Would you bail out your friend if you had the money?

This topic was created in the Personal Development forum by LadyNeptune on Monday, November 12, 2018 and has 37 replies.
He got a DUI for the second time this year and is in jail until Tuesday. I can afford the bail but I’m refusing to do so. Sorry I’m a shitty friend but it feels like this is a lesson the universe needs him to learn.

What would you do?
Posted by Uglygirlnextdoor

That friend should have acted like a responsible human being. Call me a shitty shitty friend but I wouldn't bail him out the first time to begin with. It's all fun and games until a drunk person hit an innocent pedestrian who did not expect to lose their life/health that day.
I bailed him out the first time. He wrapped his car around a pole headed home from the bar. Would’ve been a $ 5 uber distance wise.

Thank mythical baby jeebus there wasn’t other people involved.
I bailed him out the first time. He wrapped his car around a pole headed home from the bar. Would’ve been a $ 5 uber distance wise.

Thank mythical baby jeebus there wasn’t other people involved.

This was my situations with street racing. I had the bail always but got stuck with a suspended lice for a yr. Ughh

If my friends relay the payment back immediately I will continue to support my circle.
Nah.
I bailed myself out.

So, no.
If he does it again and kills someone you'll wish you didn't.
I agree.. do not bail them out. They NEED to learn 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️
I wouldn't have bailed him out the first time
Not a second time, no.
Depends. If that friend is not guilty and i afford the help...Yes. Definitely. On the other hand... if it's the type of friend that does stupid shit all the time (gets into trouble with the law) - and takes people's help for granted (like a child with entitlement issues), as i see it... I would help that friend more - if i let him deal with the consequence of his actions. And grow up - for a change. I don't like to be taken for a fool - or to babysit grown adults (unless they got to drunk on a night out or they've been struck by some health issue / such situations would be the only exceptions - but that's a matter of principles and common sense).
Posted by LadyNeptune

He got a DUI for the second time this year and is in jail until Tuesday. I can afford the bail but I’m refusing to do so. Sorry I’m a shitty friend but it feels like this is a lesson the universe needs him to learn.

What would you do?


1st time maybe, 2nd time no way...

They need another savior and ro ger their ish together
does he pay you back ? if not, let him sit - agree that this is getting old as others said so yeah, let him sit regardless

Tuesday is coming soon! Maybe he likes it in there LOL !
Posted by tctaap

does he pay you back ? if not, let him sit - agree that this is getting old as others said so yeah, let him sit regardless

Tuesday is coming soon! Maybe he likes it in there LOL !
He offered but I told him no worries. Think of it as an early bday present.

I felt bad cause he totaled his car. Plus lawyer fees.
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Posted by tctaap

does he pay you back ? if not, let him sit - agree that this is getting old as others said so yeah, let him sit regardless

Tuesday is coming soon! Maybe he likes it in there LOL !
He offered but I told him no worries. Think of it as an early bday present.

I felt bad cause he totaled his car. Plus lawyer fees.
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yeah that's nice but when will he learn - next time he might hurt someone and/or himself
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does he pay you back ? if not, let him sit - agree that this is getting old as others said so yeah, let him sit regardless

Tuesday is coming soon! Maybe he likes it in there LOL !
He offered but I told him no worries. Think of it as an early bday present.

I felt bad cause he totaled his car. Plus lawyer fees.
yeah that's nice but when will he learn - next time he might hurt someone and/or himself
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Yeah he hurt himself during the first one. Bruised ribs and a broken arm. Lots of scrapes and bruises. Totaled car.
Posted by PostHuman

Usually you make sense so what the fuck were you thinking bailing this person out??
People make mistakes. I go hard for my friends 🤷‍♀️
New details are emerging now and I’m glad I went with my instincts here 😬😬
Posted by 7s

Did you bail him out yourself?
Not this time
Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.



Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.

He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.

So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.

This could be either bad or good.

No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.

But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.

He tells me he still plans on going...

Like...

No. You can't boo.

So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.

*Face palm
He shoulda done the breathalyzer. If it was as little of wine as he says then he most likely woulda walked away with a speeding ticket.

I'm sure the refusal is a big part of the reason the cop arrested him.

Posted by Victorious

Posted by LadyNeptune

Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.



Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.

He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.

So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.

This could be either bad or good.

No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.

But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.

He tells me he still plans on going...

Like...

No. You can't boo.

So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.

*Face palm
Wow.

Maybe it's a short trip and he will be back in a week 🤷‍♀️
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Its a 2 week trip
Posted by LadyNeptune

He shoulda done the breathalyzer. If it was as little of wine as he says then he most likely woulda walked away with a speeding ticket.

I'm sure the refusal is a big part of the reason the cop arrested him.

That and he's black. Js
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Posted by LadyNeptune

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.



Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.

He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.

So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.

This could be either bad or good.

No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.

But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.

He tells me he still plans on going...

Like...

No. You can't boo.

So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.

*Face palm
Wow.

Maybe it's a short trip and he will be back in a week 🤷‍♀️
Its a 2 week trip
Hmm.

Well it will potentially cost him a friendship if he can't get the legal shizz sorted in a day. Unless he knows he won't be needed in court for two weeks.

Unless the friend is cool with it and knows he'll be paid back.
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Idk about their arrangement.

I just feel its shady to get arrested and then released on your friends dime and then go on vacation for 2 weeks.

He could cancel the flight and pay back his friend and employ a lawyer to fight for him with that $ $ .

Leaving for 2 weeks to be drunk on beach doesn't make this problem disappear.

I know the first few days are crucial in getting a lawyer so that they can file the forms so that your drivers license isn't suspended.

Like how are you gonna get to work if you come back and you don't have a license?

How are you gonna pay back your friend if you can't get to work?

Messy.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.



Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.

He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.

So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.

This could be either bad or good.

No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.

But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.

He tells me he still plans on going...

Like...

No. You can't boo.

So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.

*Face palm
Wow.

Maybe it's a short trip and he will be back in a week 🤷‍♀️
Its a 2 week trip
Hmm.

Well it will potentially cost him a friendship if he can't get the legal shizz sorted in a day. Unless he knows he won't be needed in court for two weeks.

Unless the friend is cool with it and knows he'll be paid back.
Idk about their arrangement.

I just feel its shady to get arrested and then released on your friends dime and then go on vacation for 2 weeks.

He could cancel the flight and pay back his friend and employ a lawyer to fight for him with that $ $ .

Leaving for 2 weeks to be drunk on beach doesn't make this problem disappear.

I know the first few days are crucial in getting a lawyer so that they can file the forms so that your drivers license isn't suspended.

Like how are you gonna get to work if you come back and you don't have a license?

How are you gonna pay back your friend if you can't get to work?

Messy.

He's selfish with his own desire of whatever people will taken advantage of. In which its sad.
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He's fucking himself over in the process I feel.
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Posted by Victorious

Posted by LadyNeptune

Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.



Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.

He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.

So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.

This could be either bad or good.

No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.

But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.

He tells me he still plans on going...

Like...

No. You can't boo.

So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.

*Face palm
Wow.

Maybe it's a short trip and he will be back in a week 🤷‍♀️
Its a 2 week trip
Hmm.

Well it will potentially cost him a friendship if he can't get the legal shizz sorted in a day. Unless he knows he won't be needed in court for two weeks.

Unless the friend is cool with it and knows he'll be paid back.
Idk about their arrangement.

I just feel its shady to get arrested and then released on your friends dime and then go on vacation for 2 weeks.

He could cancel the flight and pay back his friend and employ a lawyer to fight for him with that $ $ .

Leaving for 2 weeks to be drunk on beach doesn't make this problem disappear.

I know the first few days are crucial in getting a lawyer so that they can file the forms so that your drivers license isn't suspended.

Like how are you gonna get to work if you come back and you don't have a license?

How are you gonna pay back your friend if you can't get to work?

Messy.

yeah he's just looked forward to a vacation and this threw a wrench on it

i would also go on vacation and not give a flying fuk about the dui

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Even if that meant you might lose your driving license?

Even if that meant you might face arrest upon returning to the country?
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Posted by Victorious

Posted by LadyNeptune

Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.



Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.

He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.

So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.

This could be either bad or good.

No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.

But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.

He tells me he still plans on going...

Like...

No. You can't boo.

So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.

*Face palm
Wow.

Maybe it's a short trip and he will be back in a week 🤷‍♀️
Its a 2 week trip
Hmm.

Well it will potentially cost him a friendship if he can't get the legal shizz sorted in a day. Unless he knows he won't be needed in court for two weeks.

Unless the friend is cool with it and knows he'll be paid back.
Idk about their arrangement.

I just feel its shady to get arrested and then released on your friends dime and then go on vacation for 2 weeks.

He could cancel the flight and pay back his friend and employ a lawyer to fight for him with that $ $ .

Leaving for 2 weeks to be drunk on beach doesn't make this problem disappear.

I know the first few days are crucial in getting a lawyer so that they can file the forms so that your drivers license isn't suspended.

Like how are you gonna get to work if you come back and you don't have a license?

How are you gonna pay back your friend if you can't get to work?

Messy.

He's selfish with his own desire of whatever people will taken advantage of. In which its sad.
He's fucking himself over in the process I feel.
Not only that, but he fucked up the friendship too. Once they realized about him, he will no longer have a serious need of help with (like hospitalized for example).
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He will pay them back.

I'm more concerned that leaving the country might lead to arrest upon reentry.

Then he loses his license and his job.

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Posted by Victorious

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Victorious

Posted by LadyNeptune

Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.



Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.

He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.

So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.

This could be either bad or good.

No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.

But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.

He tells me he still plans on going...

Like...

No. You can't boo.

So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.

*Face palm
Wow.

Maybe it's a short trip and he will be back in a week 🤷‍♀️
Its a 2 week trip
Hmm.

Well it will potentially cost him a friendship if he can't get the legal shizz sorted in a day. Unless he knows he won't be needed in court for two weeks.

Unless the friend is cool with it and knows he'll be paid back.
Idk about their arrangement.

I just feel its shady to get arrested and then released on your friends dime and then go on vacation for 2 weeks.

He could cancel the flight and pay back his friend and employ a lawyer to fight for him with that $ $ .

Leaving for 2 weeks to be drunk on beach doesn't make this problem disappear.

I know the first few days are crucial in getting a lawyer so that they can file the forms so that your drivers license isn't suspended.

Like how are you gonna get to work if you come back and you don't have a license?

How are you gonna pay back your friend if you can't get to work?

Messy.

yeah he's just looked forward to a vacation and this threw a wrench on it

i would also go on vacation and not give a flying fuk about the dui

Even if that meant you might lose your driving license?

Even if that meant you might face arrest upon returning to the country?
Theres phones and ways of communication whilst on vacation

people get dui's everyday, there's ways to talk with the court, hire a lawyer while drinking mai tais in haimaica

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3rd world country, they are staying at an elephant sanctuary and monastery. I doubt there is cell service or internet there.
Yes. I would.
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Posted by Victorious

Posted by LadyNeptune

Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.



Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.

He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.

So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.

This could be either bad or good.

No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.

But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.

He tells me he still plans on going...

Like...

No. You can't boo.

So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.

*Face palm
Wow.

Maybe it's a short trip and he will be back in a week 🤷‍♀️
Its a 2 week trip
Hmm.

Well it will potentially cost him a friendship if he can't get the legal shizz sorted in a day. Unless he knows he won't be needed in court for two weeks.

Unless the friend is cool with it and knows he'll be paid back.
Idk about their arrangement.

I just feel its shady to get arrested and then released on your friends dime and then go on vacation for 2 weeks.

He could cancel the flight and pay back his friend and employ a lawyer to fight for him with that $ $ .

Leaving for 2 weeks to be drunk on beach doesn't make this problem disappear.

I know the first few days are crucial in getting a lawyer so that they can file the forms so that your drivers license isn't suspended.

Like how are you gonna get to work if you come back and you don't have a license?

How are you gonna pay back your friend if you can't get to work?

Messy.

yeah he's just looked forward to a vacation and this threw a wrench on it

i would also go on vacation and not give a flying fuk about the dui

Even if that meant you might lose your driving license?

Even if that meant you might face arrest upon returning to the country?
Theres phones and ways of communication whilst on vacation

people get dui's everyday, there's ways to talk with the court, hire a lawyer while drinking mai tais in haimaica

3rd world country, they are staying at an elephant sanctuary and monastery. I doubt there is cell service or internet there.
white people things, he must be with a white woman

that just sounds completely bogus
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He is going with a white female.

But he is gay.

The elephant sanctuary was his idea lol
@black-mamba

Yeah people do get dui's everyday. Its true.

But this is his second within a year and we still don't know if its going to be charged as a misdemeanor or a felony because of that.

If its charged as a felony it may be disastrous if he leaves the country.
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You can't leave the country when you get arrested, you're supposed to stay put until after court. It's one of the terms of being out on bond. They also need to contact bondsman once a week to keep track of their location/behaivor. The bondsman is responsible for the person, so they have strict rules. I've had friends in the same situation
That’s my understanding of it as well 😩
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@black-mamba

Yeah people do get dui's everyday. Its true.

But this is his second within a year and we still don't know if its going to be charged as a misdemeanor or a felony because of that.

If its charged as a felony it may be disastrous if he leaves the country.
Has he left yet? that is a bad predicament

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He leaves Tuesday
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You can't leave the country when you get arrested, you're supposed to stay put until after court. It's one of the terms of being out on bond. They also need to contact bondsman once a week to keep track of their location/behaivor. The bondsman is responsible for the person, so they have strict rules. I've had friends in the same situation
That’s my understanding of it as well 😩
If he hires a lawyer, then they will probably keep pushing back the court date to build their case, so he would probably be fine. And he won't have to do anything on his part at all. The fact that he can't afford bail makes me wonder if he can afford a lawyer though. Can't he pay his own bail?
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I’m not sure. He used his one call to call our friend cause hers was the only number he knew by heart.

She found out what bail was and called me and others.

I told her sorry but I can’t be on the line for 44k 🤷‍♀️

Okay more details:

Because he refused breathalyzer his license is automatically suspended.

He retained a lawyer who has set his court date for December.

He also got in writing from bails man permission to leave the country and gave them itinerary for trip.

He’s checking now to see if the country he is traveling to will allow him entry with these on his record. I pointed out Canada wouldn’t and there’s a few other countries out there with similar laws in place.
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You can't leave the country when you get arrested, you're supposed to stay put until after court. It's one of the terms of being out on bond. They also need to contact bondsman once a week to keep track of their location/behaivor. The bondsman is responsible for the person, so they have strict rules. I've had friends in the same situation
That’s my understanding of it as well 😩
If he hires a lawyer, then they will probably keep pushing back the court date to build their case, so he would probably be fine. And he won't have to do anything on his part at all. The fact that he can't afford bail makes me wonder if he can afford a lawyer though. Can't he pay his own bail?
I’m not sure. He used his one call to call our friend cause hers was the only number he knew by heart.

She found out what bail was and called me and others.

I told her sorry but I can’t be on the line for 44k 🤷‍♀️

44k

are you serious?

loooooooooooooooooooooool ya'll some amazing friends

hell no
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IKR. It’s high because it’s his second offense.

You only pay like 3% of that to the bails bonds man but if the person doesn’t show for their court date they will go after you for the rest.
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Posted by nanobot

You can't leave the country when you get arrested, you're supposed to stay put until after court. It's one of the terms of being out on bond. They also need to contact bondsman once a week to keep track of their location/behaivor. The bondsman is responsible for the person, so they have strict rules. I've had friends in the same situation
That’s my understanding of it as well 😩
If he hires a lawyer, then they will probably keep pushing back the court date to build their case, so he would probably be fine. And he won't have to do anything on his part at all. The fact that he can't afford bail makes me wonder if he can afford a lawyer though. Can't he pay his own bail?
I’m not sure. He used his one call to call our friend cause hers was the only number he knew by heart.

She found out what bail was and called me and others.

I told her sorry but I can’t be on the line for 44k 🤷‍♀️

44K? Was he on probation for the first offense or something? That's steep for a DUI, unless it's a probation violation as well.
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Yeah. Probation for first time is 1-3 years for cali. Idk the specifics of his probation but this second offense occurred within less than 1 year of the first...so.
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Posted by nanobot

You can't leave the country when you get arrested, you're supposed to stay put until after court. It's one of the terms of being out on bond. They also need to contact bondsman once a week to keep track of their location/behaivor. The bondsman is responsible for the person, so they have strict rules. I've had friends in the same situation
That’s my understanding of it as well 😩
If he hires a lawyer, then they will probably keep pushing back the court date to build their case, so he would probably be fine. And he won't have to do anything on his part at all. The fact that he can't afford bail makes me wonder if he can afford a lawyer though. Can't he pay his own bail?
I’m not sure. He used his one call to call our friend cause hers was the only number he knew by heart.

She found out what bail was and called me and others.

I told her sorry but I can’t be on the line for 44k 🤷‍♀️

44K? Was he on probation for the first offense or something? That's steep for a DUI, unless it's a probation violation as well.
Yeah. Probation for first time is 1-3 years for cali. Idk the specifics of his probation but this second offense occurred within less than 1 year of the first...so.
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12k minimum. Lawyers and classes. Court cost and Probate.