Your Insecurities....

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by natural25 on Saturday, July 6, 2013 and has 86 replies.
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We all have them. What are yours?
The program that I am in has worn me down intellectually. I entered school thinking I knew it all and now that I have completed my first year, I realize I know nothing. LOL. This year was incredibly challenging for me and my confidence in my field consequently suffered. I have been battling insecurities; questioning if I am really cut out for this Phd program. I am going to stick it out. The faculty and staff have been incredibly supportive and tell me I am crazy for my insecurities, but this shit is no joke!
I am also insecure sometimes insecure about my legs. HA!
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Posted by feby16aqua
Why in the world would you be insecure about your legs? They look good to me Big Grin


They are too big. I am runner but I started spinning a few years ago. Spinning and squats have made them a little too big for my liking. I prefer long, lean, slender legs. Lol. But I am working on it... Lol.
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Btw, THANK YOU Feby!
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Posted by lualibra
When I was younger I was really shy and serious. That's still the core of my personality, but I had this huge fear of people thinking I was boring. I slowly changed my personality and became way more outgoing and loud, and now I look back and I miss how I was lol. Now I rather be boring than annoying.
Physically I hate my feet! and stretchmarks grrrr


You can be whoever you want to be. Loud, quiet, boring, annoying. Its your life you. Your choice. There are no rules. Lol. smile
Oh hush about the stretch marks. Most woman have them... Its just the way it is. Lol.
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Posted by SUT3point0
Your legs look good honey fly


Thanks sit!
What are some of your insecurities?!? C'mon with it!! Lol.
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Posted by feby16aqua
Posted by natural25

They are too big. I am runner but I started spinning a few years ago. Spinning and squats have made them a little too big for my liking. I prefer long, lean, slender legs. Lol. But I am working on it... Lol.


Run run run! If you want more slender legs than run. Not sprints, run for distance.
BUTTTTTT there are a LOT of men who LOVE nice, full legs. I went with a guy who was waist down obsessed lol. He told me hips, legs, ass. If a woman didn't have one of those three things then it was a turn off. Um ok haha. That's all he wanted on me. One time he was like "I feel bad that everyone talks about your boobs and I don't pay attention to them" lol. um ok you're weird guy just keep it movin "everyone"?? Who's everyone...lol your friends? greeeeat.
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Yup. I used to run about 6 miles a day. Then I started spinning when my schedule no longer allowed time for all that running. Lol. That's when my legs ballooned. Lol. I have been distance running the last few months, waiting for a change. Lol.
Yea.... I know plenty of men who prefer thick thighs, big butts. I have no problem with the but part. Lol. I like that too! Thats why I so the squats. Lol. It's just the legs I cant get down with. Men will get over it. Lol. They did before when my legs were a bit smaller.
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Posted by feby16aqua
My insecurities. A big one is getting older. I'm not going out like that. No way in hell sorry.


Yea... I can relate to this. I am not insecure about it yet, but it is in the back of my mind. Lol.
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Lol @ me calling SUT, "SIT"!!! LMAO.
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Posted by geminicandle
Too many to list!
I'll be back later...but first gotta go to Starbucks for some java and to read the newspaper.
I can't even think straight yet, lol.


Enjoy!
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Posted by xygeneration
That ill never be good enough for somebody to love, but fak it MAKE MONEY




You cant possibly believe that!
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I had stage fright a couple of years ago. Although I appeared calm, I was very nervous when speaking or standing in front of a large group of people. Because of law school, that has gone and I forced myself to do it. Can't be all shy if you're going to practice law lmao!
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Posted by Poisson
I have light strechmarks on my butt I've had since puberty. That's the only one I'm willing to share Tongue


I have some light ones on the sides of my butt too. No biggie. I tried to rub coco butter on them then got tired of the whole routine and accepted my fate. Lol.
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Posted by natural25
Posted by xygeneration
That ill never be good enough for somebody to love, but fak it MAKE MONEY




You cant possibly believe that!


Meh
We all have different blessings
Ill meet my soul mate next life time
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You never know whats coming for you....
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Posted by SirenSting
I feel insecure when it comes to my successes. I know that I am smart and fully capable of completing further courses to better myself, but I sill question my abilities at the end of the day.
I feel insecure about my legs as well, haha. I have always had the kind of body that builds muscle real easily and it is apparent in my legs more than anything. I like my butt, its nice, haha but my legs are "bulky" to me. I just want long, lean legs too.
Hey, Natural25, I've had a lot of women tell me they're jealous of my "bulky" legs, so maybe we should just embrace it. We always want what we cant have, right? It's a bummer but its true!


I will embrace them... AFTER I try running for a bit. LOL. I am going to run anyway... So we will see what happens. It just might be the way I am built now. **Shrugs**
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Posted by xygeneration
Tell that to my saturn retrograde



Girl, I dont even know what that is... lol
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Posted by natural25
Posted by SUT3point0
Your legs look good honey fly


Thanks sit!
What are some of your insecurities?!? C'mon with it!! Lol.


me? none. Idk Im invincible. Tongue
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Suuuuuure you are.....
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My penis is not 10 inches. Crying

LOL
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Awww there...there. Not all men can be the big man on campus. LOL. I guess its kinda like women and our stretch marks? Ha.
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Posted by natural25
Awww there...there. Not all men can be the big man on campus. LOL. I guess its kinda like women and our stretch marks? Ha.


I think natural women are sexy. And stretchmarks and cellulites are as "natural" as they come 'cause most women have them. You see it all the time now that it's summer and the clothing is kept to a minimum, and it doesn't make me want to bite their asses any less. LOL
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Posted by ninjutsu
You guys are kind of young to have lost hope when it comes to finding your soul mates... lol


EXACTLY! We still have some time yet.
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Posted by natural25
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Posted by natural25
Posted by SUT3point0
Your legs look good honey fly


Thanks sit!
What are some of your insecurities?!? C'mon with it!! Lol.


me? none. Idk Im invincible. Tongue


Suuuuuure you are.....


Serious one is a fear of being broke, especially dying broke
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Not a fear. An insecurity.
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Posted by xygeneration
Nah I'm just bitter, but whatever gets me out of bed is good enough for me


Got it! Lol.
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Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
Posted by ninjutsu
You guys are kind of young to have lost hope when it comes to finding your soul mates... lol


LOL. Despite being a pisces I'm not very watery. I'm not sold on the romantic soul mate concept. Some people were sent here to spread love. Others to be loved. I don't know where I fit in, but I've decided not to worry about it anymore. :-/ I want to travel, learn some new languages, and live life to the fullest. And I want to give back when I can, so I will make time to volunteer for good causes if I leave the social work field. These are my new goals.
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I've been working on myself for sometime now.... Focusing on improving myself. Now, I am kinda... back in the mood for L.O.V.E.!!! Lol.
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Posted by natural25
Awww there...there. Not all men can be the big man on campus. LOL. I guess its kinda like women and our stretch marks? Ha.


I think natural women are sexy. And stretchmarks and cellulites are as "natural" as they come 'cause most women have them. You see it all the time now that it's summer and the clothing is kept to a minimum, and it doesn't make me want to bite their asses any less. LOL

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Yup natural is the key, sans my blonde dyed hair. Lol.
A woman who is confident in her natural state is always sexy.
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SUT - True. Ok, lets put it this way... An insecurity about something that is a current issue for you.
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Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
Posted by natural25
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Posted by ninjutsu
You guys are kind of young to have lost hope when it comes to finding your soul mates... lol


LOL. Despite being a pisces I'm not very watery. I'm not sold on the romantic soul mate concept. Some people were sent here to spread love. Others to be loved. I don't know where I fit in, but I've decided not to worry about it anymore. :-/ I want to travel, learn some new languages, and live life to the fullest. And I want to give back when I can, so I will make time to volunteer for good causes if I leave the social work field. These are my new goals.


I've been working on myself for sometime now.... Focusing on improving myself. Now, I am kinda... back in the mood for L.O.V.E.!!! Lol.

LOVE is a four letter word. Tongue
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But I love, love! #hopelessromantic
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LOL! I hate gap-teeth. Can't stand it. Nothing can ruin a person's appearance like a gap in their mouth.
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She looks like she's hungry for some carrots. Eww, those look like milk teeth :-/
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Posted by enfant_terrible
LOL! I hate gap-teeth. Can't stand it. Nothing can ruin a person's appearance like a gap in their mouth.


#dead
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Posted by ninjutsu

I'd swap my teeth for hers in a flash


i like her full lips
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Posted by SUT3point0
Agree with Enfant. Stretch marked ass cheeks never made me not want to sink my teeth into. NEver saw a stretchmarked tytty that I didnt think wasn't suckable.
Gap teeth are cute too on some women.
Natural locs =yes. Natural everything yes


You like locs?!?! Im shocked.
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Ohhh ok. That explains it. I love full lips on men and women. Sexy.
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Posted by SUT3point0
Agree with Enfant. Stretch marked ass cheeks never made me not want to sink my teeth into. NEver saw a stretchmarked tytty that I didnt think wasn't suckable.
Gap teeth are cute too on some women.
Natural locs =yes. Natural everything yes


Big Grin add a gap on it. What you said is cute btw.
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Posted by enfant_terrible
She looks like she's hungry for some carrots. Eww, those look like milk teeth :-/


LMAO. Hater
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Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
Posted by natural25
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Posted by natural25
Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
Posted by ninjutsu
You guys are kind of young to have lost hope when it comes to finding your soul mates... lol


LOL. Despite being a pisces I'm not very watery. I'm not sold on the romantic soul mate concept. Some people were sent here to spread love. Others to be loved. I don't know where I fit in, but I've decided not to worry about it anymore. :-/ I want to travel, learn some new languages, and live life to the fullest. And I want to give back when I can, so I will make time to volunteer for good causes if I leave the social work field. These are my new goals.


I've been working on myself for sometime now.... Focusing on improving myself. Now, I am kinda... back in the mood for L.O.V.E.!!! Lol.

LOVE is a four letter word. Tongue


But I love, love! #hopelessromantic


It does create a certain euphoria. I have my moments but lately...let's just say I'm going through a selfish stage. A much needed selfish stage. To hell with Mr. Right, send me Dr. Feelgood. Winking Haha. Just saying.....
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Yea. I went through that phase all last summer and this year... Im slowly starting to transition back. When I started meeting members from the Chicago Bulls, I knew I needed to get somewhere and sit down before danger ensued. Lol.
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Posted by enfant_terrible
She looks like she's hungry for some carrots. Eww, those look like milk teeth :-/


LMAO. Hater
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But then of course, I wouldn't kick her out of bed either...
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Posted by ninjutsu
I always wanted locs.. My hair is too thin and not the right texture


Yea you need a little curl in order for locs to stay...
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Posted by natural25
Posted by SUT3point0
Agree with Enfant. Stretch marked ass cheeks never made me not want to sink my teeth into. NEver saw a stretchmarked tytty that I didnt think wasn't suckable.
Gap teeth are cute too on some women.
Natural locs =yes. Natural everything yes


You like locs?!?! Im shocked.

Y? LOL
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Idk... I just figured you are attracted to women that do not have the hair texture for locs. LOL.
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Posted by WaterCup
Posted by SUT3point0
Agree with Enfant. Stretch marked ass cheeks never made me not want to sink my teeth into. NEver saw a stretchmarked tytty that I didnt think wasn't suckable.
Gap teeth are cute too on some women.
Natural locs =yes. Natural everything yes


Big Grin add a gap on it. What you said is cute btw.

Thanks
gaps are cute. Keyshia cole used to have one and closed it I was disppointed lol

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She's koo koo for coo coo puffs though...
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Posted by ninjutsu
I always wanted locs.. My hair is too thin and not the right texture


Have you tried back combing? I love having locs. So many styling options. smile I bet you would be really cut with locs.
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You have locs!?!? Nice! I thought about it when I went "natural" a year ago. But decided to just stay away from the flat iron for now. Baby steps....
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SUT - got it
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Posted by ninjutsu
I like SUT's equal opportunism, gotta agree..


Lately, I have been attracted to more non Black men. Los Angeles is somewhat segregated when it comes to dating. Well, as it pertains to who Black women date. But out here, its a different ball game. Although the people are ignorant as hell, there is a small pocket of White men here, St. Louis, and Chicago who LOVE Black women. Well, they love all women.
I met one guy during a lay over. I was exhausted, coming back from the inauguration. We were in Denver, both heading to St. Louis. He approached me and I did not understand why he was running his flapper trapper a mile a minute. As we started to talk and I began to wake up, I noticed he was a serious cutie on duty. Had a little nerd flair about himself. Found out he is an investment banker but break dances as a hobby. Niiiiice! Loved his style . We exchanged numbers, he took me out a few times, he started debating me about everything under then sun. Found out he is a Gemini. Case close.d LOL.
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That I can meet others needs. That is hard! Maybe someday...
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Posted by natural25
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Posted by ninjutsu
I always wanted locs.. My hair is too thin and not the right texture


Have you tried back combing? I love having locs. So many styling options. smile I bet you would be really cut with locs.


You have locs!?!? Nice! I thought about it when I went "natural" a year ago. But decided to just stay away from the flat iron for now. Baby steps....

yes I started locing about 2 or 3 years ago. Before that I was natural for 10 years, so luckily I started with some length. When I first went natural though I only transitioned for a few months before I chopped my hair off. I thought my family was gonna stage an intervention LOL. I still remember my Dad face. He just shook his head. But I'm the Lisa Bonet of the family so no one raises an eye brow when I do some weird ish. LOL.
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LOL. The entire natural thing is interesting. I never had a perm. When I decided to go natural, it was a decision to stop flat ironing my hair, only get it done once a year if that. Hence, my pic. Some people love my curly hair others prefer it straight. Lol. I have noticed that I attract a different type of man now too. Strange...
But I cant give up this dang dye!!!
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Agree with Enfant. Stretch marked ass cheeks never made me not want to sink my teeth into. NEver saw a stretchmarked tytty that I didnt think wasn't suckable.
Gap teeth are cute too on some women.
Natural locs =yes. Natural everything yes


Big Grin add a gap on it. What you said is cute btw.

Thanks
gaps are cute. Keyshia cole used to have one and closed it I was disppointed lol

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I don't get people who get "fixes", what do they do whe their kids come out with the old noses? Yeah, I'm sure they'll believe when you say it's beautiful, when you yourself started from breathing in 80% of air to just 15% thanks to your nose job.
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Posted by natural25
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Posted by ninjutsu
I always wanted locs.. My hair is too thin and not the right texture


Have you tried back combing? I love having locs. So many styling options. smile I bet you would be really cut with locs.


You have locs!?!? Nice! I thought about it when I went "natural" a year ago. But decided to just stay away from the flat iron for now. Baby steps....

yes I started locing about 2 or 3 years ago. Before that I was natural for 10 years, so luckily I started with some length. When I first went natural though I only transitioned for a few months before I chopped my hair off. I thought my family was gonna stage an intervention LOL. I still remember my Dad face. He just shook his head. But I'm the Lisa Bonet of the family so no one raises an eye brow when I do some weird ish. LOL.


I love lisa bonet!
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I saw her at a farmers market in Santa Monica a few yrs ago. She is gorg.
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Posted by natural25
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I like SUT's equal opportunism, gotta agree..


Lately, I have been attracted to more non Black men. Los Angeles is somewhat segregated when it comes to dating. Well, as it pertains to who Black women date. But out here, its a different ball game. Although the people are ignorant as hell, there is a small pocket of White men here, St. Louis, and Chicago who LOVE Black women. Well, they love all women.
I met one guy during a lay over. I was exhausted, coming back from the inauguration. We were in Denver, both heading to St. Louis. He approached me and I did not understand why he was running his flapper trapper a mile a minute. As we started to talk and I began to wake up, I noticed he was a serious cutie on duty. Had a little nerd flair about himself. Found out he is an investment banker but break dances as a hobby. Niiiiice! Loved his style . We exchanged numbers, he took me out a few times, he started debating me about everything under then sun. Found out he is a Gemini. Case close.d LOL.


LOL... Those gems can be characters. I couldn't stand it if my partner constantly debate with me, ugh. Actually I've had that and it sucked balls lmao.
Yeah over here no one cares who dates who race-wise for the most part. My first bf was black and no one cared less Tongue
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Dating him was exhausting. Never again! It was unfortunate because he was so intelligent and sexy...
Anywho... **erases flashabcks** LOL
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Posted by xygeneration
I wanted to get a nose job! Dont hate!


I hope it makes you need an oxygen tank for extra air lol. Joking. But why? "Flaws" are beautiful & make you look..well..like you. I personally find "perfect" looking people kinda boring.
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Yeah natural I grew up surrounded by geminis so I know exactly what you're saying... And yes it can become irritatingly exhausting hahah


Entirely too much
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Posted by ninjutsu
Okay watercup would you find it acceptable if the person had a ridiculously hideous nose?


You're too beautiful & don't need a any kind of fix, believe me. It's all in your mind lol. Unless maybe it looked like a camel's back, you know, had that lump in the middle that makes you look like a seasoned boxer- I don't see any of that with you. What if you get addicted to the stuff & end up looking terrible? Have you seen Lil' Kim & Wendy Williams' funny looking body? Wendy now resembles a number 7, too much boob.
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