Posted by UglygirlnextdoorI bailed him out the first time. He wrapped his car around a pole headed home from the bar. Would’ve been a $ 5 uber distance wise.
That friend should have acted like a responsible human being. Call me a shitty shitty friend but I wouldn't bail him out the first time to begin with. It's all fun and games until a drunk person hit an innocent pedestrian who did not expect to lose their life/health that day.
Posted by LadyNeptune
He got a DUI for the second time this year and is in jail until Tuesday. I can afford the bail but I’m refusing to do so. Sorry I’m a shitty friend but it feels like this is a lesson the universe needs him to learn.
What would you do?
Posted by tctaapHe offered but I told him no worries. Think of it as an early bday present.
does he pay you back ? if not, let him sit - agree that this is getting old as others said so yeah, let him sit regardless
Tuesday is coming soon! Maybe he likes it in there LOL !
Posted by LadyNeptuneyeah that's nice but when will he learn - next time he might hurt someone and/or himselfPosted by tctaapHe offered but I told him no worries. Think of it as an early bday present.
does he pay you back ? if not, let him sit - agree that this is getting old as others said so yeah, let him sit regardless
Tuesday is coming soon! Maybe he likes it in there LOL !
I felt bad cause he totaled his car. Plus lawyer fees.click to expand
Posted by tctaapYeah he hurt himself during the first one. Bruised ribs and a broken arm. Lots of scrapes and bruises. Totaled car.Posted by LadyNeptuneyeah that's nice but when will he learn - next time he might hurt someone and/or himselfPosted by tctaapHe offered but I told him no worries. Think of it as an early bday present.
does he pay you back ? if not, let him sit - agree that this is getting old as others said so yeah, let him sit regardless
Tuesday is coming soon! Maybe he likes it in there LOL !
I felt bad cause he totaled his car. Plus lawyer fees.click to expand
Posted by PostHumanPeople make mistakes. I go hard for my friends 🤷♀️
Usually you make sense so what the fuck were you thinking bailing this person out??
Posted by 7sNot this time
Did you bail him out yourself?
Posted by VictoriousIts a 2 week tripPosted by LadyNeptuneWow.
Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.
Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.
He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.
So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.
This could be either bad or good.
No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.
But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.
He tells me he still plans on going...
Like...
No. You can't boo.
So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.
*Face palm
Maybe it's a short trip and he will be back in a week 🤷♀️click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneThat and he's black. Js
He shoulda done the breathalyzer. If it was as little of wine as he says then he most likely woulda walked away with a speeding ticket.
I'm sure the refusal is a big part of the reason the cop arrested him.
Posted by VictoriousIdk about their arrangement.Posted by LadyNeptuneHmm.Posted by VictoriousIts a 2 week tripPosted by LadyNeptuneWow.
Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.
Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.
He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.
So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.
This could be either bad or good.
No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.
But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.
He tells me he still plans on going...
Like...
No. You can't boo.
So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.
*Face palm
Maybe it's a short trip and he will be back in a week 🤷♀️
Well it will potentially cost him a friendship if he can't get the legal shizz sorted in a day. Unless he knows he won't be needed in court for two weeks.
Unless the friend is cool with it and knows he'll be paid back.click to expand
Posted by SkeletonHe's fucking himself over in the process I feel.Posted by LadyNeptuneHe's selfish with his own desire of whatever people will taken advantage of. In which its sad.Posted by VictoriousIdk about their arrangement.Posted by LadyNeptuneHmm.Posted by VictoriousIts a 2 week tripPosted by LadyNeptuneWow.
Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.
Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.
He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.
So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.
This could be either bad or good.
No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.
But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.
He tells me he still plans on going...
Like...
No. You can't boo.
So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.
*Face palm
Maybe it's a short trip and he will be back in a week 🤷♀️
Well it will potentially cost him a friendship if he can't get the legal shizz sorted in a day. Unless he knows he won't be needed in court for two weeks.
Unless the friend is cool with it and knows he'll be paid back.
I just feel its shady to get arrested and then released on your friends dime and then go on vacation for 2 weeks.
He could cancel the flight and pay back his friend and employ a lawyer to fight for him with that $ $ .
Leaving for 2 weeks to be drunk on beach doesn't make this problem disappear.
I know the first few days are crucial in getting a lawyer so that they can file the forms so that your drivers license isn't suspended.
Like how are you gonna get to work if you come back and you don't have a license?
How are you gonna pay back your friend if you can't get to work?
Messy.click to expand
Posted by Black-MambaEven if that meant you might lose your driving license?Posted by LadyNeptuneyeah he's just looked forward to a vacation and this threw a wrench on itPosted by VictoriousIdk about their arrangement.Posted by LadyNeptuneHmm.Posted by VictoriousIts a 2 week tripPosted by LadyNeptuneWow.
Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.
Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.
He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.
So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.
This could be either bad or good.
No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.
But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.
He tells me he still plans on going...
Like...
No. You can't boo.
So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.
*Face palm
Maybe it's a short trip and he will be back in a week 🤷♀️
Well it will potentially cost him a friendship if he can't get the legal shizz sorted in a day. Unless he knows he won't be needed in court for two weeks.
Unless the friend is cool with it and knows he'll be paid back.
I just feel its shady to get arrested and then released on your friends dime and then go on vacation for 2 weeks.
He could cancel the flight and pay back his friend and employ a lawyer to fight for him with that $ $ .
Leaving for 2 weeks to be drunk on beach doesn't make this problem disappear.
I know the first few days are crucial in getting a lawyer so that they can file the forms so that your drivers license isn't suspended.
Like how are you gonna get to work if you come back and you don't have a license?
How are you gonna pay back your friend if you can't get to work?
Messy.
i would also go on vacation and not give a flying fuk about the duiclick to expand
Posted by SkeletonHe will pay them back.Posted by LadyNeptuneNot only that, but he fucked up the friendship too. Once they realized about him, he will no longer have a serious need of help with (like hospitalized for example).Posted by SkeletonHe's fucking himself over in the process I feel.Posted by LadyNeptuneHe's selfish with his own desire of whatever people will taken advantage of. In which its sad.Posted by VictoriousIdk about their arrangement.Posted by LadyNeptuneHmm.Posted by VictoriousIts a 2 week tripPosted by LadyNeptuneWow.
Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.
Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.
He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.
So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.
This could be either bad or good.
No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.
But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.
He tells me he still plans on going...
Like...
No. You can't boo.
So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.
*Face palm
Maybe it's a short trip and he will be back in a week 🤷♀️
Well it will potentially cost him a friendship if he can't get the legal shizz sorted in a day. Unless he knows he won't be needed in court for two weeks.
Unless the friend is cool with it and knows he'll be paid back.
I just feel its shady to get arrested and then released on your friends dime and then go on vacation for 2 weeks.
He could cancel the flight and pay back his friend and employ a lawyer to fight for him with that $ $ .
Leaving for 2 weeks to be drunk on beach doesn't make this problem disappear.
I know the first few days are crucial in getting a lawyer so that they can file the forms so that your drivers license isn't suspended.
Like how are you gonna get to work if you come back and you don't have a license?
How are you gonna pay back your friend if you can't get to work?
Messy.click to expand
Posted by Black-Mamba3rd world country, they are staying at an elephant sanctuary and monastery. I doubt there is cell service or internet there.Posted by LadyNeptuneTheres phones and ways of communication whilst on vacationPosted by Black-MambaEven if that meant you might lose your driving license?Posted by LadyNeptuneyeah he's just looked forward to a vacation and this threw a wrench on itPosted by VictoriousIdk about their arrangement.Posted by LadyNeptuneHmm.Posted by VictoriousIts a 2 week tripPosted by LadyNeptuneWow.
Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.
Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.
He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.
So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.
This could be either bad or good.
No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.
But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.
He tells me he still plans on going...
Like...
No. You can't boo.
So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.
*Face palm
Maybe it's a short trip and he will be back in a week 🤷♀️
Well it will potentially cost him a friendship if he can't get the legal shizz sorted in a day. Unless he knows he won't be needed in court for two weeks.
Unless the friend is cool with it and knows he'll be paid back.
I just feel its shady to get arrested and then released on your friends dime and then go on vacation for 2 weeks.
He could cancel the flight and pay back his friend and employ a lawyer to fight for him with that $ $ .
Leaving for 2 weeks to be drunk on beach doesn't make this problem disappear.
I know the first few days are crucial in getting a lawyer so that they can file the forms so that your drivers license isn't suspended.
Like how are you gonna get to work if you come back and you don't have a license?
How are you gonna pay back your friend if you can't get to work?
Messy.
i would also go on vacation and not give a flying fuk about the dui
Even if that meant you might face arrest upon returning to the country?
people get dui's everyday, there's ways to talk with the court, hire a lawyer while drinking mai tais in haimaicaclick to expand
Posted by Black-MambaHe is going with a white female.Posted by LadyNeptunewhite people things, he must be with a white womanPosted by Black-Mamba3rd world country, they are staying at an elephant sanctuary and monastery. I doubt there is cell service or internet there.Posted by LadyNeptuneTheres phones and ways of communication whilst on vacationPosted by Black-MambaEven if that meant you might lose your driving license?Posted by LadyNeptuneyeah he's just looked forward to a vacation and this threw a wrench on itPosted by VictoriousIdk about their arrangement.Posted by LadyNeptuneHmm.Posted by VictoriousIts a 2 week tripPosted by LadyNeptuneWow.
Wow so I'm learning a bit more and am glad I stuck with my instinct.
Just got off the phone with him and before that talked to our mutual friend who ended up posting bail for him.
He went out with a friend and was driving said friends car. He says they had a few glasses of wine and was not drunk. I told him, its not called drunk and driving its called drinking and driving.
So on the drive back from oc to la he gets pulled over for speeding (80 mph on the freeway) and the cop asks him to do a breathalyzer. He refuses.
This could be either bad or good.
No evidence for blood alcohol levels BUT if he is convicted then he'll get a bigger penalties if he receives the DUI conviction in court.
But the part that is the shadiest? He has an international trip planned in advance like 4 months ago. His flight leaves tomorrow. I assumed he wouldn't be going because either a) hes still in jail, or b) hes out on bail but not supposed to leave the country.
He tells me he still plans on going...
Like...
No. You can't boo.
So his friend who paid the 3% bail to get him out of there is gonna have the bails bondsmen after them for the other 97% if/when he doesn't show in court. This is a mess.
*Face palm
Maybe it's a short trip and he will be back in a week 🤷♀️
Well it will potentially cost him a friendship if he can't get the legal shizz sorted in a day. Unless he knows he won't be needed in court for two weeks.
Unless the friend is cool with it and knows he'll be paid back.
I just feel its shady to get arrested and then released on your friends dime and then go on vacation for 2 weeks.
He could cancel the flight and pay back his friend and employ a lawyer to fight for him with that $ $ .
Leaving for 2 weeks to be drunk on beach doesn't make this problem disappear.
I know the first few days are crucial in getting a lawyer so that they can file the forms so that your drivers license isn't suspended.
Like how are you gonna get to work if you come back and you don't have a license?
How are you gonna pay back your friend if you can't get to work?
Messy.
i would also go on vacation and not give a flying fuk about the dui
Even if that meant you might face arrest upon returning to the country?
people get dui's everyday, there's ways to talk with the court, hire a lawyer while drinking mai tais in haimaica
that just sounds completely bogusclick to expand
Posted by nanobotThat’s my understanding of it as well 😩
You can't leave the country when you get arrested, you're supposed to stay put until after court. It's one of the terms of being out on bond. They also need to contact bondsman once a week to keep track of their location/behaivor. The bondsman is responsible for the person, so they have strict rules. I've had friends in the same situation
Posted by Black-MambaHe leaves TuesdayPosted by LadyNeptuneHas he left yet? that is a bad predicament
@black-mamba
Yeah people do get dui's everyday. Its true.
But this is his second within a year and we still don't know if its going to be charged as a misdemeanor or a felony because of that.
If its charged as a felony it may be disastrous if he leaves the country.click to expand
Posted by nanobotI’m not sure. He used his one call to call our friend cause hers was the only number he knew by heart.Posted by LadyNeptuneIf he hires a lawyer, then they will probably keep pushing back the court date to build their case, so he would probably be fine. And he won't have to do anything on his part at all. The fact that he can't afford bail makes me wonder if he can afford a lawyer though. Can't he pay his own bail?Posted by nanobotThat’s my understanding of it as well 😩
You can't leave the country when you get arrested, you're supposed to stay put until after court. It's one of the terms of being out on bond. They also need to contact bondsman once a week to keep track of their location/behaivor. The bondsman is responsible for the person, so they have strict rules. I've had friends in the same situationclick to expand
Posted by Black-MambaIKR. It’s high because it’s his second offense.Posted by LadyNeptune44kPosted by nanobotI’m not sure. He used his one call to call our friend cause hers was the only number he knew by heart.Posted by LadyNeptuneIf he hires a lawyer, then they will probably keep pushing back the court date to build their case, so he would probably be fine. And he won't have to do anything on his part at all. The fact that he can't afford bail makes me wonder if he can afford a lawyer though. Can't he pay his own bail?Posted by nanobotThat’s my understanding of it as well 😩
You can't leave the country when you get arrested, you're supposed to stay put until after court. It's one of the terms of being out on bond. They also need to contact bondsman once a week to keep track of their location/behaivor. The bondsman is responsible for the person, so they have strict rules. I've had friends in the same situation
She found out what bail was and called me and others.
I told her sorry but I can’t be on the line for 44k 🤷♀️
are you serious?
loooooooooooooooooooooool ya'll some amazing friends
hell noclick to expand
Posted by -MadHatter-Yeah. Probation for first time is 1-3 years for cali. Idk the specifics of his probation but this second offense occurred within less than 1 year of the first...so.Posted by LadyNeptune44K? Was he on probation for the first offense or something? That's steep for a DUI, unless it's a probation violation as well.Posted by nanobotI’m not sure. He used his one call to call our friend cause hers was the only number he knew by heart.Posted by LadyNeptuneIf he hires a lawyer, then they will probably keep pushing back the court date to build their case, so he would probably be fine. And he won't have to do anything on his part at all. The fact that he can't afford bail makes me wonder if he can afford a lawyer though. Can't he pay his own bail?Posted by nanobotThat’s my understanding of it as well 😩
You can't leave the country when you get arrested, you're supposed to stay put until after court. It's one of the terms of being out on bond. They also need to contact bondsman once a week to keep track of their location/behaivor. The bondsman is responsible for the person, so they have strict rules. I've had friends in the same situation
She found out what bail was and called me and others.
I told her sorry but I can’t be on the line for 44k 🤷♀️click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by -MadHatter-Yeah. Probation for first time is 1-3 years for cali. Idk the specifics of his probation but this second offense occurred within less than 1 year of the first...so.Posted by LadyNeptune44K? Was he on probation for the first offense or something? That's steep for a DUI, unless it's a probation violation as well.Posted by nanobotI’m not sure. He used his one call to call our friend cause hers was the only number he knew by heart.Posted by LadyNeptuneIf he hires a lawyer, then they will probably keep pushing back the court date to build their case, so he would probably be fine. And he won't have to do anything on his part at all. The fact that he can't afford bail makes me wonder if he can afford a lawyer though. Can't he pay his own bail?Posted by nanobotThat’s my understanding of it as well 😩
You can't leave the country when you get arrested, you're supposed to stay put until after court. It's one of the terms of being out on bond. They also need to contact bondsman once a week to keep track of their location/behaivor. The bondsman is responsible for the person, so they have strict rules. I've had friends in the same situation
She found out what bail was and called me and others.
I told her sorry but I can’t be on the line for 44k 🤷♀️click to expand