Why Won’t People LEAVE ME ALONE?

I been doing fine for the last year now. I have gotten over numerous women, people, situations. I found a position at an industrial design company, I’m not in the streets everyday all day no more. I don’t need anything from anybody. I don’t call nobody for shit, and I always been like that but if I did call, it was never about any money or any borrowing. I called to talk. I called to share. I have been ignored, told I’m being tolerated. I have been blown off, sent off, pissed off. I have had people hang up in my face if I didn’t say what they wanted in a conversation. I have been told there’s no time for me.

I use to want friends. I use to want connections.

I wanted my ex, a Leo woman. She dumped me, I pursued her for about 3 more years until I met a woman that actually cared to have me.

I Have not contacted the Leo except for birthdays or when me and girl broke up and I told her it was over because Leo woman contacted ME about how happy she was for me when she saw me with my new woman at the time. I told her it was over out of pure disappointment and she supported me for 1 night on FaceTime and I never really talked to her again after that. Intact, I removed her because we don’t talk and I realized how stupid it was to even let her know anything… This was over a couple years ago since ANY contact with this woman or social media presence.

I did not wanna continue to have the Leo woman on social media, because it was disrespectful the whole time I was with my ex anyway to continue to keep up with her in a way.. Plus, I don’t have feelings for her anymore, and while I appreciate her being there for me when I broke up with me ex.. I still felt some type of way about how she treated me when I tried to plan a date, try to say hi, let her know I still like her.. all the lil dumb shit you do when someone suddenly dumps you and you never got over them completely. I spent 3 years of my life hoping I could have her again and resenting the fact she came out as bisexual and she will be havin sex with men. I deleted her because she came out dating her little ugly Mexican male co worker with hideous side burns, and they didn’t even know how to touch each other and it didn’t look cute to me. I just was so over Rebecca at the point . Not only a lover, but as a person, a woman… I lost all appeal for her. She had to go. I haven’t thought of her in over 2 years…

Now she sends me a follow on instagram this pass weekend. I accepted her follow request, because I didn’t ask her follow me .. she wanted to

Follow me and I didn’t wanna appear “hurt” or “mad” to this bitch… I accepted it but didn’t follow back.

I just feel disgusted that she would send me a follow request, when it was clear I removed her. She has a man now, I haven’t contacted her .. yet she refuses to her memory DIE!!!!

Should I go back and block her?? Why is she watching my stories and checking on me?? It’s super disgusting to me..I removed the bitch and she’s choosing to follow me and pop as a viewer in my stories.

My Capricorn ex I lived with in Cincinnati 10 years ago from 18-19 is an even worser story…..

She physically, verbally abused me. I finally moved out after she moved to Michigan behind my back to be with another Woman she didn’t even like for real.. she went there to get a medical marijuana card and left me at her childhood home with her father. I left in 2016. She hadn’t heard from me since 2017 when I visited for literally less than 2 days. She still was a bitch with a horrible elusive attitude while every one else at her house was happy to see me or meet me. She knew I was living in my car I’m Chicago, she knew I had just been stabbed in my face and that’s why I visited for 2 days to get out of the neighborhood I was at in Chicago.

She makes an account that is unclearly but clearly her … no name, no face.. but her aesthetics and interests.. she follows me and watches my stories for a whole day until I call her out.

She swears she was about to DM me and tell me it was her , but I think she was full of shit now….. I think she was just gonna stalk me and check on me. She says she was gonna talk to me because how she treated me ate her up for years and she wanted to say sorry , and essentially I’m the best person she ever had in her life… I haven’t fully accepted her apology . I told her if I see her in person, we can talk about it all and overtime I will see if I forgive her.

She had 3 weeks PTO to go to Cincinnati from Brooklyn. For weeks she had been telling she gonna come to Chicago for the first time and see me. When she was finally able to do it, have her vacation.. she tells me she’s not coming and she already told her family when she’s leaving Cincinnati. So out of 3 week, you couldn’t ride 4-5 hours to meet me after riding 12 hours to your hometown? You had a chance … you had a chance to show me you serious about what she said she failed. I immediately stopped talking to her and she still watches my stories but I don’t watch hers. She put me through a lot and I’m still angry about it sometimes. I wish I didn’t have her in my life trynna take me back to how to that shit felt. I can tell she wants to talk to me and continue what was doing but I am not interested. Plus she has too much of an ego to text me.. I let her enjoy her vacation after I found out she wasn’t stopping in Chicago. She tried to make small talk but I let the conversation die and she has not texted me since because of her ego. She might know I’m not interested anymore.

I removed these people and they are so fuckin selfish to insert themselves back into my life

Right now I have a weird Scorpio friend with a Leo wife and 3 kids. He is polyamorous and his wife kept telling me , and it gave me weird vibes. I would hang out with them and would feel like they are trying to invite me into their relationship and be 3rd person. I do not like men and I do not like other peoples children. I’m young , I’m getting money, I have a life .. the audacity of this couple to think I would ever join them and their struggle (they are squatters with no money and 3 babies.. his only claim to stability is being a “sovereign” independent non-citizen of America .. he has legal papers).. I come over their home and theirs no where to wash your hands, they are offering me left overs sat out in their closet… it was the middle of November and it was freezing cold in the big house they broke into and squatted in, and had their babies in a bedroom with them with a fire pit burning. They give me the creeps and I haven’t been back to that house because they had me way upstairs where I can’t get out the door fast enough.

I cut dude off ever since I paid him to drop off the antique Cutlass car seat (1986) . I left it in his Trailblazer that was missing a passenger seat. I got my stuff back and have not contacted them ever since. When I saw them in person for that last time, they were severely watching my pockets .. I shared casamigos with them and they went back to liquor store because they wanted more and when his wife saw how much it costed . A whopping fucking $ 60 for a 5th.. she ran outside to her husband saying I was ‘rich’ and it costed too much.. they pulled up on me in a stolen U-haul truck, offered to take me to the store… we went and got liquor during that. I got in the back of the truck and they closed and locked it.. I really think they was trynna kidnap me until I showed him my gun. I let them take me to the store in the back of that Uhal truck. He even asked me did I have “ $ 50 I can spare” when he was on the phone with someone in front of me. . What the fuck— I was glad I had my gun, I didn’t wanna be rude…. Ever since then, i have not contacted him but he keeps contacting me. He needs mechanic work from me, he needs this , he need that. I blocked his number and he hit me on Facebook Messenger telling me his line is still the same and he hope all is well. I think he got the hint but refuses to let it die. He was not a good friend to me . .. I was going mechanic work for him once , and he kept taking to me like I’m his bitch and stuff was getting heated. I told him how much money I needed but I know I can make to open a shop and that I made a lot of money before . His response that “fuck that money” like he was mad I made $ 1000s of dollars in the past .. I told myself

I was gon end up having to fuck this guy up it kept on.. Then he hung up on me once cause I told him I didn’t need anything from him and I’m Already on my mission to make money. He said “be blessed” then hung up.. weeks later he called for mechanic work , I left my seat in his car, got it back but and ever since then I can’t shake

Buddy assn

Well, people are going to people.

That doesn’t mean you have to pay it any mind.

You could have ignored the Leo social media request but you chose not to.

You could choose not to engage with this poly couple, but you didn’t.

You could have walked away from anyone who gives you a headache, BUT YOU CHOOSE NOT TO.

You happily grudgingly accept requests and then wonder woe is me.

Maybe the real question is “what am I looking for when I engage with these so called questionable people”

What is your motivation.

Post your chart if you want

Posted by DMV
Well, people are going to people.

That doesn’t mean you have to pay it any mind.

You could have ignored the Leo social media request but you chose not to.

You could choose not to engage with this poly couple, but you didn’t.

You could have walked away from anyone who gives you a headache, BUT YOU CHOOSE NOT TO.

You happily grudgingly accept requests and then wonder woe is me.

Maybe the real question is “what am I looking for when I engage with these so called questionable people”

What is your motivation.

Post your chart if you want

EXCUSE YOU… Sound like a really annoying person. You never have anything profound or helpful to say to ANYBODY since I’ve been on here. First off, I don’t wonder” woe is me”, shit so please watch the fuck out.

I DID NOT CONTACT YOU PERSONALLY TO COME AND REPLY TO MY THREAD. I DID NOT SEND FOR YOU OR ASK FOR YOUR HONESTY.

IF THIS POST BOTHERED YOU, LIKE ALL THE OTHER POSTS HERE BOTHER YOU - YOU COULD HAVE IGNORED IT AND NOT SAID THIS RUDE DISGUSTING ASS BULLSHIT TO ME ON MY THREAD.

I’m not posting my damn chart.

I’m actually gonna delete this post. Nevermind.

It still sucks here.

I WANT TO KNOW IF I AM WRONG FOR FEELING THE WAY I DO TOWARDS THESE PEOPLE?

WHAT IS THE PSYCHOLOGICAL REASONING FOR PEOPLE WANTING TO INSERT THEMSELVES BACK INTO SOMEONES LIFE THAT HAS MOVED ON WITH THEIR LIFE?

I ASKED A SIMPLE QUESTION WITH PLENTY BACKSTORY AND YOUR RESPONSE WAS TO BE A LAME UNHELPFUL HATER.

Posted by DMV
Well, people are going to people.

That doesn’t mean you have to pay it any mind.

You could have ignored the Leo social media request but you chose not to.

You could choose not to engage with this poly couple, but you didn’t.

You could have walked away from anyone who gives you a headache, BUT YOU CHOOSE NOT TO.

You happily grudgingly accept requests and then wonder woe is me.

Maybe the real question is “what am I looking for when I engage with these so called questionable people”

What is your motivation.

Post your chart if you want

I don't see anything in the op post where people bothering her either. She writes this long azz post and wants to play the victim. Then post mad shit when you don't agree with her.

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by DMV
Well, people are going to people.
That doesn’t mean you have to pay it any mind.
You could have ignored the Leo social media request but you chose not to.
You could choose not to engage with this poly couple, but you didn’t.
You could have walked away from anyone who gives you a headache, BUT YOU CHOOSE NOT TO.
You happily grudgingly accept requests and then wonder woe is me.
Maybe the real question is “what am I looking for when I engage with these so called questionable people”
What is your motivation.
Post your chart if you want

I don't see anything in the op post where people bothering her either. She writes this long azz post and wants to play the victim. Then post mad shit when you don't agree with her.

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HUH—?

I JUST SAID THAT THESE ARE EXES . . DID YOU NOT READ THAT I WAS ABUSED BY ONE AND TOTALLY DISREGARDED AS A PERSON BY ANOTHER? DID YOU READ THAT THESE WERE NOT GOOD PEOPLE TO ME WHEN I DID HAVE INTEREST IN THEM??

OR ARE YOU STILL HATING ON ME AND WANT TO SAY ANY LITTLE THING TO MAKE ME LOOK LIKE A BAD PERSON WHEN I HAVE NOT DONE A DAMN THING TO ANYBODY IM SPEAKING ABOUT, OR ANYONE… THESE PEOPLE WANT TO BE IN MY LIFE AND SEE WHAT I AM UP TO.

BAD PEOPLE DON’T HAVE NUMEROUS OLD CONNECTIONS TRYINT TO REMAIN A CONNECTION LIKE I DO.

Posted by Emhendo

Posted by DMV
Well, people are going to people.
That doesn’t mean you have to pay it any mind.
You could have ignored the Leo social media request but you chose not to.
You could choose not to engage with this poly couple, but you didn’t.
You could have walked away from anyone who gives you a headache, BUT YOU CHOOSE NOT TO.
You happily grudgingly accept requests and then wonder woe is me.
Maybe the real question is “what am I looking for when I engage with these so called questionable people”
What is your motivation.
Post your chart if you want

EXCUSE YOU… Sound like a really annoying person. You never have anything profound or helpful to say to ANYBODY since I’ve been on here. First off, I don’t wonder” woe is me”, shit so please watch the fuck out.

I DID NOT CONTACT YOU PERSONALLY TO COME AND REPLY TO MY THREAD. I DID NOT SEND FOR YOU OR ASK FOR YOUR HONESTY.

IF THIS POST BOTHERED YOU, LIKE ALL THE OTHER POSTS HERE BOTHER YOU - YOU COULD HAVE IGNORED IT AND NOT SAID THIS RUDE DISGUSTING ASS BULLSHIT TO ME ON MY THREAD.

I’m not posting my damn chart.

I’m actually gonna delete this post. Nevermind.

It still sucks here.

I WANT TO KNOW IF I AM WRONG FOR FEELING THE WAY I DO TOWARDS THESE PEOPLE?

WHAT IS THE PSYCHOLOGICAL REASONING FOR PEOPLE WANTING TO INSERT THEMSELVES BACK INTO SOMEONES LIFE THAT HAS MOVED ON WITH THEIR LIFE?

I ASKED A SIMPLE QUESTION WITH PLENTY BACKSTORY AND YOUR RESPONSE WAS TO BE A LAME UNHELPFUL HATER.

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Think back to the Leo.

You admitted that you chased her for 3 whole ass years; for over a 1000 days you ran after someone who wasn’t interested in you.

She could post the same thing about you…

“Why doesn’t this person leave me alone, I only want to be friends”

Yadda yadda blah blah

Don’t accept Drama’s invite and then complain that they’re only about the drama.

Lastly, I cannot be one of your haters lol.

You’ve posted nothing to be envious of…but I’ll wait, just not for 3 years tho.

So hurry up

Posted by Emhendo

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by DMV
Well, people are going to people.
That doesn’t mean you have to pay it any mind.
You could have ignored the Leo social media request but you chose not to.
You could choose not to engage with this poly couple, but you didn’t.
You could have walked away from anyone who gives you a headache, BUT YOU CHOOSE NOT TO.
You happily grudgingly accept requests and then wonder woe is me.
Maybe the real question is “what am I looking for when I engage with these so called questionable people”
What is your motivation.
Post your chart if you want

I don't see anything in the op post where people bothering her either. She writes this long azz post and wants to play the victim. Then post mad shit when you don't agree with her.

HUH—?

I JUST SAID THAT THESE ARE EXES . . DID YOU NOT READ THAT I WAS ABUSED BY ONE AND TOTALLY DISREGARDED AS A PERSON BY ANOTHER? DID YOU READ THAT THESE WERE NOT GOOD PEOPLE TO ME WHEN I DID HAVE INTEREST IN THEM??

OR ARE YOU STILL HATING ON ME AND WANT TO SAY ANY LITTLE THING TO MAKE ME LOOK LIKE A BAD PERSON WHEN I HAVE NOT DONE A DAMN THING TO ANYBODY IM SPEAKING ABOUT, OR ANYONE… THESE PEOPLE WANT TO BE IN MY LIFE AND SEE WHAT I AM UP TO.

BAD PEOPLE DON’T HAVE NUMEROUS OLD CONNECTIONS TRYINT TO REMAIN A CONNECTION LIKE I DO.

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I'm not hating on you. I was sexually abused by my female babysitter when I was just a little boy. She literally took away my childhood. That is why all I ever wanted growing up, is sex. I know what's it like to be abused. Yeah I read some of what you wrote. I skimmed thru. DMV post was very well put. But it's pretty obvious you don't like what she said.

Posted by DMV

Posted by Emhendo

Posted by DMV
Well, people are going to people.
That doesn’t mean you have to pay it any mind.
You could have ignored the Leo social media request but you chose not to.
You could choose not to engage with this poly couple, but you didn’t.
You could have walked away from anyone who gives you a headache, BUT YOU CHOOSE NOT TO.
You happily grudgingly accept requests and then wonder woe is me.
Maybe the real question is “what am I looking for when I engage with these so called questionable people”
What is your motivation.
Post your chart if you want

EXCUSE YOU… Sound like a really annoying person. You never have anything profound or helpful to say to ANYBODY since I’ve been on here. First off, I don’t wonder” woe is me”, shit so please watch the fuck out.

I DID NOT CONTACT YOU PERSONALLY TO COME AND REPLY TO MY THREAD. I DID NOT SEND FOR YOU OR ASK FOR YOUR HONESTY.

IF THIS POST BOTHERED YOU, LIKE ALL THE OTHER POSTS HERE BOTHER YOU - YOU COULD HAVE IGNORED IT AND NOT SAID THIS RUDE DISGUSTING ASS BULLSHIT TO ME ON MY THREAD.

I’m not posting my damn chart.

I’m actually gonna delete this post. Nevermind.

It still sucks here.

I WANT TO KNOW IF I AM WRONG FOR FEELING THE WAY I DO TOWARDS THESE PEOPLE?

WHAT IS THE PSYCHOLOGICAL REASONING FOR PEOPLE WANTING TO INSERT THEMSELVES BACK INTO SOMEONES LIFE THAT HAS MOVED ON WITH THEIR LIFE?

I ASKED A SIMPLE QUESTION WITH PLENTY BACKSTORY AND YOUR RESPONSE WAS TO BE A LAME UNHELPFUL HATER.

Think back to the Leo.

You admitted that you chased her for 3 whole ass years; for over a 1000 days you ran after someone who wasn’t interested in you.

She could post the same thing about you…

“Why doesn’t this person leave me alone, I only want to be friends”

Yadda yadda blah blah

Don’t accept Drama’s invite and then complain that they’re only about the drama.

Lastly, I cannot be one of your haters lol.

You’ve posted nothing to be envious of…but I’ll wait, just not for 3 years tho.

So hurry up

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Why do you talk to me like I’m STUPID??

You have added NOTHING knowledgeable of value to the topic AT ALL. You just sound like a big fat asshole that wants to sound smart over other people.

What was the point of talking about the Leo to me?? You are clearly not interested in the topic as a whole, except to grasp one thing to make me sound like something is wrong with me or I am the problem?

If I’m so dumb and a problem, why are you explaining all this to someone who is a dummy and a problem then?? I’m DUMB and PROBLEMATIC.. WHY ARE YOU WASTING YOUR TIME EXPLAINING BULLSHIT TO A PROBLEMATIC DUMMY? 🧐

why respond to people/things you hate? it is your choice to allow those things in your life.

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by Emhendo

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by DMV
Well, people are going to people.
That doesn’t mean you have to pay it any mind.
You could have ignored the Leo social media request but you chose not to.
You could choose not to engage with this poly couple, but you didn’t.
You could have walked away from anyone who gives you a headache, BUT YOU CHOOSE NOT TO.
You happily grudgingly accept requests and then wonder woe is me.
Maybe the real question is “what am I looking for when I engage with these so called questionable people”
What is your motivation.
Post your chart if you want

I don't see anything in the op post where people bothering her either. She writes this long azz post and wants to play the victim. Then post mad shit when you don't agree with her.

HUH—?

I JUST SAID THAT THESE ARE EXES . . DID YOU NOT READ THAT I WAS ABUSED BY ONE AND TOTALLY DISREGARDED AS A PERSON BY ANOTHER? DID YOU READ THAT THESE WERE NOT GOOD PEOPLE TO ME WHEN I DID HAVE INTEREST IN THEM??

OR ARE YOU STILL HATING ON ME AND WANT TO SAY ANY LITTLE THING TO MAKE ME LOOK LIKE A BAD PERSON WHEN I HAVE NOT DONE A DAMN THING TO ANYBODY IM SPEAKING ABOUT, OR ANYONE… THESE PEOPLE WANT TO BE IN MY LIFE AND SEE WHAT I AM UP TO.

BAD PEOPLE DON’T HAVE NUMEROUS OLD CONNECTIONS TRYINT TO REMAIN A CONNECTION LIKE I DO.

I'm not hating on you. I was sexually abused by my female babysitter when I was just a little boy. She literally took away my childhood. That is why all I ever wanted growing up, is sex. I know what's it like to be abused. Yeah I read some of what you wrote. I skimmed thru. DMV post was very well put. But it's pretty obvious you don't like what she said.

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……And I “don’t like what she said” because she sounds fucking ridiculous. I don’t have to fucking like it, because I did not ask her overly wannabe smart ass. She sounds like a bullshit person that lives to give people a “reality check” they did not need and assumes the worst about someone’s mentality over a thread full of information she clearly skimmed just like your ass skimmed too.

Goodbye. Both of y’all can get the fuck out my face already.

Posted by MysteriousHeart
In my experience people from the past tend to return when their current relationships fail and then they come crawling back hoping to reconnect with you. It’s as if they think you are just gonna put your life on hold for them in case they wanna come back. They leave because they think the grass is greener on the other side and when they find out it isn’t they wanna come crawling back. I hate when people do that. I mean if I wasn’t good enough for you then I’m sure as hell not good enough for you now.

Sorry, I may be reading your situation all wrong. This has just been my experience.

Exactly what I was thinking… I know that’s the case. Lets just assume these people don’t even have feelings for me , it feels as if they just wanna feel important in my life..

I don’t like being a petty person or a person holding a grudge .. I thought I was able to face this shit, especially with the Capricorn ex. I was practicing forgiveness and thought I can work towards forgiving that woman.. I don’t have any feelings for the Leo or Capricorn so it was easy to let them see how I’m currently living my life. I guess I’m angry that Im totally over these people and that’s when they choose to show some respect or be present

I think it boils down to selfishness and nostalgia

80% selfishness and 20% nostalgia.

I think it’s selfish because they are chasing a feeling that has long since passed - maybe they wanna be reminded of a way you made them feel, even if it was at your expense. When it’s unrequited, it’s not fair to come back to try to recreate a feeling that’s not there anymore.

Maybe a smaller part of them is wondering what if. To a lesser degree, it seems like some people do reach out when they are feeling nostalgic about people from their past. Often it’s when they’ve had a series of crap relationships though and are re-thinking all of their poor relationship decisions. Which is also selfish

People just suck, bottom line. As soul crushing as it is no one will ever truly know you, or see the real you the same way you view the world and live your own life. They simply can't. We are truly alone in our own minds, and because of that no one will ever truly understand anyone else. People always tell me I must be lonely because I don't fill my life with relationships. Truth is adding people in my life wouldn't make a bit of difference. I'm not saying remove all people from your life or never try for a positive relationship. I'm just saying lower your expectations from others. You are literally dealing with other humans that live their own lives, and see their own world. With you as nothing more then a picture within it. Once you truly realize that you will start trying to fill the void less with other people outside of yourself, and more with a fulfilled version of yourself within.

from what i've seen, people tend to just wanna compete (yes, even their own romantic partners) with cancer energy for idk whatever reason (maybe ego?). they often attract narcissistic and jealous personalities.