Aftermath of Pisces (F) and Cancer (M) break up?

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by Cancer1986LeoCusp on Friday, December 24, 2010 and has 21 replies.
What are the consequences like for each sign? Considering you had a fulfilling relationship.
I have been with a pisces more than a year and a half before i came to US for education which might take at least 2 years.
Now i am having a hard time letting her go for the last 6 months. She is there still loyal to me as i kept contact with her.
But i did not commit to her yet. She is mad at me for that and says what is the point for her hanging out there for me if i do not commit.
I feel like i have to move on but we had very good relationship perhaps on the soul-mate level,which makes it hard for me to let her go.
Any pisces and cancer break up experiences here? What it is like?

PS If i commit it seems to me that i will have to pay a high cost for it. It will hamper my career goals, we are of diff religion, nationality also slightly diff views on husband and wife duties..the only thing that keeps us is a crazy love (from my side at least, sometimes she seems to be ready to move on without a problem)
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it is difficult... it is not over yet but most likely it will be. Trying to be as rational as possible but still keeping her there...
Love kills slowly!
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Snap snap i hope that your relationship works out!!!
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i'm cancer f, we're facing the LDR. and it is so scary, the emotional attachment is so potent i cant bear losing him, yet... being realistic. one of us will have to sacrafice. i think i will.
compromise isnt meeting in the middle, it is letting another have their way because you love them. unconditionally.
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Posted by illusion
i'm cancer f, we're facing the LDR. and it is so scary, the emotional attachment is so potent i cant bear losing him, yet... being realistic. one of us will have to sacrafice. i think i will.
compromise isnt meeting in the middle, it is letting another have their way because you love them. unconditionally.

That's right!!
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Posted by illusion
i'm cancer f, we're facing the LDR. and it is so scary, the emotional attachment is so potent i cant bear losing him, yet... being realistic. one of us will have to sacrafice. i think i will.
compromise isnt meeting in the middle, it is letting another have their way because you love them. unconditionally.

That's right!!
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I wrote a bit about this. Previously. IF you love her deep enough to consider it youll carry that open wound for the rest of your time. Reality doesnt fall into the equation for us. We arent realistic about love. When you find a soul mate religion, tradition everything should be secondary. As something new and magical and true is vibrating between the two of you. New traditions and ideas will develop. Things that angered you once about her ... well youll end up missing them. Her quirks are the things that make her stand out as a women for you. I might right more later but alas i must go.

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Posted by Cancer1986LeoCusp
What are the consequences like for each sign? Considering you had a fulfilling relationship.
I have been with a pisces more than a year and a half before i came to US for education which might take at least 2 years.
Now i am having a hard time letting her go for the last 6 months. She is there still loyal to me as i kept contact with her.
But i did not commit to her yet. She is mad at me for that and says what is the point for her hanging out there for me if i do not commit.
I feel like i have to move on but we had very good relationship perhaps on the soul-mate level,which makes it hard for me to let her go.
Any pisces and cancer break up experiences here? What it is like?

PS If i commit it seems to me that i will have to pay a high cost for it. It will hamper my career goals, we are of diff religion, nationality also slightly diff views on husband and wife duties..the only thing that keeps us is a crazy love (from my side at least, sometimes she seems to be ready to move on without a problem)


I would love to agree with all the others and in a big way I do but I must also be a little more fuddy duddy in my answer to you. I think the things you mentioned differences on are big deals. How important is your career, religion and husband and wife duties to you? Religion in itself can be HUGE if it is something that is very important to either one of you. Even the husb/wife duties. I speak from prior experience on this as I thought it wouldn't be a big deal in my last marriage and it was. We were even both of same belief system but he wasn't serious about it and never wanted to go to church but I did. Made for some serious contention as the years passed. He also agreed before we ever decided to get married that he didn't care that I wasn't the 'June Cleaver' type of woman and wouldn't be the only one cooking and cleaning as we both had 40 hour per week jobs and I believe in equality in relationships. It did bother him as he is from a culture that the women take care of all of the household duties without help from the men. This didn't fly with me at all. Then there is your career goals and that is such an important aspect to someone's life and you have to be happy with your decision in what you want your course of action to be and that it will be copesthetic with the both of you.
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I would love to agree with all the others and in a big way I do but I must also be a little more fuddy duddy in my answer
You are young and in love and I can totally understand that and I actually believe that love, when strong enough, can overcome most things but as I have matured I have learned that it doesn't always overcome ALL things.
I am not saying to throw in the towel by no means but I am giving my opinion that you should weigh all of these things very carefully and really make sure your relationship can withstand all of it. Don't rush into any decision without really talking these things out b/c you have to make sure you are both on board with your decisions. If you are and you love each other that much then go for it!
Good luck!
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My Pisces will just laugh if i say about religion and nations...indeed those things never came on the way between us. But considering everything from my head i decide to move on but from my heart i can not. That 1.5 years was the best thing i have ever had together. I tried to break up but kept coming back myself (push pull crab dance smile) so far...she is soft and forgiving fish...i wish i could delete all the contacts so that i could not be able to reach her but i know everything by heart: her #, email,home address, her mom's #,landlines #

@Stpatrickspisces
Ditto about husband and wife responsibilities...sometimes i think i am thinking too much about it but they may come in the way later.
However , currently we are in very good terms; LDR (long distance relationship?) but i guess i should not continue push-pull crap any more...but if i blow everything off it seems that i will be like crazy again in a week missing her...and start this crap again; persuading her to come to me and i know i can coz she loves me ...a madhouse
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Posted by thefish
I wrote a bit about this. Previously. IF you love her deep enough to consider it youll carry that open wound for the rest of your time. Reality doesnt fall into the equation for us. We arent realistic about love. When you find a soul mate religion, tradition everything should be secondary. As something new and magical and true is vibrating between the two of you. New traditions and ideas will develop. Things that angered you once about her ... well youll end up missing them. Her quirks are the things that make her stand out as a women for you. I might right more later but alas i must go.




Well, that is what seriously bothers me??_After what i experienced with her I think that even if I move on I might be longing back to her all the time. That??s what I wanted to learn here. I do not want that ???open wound?? at all
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Posted by illusion
i'm cancer f, we're facing the LDR. and it is so scary, the emotional attachment is so potent i cant bear losing him, yet... being realistic. one of us will have to sacrafice. i think i will.
compromise isnt meeting in the middle, it is letting another have their way because you love them. unconditionally.


I believe you are also in a similar situation?
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I believe you are also in a similar situation?


yeh Sad like it is a daily love hate relationship w my emotions. it feels so right yet when i am thinking about this logically it is taking a big risk. but the bond i have w him is so rare.
what are each of your five main planets?
me
Sun: Cancer (Gemini Cancer Cusp)
Moon: Pisces
Mercury: Gemini
Venus: Cancer
Mars: Leo
him
Sun: Pisces
Moon: Gemini
Mercury: Pisces
Venus: Pisces
Mars: Gemini
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plus relationship committment is just a title. realistically you both are. it is an understanding
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i've been reading your amazing advice on the cancer boards for awhile now...i had no idea you were in such a quagmire.


its always easier to tlak about other's relationships then view ya own objectively
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@KP
PandorasBox Is a SPAM in DXP, she appears out of blue and disappears leaving a garbage after her and you, KP are a bi-polar jerk.
@illusion
I do not know into those details a lot I know only that I am a Cancer and she is a Pisces

@wineaux
I am here for the last 6 months and will be next 2 years. I was with my Pisces about 1.5 years before I came here??_
Career-when I graduate I get a work permit here and I want to work in some US company for some 4-5 years before I go back with degree and experience. Theoretically, I can go back and bring her if I want any time but that is only theoretically there is a risk involved with that.
Religion/nationality was has never been a big issuer between us I am just worried it might be problem in the long term. We are both believers but not that much religious people.
Wife and husband responsibilities bothers me a lot ??_
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Posted by Cancer1986LeoCusp

@KP
PandorasBox Is a SPAM in DXP, she appears out of blue and disappears leaving a garbage after her and you, KP are a bi-polar jerk.
@illusion
I do not know into those details a lot I know only that I am a Cancer and she is a Pisces

@wineaux
I am here for the last 6 months and will be next 2 years. I was with my Pisces about 1.5 years before I came here??_
Career-when I graduate I get a work permit here and I want to work in some US company for some 4-5 years before I go back with degree and experience. Theoretically, I can go back and bring her if I want any time but that is only theoretically there is a risk involved with that.
Religion/nationality was has never been a big issuer between us I am just worried it might be problem in the long term. We are both believers but not that much religious people.
Wife and husband responsibilities bothers me a lot ??_




LMAO...
And you're a walking vagina, Cancer.
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well, whatever makes you happy
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Posted by wineaux
well, now that you've explained it more, it seems prudent that you focus on yourself and your studies/career before making any long term decisions. what a mess...i'm so sorry that you're having to go through this. how much of this does she know? like your side - the risk(s) involved in bringing her here, religion/nationality in the long term, the differences in opinion in regards to roles within the relationship/marriage. has she come to visit you yet?


She knows most of it and for her moving on is, i guess, a solution however she is willing to work it out if i commit...At the beginning, however, she was very irritated with my departure, she cried her eyes out and was really attached to me..but with time it is not that strong for her. I suppose you have to be always next to pisces LDR gets hard with them...
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i get what you're going through. well close to it. i don't want him or me to have to give up certain dreams to be together. so we're apart, yet the bond that we have although not formalised is still so so strong. i know that i will be a walking shell if i lose him. in fact i feel souless just thinking about it. so we're "friends" so that we have a chance in the future. yet we are doing a LDR w/o calling it one. i dont want to share him, and he - i. and we don't want to hurt each other. but there has got to be a better way than changing certain dreams. cause as much as i believe in soulmates - if you survive through the hard times w ya key dreams and goals intact then you've done well.
after all, soulmates are about being a whole + a whole and creating a third entity made my synergy. it should not have a caging effect or the effect of losing one's dreams. but ofcouse certain small compromises must be made. everything has an opportunity cost.
at the end of the day - it is fate. if it is meant to be it will be. but my love for him, is eternal.
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Posted by illusion
i get what you're going through. well close to it. i don't want him or me to have to give up certain dreams to be together. so we're apart, yet the bond that we have although not formalised is still so so strong. i know that i will be a walking shell if i lose him. in fact i feel souless just thinking about it. so we're "friends" so that we have a chance in the future. yet we are doing a LDR w/o calling it one. i dont want to share him,.


Being "friends" with her is a weird thing for me...letting her go and perhaps getting together in the future,perhaps, is possible (because i observed such thing in others) but i do not want to share her with anybody and want to keep the purity...
Eternal love, you mentioned, may not be true for pisces usually they seem to move on without a problem...and i do not know how healthy it is...
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Posted by Cancer1986LeoCusp
Posted by illusion
i get what you're going through. well close to it. i don't want him or me to have to give up certain dreams to be together. so we're apart, yet the bond that we have although not formalised is still so so strong. i know that i will be a walking shell if i lose him. in fact i feel souless just thinking about it. so we're "friends" so that we have a chance in the future. yet we are doing a LDR w/o calling it one. i dont want to share him,.


Being "friends" with her is a weird thing for me...letting her go and perhaps getting together in the future,perhaps, is possible (because i observed such thing in others) but i do not want to share her with anybody and want to keep the purity...
Eternal love, you mentioned, may not be true for pisces usually they seem to move on without a problem...and i do not know how healthy it is...
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Just because you move on doesn't mean you stop loving a person. I'd rather face my emotions then deny them. Yeh, well "friends" was so that my pisces would feel free. and uncaged. but he has remained faithful. as i said. it is about how strong your bond is.
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