Why People Are Such A**Hol*s on the Internet
This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by CreepyPants on Wednesday, February 12, 2014 and has 36 replies.
Anyone who has spent a significant amount of time on internet message boards, chatrooms, or comment sections has, at some point:
Had their political views compared to that of Hitler??s.
Had their sexual orientation, sexual experience or sexual prowess challenged or ridiculed.
Suffered from threats of physical violence, both against themselves and their mothers.
Had sarcastic cat pictures posted to make fun of them.
The internet has a way of bringing out the worst in people. You may think that the internet simply allows people to say what they were already thinking anyway. But I disagree. It goes further than that. It??s not that people were already thinking these things but never had the courage to say them in person.
There??s something about the internet that warps our perceptions of one another.
Case in point: in many cases problems and disagreements that arise on the internet magically disappear in person.
For example, when I lived in Boston, I was a member of a private men??s group. We had maybe 100 members, a private message board, and would get together a couple times a month.
As with any internet forum, dozen-page long arguments would erupt over inane subjects such as who should pay for dates or which government policies were causing economic problems. Sometimes these arguments would escalate to name-calling and insults, and even in some cases, people threatening to leave the group entirely because of the amount of ???disrespect?? that would get lobbed around.
Yet, inevitably, at the next meeting we??d all end up in some restaurant sharing beers and laughs as if nothing happened. If the topic of the argument did arise in person, people would shrug it off and say it was no big deal. Or in some cases, they??d resolve the disagreement within minutes of speaking face-to-face.
Back in the early 2000??_s, video game tournaments caught on and became a big thing. If you managed to reach a world-class level at a game such as Quake 3 or Counterstrike, you could fly around the world and win thousands of dollars for your skills. I became particularly good at Unreal Tournament, winning pretty much every small tournament in Texas and often placing well in the larger national tournaments. So as I got older, I actually had the opportunity to meet a lot of these angry screen names in person.
Had their political views compared to that of Hitler??s.
Had their sexual orientation, sexual experience or sexual prowess challenged or ridiculed.
Suffered from threats of physical violence, both against themselves and their mothers.
Had sarcastic cat pictures posted to make fun of them.
The internet has a way of bringing out the worst in people. You may think that the internet simply allows people to say what they were already thinking anyway. But I disagree. It goes further than that. It??s not that people were already thinking these things but never had the courage to say them in person.
There??s something about the internet that warps our perceptions of one another.
Case in point: in many cases problems and disagreements that arise on the internet magically disappear in person.
For example, when I lived in Boston, I was a member of a private men??s group. We had maybe 100 members, a private message board, and would get together a couple times a month.
As with any internet forum, dozen-page long arguments would erupt over inane subjects such as who should pay for dates or which government policies were causing economic problems. Sometimes these arguments would escalate to name-calling and insults, and even in some cases, people threatening to leave the group entirely because of the amount of ???disrespect?? that would get lobbed around.
Yet, inevitably, at the next meeting we??d all end up in some restaurant sharing beers and laughs as if nothing happened. If the topic of the argument did arise in person, people would shrug it off and say it was no big deal. Or in some cases, they??d resolve the disagreement within minutes of speaking face-to-face.
Back in the early 2000??_s, video game tournaments caught on and became a big thing. If you managed to reach a world-class level at a game such as Quake 3 or Counterstrike, you could fly around the world and win thousands of dollars for your skills. I became particularly good at Unreal Tournament, winning pretty much every small tournament in Texas and often placing well in the larger national tournaments. So as I got older, I actually had the opportunity to meet a lot of these angry screen names in person.
Meeting people you knew online at these big tournaments was kind of a big deal. We took the games seriously, so many of us spent more time online with each other than we did with our real life friends. Tensions were often high. People split into factions and took sides against one another over petty disagreements or stupid grudges. Sometimes people threatened to bring their friends to the events to kick another person??s ass in person. A few times even death threats were thrown around. If you went simply by the chat logs, you??d expect these tournaments to be complete catastrophes.
But here??s the funny thing: at every event single event I ever went to, within minutes we were all friends. The threats never came up. The guy who had angrily threatened to rape my mother a week before would invite me to lunch and we??d laugh about some movie we had both just seen. It was bizarre. You spend 360 days per year hating on each other and then the five you actually see each other, it??s like you??re best friends.
And you may thinking, ???Well, duh, these are groups of men.?? Well, in that case, I invite you to spend an afternoon on some popular feminist (and apparently motherhood) websites and prepare to watch the accusations of fascist rape-apologist and traumatizing child-abuser fly.
For whatever reason, the internet tends to bring out everyone??s inner asshole.
I think everybody has had the experience of that almost blinding rage you get at reading something someone else wrote on your computer screen as you hit ???Reply?? and start typing furiously in response. It sucks. But there??s also something addictive about it. You can??t turn away. You can??t stop. And inevitably, that furious response you write ??? you click ???Send?? and beam with pride as you read it over again, you got them ??? that same response you??re so proud of is read by the other person and just creates another bout of blinding rage in them as and they begin to furiously type back at you.
Why does this happen? Why do slight and insignificant differences in opinion become uncrossable ideological chasms online? What is it about this mode of communication that causes everyone else to sound so much like Hitler?
We idealize the other person??s viewpoints or attitudes ??? Since I began blogging in 2007, I??ve been told that I??m a racist, sexist, fascist, communist, woman-hater, man-hater, liar with no conscience, a scam artist, a sexless virgin, a misogynistic playe
But here??s the funny thing: at every event single event I ever went to, within minutes we were all friends. The threats never came up. The guy who had angrily threatened to rape my mother a week before would invite me to lunch and we??d laugh about some movie we had both just seen. It was bizarre. You spend 360 days per year hating on each other and then the five you actually see each other, it??s like you??re best friends.
And you may thinking, ???Well, duh, these are groups of men.?? Well, in that case, I invite you to spend an afternoon on some popular feminist (and apparently motherhood) websites and prepare to watch the accusations of fascist rape-apologist and traumatizing child-abuser fly.
For whatever reason, the internet tends to bring out everyone??s inner asshole.
I think everybody has had the experience of that almost blinding rage you get at reading something someone else wrote on your computer screen as you hit ???Reply?? and start typing furiously in response. It sucks. But there??s also something addictive about it. You can??t turn away. You can??t stop. And inevitably, that furious response you write ??? you click ???Send?? and beam with pride as you read it over again, you got them ??? that same response you??re so proud of is read by the other person and just creates another bout of blinding rage in them as and they begin to furiously type back at you.
Why does this happen? Why do slight and insignificant differences in opinion become uncrossable ideological chasms online? What is it about this mode of communication that causes everyone else to sound so much like Hitler?
We idealize the other person??s viewpoints or attitudes ??? Since I began blogging in 2007, I??ve been told that I??m a racist, sexist, fascist, communist, woman-hater, man-hater, liar with no conscience, a scam artist, a sexless virgin, a misogynistic playe
We idealize the other person??s viewpoints or attitudes ??? Since I began blogging in 2007, I??ve been told that I??m a racist, sexist, fascist, communist, woman-hater, man-hater, liar with no conscience, a scam artist, a sexless virgin, a misogynistic player, and too young to know anything about anything. Strangely, I??ve never been accused of being any of these things in my personal life.
The problem with the internet is that while information is easily conveyed, intention is not. If we??re reading something written by an anonymous person, whether we agree with them or not, we automatically make assumptions about their intentions. If we like what they say, we make the assumption that they already align with many of our values and our worldview. If we don??t like what they say, then we make assumptions about their values and worldview and lump them in with stereotypes of groups with which we disagree.
It??s intellectually lazy, but a natural cognitive function. When we lack sufficient information about a person??s views, we stereotype them. And the very medium of the internet makes it so that we almost constantly lack sufficient information about people??s views.
Why?
Confrontation has no negative social consequences ??? If I disagree with somebody in real life, there are potential consequences to escalating that disagreement into a confrontation or into personal insults. For one, I could get my ass kicked. I could get thrown out of a venue. I could be embarrassed in front of all of my peers or start a grudge match and risk future repercussions.
People say idiotic and offensive things on the internet simply for the reason that they can and it doesn??t matter. They??re effectively anonymous. And even when they??re not, it??s rare that anyone cares enough to follow up and enact social consequences for their crass statements.
Except for those rare and beautiful instances when there are social consequences, those same assholes straighten up as if they joined a monastery. Take for example this punk from England who harassed a professional boxer for months before magically straightening up and apologizing when the boxer found out where he lived and actually drove to his house to confront him. Or the boy who called a elderly female professor an ???old dirty slut?? and then immediately issued an apology when internet users forwarded his comments to his mother.
Everything is public ??? This one is counter-intuitive. You would think t
The problem with the internet is that while information is easily conveyed, intention is not. If we??re reading something written by an anonymous person, whether we agree with them or not, we automatically make assumptions about their intentions. If we like what they say, we make the assumption that they already align with many of our values and our worldview. If we don??t like what they say, then we make assumptions about their values and worldview and lump them in with stereotypes of groups with which we disagree.
It??s intellectually lazy, but a natural cognitive function. When we lack sufficient information about a person??s views, we stereotype them. And the very medium of the internet makes it so that we almost constantly lack sufficient information about people??s views.
Why?
Confrontation has no negative social consequences ??? If I disagree with somebody in real life, there are potential consequences to escalating that disagreement into a confrontation or into personal insults. For one, I could get my ass kicked. I could get thrown out of a venue. I could be embarrassed in front of all of my peers or start a grudge match and risk future repercussions.
People say idiotic and offensive things on the internet simply for the reason that they can and it doesn??t matter. They??re effectively anonymous. And even when they??re not, it??s rare that anyone cares enough to follow up and enact social consequences for their crass statements.
Except for those rare and beautiful instances when there are social consequences, those same assholes straighten up as if they joined a monastery. Take for example this punk from England who harassed a professional boxer for months before magically straightening up and apologizing when the boxer found out where he lived and actually drove to his house to confront him. Or the boy who called a elderly female professor an ???old dirty slut?? and then immediately issued an apology when internet users forwarded his comments to his mother.
Everything is public ??? This one is counter-intuitive. You would think t
Everything is public ??? This one is counter-intuitive. You would think that communicating in a public medium would cause people to be more careful about what they say, but it causes the opposite.
Imagine you??re at a party and you have a disagreement with someone you??re talking to. Chances are it may be a bit annoying but not a huge deal. You two laugh about it and change the subject. Now imagine you have that same disagreement except 60 people are standing around listening to every word each of you says. Chances are you will feel far more defensive of your views and will be far more likely to attack them for theirs.
Humans are wired to be sensitive to not only of how we??re being perceived by others, but our reputations within certain social groups. When we have a disagreement in private, this does not threaten our social standing with anyone except for the person which we disagree with. But when we??re online, there??s an inherent publicity about it. Hundreds, if not thousands, of people can hop on and see someone trashing your ideas at any given moment. As a result, we??re far more likely to defend our turf and more likely to be aggressive about it.
Ever notice that private chats online are almost always civil and calm? Yet, big forum threads or comment sections turn into a complete shit show? Yup.
The effects of self-selection ??? Comments, forums, chatrooms all usually require that you register or take the time to type out your thoughts. As a result, the only people tend to bother doing such a thing are people who feel particularly positive or negative about something. All of the people who feel neutral or slightly one way or another get lost because sharing their opinion is not worth the investment of time and effort for them.
In this way, internet discourse self-selects for the most extreme viewpoints. And unfortunately, being only presented to the extreme viewpoints in any situation causes our views to diverge even further. The debate becomes defined by the extreme minorities at both polls while the silent majority in the middle either checks out out entirely or gets sucked into one extreme viewpoint or the other.
Sound kind of like politics in the 21st century?
What does this mean for culture?
Freud made the argument that for society to exist, man??s worst impulses ??? violence, selfishness, inappropriate sexuality ??? must be kept in check. The internet is possibly the first mechanism in human history that allows soci
Imagine you??re at a party and you have a disagreement with someone you??re talking to. Chances are it may be a bit annoying but not a huge deal. You two laugh about it and change the subject. Now imagine you have that same disagreement except 60 people are standing around listening to every word each of you says. Chances are you will feel far more defensive of your views and will be far more likely to attack them for theirs.
Humans are wired to be sensitive to not only of how we??re being perceived by others, but our reputations within certain social groups. When we have a disagreement in private, this does not threaten our social standing with anyone except for the person which we disagree with. But when we??re online, there??s an inherent publicity about it. Hundreds, if not thousands, of people can hop on and see someone trashing your ideas at any given moment. As a result, we??re far more likely to defend our turf and more likely to be aggressive about it.
Ever notice that private chats online are almost always civil and calm? Yet, big forum threads or comment sections turn into a complete shit show? Yup.
The effects of self-selection ??? Comments, forums, chatrooms all usually require that you register or take the time to type out your thoughts. As a result, the only people tend to bother doing such a thing are people who feel particularly positive or negative about something. All of the people who feel neutral or slightly one way or another get lost because sharing their opinion is not worth the investment of time and effort for them.
In this way, internet discourse self-selects for the most extreme viewpoints. And unfortunately, being only presented to the extreme viewpoints in any situation causes our views to diverge even further. The debate becomes defined by the extreme minorities at both polls while the silent majority in the middle either checks out out entirely or gets sucked into one extreme viewpoint or the other.
Sound kind of like politics in the 21st century?
What does this mean for culture?
Freud made the argument that for society to exist, man??s worst impulses ??? violence, selfishness, inappropriate sexuality ??? must be kept in check. The internet is possibly the first mechanism in human history that allows soci
What does this mean for culture?
Freud made the argument that for society to exist, man??s worst impulses ??? violence, selfishness, inappropriate sexuality ??? must be kept in check. The internet is possibly the first mechanism in human history that allows society to not only exist, but thrive, by removing the need for self-censorship. With no consequences and less efficient communication, people are rewarded for shock value of what they say as much as the content and meaning.
Although this opens up more possibilities for thought and communication and has led to rapid social changes all over the world, it brings new challenges with it as well.
Already, internet culture seems to be adapting. New social functions are being labelled and understood. Trolls pick fights unnecessarily. Memes are ways for people to share laughter about topics which are sometimes taken too seriously. Social media allows us to negotiate the meaning of a swarm of ideas in a short amount of time.
But at the same time, we??re all exposed to more dialog and more people??s thoughts than at any other point in history. While it??s good that human communication has achieved infinite capacity, as individuals we must also adapt to these new realities. We must begin accepting responsibility for how we react to what we read. We have to accept that we will always be offended by somebody, in some way, and sometimes live with it.
That??s the hidden cost of the combination of free speech and limitless capacity for communication: more assholes.
And while the internet grants us all the right to communicate whatever we want, as much as we want, we must armor ourselves to the id of humanity. We must teach ourselves to be a little more resilient, a little more patient, a little less judgmental. And understand that that nitwit asshole on the other side of the screen is sometimes the same person you??d be happy to have a beer with in person.
Freud made the argument that for society to exist, man??s worst impulses ??? violence, selfishness, inappropriate sexuality ??? must be kept in check. The internet is possibly the first mechanism in human history that allows society to not only exist, but thrive, by removing the need for self-censorship. With no consequences and less efficient communication, people are rewarded for shock value of what they say as much as the content and meaning.
Although this opens up more possibilities for thought and communication and has led to rapid social changes all over the world, it brings new challenges with it as well.
Already, internet culture seems to be adapting. New social functions are being labelled and understood. Trolls pick fights unnecessarily. Memes are ways for people to share laughter about topics which are sometimes taken too seriously. Social media allows us to negotiate the meaning of a swarm of ideas in a short amount of time.
But at the same time, we??re all exposed to more dialog and more people??s thoughts than at any other point in history. While it??s good that human communication has achieved infinite capacity, as individuals we must also adapt to these new realities. We must begin accepting responsibility for how we react to what we read. We have to accept that we will always be offended by somebody, in some way, and sometimes live with it.
That??s the hidden cost of the combination of free speech and limitless capacity for communication: more assholes.
And while the internet grants us all the right to communicate whatever we want, as much as we want, we must armor ourselves to the id of humanity. We must teach ourselves to be a little more resilient, a little more patient, a little less judgmental. And understand that that nitwit asshole on the other side of the screen is sometimes the same person you??d be happy to have a beer with in person.
Posted by feby16aqua
you are a guy?
it's an article by a guy names Mark Manson.
just sharing something provocative.
nothing like starting the morning with a thread that might get me virtually slapped across the face.
*named*
Posted by Rabbit
Because a lot of people are pansy asses who hide behind their screens and release pent up anger. Kind of like people who will flip you off while in their car but turn bitch when you get out of your car and walk up to their window.
Internet tough talkers.
not all of us. some really do what they do in real life. if they have room to do what they do, then they are prepared to meet the consequences of their action (example, flipping off someone who you know is bigger than you, and meaner. You're not gonna run the other way. They flipped off that person because they have a death wish OR they have martial arts or something)
no one is that stupid, unless they really really are.
Creepy, plus it's also "aggression" letting off steam online. Just like sports tv watchers who yell and scream at the television and sometimes they break it. Even video game players. They break the controller or game. It's just aggression.
wouldn't it be better online and at the tv than at their families?
wouldn't it be better online and at the tv than at their families?
Posted by capinc
I'm so disappointed. I thought you were some kind of video game nerd. You broke my heart creepy.
Ah, but there was a time...
I might still be able to spank you at COD if you're ever in need of a FPS spanking.
been a while though.
Good read. I agree with most of what was said.
Reputation is a thing on the Internet whether you think it is or not. Especially to those of us who get caught up in arguments and say rude things. If you were pming this person away from everyone's eyes, your purpose for arguing disappears unless you have some deep rooted issue with the person. Likely the mood would settle and you might even get along. And if we all met in person? I imagine a lot of people would like those that they had beef with as long as they're not to stubborn to try to get along.
Not sure about the section that talked about the extremes of opinions being the ones that are active on boards. But I liked everything else.
Thanks for sharing
Reputation is a thing on the Internet whether you think it is or not. Especially to those of us who get caught up in arguments and say rude things. If you were pming this person away from everyone's eyes, your purpose for arguing disappears unless you have some deep rooted issue with the person. Likely the mood would settle and you might even get along. And if we all met in person? I imagine a lot of people would like those that they had beef with as long as they're not to stubborn to try to get along.
Not sure about the section that talked about the extremes of opinions being the ones that are active on boards. But I liked everything else.
Thanks for sharing
I think I might be one of the only people on the planet that's actually nicer on the internet than I am in reality lol.
Posted by lisabethur8
Creepy, plus it's also "aggression" letting off steam online. Just like sports tv watchers who yell and scream at the television and sometimes they break it. Even video game players. They break the controller or game. It's just aggression.
wouldn't it be better online and at the tv than at their families?
In that case, it's any illusion of what we may deem as a safe outlet for violent aggression. Ideally.. Just chill out.
If it's going to be anything, I suppose the internet is the "safest" vs. throwing pots n pans across the room, or having an aneurism from screaming.
But more and more of our lives are lived virtually. Maybe we're safe from physical harm, but you can still do a lot of damage online. And when some people open the door for aggressive feelings or impulses, they potentially open the door for more violence than they think themselves capable of. I don't think people actually ever create boundaries for violent behavior. Our standards dont usually work that way.
Posted by CreepyPantsPosted by lisabethur8
Creepy, plus it's also "aggression" letting off steam online. Just like sports tv watchers who yell and scream at the television and sometimes they break it. Even video game players. They break the controller or game. It's just aggression.
wouldn't it be better online and at the tv than at their families?
In that case, it's any illusion of what we may deem as a safe outlet for violent aggression. Ideally.. Just chill out.
If it's going to be anything, I suppose the internet is the "safest" vs. throwing pots n pans across the room, or having an aneurism from screaming.
But more and more of our lives are lived virtually. Maybe we're safe from physical harm, but you can still do a lot of damage online. And when some people open the door for aggressive feelings or impulses, they potentially open the door for more violence than they think themselves capable of. I don't think people actually ever create boundaries for violent behavior. Our standards dont usually work that way.click to expand
Ideally? doesn't work in the real world like that. We're not robots. we all have feelings and sometimes we are angry and take it out on others, even if deep down we don't mean to. Then the other person gets butthurt and makes plans to take revenge out of the other person because of the "reaction"...everything spirals. It's never gonna change. Some people dont take it out on others, but allow it to simmer inside them, and that's also not good. That's why there's a ton of outlets out there, like taking up martial arts, taking up a sports, ect. To get all that aggression out. if you're a naturally more testosteroned person, i'm guessing it's easy to get pissed easily and take it up on physical objects.
It's easier to state your true opinions online then it is in the real world. Besides, it's easier to find people with the same political opinion as you online. And we expect no consequences online like we would IRL.
it makes me suspicious why Freud said what he did and published it. It's similar to any Philosopher who write many books and the "ideas" are great, but it isn't "realistic" or can never be applied to people in practice. He's living in some kind of fabricated world with people who don't have any impulses. He's aware of it, but to believe it can be controlled? Not really. Channeling it is better.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by CreepyPantsPosted by lisabethur8
Creepy, plus it's also "aggression" letting off steam online. Just like sports tv watchers who yell and scream at the television and sometimes they break it. Even video game players. They break the controller or game. It's just aggression.
wouldn't it be better online and at the tv than at their families?
In that case, it's any illusion of what we may deem as a safe outlet for violent aggression. Ideally.. Just chill out.
If it's going to be anything, I suppose the internet is the "safest" vs. throwing pots n pans across the room, or having an aneurism from screaming.
But more and more of our lives are lived virtually. Maybe we're safe from physical harm, but you can still do a lot of damage online. And when some people open the door for aggressive feelings or impulses, they potentially open the door for more violence than they think themselves capable of. I don't think people actually ever create boundaries for violent behavior. Our standards dont usually work that way.
Ideally? doesn't work in the real world like that. We're not robots. we all have feelings and sometimes we are angry and take it out on others, even if deep down we don't mean to. Then the other person gets butthurt and makes plans to take revenge out of the other person because of the "reaction"...everything spirals. It's never gonna change. Some people dont take it out on others, but allow it to simmer inside them, and that's also not good. That's why there's a ton of outlets out there, like taking up martial arts, taking up a sports, ect. To get all that aggression out. if you're a naturally more testosteroned person, i'm guessing it's easy to get pissed easily and take it up on physical objects.click to expand
I completely agree. We're not all equipped with zen-like mindfulness.
Posted by geminicandIe
Creepy I thought you wrote this article and I thought damn girlllll, you had some interesting experiences!! An "all guys" room
Thank you for sharing. Interesting for sure.
lol i know, i should've typed the author in first before pasting the article. i was flying out the door for work and wanted to post this read really quick.
Thanks for sharing Creepy??_
People should recognize that the meanness or bullying they experience from others on the internet is not about them but rather about the ones who are being mean. If you don't personalize the meanness it has less of an impact.
People should recognize that the meanness or bullying they experience from others on the internet is not about them but rather about the ones who are being mean. If you don't personalize the meanness it has less of an impact.
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Thanks for sharing Creepy??_
People should recognize that the meanness or bullying they experience from others on the internet is not about them but rather about the ones who are being mean. If you don't personalize the meanness it has less of an impact.
you betcha!
Posted by Rabbit
It goes back to what DJ said.
So many people being dicks would never spout off like they do if they had to say it someone's face and see the physical reaction.
Don't be so sure about that. The way I see it...you either stand up for yourself and what you believe in, or you run like a bitch. Can't tell you how many people here I'd love just five minutes with eye to eye.
Last time I checked, freedom of speech is not suppose to be something we should be afraid of.
If physical violence ensues, well then...there's other freedoms that come in with it.
If physical violence ensues, well then...there's other freedoms that come in with it.
Posted by CluelessCancer
Ya im in bitch mode today. I admit it.
and I'm feelin a little feisty today.
ho hum??_ i wonder what's up with the stars...
Great article.
Certain people just can't remain civil, when given a chance to act like animals
dxp is an excellent place to observe this ghetto behavior
Certain people just can't remain civil, when given a chance to act like animals
dxp is an excellent place to observe this ghetto behavior
I'm a pain in the ass on both sides of the screen. I'm comfy with that.
Posted by Rabbit
I for one wouldn't underestimate you of all people.
I mean that in a good way, BTW
I swear one day I'm going to be killed. I'm worse when I see anyone I care about getting stepped on. I'm wise enough to know it's not that good of a thing for most people to be that way, but if I run..I won't sleep, I'm more constructive and precise in the real world..but here, there's no filter..don't need one, dxp provides that to the whiners who don't want to hear it. I question why they don't? (I keep coming up with the same answer on that too)
Anyway..Example is if I'm caught in a conversation with a group of people, or dealing with those bastards who are fleecing America (gas, telephone and electric companies etc. who btw probably have me red flagged) when I see a charge that's bogus, I call them on it. (just nailed telephone co. they double charged county tax), In fact I know the post office people and ladies at the utility companies enjoy getting my payments. You should see the notes I scribble all over the envelope. lol..the last one (no kidding)
"brrr..people are freezing their nuts off, barely can get by in this economy..but hey lets jack the gas prices up, make them bend over anyway so corporate folk can send little Johnny overseas to a private school"
I draw pictures too...lol. On that^^ one it was a squiggly stick person to signify shivering, (with a small shaped frozen penis on the ground if anyone could figure it out) and another stick person bending over with a sad face. It's really good for the frustration not so much for myself, but those who have less and are going through enough bullshit to survive. I've done this in grocery stores too. Caught them jacking up the price on EVERYTHING the day before Sandy hit us. I made a poster and put it in their lobby. Nice graphics on that one.. We have a Nor'easter hitting us tonight through Friday. Guarantee the prices have jacked since yesterday.
It's either "why me"? or "oh no you don't" Everyone has a right to choose which. I'm numb to those who feel my choice is the wrong one, I could care less. Not justifying anything here, but I really am not one to sit back to fight my neck muscles to nod my head yes when I really know it's NO!
Now if we all sat around with a bottle of Bourbon...I'd have you all in tears from laughing. I'm sure of it!
Imitating people, situations/political sarcasm are my specialty.
Imitating people, situations/political sarcasm are my specialty.
Here's the real reason.
Because we're forced to be polite, politically correct, ass kissers in everyday life. If you have a boss, clients or customers, you know exactly what I mean.
In America, people expect you to be super smiling and nicey nice, and not state things directly.
So when you go through life dealing with bs and bottling up how you truly feel and what you are actually wanting to say...
Well, when you finally get a chance to do that on the internet....RELEASE THE HOUNDS.
If people were more permitted to be real in-person (without worrying about instantly getting fired, reputation ruined, sued or anything else that happens so easily in this country and time nowadays), people would probably be more balanced all around.
I'm not excusing nastiness, just saying that when directness and honesty is so repressed, I can easily see how that could mutate to nastiness at the first opportunity.
Because we're forced to be polite, politically correct, ass kissers in everyday life. If you have a boss, clients or customers, you know exactly what I mean.
In America, people expect you to be super smiling and nicey nice, and not state things directly.
So when you go through life dealing with bs and bottling up how you truly feel and what you are actually wanting to say...
Well, when you finally get a chance to do that on the internet....RELEASE THE HOUNDS.
If people were more permitted to be real in-person (without worrying about instantly getting fired, reputation ruined, sued or anything else that happens so easily in this country and time nowadays), people would probably be more balanced all around.
I'm not excusing nastiness, just saying that when directness and honesty is so repressed, I can easily see how that could mutate to nastiness at the first opportunity.
Whoever does that It's because somehow they are weak in real life.
Most of them never set foot in the gym.
And if they were involved in a real fight at least once in life, it was because they were 90% sure they would win.
Bullying people behind a screen also means they can't control their emotions, which makes them less evolved humans.
Sad.
???Courage is the first of human virtues because it makes all others possible.??
Aristotle.
Most of them never set foot in the gym.
And if they were involved in a real fight at least once in life, it was because they were 90% sure they would win.
Bullying people behind a screen also means they can't control their emotions, which makes them less evolved humans.
Sad.
???Courage is the first of human virtues because it makes all others possible.??
Aristotle.
Posted by capincPosted by CreepyPantsPosted by capinc
I'm so disappointed. I thought you were some kind of video game nerd. You broke my heart creepy.
Ah, but there was a time...
I might still be able to spank you at COD if you're ever in need of a FPS spanking.
I don't know about all those new ones but I'm beast at the original COD4 Modern Warfare.click to expand
oh it's on. i left off on COD4 modern warfare. *evil grin*
Usually when you have most people who are on sites such as dxpnet.com and other sites associated with dxpnet.com and they have it in for a person/s then they will find any excuse or reason and even make up reason/s or excuses to get at a person and use this information to destroy the person. This is what you people are doing to me but since i am already gone and I am not here anymore then i welcome this totally insane behaviour from the likes of majority of you its just makes me feel much better when I realise i am right and have been all along about you people and how you all really are. I just need more time to understand you all and I like to enjoy doing this on dxpnet.com its actually one awesome site in for this.
The people who have been at me, by being angry posting disrespectful and degrading remarks and not listening kindly nor responding kindly to what I post which is a reaction to this insipid anger(undefinable behaviour) you all seem to have for me, for what i dont know and I for one do not want to have this pointed out to me degradingly like you have repeatedly over the years to try to get me to do what you want me to do. Your not helping me by behaving this way. You certainly have control issues and feel very threatened by peoples who will not do as you all say as you do not want people to know everything about you selves. Understandable. What i dont find understandable is that you get people to intrude upon my life and use this information against me to try to destroy me with it for what? I am trying to sort myself out and would like very much for you all to leave me alone so I can do this. You have repeat this behaviour all the time during all my various lives and even now after death! Gosh, I know what you are and yes you can get me if you want too (which i know you very well do) so whats stopping you all from doing exactly what it is you truly want to do?
You all left me and abandoned me and now think that by pretending to like me to suck me into your way of thinking and doing things again will somehow 'help' me and if i dont do what you all say you will turn nasty and go legal on me when i say what I say because you all have alot of guilt upon your soul/s which you all will die when you do anyway theres no help for the people who have done this to me for sure. I know this. Anyway thats the least of my problems I cant help you people anymore like I once did. I never wanted to nor do i accept that what you did to me and I never will.
The people who have been at me, by being angry posting disrespectful and degrading remarks and not listening kindly nor responding kindly to what I post which is a reaction to this insipid anger(undefinable behaviour) you all seem to have for me, for what i dont know and I for one do not want to have this pointed out to me degradingly like you have repeatedly over the years to try to get me to do what you want me to do. Your not helping me by behaving this way. You certainly have control issues and feel very threatened by peoples who will not do as you all say as you do not want people to know everything about you selves. Understandable. What i dont find understandable is that you get people to intrude upon my life and use this information against me to try to destroy me with it for what? I am trying to sort myself out and would like very much for you all to leave me alone so I can do this. You have repeat this behaviour all the time during all my various lives and even now after death! Gosh, I know what you are and yes you can get me if you want too (which i know you very well do) so whats stopping you all from doing exactly what it is you truly want to do?
You all left me and abandoned me and now think that by pretending to like me to suck me into your way of thinking and doing things again will somehow 'help' me and if i dont do what you all say you will turn nasty and go legal on me when i say what I say because you all have alot of guilt upon your soul/s which you all will die when you do anyway theres no help for the people who have done this to me for sure. I know this. Anyway thats the least of my problems I cant help you people anymore like I once did. I never wanted to nor do i accept that what you did to me and I never will.
I am over it and now trying to sort my life out without you all in it and am realising now that you have lured me here to this site under false pretenses and trying to draw out and make me speak of what you did to me which i havent done yet. Its funny I have remained silent for a long time about such matters yet you people havent you go on and on about bullshit and to try to get me involved and so call 'spill the beans' by using almost all the tricks in the book except one, to try to hang me for your own BS, its not going to work and it never will because I know what you all are and how you all are and the final descision will be mine and thats that, whether you can see that or not it does not matter anymore. You have done what you have done so whatever the outcome will be due to your stupid behaviour/s is none of my concern you people are going to have to worry about that if you do. Thats got nothing to do with me anymore, I would really appreciate you all leaving me alone and letting go of me so i can begin to do my Work. I am finished with you people and have been for a very long time and its time you all realised this and as far as I am concerned can all get fucked. HAHAHA, LOL!
Seriously, you have done your job and I thank you for that, if it werent for you all being how you actually are I would not be here today and I thank you for this. I am the product of your behaviours. So enjoy the outcome. You now will let me go so I will do my Work coz if you dont you will die and theres nothing i can do about that, I am sorry you are stupid to not see this and I am still trying to help you assholes from yourselfs. Please consider and change the way to speak to me and your actionings which, haha, i know you cant change, would be rather difficult for you all but things happen for a reason/s or maybe not i dont know and I dont care.
I am already gone if you havent realised not that i care about what you go on about, i am doing my Work thats all I want to do. Goodluck with letting me go. You know, you can always find someone else to fill in for me. Its apparent that you all hate me anyway so this is Good for me to actually see this, makes my job easier. HAHAHA, LOL!!
Seriously, you have done your job and I thank you for that, if it werent for you all being how you actually are I would not be here today and I thank you for this. I am the product of your behaviours. So enjoy the outcome. You now will let me go so I will do my Work coz if you dont you will die and theres nothing i can do about that, I am sorry you are stupid to not see this and I am still trying to help you assholes from yourselfs. Please consider and change the way to speak to me and your actionings which, haha, i know you cant change, would be rather difficult for you all but things happen for a reason/s or maybe not i dont know and I dont care.
I am already gone if you havent realised not that i care about what you go on about, i am doing my Work thats all I want to do. Goodluck with letting me go. You know, you can always find someone else to fill in for me. Its apparent that you all hate me anyway so this is Good for me to actually see this, makes my job easier. HAHAHA, LOL!!
And I dont understand how the future could ever be bleak? I am free of you all peoples and this is exactly what I wanted in the first place. Very bittersweet. But you have taught me well!! And hope to make you proud with who I am. *sticks fingers down throat* you make me sick, go away, LOL!
Posted by venusianbull
I'm the most adorable and lovely pain in the ass on both sides of the screen. I'm comfy with that.
Fixed it.
Posted by CharlieSlaughter
Whoever does that It's because somehow they are weak in real life.
Most of them never set foot in the gym.
And if they were involved in a real fight at least once in life, it was because they were 90% sure they would win.
Bullying people behind a screen also means they can't control their emotions, which makes them less evolved humans.
Sad.
???Courage is the first of human virtues because it makes all others possible.??
Aristotle.click to expand
Good perspective. I like that.
Dawww. *dragging toe* 
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