Would you trust someone who “left “ their partner for you!?

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by Haruuka on Wednesday, July 4, 2018 and has 48 replies.



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Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow

I won't have anything to do with someone who has a partner.


Gem sun.
I mean, if they left that partner (broke up) then they come to you


And you know they left them just because they wanna be with you
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I don’t mess with men in relationships or marriages if he is going through a break up already then it’s kinds different but I don’t deal in those types of situations because I won’t trust him if he can move on like that and sneak around I wouldn’t be comfortable in a relationship because I will worry about it he will do me the same. I’m a Scorpio sun with libra Venus
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No


Scorpio sun
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idk...I don't trust anyone now even with them not having a partner lol


Virgo Sun

Leo Venus
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Posted by Raakac

No way . I'd state that she is ungrateful bitch who throws away relationship for a guy she has just met, because i don't date taken women, and if she would lie she's not taken and then would say i lied about that but i left my bf i would be even more mad, because i would have been that 3rd guy and i'd be angry on myself, and my tongue would become a really strong leash.. cancer sun sag moon


I take it this has happened to you? lol
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No, cause I do not trust anyone.

My Sun is in Aquarius, Venus in Capricorn.
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Posted by Raakac

No way . I'd state that she is ungrateful bitch who throws away relationship for a guy she has just met, because i don't date taken women, and if she would lie she's not taken and then would say i lied about that but i left my bf i would be even more mad, because i would have been that 3rd guy and i'd be angry on myself, and my tongue would become a really strong leash.. cancer sun sag moon


I take it this has happened to you? lol
Nah, not as harsh as this, but i went on a dated with a girl, she stated she was single before we met up, after 1st ddate i kissed her and she said she lied, she had a bf and the relationship is really bad, i was so angry on myself, but i destroyed her mentally, she cried and i left... Sure she might be telling the truth, but to drag me into that shit by telling a lie, thats fucked up.. If she's weak enough to stay in toxic relationship thats not my problem, she should be honest about it from the start. Big Grin
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Good on you! Much respect cause some guys would have taken advantage of the situation...sad but true.
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Mostly I'm turned off right away if a guy is taken.


But knowing life is all types of complicated etc, if I liked/loved him I'd say yes. Come home, baby!


Cap

Libra Moon

Aqua Venus

Sag Mars
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Posted by OneKnight

I would trust them 100% .
Weird


Why!
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Posted by stillstillwater

Mostly I'm turned off right away if a guy is taken.


But knowing life is all types of complicated etc, if I liked/loved him I'd say yes. Come home, baby!


Cap

Libra Moon

Aqua Venus

Sag Mars
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u are honest.



i think i would be like Julia Roberts....



if i have a deep connection with the man and he is unhappy.....



let me love u and care for u baby.



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LOL pluto is strong in me xd



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you know i dont know really...but life can be complicated.



(i haven't gone through it ...lol but i'm just not self righteous about it) i know how ...RARE deep connections are..

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Posted by Haruuka



Be honest 🤷🏻‍♀️


And state your sun and venus
It depends on the situation.

1. Was there a strong love/bond in their current setup.

2. Were you entertaining them throughout the duration of their setup.

3. Was their a prior soul mate connection/past history with the both of you prior to his current set up.


If the answers are 1. No. 2. No. 3. Yes....then yes I would trust them.

If the answers are 1. Yes 2. Yes. 3. No....then no I would never trust them.


Sun: Taurus.

Venus: Aries
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What's the context?


In any case if it's the context I'm thinking of then you yourself created this situation and allowed it to happen so you should trust them, if they left someone else because they weren't convinced it's not really going to do a lot of good to not be convincing yourself.
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A girl I used to talk too told me she would leave her bf of 2 years to be with me if I wanted to be with her. I told her I would never date someone who would leave a 2 year relationship like nothing for someone they had just known for 2 months. I stopped talking to her shorty after I felt bad for her bf these hoes ain’t loyal.

Taurus Sun/Cancer Venus
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Posted by NemDeux

yes. life is not an absolute.

and like papa hemingway once said: the only way to find out if you can trust someone. is to trust them.


same....have also found that lending trust to someone who is even generally considered untrustworthy can often affect change in them - some people rise to the occasion and become more trustworthy....they value the fact that you treat them differently....its like Jean Valjean in Les Mis when he robs the priest, who then gifts him more silver....grace can transform people bc it cuts against the grain of their experience so strongly....


I dont understand these fixed views on personality....
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N O P E


sun in libra, venus in virgo
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Posted by LentoBull91

A girl I used to talk too told me she would leave her bf of 2 years to be with me if I wanted to be with her. I told her I would never date someone who would leave a 2 year relationship like nothing for someone they had just known for 2 months. I stopped talking to her shorty after I felt bad for her bf these hoes ain’t loyal.

Taurus Sun/Cancer Venus


What was her sign
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I don’t remember her birthday just that it was towards the end of the year. I’ve been wanting to find out myself just to see if it would explain the chemistry we had.
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Posted by NemDeux

yes. life is not an absolute.

and like papa hemingway once said: the only way to find out if you can trust someone. is to trust them.


same....have also found that lending trust to someone who is even generally considered untrustworthy can often affect change in them - some people rise to the occasion and become more trustworthy....they value the fact that you treat them differently....its like Jean Valjean in Les Mis when he robs the priest, who then gifts him more silver....grace can transform people bc it cuts against the grain of their experience so strongly....


I dont understand these fixed views on personality....
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oooh my favourite....redemption stories too.

and some people transform because of the people that

trust them.

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Taken men are not attractive to me. But him leaving his relationship wouldn't jeopardize what we could become.
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NOOOOOOO
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I don't trust them, they could do it again with me, I imagine they are the kind of people that get boring in a relationship cuz they don't know what they want.
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Posted by NemDeux

yes. life is not an absolute.

and like papa hemingway once said: the only way to find out if you can trust someone. is to trust them.


Didn't he have four or five wives and lived his life as a serial cheater?


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Just because they were not right for their current partner does not mean they are not right for you.


I believe that when you are with the right person you would never stray or fall in love with someone else to begin with. So yes. I would trust them, until they personally gave me a reason not to.


Life is about taking risks.

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Posted by Lala1393

Too many liars on this thread.
Virtue signalling is the hippest of hobbies.
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I’ve seen it work out irl.


For me personally it would really depend on the circumstances surrounding it and specifically if said person was honest about the failing relationship to the partner prior to leaving and had tried to work past it without success. That still shows commitment to me even if it didn’t work out in the end.


However blindsighting someone and just leaving them out of the blue because you have a new person come along is just asking for history to repeat itself.


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Posted by NemDeux

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by NemDeux

yes. life is not an absolute.

and like papa hemingway once said: the only way to find out if you can trust someone. is to trust them.


Didn't he have four or five wives and lived his life as a serial cheater?


Tongue
so?

true, he was certainly no child of sadness in that respect.


we meet people all the time under various circumstances in life. and there is no guarantee.

meeting somebody who is single does not imply they are more trust-worthy than someone who is "taken".


i don´t restrict myself to this black/white thinking scheme. there are so many variables and possibilities to any given situation or person.


out of personal experience. when i met my husband to be; after two weeks of meeting he confessed to having a live in girlfriend of 10 years. he broke up with her within 2 months of our meeting, i moved in, we got married, i had two children with him. just goes to show ...


other circumstances brought on a separation later on. but that is another story.






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No I meant it was ironic with his choice of word...."trust", when he could hardly be trusted himself ...


I wasn't thinking of you but just found the quote interesting


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Posted by Lala1393

Too many liars on this thread.
Who, Lala?
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Posted by stillstillwater

Mostly I'm turned off right away if a guy is taken.


But knowing life is all types of complicated etc, if I liked/loved him I'd say yes. Come home, baby!


Cap

Libra Moon

Aqua Venus

Sag Mars
lmao



u are honest.



i think i would be like Julia Roberts....



if i have a deep connection with the man and he is unhappy.....



let me love u and care for u baby.



User Submitted Image


LOL pluto is strong in me xd



.....



you know i dont know really...but life can be complicated.



(i haven't gone through it ...lol but i'm just not self righteous about it) i know how ...RARE deep connections are..

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Exactly...I feel the same way. For example you can meet someone and think that its love based on your upbringing or other people's expectations so you might settle and then out of no where you meet this person who makes you feel like nothing else/no one else can make you feel; that is very rare.


I think i've asked quite a few people if they've ever been in love and most of them say they're not sure. That means they haven't or else they would've known. So imagine going through life never experiencing the feeling of being in love.


Plus if that person has already strayed from their relationship just by wanting to be with you it's clear that that relationship will not have the best of this person. I suppose some people are okay being with partners that have settled for them but that's sad because there is someone out there that would be their deep connection too.


If they stay in that relationship just everybody loses.


But if they truly think that there's something special with you and they leave their partner to be with you because now they've realized what that deep connection feels like... then my loves that's just life! We don't know what we don't know. And when we do find out then we have to roll with it... this crazy roller coaster called life.


Reminds me of this spanish song: no hay que llorar, que la vida es un carnaval


Plus love is so powerful and life changing... why would you give that up for "righteousness" and pragmatism. Obviously you don't want to be immoral but leaving a relationship for another person is hardly immoral. They'll have to get over it and move on.
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Posted by NemDeux

yes. life is not an absolute.

and like papa hemingway once said: the only way to find out if you can trust someone. is to trust them.


papa hemingway said that? Need listen more closely to him then.
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Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by stillstillwater

Mostly I'm turned off right away if a guy is taken.


But knowing life is all types of complicated etc, if I liked/loved him I'd say yes. Come home, baby!


Cap

Libra Moon

Aqua Venus

Sag Mars
lmao



u are honest.



i think i would be like Julia Roberts....



if i have a deep connection with the man and he is unhappy.....



let me love u and care for u baby.



User Submitted Image


LOL pluto is strong in me xd



.....



you know i dont know really...but life can be complicated.



(i haven't gone through it ...lol but i'm just not self righteous about it) i know how ...RARE deep connections are..

Exactly...I feel the same way. For example you can meet someone and think that its love based on your upbringing or other people's expectations so you might settle and then out of no where you meet this person who makes you feel like nothing else/no one else can make you feel; that is very rare.


I think i've asked quite a few people if they've ever been in love and most of them say they're not sure. That means they haven't or else they would've known. So imagine going through life never experiencing the feeling of being in love.


Plus if that person has already strayed from their relationship just by wanting to be with you it's clear that that relationship will not have the best of this person. I suppose some people are okay being with partners that have settled for them but that's sad because there is someone out there that would be their deep connection too.


If they stay in that relationship just everybody loses.


But if they truly think that there's something special with you and they leave their partner to be with you because now they've realized what that deep connection feels like... then my loves that's just life! We don't know what we don't know. And when we do find out then we have to roll with it... this crazy roller coaster called life.


Reminds me of this spanish song: no hay que llorar, que la vida es un carnaval


Plus love is so powerful and life changing... why would you give that up for "righteousness" and pragmatism. Obviously you don't want to be immoral but leaving a relationship for another person is hardly immoral. They'll have to get over it and move on.
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well u aren't really water dominant, stillwater..... and water NEEDS to feel, to feel charged and emotions are what drives them. and that isn't in the realm of 'morals' u know..maybe u are domiant water houses? cause how u know this? ;p


i think it's an earth sign trait...all the morals stuff. but i dont know really. cause where does the "rules" stuff come from?
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Posted by Haruuka



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And state your sun and venus
never, Taurus Sun Aries Venus
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Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by stillstillwater

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by stillstillwater

Mostly I'm turned off right away if a guy is taken.


But knowing life is all types of complicated etc, if I liked/loved him I'd say yes. Come home, baby!


Cap

Libra Moon

Aqua Venus

Sag Mars
lmao



u are honest.



i think i would be like Julia Roberts....



if i have a deep connection with the man and he is unhappy.....



let me love u and care for u baby.



User Submitted Image


LOL pluto is strong in me xd



.....



you know i dont know really...but life can be complicated.



(i haven't gone through it ...lol but i'm just not self righteous about it) i know how ...RARE deep connections are..

Exactly...I feel the same way. For example you can meet someone and think that its love based on your upbringing or other people's expectations so you might settle and then out of no where you meet this person who makes you feel like nothing else/no one else can make you feel; that is very rare.


I think i've asked quite a few people if they've ever been in love and most of them say they're not sure. That means they haven't or else they would've known. So imagine going through life never experiencing the feeling of being in love.


Plus if that person has already strayed from their relationship just by wanting to be with you it's clear that that relationship will not have the best of this person. I suppose some people are okay being with partners that have settled for them but that's sad because there is someone out there that would be their deep connection too.


If they stay in that relationship just everybody loses.


But if they truly think that there's something special with you and they leave their partner to be with you because now they've realized what that deep connection feels like... then my loves that's just life! We don't know what we don't know. And when we do find out then we have to roll with it... this crazy roller coaster called life.


Reminds me of this spanish song: no hay que llorar, que la vida es un carnaval


Plus love is so powerful and life changing... why would you give that up for "righteousness" and pragmatism. Obviously you don't want to be immoral but leaving a relationship for another person is hardly immoral. They'll have to get over it and move on.



well u aren't really water dominant, stillwater..... and water NEEDS to feel, to feel charged and emotions are what drives them. and that isn't in the realm of 'morals' u know..maybe u are domiant water houses? cause how u know this? ;p


i think it's an earth sign trait...all the morals stuff. but i dont know really. cause where does the "rules" stuff come from?
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You're absolutely right... the "rules" and "morals" for relationships does come from earth signs. When I was younger I was VERY harsh on myself to follow "rules" to be what i then considered "fair". This was't taught to me; it was my own standards that I had come up with lol don't ask me why.


For example:


I loved this person.We broke up. I started relationship with another person. The original person came back to my life. My brain told me that there are rules that I cannot just break up with the person I'm with because this original persons is back and even though i love this original person, it would be unfair of me to leave the person.


The person who ended up suffering the most out of that decision? Me... plus the guy I was with...plus the guy I loved. Because me and that guy i was with clearly did not end up working out.So that was lost time. And the guy i loved waited but then moved on. I just ended up like fuck I lost this opportunity where I was in love with this person for over 5 years.


I thought I learned my lesson but this scenario repeated one more time and once again I made the wrong decision but this time it was not because of "rules" but lack of trust in love. That's one of OP's main themes: trust. So I wish I did trust the person, the situation and would've been more flexible.


So I battled the "rules" but up next is to be more trusting... and just let my heart experience both the pleasure and pain that comes with making decisions based on your emotions.


So funny you mention the lack of Water sign in my chart and that's true.No water! I've always considered myself cold, calculating, practical etc. and have fought any emotional factors in my personality. But as I'm growing older and attempting to embrace all sides of myself I am noticing I am quite emotional and sensitive in the moments but I don't let myself go to express it. Trying it different now where I am expressing it more and it feels good to just LET GO AND LET GOD. haha. I do want the sensitive side of myself to show but to continue making calculating decisions that don't put me in LIFE vulnerabilities (like homelessness, poverty etc) but it's ok if it puts me in RELATIONSHIP/LOVE vulnerabilities.


Expressing your emotions is like a love letter to the wind. You just say it and you let it go not knowing where the winds take you but you just hope that wherever it goes it goes for the better than worse.
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There’s many angles to this tho. What if the guys been crushing on you hard, breaks up with his gf and then courts you after?


I’m not sure though. Sure it’s stupid to think intense attraction with a stranger is enough reason to break up with a partner, but I’ve seen it work out for some couples.


Idk hopefully I’m never in the situation. It would take a very long time for me to trust their feelings for me
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Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow

I won't have anything to do with someone who has a partner.


Gem sun.
What if you didn’t know until after?


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Posted by Haruuka



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I would want him to leave the relationship because it’s not working, because he has tried and nothing helped.


I don’t want him leaving thinking we’re going to have this fantasy relationship. Because no relationship is perfect.


But if he tried everything, the relationship was basically over for both partners and he decided he was ready to leave I would be okay with that.


Libra Sun

Scorpio Venus
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I'd give it a shot, as long as they are really broken up.
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Let's be real people, the majority of you say "no" because to say "yes" isn't what is "morally" appropriate.


The truth is, if you are talking to someone that is in a relationship already, and saying they will leave their partner, you have already crossed the line of accepting it as okay. I almost guarantee that if you are even entertaining a conversation with someone like this, there has already been inappropriate behavior from both sides. Shit said and done, that they wouldn't DARE say in front of their gf/bf. And if you REALLY weren't about that life, then you wouldn't even put yourself in the position to be the person they left their significant other for.
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He left a Gem girl for me.


Sun: Aquarius

Venus: Sagittarius
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Posted by Haruuka



Be honest 🤷🏻‍♀️


And state your sun and venus
It depends on the situation.

1. Was there a strong love/bond in their current setup.

2. Were you entertaining them throughout the duration of their setup.

3. Was their a prior soul mate connection/past history with the both of you prior to his current set up.


If the answers are 1. No. 2. No. 3. Yes....then yes I would trust them.

If the answers are 1. Yes 2. Yes. 3. No....then no I would never trust them.


Sun: Taurus.

Venus: Aries
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If the answers are 1. No. 2. No. 3. Yes....then yes I would trust them. My situation right now.He left me for her,then he came back to me .
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Posted by Haruuka



Be honest 🤷🏻‍♀️


And state your sun and venus
Short answer: no. The way they find you is how they leave you.


Pisces sun, Taurus ven
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Romantically speaking, i don't mix with women that are in a relationship (or dating some guy). This detail - turns me cold. Just socializing or a platonic friendship (kinda like - work colleagues) - so i don't see how that could happen.
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Heck no, and I completely understand squishy, in this situation you’ve clearly put yourself in a position that’s got the person wanting to leave that person for you, so therefore you messed with someone taken. Now I’m no angel I’ve liked people who are taken but I have never ever allowed my self to go past the first stages of like, and if the guy then tried to do anything with me I’d lose all respect.
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Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow

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Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow

I won't have anything to do with someone who has a partner.


Gem sun.
What if you didn’t know until after?


Big Grin
I will dump his ass and get over him.


I will dislike him.
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Because he left someone for You?


If we're talking about leaving a wife and 3


kids, that's horrible, of course... but just


dating?


As long as you didn't orchestrate it, I don't


really see the evil in it.
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Posted by neves

Romantically speaking, i don't mix with women that are in a relationship (or dating some guy). This detail - turns me cold. Just socializing or a platonic friendship (kinda like - work colleagues) - so i don't see how that could happen.
What if a girl (taken) was friend of you, then some day she left his boyfriend because she fall for you, it’s not you who do something to make her leave him, no, she just left him because she fall for you


These things happen.
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Posted by Haruuka

Posted by neves

Romantically speaking, i don't mix with women that are in a relationship (or dating some guy). This detail - turns me cold. Just socializing or a platonic friendship (kinda like - work colleagues) - so i don't see how that could happen.
What if a girl (taken) was friend of you, then some day she left his boyfriend because she fall for you, it’s not you who do something to make her leave him, no, she just left him because she fall for you


These things happen.
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That's true, stuff like that - does happen sometimes (to often - probably). I know at least 5 guys - who were left for another - after years of being together. Like a Gemini friend of mine - who seemed to be in a happy relationship with a Libra. And yet, after 6 years of being together (they even had a marriage planed) - she left him for another guy. Just like that. Same thing happened to a Leo friend - who was married with the one in question. Same goes for ex colleague of mine (tough they were just gf and bf). And also a guy was married for 15 years or so (they have 2 girls together), this time - he was the one who left his wife (he used to work together with my old man - a colleague of his). And the list could go on and on...


It's also true that... romantic relationships, marriage and such - are just social constructs (it's not a natural thing - as intended by the actual nature...cause the human nature is questionable). People feel what they feel -and that can change with the passing of time... Even so, stuff like this does seem kinda fucked-up - like there's nothing sacred in this world. And most importantly - if it happened once - who's to say it won't happened again?! 🤔 Years may pass and once again.... he/she may get tired of his/her current partner and change him for another. Kinda similar to the way people change their smartphones.


Last but not least - their feelings would have to be mutual - and same goes for their direction in life (both parties should head in the same direction - should walk on same path). Cause there's also situation where people left their partners for a fuck (cause that's all there was to it). Most cheating situations - turned-up this way.


Then again, i've been in situations - where girls that were in a relationship - flirted with me (affectedly) - and i took that as a red flag. Instinctively, i think... cause i felt the urge to keep my distance - and avoided the ones in question from that point (one was in a relationship with friends of mine ffs 😒 - and she end-up cheating on him latter on / sure wasn't surprised of that outcome🙄). There you go. I think that answers your question.
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