Music or Misery...

OK... I need some insight into how to help my 21 yr old daughter. She is a great young woman and is full of spirit and energy. She loves to write and went to college for journalism and the unfortunate thing happened--she got pregnant (is not with my grandson's dad). She went back to school but found it too much to raise a child and go to school full time. We live in different states and she had no family to support her at school. She came back and is staying with her dad's wife and is miserable. They have a house and I have an apt that's not big enough (although would make room if I had to). Here is where it gets tricky... She has been writing lyrics for years and met some producers, kept in contact with them over the years and now they want to get her in the studio (again). She doesn't have to pay for anything and they have already started recording with her. She is super talented and definitely has something unique (not just cuz she's my child). Should I support her in aggressively pursuing a music career or should I tell her to focus on school. Here is where I'm at... I feel that she should pursue her dreams (as I am in the same boat and very close to doing what I want to do) and through those dreams, she will find where she belongs as opposed to wasting time and money now in school knowing she's not going to put forth the right amount of energy. I feel that if all else fails, she is still young enough to go to school (it is not completely out of the question). What do you think? Serious responses please. Thanks!

Thank you all for your valuable input. I am going to try to respond to all of you and let me know if I missed anything. There are many variables to this dilemma. She can't depend on my grandson's dad because he seems to have a mental illness (which we realized after the fact, which I told her that's what happens when you don't try to get to know someone and take your time). He is only reliable sometimes. Her dad is incarcerated (and has been in and out of jail all throughout her childhood). He is extremely judgemental (the nerve). He is constantly putting her down as well as his side of the family. Of course they want the best for her, but go about it the wrong way. She has tried twice to give herself a chance at school, but it didn't work out because she was too far from me for me to help her with my grandson (even though he was in daycare) and couldn't work because of her hours at school and finding childcare during off-hours. She went to a college-town school and it's difficult to find consistent hours to work from 9-5P. So I helped her the most with her finances with what I could. However, because she felt bad that all was on me, she would turn to her dad's family for support. They are extremely old fashioned and when she asks them for help, they give her a hard time. The criticize her, think she's on drugs and hanging out all the time.

Since she's back, her father had her enroll in community college, but her heart is with music. Constantly taking out loans and knowing that you want to do something else is a waste to me. I say she should go back to school when she's ready because it's a financial waste for me.

I happen to work for MTV Networks and have some connections in the music industry too and told her that I would support her if she gave it 110% effort. You can't want something but not work hard for it. I am confident that if her music career doesn't take off that she will no doubt make important contacts which can form other opportunities.

She has done online reporting for an urban online channel in ATL and they love her!!!! Their network is growing big time and they want to help support/promote her. She know so many people in the entertainment industry and I think she should go hard at it.

Typing what I mean certainly doesn't do any justice in trying to explain--but she is afraid of her dad's family's response to her decision (and I don't want to deal with them either).

I know it's more me rambling more so about what is right vs. wrong (i.e. school vs. music). A part of me is also worried about dealing with the scrutiny of her dad's family, even though they don't help her as much as I do. I have contacts at my job but have not gone that route because she has to produce something or at least have something to back her up and I believe that starts at the studio. A friend of mine who manages artists and has a couple of good artists out there now is checking on the producer that she is planning to work with in ATL and will let me know if he's straight-up--and we are also going to meet with him also to talk about the industry. This is something that is just now surfacing and I want to support in her in which ever way possible. I have access to writers and other people in the media industry, but have not set her up yet until she knows exactly what to do. Idk... Sometimes it's good to hear what other people have to say that is unrelated to the situation.