're long term partners or for marriage. Is it even enough to just be long term if you've considered marriage and claim to love each other.
Personally, if I'm in circles over the same topic for years im calling it quits. I want to know so we both avoid resentment in the future.click to expand
Posted by KachiThey aren't the ones in the relationship so fuck their opinionPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SassyKiwi
Idk how irrational it sounds but I am very convinced that unless a man is extremely eager to marry you on his own (he doesn’t feel pressured), he won’t really be a good husband.
What if it's someone who just doesn't know how to take the initiative in a r/s, super busy and emotionally inept but shows he loves you through acts of service.
What would you tell someone if you read this on here?
Given that I'm not the one in the r/s, it's hard to say. I haven't been in a situation where I'm with a partner for more than 5 years and you just want to know whether you're long term partners or for marriage. Is it even enough to just be long term if you've considered marriage and claim to love each other.
Personally, if I'm in circles over the same topic for years im calling it quits. I want to know so we both avoid resentment in the future.
For the most part, it's the same thing, long term partners and marriage, no? Idk where I stand entirely on marriage so I guess I can't really say shit.
It might depend on family and friends from both sides.click to expand
Posted by KachiThey might wanna think about marrying a cousin or something then lawlPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SassyKiwi
Idk how irrational it sounds but I am very convinced that unless a man is extremely eager to marry you on his own (he doesn’t feel pressured), he won’t really be a good husband.
What if it's someone who just doesn't know how to take the initiative in a r/s, super busy and emotionally inept but shows he loves you through acts of service.
What would you tell someone if you read this on here?
Given that I'm not the one in the r/s, it's hard to say. I haven't been in a situation where I'm with a partner for more than 5 years and you just want to know whether you're long term partners or for marriage. Is it even enough to just be long term if you've considered marriage and claim to love each other.
Personally, if I'm in circles over the same topic for years im calling it quits. I want to know so we both avoid resentment in the future.
For the most part, it's the same thing, long term partners and marriage, no? Idk where I stand entirely on marriage so I guess I can't really say shit.
It might depend on family and friends from both sides.
They aren't the ones in the relationship so fuck their opinion
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Hmm some people are very close to their family who follow traditional values.click to expand
Posted by KachiNah, I agree, Kaching. It's just that.. it's not good, imo. I've dealt with it all my life, but not something like marriage. Especially a huge decision like marriage, i think no one has a say but the relationship. I resent my mom for so many things she forced on me or made me act certain ways for her reputation etc.Posted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SassyKiwi
Idk how irrational it sounds but I am very convinced that unless a man is extremely eager to marry you on his own (he doesn’t feel pressured), he won’t really be a good husband.
What if it's someone who just doesn't know how to take the initiative in a r/s, super busy and emotionally inept but shows he loves you through acts of service.
What would you tell someone if you read this on here?
Given that I'm not the one in the r/s, it's hard to say. I haven't been in a situation where I'm with a partner for more than 5 years and you just want to know whether you're long term partners or for marriage. Is it even enough to just be long term if you've considered marriage and claim to love each other.
Personally, if I'm in circles over the same topic for years im calling it quits. I want to know so we both avoid resentment in the future.
For the most part, it's the same thing, long term partners and marriage, no? Idk where I stand entirely on marriage so I guess I can't really say shit.
It might depend on family and friends from both sides.
They aren't the ones in the relationship so fuck their opinion
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Hmm some people are very close to their family who follow traditional values.
They might wanna think about marrying a cousin or something then lawl
Idk people who are close to their family, there's pressure. That doesn't go away in adulthood.click to expand
Posted by KachiBlood and proximity are such stupid fucking bondsPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SassyKiwi
Idk how irrational it sounds but I am very convinced that unless a man is extremely eager to marry you on his own (he doesn’t feel pressured), he won’t really be a good husband.
What if it's someone who just doesn't know how to take the initiative in a r/s, super busy and emotionally inept but shows he loves you through acts of service.
What would you tell someone if you read this on here?
Given that I'm not the one in the r/s, it's hard to say. I haven't been in a situation where I'm with a partner for more than 5 years and you just want to know whether you're long term partners or for marriage. Is it even enough to just be long term if you've considered marriage and claim to love each other.
Personally, if I'm in circles over the same topic for years im calling it quits. I want to know so we both avoid resentment in the future.
For the most part, it's the same thing, long term partners and marriage, no? Idk where I stand entirely on marriage so I guess I can't really say shit.
It might depend on family and friends from both sides.
They aren't the ones in the relationship so fuck their opinion
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Hmm some people are very close to their family who follow traditional values.
They might wanna think about marrying a cousin or something then lawl
Idk people who are close to their family, there's pressure. That doesn't go away in adulthood.
Nah, I agree, Kaching. It's just that.. it's not good, imo. I've dealt with it all my life, but not something like marriage. Especially a huge decision like marriage, i think no one has a say but the relationship. I resent my mom for so many things she forced on me or made me act certain ways for her reputation etc.
Welcome back.
Yeah it's difficult to unlearn and definitely take time to heal from anything that's related to family.click to expand
Posted by KachiThe Unfortunate EndgamePosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SoloPosted by KachiPosted by SassyKiwi
Idk how irrational it sounds but I am very convinced that unless a man is extremely eager to marry you on his own (he doesn’t feel pressured), he won’t really be a good husband.
What if it's someone who just doesn't know how to take the initiative in a r/s, super busy and emotionally inept but shows he loves you through acts of service.
What would you tell someone if you read this on here?
Given that I'm not the one in the r/s, it's hard to say. I haven't been in a situation where I'm with a partner for more than 5 years and you just want to know whether you're long term partners or for marriage. Is it even enough to just be long term if you've considered marriage and claim to love each other.
Personally, if I'm in circles over the same topic for years im calling it quits. I want to know so we both avoid resentment in the future.
For the most part, it's the same thing, long term partners and marriage, no? Idk where I stand entirely on marriage so I guess I can't really say shit.
It might depend on family and friends from both sides.
They aren't the ones in the relationship so fuck their opinion
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Hmm some people are very close to their family who follow traditional values.
They might wanna think about marrying a cousin or something then lawl
Idk people who are close to their family, there's pressure. That doesn't go away in adulthood.
Nah, I agree, Kaching. It's just that.. it's not good, imo. I've dealt with it all my life, but not something like marriage. Especially a huge decision like marriage, i think no one has a say but the relationship. I resent my mom for so many things she forced on me or made me act certain ways for her reputation etc.
Welcome back.
Yeah it's difficult to unlearn and definitely take time to heal from anything that's related to family.
Blood and proximity are such stupid fucking bonds
Bonds nonetheless
It can be damaging for sure.click to expand
Posted by GoodBunnysame for me maybe why sometimes people think i'm cold (virgo sun/merc/rising).Posted by IceStormPosted by GoodBunny
I have two.
1. I believe there is a generational curse that causes some women to die young in my family and leave their daughters to raise their siblings. Without going into detail, I feel like I was next in line. I'm glad I didnt have kids, but I am still unsure if I will live to see retirement. 😬 Hopefully not having kids breaks the curse.
2. That I will only meet my"soulmate" right before I die. Thus, when I meet the one, it might mean death is near. 😭
Virgo moon, aquarius mercury, libra mars
Those are both really sad and dark 😩😩🥺
My maternal grandma died when my mom was only 17, then my mom died when I was 29. I’ve never had the belief that I’ll die young but since my 9 year old son knows that my mom passed away, he is convinced that I will pass away too and he talks/worries about it often, which breaks my heart that he thinks about those things at his young age.
Ironically I don’t think much about death.. nor have I prepared for it. Maybe it’s because of my 12th house stellium (I keep those things hidden, out of sight out of mind)
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I know it sounds fucked, but I actually am just very matter of fact about things. Like okay this is happening, what am I doing about it? How can I move forward with this knowledge? I have a 6th house stellium and a Virgo moon so I think through my emotions. 😬 I know number 2 is probably irrational. I cant reason away the pattern for number 1.click to expand
Posted by Lorelaitbh almost every time i see a guy that i think looks super hot, it always turns out to be a capricorn man. too bad their personalities don't really fit their looks 🤷🤷
I believe Capricorn men are prettier than most women. I can't explain any further.
Posted by dragonh0rsecvckI was born on a Tuesday. Do you see that in me?
most of my beliefs are supported by some anecdotal evidence, however flimsy
But I believe along with the accepted planet/house placements, our degrees add another layer of flavor (cycling through the 12 signs) and our draconic charts matter. I'm finding Vedic to be more and more feasible as well... just can't shake the fact that I can accurately guess people's tropical luminaries. but if someone seems shit for their sign, often checking their Draconic chart tells a lot of the story
also, I think the Greco-Roman rulers of each day of the week add another flavor to your personality. I was born on a Saturday, as have many people who died young, committed suicide, suffered misfortune, or were thrown into disrepute somehow. Sunday= arrogant and abusive assholes (they can also be great), Wednesday= super artistic, "loyal but not faithful", mad geniuses, gossipy, Mercurial. Monday= empathetic, commits suicide the second most. Tuesday= Arian bold hoishness. Thursday= funny, jovial, Jupiter-like. Friday= jealous/overprotective of Queen Bee status, does witchcraft, good partners.
I also looked into synastry between "days of the week" and Sunday-Tuesday seems to go nuclear as well as Sunday-Saturday obviously. Monday-Saturday seems strong and natural. Monday-Thursday is kind of a thing.. Sunday-Sunday works, they protect their own.
Posted by IceStormI definitely see that 12th house stellium in you. You be holdin back from the truth about certain things..Posted by GoodBunny
I have two.
1. I believe there is a generational curse that causes some women to die young in my family and leave their daughters to raise their siblings. Without going into detail, I feel like I was next in line. I'm glad I didnt have kids, but I am still unsure if I will live to see retirement. 😬 Hopefully not having kids breaks the curse.
2. That I will only meet my"soulmate" right before I die. Thus, when I meet the one, it might mean death is near. 😭
Virgo moon, aquarius mercury, libra mars
Those are both really sad and dark 😩😩🥺
My maternal grandma died when my mom was only 17, then my mom died when I was 29. I’ve never had the belief that I’ll die young but since my 9 year old son knows that my mom passed away, he is convinced that I will pass away too and he talks/worries about it often, which breaks my heart that he thinks about those things at his young age.
Ironically I don’t think much about death.. nor have I prepared for it. Maybe it’s because of my 12th house stellium (I keep those things hidden, out of sight out of mind)
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Posted by dragonh0rsecvckAlright just making surePosted by route666aybbPosted by dragonh0rsecvck
most of my beliefs are supported by some anecdotal evidence, however flimsy
But I believe along with the accepted planet/house placements, our degrees add another layer of flavor (cycling through the 12 signs) and our draconic charts matter. I'm finding Vedic to be more and more feasible as well... just can't shake the fact that I can accurately guess people's tropical luminaries. but if someone seems shit for their sign, often checking their Draconic chart tells a lot of the story
also, I think the Greco-Roman rulers of each day of the week add another flavor to your personality. I was born on a Saturday, as have many people who died young, committed suicide, suffered misfortune, or were thrown into disrepute somehow. Sunday= arrogant and abusive assholes (they can also be great), Wednesday= super artistic, "loyal but not faithful", mad geniuses, gossipy, Mercurial. Monday= empathetic, commits suicide the second most. Tuesday= Arian bold hoishness. Thursday= funny, jovial, Jupiter-like. Friday= jealous/overprotective of Queen Bee status, does witchcraft, good partners.
I also looked into synastry between "days of the week" and Sunday-Tuesday seems to go nuclear as well as Sunday-Saturday obviously. Monday-Saturday seems strong and natural. Monday-Thursday is kind of a thing.. Sunday-Sunday works, they protect their own.
I was born on a Tuesday. Do you see that in me?
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Posted by Lorelai😆😆Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Lorelai
I believe Capricorn men are prettier than most women. I can't explain any further.
tbh almost every time i see a guy that i think looks super hot, it always turns out to be a capricorn man. too bad their personalities don't really fit their looks 🤷🤷
Too bad their hairline will betray them sooner or later lol 😭click to expand
Posted by dragonh0rsecvckbased on this belief, does that mean that there are certain days that even tho you might feel like doing something that you simply don't go through with it in the end coz you associate some negativity with that day?
most of my beliefs are supported by some anecdotal evidence, however flimsy
But I believe along with the accepted planet/house placements, our degrees add another layer of flavor (cycling through the 12 signs) and our draconic charts matter. I'm finding Vedic to be more and more feasible as well... just can't shake the fact that I can accurately guess people's tropical luminaries. but if someone seems shit for their sign, often checking their Draconic chart tells a lot of the story
also, I think the Greco-Roman rulers of each day of the week add another flavor to your personality. I was born on a Saturday, as have many people who died young, committed suicide, suffered misfortune, or were thrown into disrepute somehow. Sunday= arrogant and abusive assholes (they can also be great), Wednesday= super artistic, "loyal but not faithful", mad geniuses, gossipy, Mercurial. Monday= empathetic, commits suicide the second most. Tuesday= Arian bold hoishness. Thursday= funny, jovial, Jupiter-like. Friday= jealous/overprotective of Queen Bee status, does witchcraft, good partners.
I also looked into synastry between "days of the week" and Sunday-Tuesday seems to go nuclear as well as Sunday-Saturday obviously. Monday-Saturday seems strong and natural. Monday-Thursday is kind of a thing.. Sunday-Sunday works, they protect their own.
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Lorelai
I believe Capricorn men are prettier than most women. I can't explain any further.
tbh almost every time i see a guy that i think looks super hot, it always turns out to be a capricorn man. too bad their personalities don't really fit their looks 🤷🤷click to expand
Posted by IceStormYou said things, didn't say other things, and now I realize you're talking about it. I mentioned it because of your "venus in the 12th house" vibes, which I just learned about. It's like a hidden part, and you're holding back your feelings for people, just like I do with my Mars in the 12th house.Posted by route666aybbPosted by IceStormPosted by GoodBunny
I have two.
1. I believe there is a generational curse that causes some women to die young in my family and leave their daughters to raise their siblings. Without going into detail, I feel like I was next in line. I'm glad I didnt have kids, but I am still unsure if I will live to see retirement. 😬 Hopefully not having kids breaks the curse.
2. That I will only meet my"soulmate" right before I die. Thus, when I meet the one, it might mean death is near. 😭
Virgo moon, aquarius mercury, libra mars
Those are both really sad and dark 😩😩🥺
My maternal grandma died when my mom was only 17, then my mom died when I was 29. I’ve never had the belief that I’ll die young but since my 9 year old son knows that my mom passed away, he is convinced that I will pass away too and he talks/worries about it often, which breaks my heart that he thinks about those things at his young age.
Ironically I don’t think much about death.. nor have I prepared for it. Maybe it’s because of my 12th house stellium (I keep those things hidden, out of sight out of mind)
I definitely see that 12th house stellium in you. You be holdin back from the truth about certain things..
Like what? Give me some examples of what truths I hold back?
Her comment was about death, and the 12th house is about spirituality/what is hidden.. and I have Jupiter, Venus AND Saturn in my 12th house. So my only point was that with 12th house stellium, thoughts of death or dying is a big part of my subconscious but I don’t talk about it openly.click to expand
Posted by KachiPosted by SassyKiwi
Idk how irrational it sounds but I am very convinced that unless a man is extremely eager to marry you on his own (he doesn’t feel pressured), he won’t really be a good husband.
What if it's someone who just doesn't know how to take the initiative in a r/s, super busy and emotionally inept but shows he loves you through acts of service.click to expand
Posted by KachiPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by KachiPosted by SassyKiwi
Idk how irrational it sounds but I am very convinced that unless a man is extremely eager to marry you on his own (he doesn’t feel pressured), he won’t really be a good husband.
What if it's someone who just doesn't know how to take the initiative in a r/s, super busy and emotionally inept but shows he loves you through acts of service.
So many factors. Depends on his age and maturity. His experience of his parents’ relationship. But ultimately it will end in what you’re willing to put up with. What’s his end goal in being in a relationship, whether with you or the next person? To pass time? To consider the person as a future life partner? If you’ve always desired marriage as an end goal, you need to make that clear to him but in an open ended way that doesn’t put a spotlight specifically on him. Something like, “I’m just at that point in life where I only want to continue dating if the person is serious about settling down soon.” If that brings up questions from him about your timeline with examples like within the next couple of years, etc that’s great, you can ask about his if he has any.
I know you brought up traditional values in some posts and I personally couldn’t continue to dedicate my time to someone who’s not sure about what they want out of a relationship especially in their 30s or older regardless of what kind of trauma they’ve experienced. You can attempt to guide him to self-realizations if you think he’s worth the investment.
A long term relationship with or without marriage is obviously never guaranteed. I just think most people like the concept of marriage because it feels good knowing you’re both risking a lot legally (joint finances and assets, etc). Just gives it that extra serious overlay in a relationship.
Btw I would consider my husband being emotionally inept and awkward but what I really about liked him was he was very serious about the prospect of marriage, no tomfoolery!
It's a friend, not me. That's why in one of the post I said, idk what to say. I haven't been in that situation.
Is it possible that I can be that complicated for people coming from traditional families? Having your family still have that hold on you, regardless of how successful you are in other areas of your life. Or is it hesitation? He waited for a good opportunity to bring it up to his family that he was dating my friend, after 5 years. And I mean, he waited until he had a medical emergency.click to expand
Posted by KachiPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by KachiPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by KachiPosted by SassyKiwi
Idk how irrational it sounds but I am very convinced that unless a man is extremely eager to marry you on his own (he doesn’t feel pressured), he won’t really be a good husband.
What if it's someone who just doesn't know how to take the initiative in a r/s, super busy and emotionally inept but shows he loves you through acts of service.
So many factors. Depends on his age and maturity. His experience of his parents’ relationship. But ultimately it will end in what you’re willing to put up with. What’s his end goal in being in a relationship, whether with you or the next person? To pass time? To consider the person as a future life partner? If you’ve always desired marriage as an end goal, you need to make that clear to him but in an open ended way that doesn’t put a spotlight specifically on him. Something like, “I’m just at that point in life where I only want to continue dating if the person is serious about settling down soon.” If that brings up questions from him about your timeline with examples like within the next couple of years, etc that’s great, you can ask about his if he has any.
I know you brought up traditional values in some posts and I personally couldn’t continue to dedicate my time to someone who’s not sure about what they want out of a relationship especially in their 30s or older regardless of what kind of trauma they’ve experienced. You can attempt to guide him to self-realizations if you think he’s worth the investment.
A long term relationship with or without marriage is obviously never guaranteed. I just think most people like the concept of marriage because it feels good knowing you’re both risking a lot legally (joint finances and assets, etc). Just gives it that extra serious overlay in a relationship.
Btw I would consider my husband being emotionally inept and awkward but what I really about liked him was he was very serious about the prospect of marriage, no tomfoolery!
It's a friend, not me. That's why in one of the post I said, idk what to say. I haven't been in that situation.
Is it possible that I can be that complicated for people coming from traditional families? Having your family still have that hold on you, regardless of how successful you are in other areas of your life. Or is it hesitation? He waited for a good opportunity to bring it up to his family that he was dating my friend, after 5 years. And I mean, he waited until he had a medical emergency.
He hid the fact he was dating your friend from his family for 5 years?!
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Posted by StubbornSagdamn yeah when i first felt contractions until our drive home, i could not sleep coz i was told they were unsure about my son's hearing and also i didn't wanna miss anything by being asleep (3 days no sleep).
- Of getting old alone - not having anyone close (not having my s/o or children - that I'm terrified of birthing anyway)🤦🏼♀️😂 and also even if I had children I would still be afraid I'd be left alone.
- Not having enough income to support myself
- I'm terrified of cancer and any kind of disability - loosing sight, hearing or limbs or their function...
- Giving a birth, having a child with special needs...
Those are all things I'm terrified of...
Posted by StubbornSagthankfully everything turned out okay and shes doing well with her baby ☺️☺️ i've met some real crap doctors with superiority complex that told me: "oh you found out you're pregnant so late and probably didn't drink the vitamins so your baby's malnourished."Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by StubbornSag
- Of getting old alone - not having anyone close (not having my s/o or children - that I'm terrified of birthing anyway)🤦🏼♀️😂 and also even if I had children I would still be afraid I'd be left alone.
- Not having enough income to support myself
- I'm terrified of cancer and any kind of disability - loosing sight, hearing or limbs or their function...
- Giving a birth, having a child with special needs...
Those are all things I'm terrified of...
damn yeah when i first felt contractions until our drive home, i could not sleep coz i was told they were unsure about my son's hearing and also i didn't wanna miss anything by being asleep (3 days no sleep).
but i was already preparing mentally for all the things we have to learn in order to communicate with him and help him communicate. tho thankfully we came back after a month and found there's absolutely nothing wrong after all.
Damn that was really bad to have to go through 😐 my Virgo bff almost lost her baby during pandemic, birth was too premature and she didn't see her for over a month due to restrictions 😐 luckily baby survived and is doing fine with just minor issues. Supposed to be Aqua but ended up being Sag...that much premature😐 another friend was told her baby is most likely having down syndrome...and it turned out he was just fine. Idk how can they seriously give such diagnosis based on nothing. Baby does have a slightly down syndrome looking face but it's not unusual cause she has such face too and neither has the syndrome actually!click to expand