Whats your view on first impressions?

A famous judge once said "You only have one chance to make a first impression, whether it's an interview for a school, your first job or even that first date, don't blow it! If its lousy you'll could spend decades clawing your way out of that first impression??_.that judge ladies and gentlemen was judge judy.

Tonight I just finished watching legally blonde 2 and while wiping away the tears I wondered, how does she do it—_..Elle woods came off as such a blonde ditz and was not taken seriously but she made it work in the end??_.maybe it was because she was pure of heart and her sense of justice prevailed or maybe it was just written that way.

Either way I want to know what do first impressions mean to you?

1. How do you receive first impressions.. Do they set everything in stone?

2. What first impression do you like to project and how you go about doing that.

1. Yes, they set everything in stone for me. I'm not into superficial stuff, like judging someone by their clothes, their income or anything else. I'll get a vibe from you and it seldom steers me wrong.

2. I'm myself. Anyone can take from this what they want, I won't dispel their image of me.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
A famous judge once said "You only have one chance to make a first impression, whether it's an interview for a school, your first job or even that first date, don't blow it! If its lousy you'll could spend decades clawing your way out of that first impression??_.that judge ladies and gentlemen was judge judy.

Tonight I just finished watching legally blonde 2 and while wiping away the tears I wondered, how does she do it—_..Elle woods came off as such a blonde ditz and was not taken seriously but she made it work in the end??_.maybe it was because she was pure of heart and her sense of justice prevailed or maybe it was just written that way.

Either way I want to know what do first impressions mean to you?

1. How do you receive first impressions.. Do they set everything in stone?

2. What first impression do you like to project and how you go about doing that.

1. They're set until the person gives me a reason to think otherwise-- a good one.

2. Well-- I think the vibe we send out depends a lot on how we feel about ourselves-- and I find that if you look good, you feel good.

If you're prepared, you'll be confident.

If you're fretting, people will pick up on that.


As for Elle, yes she was frequently misjudged-- and if the 2nd movie is like the first, she fought fire with fire.

She did the work, and refused to be intimidated.




lol 😛

Posted by Damnata
1. Yes, they set everything in stone for me. I'm not into superficial stuff, like judging someone by their clothes, their income or anything else. I'll get a vibe from you and it seldom steers me wrong.

2. I'm myself. Anyone can take from this what they want, I won't dispel their image of me.

When I first saw your pic I was thinking you were from america then I found out you were from rome and so then that lead me to think you have a transylvanian accent??_.just to clear things up would you say you have a transylvanian accent?

I get the american thing a lot. Don't know why.

There are 3 main accents in Romania : Oltenian (speaking fast as lighting, we even have a tense for this shit), Moldavian (stretching all the vowels in words - sounds close to italian), Transylvanian (streeetchiiiiing eveeeery woooooord - drives me up the wall)

Dad's Moldavian, mother's Oltenian. Lived in Oltenia all my life and then moved to Moldavia.

I have an Oltenian accent through and through. I sound like someone typing really fast lol.

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Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
A famous judge once said "You only have one chance to make a first impression, whether it's an interview for a school, your first job or even that first date, don't blow it! If its lousy you'll could spend decades clawing your way out of that first impression??_.that judge ladies and gentlemen was judge judy.

Tonight I just finished watching legally blonde 2 and while wiping away the tears I wondered, how does she do it—_..Elle woods came off as such a blonde ditz and was not taken seriously but she made it work in the end??_.maybe it was because she was pure of heart and her sense of justice prevailed or maybe it was just written that way.

Either way I want to know what do first impressions mean to you?

1. How do you receive first impressions.. Do they set everything in stone?

2. What first impression do you like to project and how you go about doing that.

1. They're set until the person gives me a reason to think otherwise-- a good one.

2. Well-- I think the vibe we send out depends a lot on how we feel about ourselves-- and I find that if you look good, you feel good.

If you're prepared, you'll be confident.

If you're fretting, people will pick up on that.


As for Elle, yes she was frequently misjudged-- and if the 2nd movie is like the first, she fought fire with fire.

She did the work, and refused to be intimidated.




lol 😛

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I like that, being prepared is confidence

LOL !! cute nice music...

good thing we cleared that up I was going to post the Dracula cha cha cha

There exists a Dracula cha cha cha? 🙂)

So we went from first impressions to the dracula cha cha cha.

God I love dxp.

oh you didn't know?

bwhahahaha

damn italians

"gli CANINI" LOL

Positive first impressions lead to an impartial social acceptance; negative first impressions lead to biases and prejudice.

1. I have senses..I see, I hear, I smell, I touch (umm..?) ..and I taste (...uh no lol) .. scratch out the last two (we are talking about people here right? and their first impression? lol)
anyways..since I am perceptive (having senses) that their contribution to my perception towards people..it exists there .. it's paradoxical that one person perceive what's coming from the outside world and saying that it does not affect or has power of having the first impression about people
however, I try to be critical about what I am perceiving..by asking myself questions..like 'is what you're perceiving now something consistent in its nature? is it not just passing sensory perception? is what I am seeing or perceiving all & only one out there? .. if there's something beyond that..would I be able not to let my senses and first instincts govern all what I am constructing about this person?'
..so yes, there is this first impression thing, it does exist, but I try not to rely solely on that..and to be critical .. sometimes it has proved that whilst some first impressions were quite accurate..other times they were not
we tend to think we are sure and positive what we are perceiving (sixth sense? vibes?) is concrete..but maybe it's not so true nor certain
I perceive, that creates first impressions..but I try not to be too quick to judge .. or even sometimes wait for something which would prove me or first impressions otherwise..I don't know..lol


2. having written of that unnecessarily lengthy comment above .. I'm worn out and do not have more energy to answer number 2.. sorry lol..

Posted by tiziani
As for me, it depends on how much I've had to eat when you catch up with me.

Same.

Give me food and I'm your best friend.

Posted by Damnata
1. ...I'm not into superficial stuff, like judging someone by their clothes, their income or anything else. I'll get a vibe from you and it seldom steers me wrong.

2. I'm myself. Anyone can take from this what they want, I won't dispel their image of me.

Posted by Fox

2. My mood will dictate how I'll be perceived on first impressions I think.

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+1

I'm pretty flexible about how I think of people. Pretty much the only thing guaranteed to make me steer away from someone long-term is consistent negativity on their part.

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
Positive first impressions lead to an impartial social acceptance; negative first impressions lead to biases and prejudice.

In my experience, not necessarily. I've been surprised when people have proved my negative/positive assumptions based on their first impression wrong - causing me to be more open minded for future ref.

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Sure, it's possible to be wrong about someone based on first impressions. Then again, if you feel someone is shady at first, are you really going to give them the chance to prove otherwise?

Whereas if the person you meet for the first time shows integrity and authenticity, they have a greater chance to connect with you.

I guess it would depend on how much time you want to waste with someone.

Always better to put your best foot forward.

You want anything in life you have to put your best foot forward.

It's up to you which route you want to take.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Always better to put your best foot forward.

haha wth...

Yeah, I was talking about people in general, not interviews and stuff. I don't see the need to impress either with strangers, friends or romantic liaisons.

To be honest most of the time I'm so lost in my thoughts I just stumble on people on the street.

LOL DJ.

I can actually go out of my way to make a bad impression. Just for the hell of it. 😉

First impressions are very important. People tend to take stock in their first impression and it's hard to change it once it's been made.

My first impressions are pretty accurate, not always, but most of the time. I'll blame the scorpio rising - it helps you see beyond the front to the person inside.

I'd like the first impression people get of me to be capable, kind, pleasant, neat and reliable.

Since we're talking about first impressions I literally had a guy walk up to me two days ago:

"Are you an Aquarius or a Gemini?

LOL at that.

I was in an art gallery, criticizing everything.

He was a Libra, I engaged him long enough to find that out.

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
LOL DJ.

I can actually go out of my way to make a bad impression. Just for the hell of it. 😉

We could have a lot of fun together 🙂

I had someone come up to me this morning and ask me a question about the schedule, when it was obvious the answer to her question. I rubbed her the wrong way. I was cringing for the next hour but was happy to see her say goodbye and make eye contact with me when she left with a friendly smile. Thank God for understanding people.

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If they can't understand, then they don't deserve and yes, I sense we would bring the house down together.

People normally present themselves much better than they actually are.

It's not until the honeymoon is over that most people take their mask off to show you the real them.

And this seems to apply to all levels of relating ... apparently, most people must not believe in themselves enough, or value themselves enough to present themselves according to who they really are.

for this reason ... I never form an opinion of a person until they've been stripped bare.

Just look in dxp, as an example .... the ONLY reason all these women are having failed relationships is because they fell for a mask, and not the man.

I refuse to make a false impression .... this is me.


I won't save the real me for certain people, to wear a cold mask while actually being soft underneath ... that is false, and deceptive.


I detest fake people.

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Posted by truecap
First impressions are very important. People tend to take stock in their first impression and it's hard to change it once it's been made.

My first impressions are pretty accurate, not always, but most of the time. I'll blame the scorpio rising - it helps you see beyond the front to the person inside.

I'd like the first impression people get of me to be capable, kind, pleasant, neat and reliable.

I think you saw me for what I am about pretty quickly. I've never sensed anything but steady calmness from you.

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Thanks.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
A famous judge once said "You only have one chance to make a first impression, whether it's an interview for a school, your first job or even that first date, don't blow it! If its lousy you'll could spend decades clawing your way out of that first impression??_.that judge ladies and gentlemen was judge judy.

Tonight I just finished watching legally blonde 2 and while wiping away the tears I wondered, how does she do it—_..Elle woods came off as such a blonde ditz and was not taken seriously but she made it work in the end??_.maybe it was because she was pure of heart and her sense of justice prevailed or maybe it was just written that way.

Either way I want to know what do first impressions mean to you?

1. How do you receive first impressions.. Do they set everything in stone?

2. What first impression do you like to project and how you go about doing that.

For 1, it does give me a good way of sizing up the person. But I also know that sometimes people can be flustered, sick, or putting up a front so for me things are not set.

For 2, I like to project me. Take it or leave it. Only time its different is business. That's woad wearing war...

Posted by P-Angel

I refuse to make a false impression .... this is me.


I won't save the real me for certain people, to wear a cold mask while actually being soft underneath ... that is false, and deceptive.


I detest fake people.

Are you soft underneath the cold mask you wear here? 😉

Nothing is set in stone for me, I meet someone again in a sense for the first time every time I see them. Who knows what has changed since you last spoke or met, everything is fluid, everything changes, ESPECIALLY the human condition. Some people are jerks for a reeeeeally long time before they heal and become not-jerks. Not gonna hold anyone to my perception of them.

When I meet someone's first impression I'm genuinely interested I like to know their background and stuff, even though they have a bad reputation I will always form my own opinion on them, I hate wondering If I'm going to miss something special from a person if I blow them off from a first bad impression??_.

I can't help but make a good first impression when I meet people I smile and nod or if they're asian I bow lol??_.I'm very polite well mannered kind of guy.
I come off as jovial, lighthearted, confident, competent and a lot of fun but i guess its just my first impression, sustaining it is very draining for me??_. when someone gets to know me they find out that I really just like to be left alone and be silly like a child most of the time and If you piss me off I'll have a tantrum and then I'll cut them off??_.its hard for me to let people see me on a deeper level because that side of me is really shy lol acting brings it out in me I think..

heres an oscar wilde quote on acting..
—Actors are so fortunate. They can choose whether they will appear in tragedy or in comedy, whether they will suffer or make merry, laugh or shed tears. But in real life it is different. Most men and women are forced to perform parts for which they have no qualifications. Our Guildensterns play Hamlet for us, and our Hamlets have to jest like Prince Hal. The world is a stage, but the play is badly cast.??

Posted by LilyTree
First impressions are just part of the human condition. Whether we are consciously aware we are making judgments when we first meet someone, we all do. It's human nature.

Studies show that it takes several meetings before we change our minds about a person. When first meeting someone, simply "being who you are" isn't always the best strategy, most especially if you only have a few minutes to make an impression (like at a busy business dinner.) It takes multiple incidents in different contexts to truly reverse a bad first-impression in someone's mind, and that one moment could have been your only chance. So, you try and bring your assets to the fore-front to maximum time constraints. It does not mean you're fake.

I always remind myself that my impressions of people are my judgements, and that while I may hold onto what I perceive someone to be, I need to consciously keep an open mind and see them on that particular day (and not how they were the first time I met them.) However, if I get a strong visceral reaction to someone, I do not second-guess myself, and I go with my gut-feeling. We have instincts for a reason, and I don't believe in forcing oneself, especially when it's a negative reaction.

Love this, too often we forget that our impressions of others (not just first impressions) are subjective and we're drawing on our own life experiences and reactions to things to judge the other person as if they are us. But they have lived a totally different life, have been hurt and found happiness in different ways and situations, and their general reactions/mannerisms/ways are partially a result of that personal journey that we'll never understand. Of course we judge anyway, but that doesn't mean our judgement is always on point. Real intuition over-runs that subjectivity sometimes, but most of the time I think we're just projecting a whole lot and assuming it's coming from the other person. Things that bother us/intrigue us about other people usually hold clues to things that bother us/intrigue about ourselves in some way (just my opinion).

Maybe I just want to like everyone too much 🙂