A descent into madness and another terrible idea.Talk me out of it.

So I just found out that the Pisces I fell in love with last year will be volunteering at this event during A festival that is going to take place at the end of the month .

For those of you who never read or remember my past threads

Long story short

We met last year

I had these intense feelings ( primarily sexual ). She seemed to initially reciprocate but then met some else shortly after that she had a stronger connection with . We hung out a couple of times , the last time I saw her was after she broke up with the same guy she met shortly after me . It was the day after her birthday . I drove up and surprised her.

Shortly after when I was back home I confessed my feelings and that's when things started to go down hill .

A combination of Mercury in retrograde , miscommunication , weird interactions ....and an idiotic post by me on fb

Led to her not talking to me .( I texted her a twice and she never responded , I thought about sending her a card but never did ).

I've been upset mostly because I feel like I sabotaged my chance to have a genuine friendship with this girl . I let my feelings get in the way .

I've been devestated for months and mostly confused . If there is no chance at friendship I need to know for sure .

I need an explanation of how that post offended her and to apologize .

If she wants to permenantly close the door after that then I'm fine with it . At least I saw her one last time ...in the same place we met .

I think it's the closure I need to move on with my life .

Talk me out of it dxp.

Tell me to just ignore my deep feelings and leave her alone .

I have a ticket .

And it looks like I may even have a free ride there .

Things seem to be aligning to make the culminating event happen

Posted by NemDeux
"I let my feelings get in the way ...." as is the case again....read some of your threads; when it got to people giving you input you did not like - you ignored them. that seems to be your credo ....

imo this is not friendship with that pisces. it´s clinging onto straws.

Which people ?

I got mixed answers.

Btw it was dxpmembers who encouraged me to go do the grand romantic gesture by driving up and surprising her on her birthday .



Ultimately it was my choice but it's not like there were a lot of naysayers .

Posted by NemDeux
"I let my feelings get in the way ...." as is the case again....read some of your threads; when it got to people giving you input you did not like - you ignored them. that seems to be your credo ....

imo this is not friendship with that pisces. it´s clinging onto straws.

That being said .

You are probably right

But why tell me I'm the most amazing person she's ever met ? Several times .

I can't really say much other than if she didn't respond TWICE that it doesn't look like a good sign.

I think with Pisces if they don't have romantic feelings BUT if they do see a friendship with you/care/respect you they will respond even if they take their time.

Maybe after you declared your feelings, she wasn't feeling the same and then you acting all crazy made her pull back because she didn't want things to get messy and decided silence was the best option.

I think yes to go this fesitval and try to bump into her. If you do then just be super casual like heyy how you been? Type thing and DO NOT let your feelings take charge. Just be cool and casual as to give her the idea that you're over your feelings for her and then she might start thinking of you and the cool times ya'll hung out and maybe hit you up

I know for myself as a Gemini with Cancer mars and venus if I'm not interested in someone romantically and they declare their feelings it makes me awkward and I definitely back off and if they continue then I just ignore them and don't look back. This only happens if I'm not interested in them as in have feelings etc

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by NemDeux
"I let my feelings get in the way ...." as is the case again....read some of your threads; when it got to people giving you input you did not like - you ignored them. that seems to be your credo ....

imo this is not friendship with that pisces. it´s clinging onto straws.

Which people ?

I got mixed answers.

Btw it was dxpmembers who encouraged me to go do the grand romantic gesture by driving up and surprising her on her birthday .



Ultimately it was my choice but it's not like there were a lot of naysayers .

i wish you good luck. imo - and from what you previously have stated/written about this pisces; you would be friends already if that is what she wanted.

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I agree .thanks for your input .

Shortly before you posted this I realized the very same thing .

She already knows how I feel / how much I care about her .

If she wants me in her life in some capacity in the future .

She still has my email address .

She could also presumably get my number .

For once I'm going to practice self care and finally do nothing .

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Posted by NemDeux
"I let my feelings get in the way ...." as is the case again....read some of your threads; when it got to people giving you input you did not like - you ignored them. that seems to be your credo ....

imo this is not friendship with that pisces. it´s clinging onto straws.

That being said .

You are probably right

But why tell me I'm the most amazing person she's ever met ? Several times .

who cares why she said that - what depends on it?

maybe she felt it in the moment ....maybe she is an asskisser leech? maybe a bullshitter?

people are fickle.

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I don't know I've agreed with everything you've said besides this .

While people are fickle this seemed different .

I have had really close relationships and friendships with Pisces women who've declared similar sentiments

The difference with this girl is that she said it a lot sooner.

Grant it she was drunk most times she'd declare her admiration fot me which I acknowledged and rebuffed but I know

Alcohol doesn't create feelings that aren't there .

It Just lowers your inhibitions .

I just want to know why she was suppressing this things or fb stalking me .

IMO those things mean that you care about me well at least in fucked up Pisces-land which I'm mayor of by the way .

Posted by nats
I can't really say much other than if she didn't respond TWICE that it doesn't look like a good sign.

I think with Pisces if they don't have romantic feelings BUT if they do see a friendship with you/care/respect you they will respond even if they take their time.

Maybe after you declared your feelings, she wasn't feeling the same and then you acting all crazy made her pull back because she didn't want things to get messy and decided silence was the best option.

I think yes to go this fesitval and try to bump into her. If you do then just be super casual like heyy how you been? Type thing and DO NOT let your feelings take charge. Just be cool and casual as to give her the idea that you're over your feelings for her and then she might start thinking of you and the cool times ya'll hung out and maybe hit you up

Yeah I'm not going to go

You said it yourself I started acting crazy

So how would more crazy fix the problem ? Lol

She said acknowledged I was crazy the first time we hung out in my hometown .

She said it was one of the things she loved about me .😢

Posted by nats
I know for myself as a Gemini with Cancer mars and venus if I'm not interested in someone romantically and they declare their feelings it makes me awkward and I definitely back off and if they continue then I just ignore them and don't look back. This only happens if I'm not interested in them as in have feelings etc

Semi unrelated question for you

I saw that you said one of the best sexual experiences you've ever had was with s Pisces w/a cap mars

What made it so good ?

Please describe it in detail

Feel free to PM me .

🙂

A short story would make me feel better .

Posted by NemDeux

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

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Posted by NemDeux
"I let my feelings get in the way ...." as is the case again....read some of your threads; when it got to people giving you input you did not like - you ignored them. that seems to be your credo ....

imo this is not friendship with that pisces. it´s clinging onto straws.

That being said .

You are probably right

But why tell me I'm the most amazing person she's ever met ? Several times .

who cares why she said that - what depends on it?

maybe she felt it in the moment ....maybe she is an asskisser leech? maybe a bullshitter?

people are fickle.

I don't know I've agreed with everything you've said besides this .

While people are fickle this seemed different .

I have had really close relationships and friendships with Pisces women who've declared similar sentiments

The difference with this girl is that she said it a lot sooner.

Grant it she was drunk most times she'd declare her admiration fot me which I acknowledged and rebuffed but I know

Alcohol doesn't create feelings that aren't there .

It Just lowers your inhibitions .

I just want to know why she was suppressing this things or fb stalking me .

IMO those things mean that you care about me well at least in fucked up Pisces-land which I'm mayor of by the way .

why ...is so overrated.

this is exactly what i mean with your defiant personality; i have the impression you´re probing and fishing for an answer/excuse .....you won´t be getting.

but each to their own.

and although hidden and cryptic; you have already answered your own questions .....

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Lol are you trolling me ?

Or maybe we just speak different language and you just misunderstand me .

The why is always more important than the action.

It's always been my obsession and not just in terms of my love life but everything.

My academic and professional career is dedicated to unearthing the "whys" of the world .

Posted by NemDeux
the question why in the light of on action becomes irrelevant. try it.

Quio?

Come again .

I genuinely don't understand your last post .

Do you have a Mercury in Pisces or something ?

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
So I just found out that the Pisces I fell in love with last year will be volunteering at this event during A festival that is going to take place at the end of the month .

For those of you who never read or remember my past threads

Long story short

We met last year

I had these intense feelings ( primarily sexual ). She seemed to initially reciprocate but then met some else shortly after that she had a stronger connection with . We hung out a couple of times , the last time I saw her was after she broke up with the same guy she met shortly after me . It was the day after her birthday . I drove up and surprised her.

Shortly after when I was back home I confessed my feelings and that's when things started to go down hill .

A combination of Mercury in retrograde , miscommunication , weird interactions ....and an idiotic post by me on fb

Led to her not talking to me .( I texted her a twice and she never responded , I thought about sending her a card but never did ).

I've been upset mostly because I feel like I sabotaged my chance to have a genuine friendship with this girl . I let my feelings get in the way .

I've been devestated for months and mostly confused . If there is no chance at friendship I need to know for sure .

I need an explanation of how that post offended her and to apologize .

If she wants to permenantly close the door after that then I'm fine with it . At least I saw her one last time ...in the same place we met .

I think it's the closure I need to move on with my life .

Talk me out of it dxp.

Tell me to just ignore my deep feelings and leave her alone .

Friendship is not what you want. You have no chance at it hence.

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
So I just found out that the Pisces I fell in love with last year will be volunteering at this event during A festival that is going to take place at the end of the month .

For those of you who never read or remember my past threads

Long story short

We met last year

I had these intense feelings ( primarily sexual ). She seemed to initially reciprocate but then met some else shortly after that she had a stronger connection with . We hung out a couple of times , the last time I saw her was after she broke up with the same guy she met shortly after me . It was the day after her birthday . I drove up and surprised her.

Shortly after when I was back home I confessed my feelings and that's when things started to go down hill .

A combination of Mercury in retrograde , miscommunication , weird interactions ....and an idiotic post by me on fb

Led to her not talking to me .( I texted her a twice and she never responded , I thought about sending her a card but never did ).

I've been upset mostly because I feel like I sabotaged my chance to have a genuine friendship with this girl . I let my feelings get in the way .

I've been devestated for months and mostly confused . If there is no chance at friendship I need to know for sure .

I need an explanation of how that post offended her and to apologize .

If she wants to permenantly close the door after that then I'm fine with it . At least I saw her one last time ...in the same place we met .

I think it's the closure I need to move on with my life .

Talk me out of it dxp.

Tell me to just ignore my deep feelings and leave her alone .

Friendship is not what you want. You have no chance at it hence.

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True

Friends don't want to bone each other.

I believed her when she said attraction is okay between friends .

Life lessons .

just don't go there dude.terrible idea. awful

In a perfect world

When my attraction/ feelings goes away I really would be down to be friends .

The thing is though I usually need to be friends with someone ( so that I can continue to spend time with them , realize they aren't who I think they are in my head ) for this to happen .

It's harder to get over someone when they are no longer in your life with so many loose ends ...at least for me .

I need to know what happened so that I won't feel powerless and so that I reclaim some agency , learn and be better the next time I'm put in a similar challenging situation .

Posted by WaterDevil
just don't go there dude.terrible idea. awful

Keep me strong .

Fate or rather my delusions are tempting me

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
In a perfect world



It's harder to get over someone when they are no longer in your life with so many loose ends ...at least for me .

Do you think you will get over her if she stays into your life....?

It could happen, but only if you two see each other, as part of a wide group, on a regular basis, for many months. Your expectations and excitement will die a slow death when you realize she is treating you like anyone else, and you will learn to take her and the new situation for granted.

Meeting her once or twice a year is not recommended. You will try to make the most of it, which means more unwanted attention for her, maybe embarrassment and hurt feelings for you.

Posted by Undine

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
In a perfect world



It's harder to get over someone when they are no longer in your life with so many loose ends ...at least for me .

Do you think you will get over her if she stays into your life....?

It could happen, but only if you two see each other, as part of a wide group, on a regular basis, for many months. Your expectations and excitement will die a slow death when you realize she is treating you like anyone else, and you will learn to take her and the new situation for granted.

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It's the only way I've successfully gotten over past love interests

But you are right in those instances we had register contact for months even years .



Seeing her once or twice probably wouldn't cut it .

It will just make me romsntisize our interactions even more so .

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
So I just found out that the Pisces I fell in love with last year will be volunteering at this event during A festival that is going to take place at the end of the month .

For those of you who never read or remember my past threads

Long story short

We met last year

I had these intense feelings ( primarily sexual ). She seemed to initially reciprocate but then met some else shortly after that she had a stronger connection with . We hung out a couple of times , the last time I saw her was after she broke up with the same guy she met shortly after me . It was the day after her birthday . I drove up and surprised her.

Shortly after when I was back home I confessed my feelings and that's when things started to go down hill .

A combination of Mercury in retrograde , miscommunication , weird interactions ....and an idiotic post by me on fb

Led to her not talking to me .( I texted her a twice and she never responded , I thought about sending her a card but never did ).

I've been upset mostly because I feel like I sabotaged my chance to have a genuine friendship with this girl . I let my feelings get in the way .

I've been devestated for months and mostly confused . If there is no chance at friendship I need to know for sure .

I need an explanation of how that post offended her and to apologize .

If she wants to permenantly close the door after that then I'm fine with it . At least I saw her one last time ...in the same place we met .

I think it's the closure I need to move on with my life .

Talk me out of it dxp.

Tell me to just ignore my deep feelings and leave her alone .

I am not familiar with your and this pisces´ back story, but your post is full of contradictions.... and I think you are quite self-centered and selfish at this 🙂 do you have scorpio placements? 🙂

now seriously: rather regret, what you have done, than what you havent done (and thinking what ifs...)

but: what if this pisces will love you back? would you still want her? honestly

go to the festival

Posted by Pandora101

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
So I just found out that the Pisces I fell in love with last year will be volunteering at this event during A festival that is going to take place at the end of the month .

For those of you who never read or remember my past threads

Long story short

We met last year

I had these intense feelings ( primarily sexual ). She seemed to initially reciprocate but then met some else shortly after that she had a stronger connection with . We hung out a couple of times , the last time I saw her was after she broke up with the same guy she met shortly after me . It was the day after her birthday . I drove up and surprised her.

Shortly after when I was back home I confessed my feelings and that's when things started to go down hill .

A combination of Mercury in retrograde , miscommunication , weird interactions ....and an idiotic post by me on fb

Led to her not talking to me .( I texted her a twice and she never responded , I thought about sending her a card but never did ).

I've been upset mostly because I feel like I sabotaged my chance to have a genuine friendship with this girl . I let my feelings get in the way .

I've been devestated for months and mostly confused . If there is no chance at friendship I need to know for sure .

I need an explanation of how that post offended her and to apologize .

If she wants to permenantly close the door after that then I'm fine with it . At least I saw her one last time ...in the same place we met .

I think it's the closure I need to move on with my life .

Talk me out of it dxp.

Tell me to just ignore my deep feelings and leave her alone .

I am not familiar with your and this pisces´ back story, but your post is full of contradictions.... and I think you are quite self-centered and selfish at this 🙂 do you have scorpio placements? 🙂

now seriously: rather regret, what you have done, than what you havent done (and thinking what ifs...)

but: what if this pisces will love you back? would you still want her? honestly

go to the festival

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Lol selfish how ?

Just my Pluto

I may be a Libra/Moon cusp

It's funny the guy who she had a stronger connection had a Scorpio Sun andVenus .

I've already dint the grand gesture .

She knows how I feel .

If she loves me back even as a friend she'll reach out and contact me .

She has my email and can even get ahold of my number again from mutual friends and other sources if she deleted it .

I'm not going to force anything anymore like I did in the past .ball is in her court .

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
In a perfect world

When my attraction/ feelings goes away I really would be down to be friends .

The thing is though I usually need to be friends with someone ( so that I can continue to spend time with them , realize they aren't who I think they are in my head ) for this to happen .

It's harder to get over someone when they are no longer in your life with so many loose ends ...at least for me .

I need to know what happened so that I won't feel powerless and so that I reclaim some agency , learn and be better the next time I'm put in a similar challenging situation .

I am like that too. If I don't see the person I idealized him and it is harder for me to get over. Better to be close as a friend, noticing all the imperfections and convincing my self that I don't want that. Lol

So, sorry, but I would go there for sure! Lol Who knows, maybe you just look at her and think... what did I see in her.

I love her today .

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
I love her today .

Sleep on it.

Let's talk tomorrow.

I say go there, bump into her and have a light conversation. Know where she stands, you will feel how she feels about you I.e. If she's disgusted and doesn't want to talk to you and the conversation is so forced, or if she's warm and friendly. Down through the conversation and when you feel you warmed up to each other and she's willing to talk ask her what upsets her. But don't avoid asking her because it's now going so well. Set your mind to rest, don't torture yourself with the what if's. And let us know how it went

I wish I would have went.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
I wish I would have went.

Why didn't you go—?

Dude I told you to go!!

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
I wish I would have went.

Why didn't you go—?

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I'm trying to be rational ( university started for me this week..I would have had to miss a class). I'll be 30 next year.

Plus she also already knows how I feel. I've already done the grand romantic gesture this year and opened up to her about how I feel.



She also may have only decided to really go this year after she found out I wasn't.

but that's the worst case scenario and thinking highly of myself

but alas

I wouldn't want to ruin her experience for her by showing up.

and even if that wasn't the case the was no guarantee that she would even talk to me.

plus that's really crazy...even for me.

pisces women love the crazies though..i've noticed.