You're NOT the father!!

Guys what would you do if you found out that the baby you thought was yours, is actually somebody else's? Would you cut ties with it or remain in its life?

British actor, Idris Elba (he is really west African btw 😄) just found out that the baby wasn't his! His American GF made him to believe it was his when it really wasn't. GFs may lie, but partenity tests don't. I find him very attractive btw lol. I'd give him a REAL baby 😛 Virgos men are really starting to grow on me for some reason, I'm not sure if I like it very much though 🙂 1st it was that comedian guy, Dave & now this guy! Little infection of Virgomalitis, methinks *squints*

Posted by djbuck1
Ummm . . . are you trying to tell us in a roundabout way that Idris Elba is really the father of your child? 😉

LMAO. No, he is father to hundreds of my 'kids', my eggs. Btw this egg thing is making me to lose apetite for real eggs (chicken eggs). I was watching this show about IVFs yesterday & they were showing how the egg is artificially inseminated..it left me kind of nauseous tbh with you.

Posted by djbuck1
In answer to your question, I think that once you bond with a child that is "yours" (whether by birth, adoption or . . . deception?), that's it. You don't walk away. I know I could not.

I would, however, have some issues with the mother . . .

I was thinking many guys would breathe a sigh of relief, cut ties & disappeare into the sunset. I understand what you mean though about bonding, it must be difficult.

So if you decided to be in the child's life, what about the real father? What if he didn't want you in the child's life?

Some men are very territorial about these kind of things, they don't want to 'share' a child with another man.

If I were a man I'd walk away for sure. Deception is a huge thing for me, one I don't forgive or forget. So having the child in my life would be a constant reminder of what I suffered. I'd walk.

My sister's 'father of her kids' actually denied their 3rd child & refused to pay any kind of child support for it until the court ordered a partenity test. The test came back positive that he was indeed the father, yet he still refused to believe it & had to be taken to court again to enforce payment.

I've never been in a situation like that, but I know for a fact I wouldn't want a dime from a man who denied my child. He can keep it. Him knowing it's his child would be enough for me.

Posted by cunninglinguist
If I were a dude, I'd probably say, fuck the woman and her kid. I bounce. It ain't mine, so that Jerry Springer queen is on her own.

I agree. So if you're married to the person, are you obligated by law to take care of the child even if it isn't yours?

For those who say they'd bail - this child is 3 yrs old. You would have loved that child as your own, you would love like a parent! How do you just turn your back on that? By walking, that's like abandoning your child at that point. I agree, child support should not come into play under such circumstances. But I would still feel I had a vested interest in the child's well being and upbringing.

Guys what would you do if you found out that the baby you thought was yours, is actually somebody else's? Would you cut ties with it or remain in its life?

THIS KIND OF THING KIND OF HAPPENED TO ME YEARS AGO I LIVED WITH A WOMAN SHE GOT PREGO BEFORE THE CHILD WAS BORN IT CAME OUT SHE WAS HAVING IT ON WITH THE PARSON BEHIND MY BACK (OH YES THE CHURCH OF ENGLAND HAS A FEW PRIEST THAT ARE NOT BEYOUND ADULTRY) SO I SPLIT COME TO FIND OUT YEARS LATER HE WASN'T THE FATHER ETHER IT WAS SOMEONE ELSE. THE CHILD WAS OLD ENOUGH TO BE A PART OF HIS LIFE BY THEN AND KEEP SUPPORTING HER AND SEEING HER. HE HAD VERY LITTLE TO DO WITH THE MOTHER.

Posted by RatBastard
Hes a handsome dude. How the fuck can this happen to handsome dudes? Was he fatherless as per dxp definitions of mangina?

LMAO @ you going on about how handsome he is. Breaux crush? Well he has both parents as far as I know, so maybe the chick just compared bank accounts between all her 'baby daddys' & his had more zeros. Who knows.

Posted by KingVirgo
If she cheated on me and lied and said the kid wasn't mine then I would leave her it's not the child that's the problem it's the fact that she lied and had me believing that I started the family not some random dick she decided to fall on...

LOL @ the dick comment & I agree with the rest of your post.

Posted by lildol
For those who say they'd bail - this child is 3 yrs old. You would have loved that child as your own, you would love like a parent! How do you just turn your back on that? By walking, that's like abandoning your child at that point. I agree, child support should not come into play under such circumstances. But I would still feel I had a vested interest in the child's well being and upbringing.

It's cases like this where you have to let the head rule over the heart. What do you gain by sticking around? Every single time you play with that kid it'll always be a reminder that you're not its father. I say let the real father take over & live your own life.

Posted by james tate
Guys what would you do if you found out that the baby you thought was yours, is actually somebody else's? Would you cut ties with it or remain in its life?

THIS KIND OF THING KIND OF HAPPENED TO ME YEARS AGO I LIVED WITH A WOMAN SHE GOT PREGO BEFORE THE CHILD WAS BORN IT CAME OUT SHE WAS HAVING IT ON WITH THE PARSON BEHIND MY BACK (OH YES THE CHURCH OF ENGLAND HAS A FEW PRIEST THAT ARE NOT BEYOUND ADULTRY) SO I SPLIT COME TO FIND OUT YEARS LATER HE WASN'T THE FATHER ETHER IT WAS SOMEONE ELSE. THE CHILD WAS OLD ENOUGH TO BE A PART OF HIS LIFE BY THEN AND KEEP SUPPORTING HER AND SEEING HER. HE HAD VERY LITTLE TO DO WITH THE MOTHER.

Wow. Speechless

The responses in this thread are completely indicative of the idiotic culture of children and relationships in this country.



not all i give it to the parson he was fucking around but even tho the kid wasn't his
he did man up and not split i was waiting to see if it was mine if it was then i would of been a part of the childs like i made more money than the parson so i was the number one candate so i got tested come to find out it could not of been mine no matter what.

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Posted by lildol
For those who say they'd bail - this child is 3 yrs old. You would have loved that child as your own, you would love like a parent! How do you just turn your back on that? By walking, that's like abandoning your child at that point. I agree, child support should not come into play under such circumstances. But I would still feel I had a vested interest in the child's well being and upbringing.

I was married to a girl that already had a son and she divorced me, I gave her no help in making the child it's just my opinion. If it's not mine and I'm not with the girl then why should I take care of a child thats not mine. I'm quite sure she's gonna find somebody else to play that part...

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That is totally different! However, there are step-parents who, having raised a child who is not there's, developed a strong bond and loved that child as their own, have successfully been able to get visitation rights (IF the court battle was necessary).

Neuro makes a good point!

Posted by KingVirgo
@WaterCup I just think it's wrong for a woman to lie and say a child is another man when in reality it's not, why can't she get the guy she spread her legs for the title of daddy for her child?... I would forget about the cheating it's lying about the kid that would piss me the fuck off...

Totally agree

Posted by WaterCup
Guys what would you do if you found out that the baby you thought was yours, is actually somebody else's? Would you cut ties with it or remain in its life?

British actor, Idris Elba (he is really west African btw 😄) just found out that the baby wasn't his! His American GF made him to believe it was his when it really wasn't. GFs may lie, but partenity tests don't. I find him very attractive btw lol. I'd give him a REAL baby 😛 Virgos men are really starting to grow on me for some reason, I'm not sure if I like it very much though 🙂 1st it was that comedian guy, Dave & now this guy! Little infection of Virgomalitis, methinks *squints*

These chicks make it bad for the rest of us tryna do the right thing!
Shit I need to go google this kid and see.

But I dunno...
If I was a dude, id probably want to still be there ONLY if a bond was created.

I'll come back later on this since I don't agree with some of what Neuro said.

if i were a guy, i wouldnt pay for a kid that isnt mine.

i think kids should be paternity tested before they even leave the hospital.

swab your mouth and then swab your babies mouth.

Posted by Neurotoxin
The responses in this thread are completely indicative of the idiotic culture of children and relationships in this country.

My son is adopted, and we've fostered before him. All these children are a direct result of selfish bullshit like this. I've seen it and experienced it first hand. People fucking before thinking of the consequences or before accepting the responsibility of raising a child.

If you're not ready to raise a child...yours or not, keep your dick in your pants or your legs closed.

If your fucking some chick and she has a kid, and 3 years down the road, you find out its not yours, sucks to be you. But that child has grown up with you as the father, and it's your responsibility to be that child's father now. Regardless of what happened between you and the mother.

Don't go ruining that child's life because you fucked up and you're too much of a fucking cowardly pussy to deal with it.

Or just stop fucking. Simple as that.

what would happen to the biological father?

ive known men who have had kids outside of their marriage and expect their wife to be supportive.

Posted by KingVirgo

Posted by DMV
ive known men who have had kids outside of their marriage and expect their wife to be supportive.

So do I and those woman left and had families on their own.

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yeah the women did not stick around for very long. they tried but couldnt handle it.

Posted by KingVirgo
I can adopt a child I have no problem with that, I can raise another man child like mine and not have a problem with that I don't care if a woman had a child before I came into her life I understand that. What I won't do is raise another man child if my woman cheated because just as she cheated she can go back to the same guy and they can raise the child together without me period.

i agree. She was deceptive and she should own up 2 it. her and who ever really fathered her child.

women keep lying to men because there arent any consequences for their actions.

some courts do whats in the best interest of the child. i get that. in doing so, the woman still gets a free pass. what ever happened to coming to court with clean hands?

I feel bad for the guys who shelled out thousands over the years for kids that arent theirs. and they cant even sue the mother for fraud.

Some of the women in the world today just leave me shaking my head... I have to agree with Neuro a great deal on this one. Either be responsible and prepared to accept the consequences of your actions or keep it in your pants.

Posted by DMV
some courts do whats in the best interest of the child. i get that. in doing so, the woman still gets a free pass. what ever happened to coming to court with clean hands?

I feel bad for the guys who shelled out thousands over the years for kids that arent theirs. and they cant even sue the mother for fraud.

Oh, you can't sue for the money back? What about suing the real father for it? I think that's fucked up. Law sometimes is not fair on guys.

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Posted by TMV
Some of the women in the world today just leave me shaking my head... I have to agree with Neuro a great deal on this one. Either be responsible and prepared to accept the consequences of your actions or keep it in your pants.

Tell that to the real father. Why should I have to deal with a consequence that's not even mine?

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Exactly. If we are going to talk about responsibility, how is taking somebody else's responsibility going to teach the one really responsible how to be responsible for their own actions? He is off scott-free.

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Posted by TMV
Some of the women in the world today just leave me shaking my head... I have to agree with Neuro a great deal on this one. Either be responsible and prepared to accept the consequences of your actions or keep it in your pants.

Tell that to the real father. Why should I have to deal with a consequence that's not even mine?

Because if you've raised that child as your own you can't just all of a sudden say "Well, not my problem anymore! Later kid!"

That's a selfish, cowardly, punk ass, worthless piece of shit move.

As a responsible adult you have to put aside whatever shit is going on with your partner and think of the well being on that child. You don't have to stay with your partner, but to that child YOU are the father, and YOU have to play a role in that child's life.

Otherwise you're simply another worthless piece of garbage that abandons the mother and child to fend for themselves.

Fucking shit...with stupid fucking attitudes like this, I hope nobody fucking breeds at all.

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It's a jungle out, each person for themselves. You want a perfect world, then people must take care of their own mess themselves. I hear people complain about people on welfare all the time. There wouldn't be people on welfare if people provided for their own without giving the responsibility to someone else. The world is the way it is because people don't deal with the consequences of their actions.

Posted by CluelessCancer
his mother is a totally useless c*unt.

chicks man..but than Idris is a sucker, that's what he gets. Stupid Virgo. He probably dropped a GOOD chick, for that lame Chick.

LMAO, don't start. He is cute though, don't you think 😉 ? Real African warrior looking *drools*

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Posted by TMV
Some of the women in the world today just leave me shaking my head... I have to agree with Neuro a great deal on this one. Either be responsible and prepared to accept the consequences of your actions or keep it in your pants.

Tell that to the real father. Why should I have to deal with a consequence that's not even mine?

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I don't give a fart about the bio daddy. I'm saying that this should have happened before a child was ever conceived to begin with. Too many people out there think with their baby makers and not about what happens when they work. 😢

If a guy wants to leave a relationship after finding out this HUGE lie, he has everyyy right to do so. If that involves eventually leaving the kid also, he has every right to do so as it is not his. If he wants to stick it out with the girl and the kid then so be it. If I was sin the situation it would be a tough call. Hopefully I wont be having any kids tho.

It would prolly be best to leave. God knows my mars would be harboring bad feelings about the issue until it explodes.

It seems like her husband did not mind at all. But what do I know...

hes waiting to the kids are grown then he will kill her in her sleep

It's very naive to assume the bio father will be out of the picture just like that.

To me the right thing would be to have a talk with both parents to decide what's the best for the child. But then again I would have to be in that exact situation to come up with a real answer.

Posted by alohamora
Imo

If a guy didnt want to stick around after finding out he is not the father, then he really didn't want to to begin with.
A real father* know no boundaries when it comes to loving his son/daughter, have a real bond even if he later finds out it wasnt his. His time that he invested would be worth and not a regret. A real father would have enjoyed his time with his own kid, not just take it as a responsibility that almost seems like a burden to him

But thats the whole point he isnt the "real" father just one living a lie. As some one who took care of a child for 6 years not knowing he wasnt mine I enjoyed my time and didnt find it a burden. But life with the gal proved impossible. And legal issues kept me away from the child. So before you speak out your ass wipe it first. You have zero idea how

This is the difference between a man's lie and a woman's lie according to. Chris Rock. A woman will call a man on the phone and ask him where he is while he is at a sports bar watching a ball game on TV and eating hot wings. His lie is that he is still at work because be is trying to avoid her. A woman will have tha audacity to say "it's your baby" in some definitive manner even though she has no way of knowing that if she was secretly having sex with other men. The man's lie is a petty white lie, whereas the woman's lie has life altering fallout connected to it.

DAMN THOSE BITCHS