Aqarius woman falling hard for Pisces man

Hi Everyone,

I'm new to this forum but you all seem like such a friendly, compassionate bunch so I thought I'd post my situation and hopefully get some great advice.

Background:
I have strong feelings for a Pisces man, let's call him AS, who I've known for a few years now. We didn't really get close until two years ago, and have been texting/emailing quite often since. We live in different states, about two hours from each other. He is Pisces Sun with Venus in Aries and Moon in Taurus.

Important notes:
1. According to a mutual friend, AS is depressed and he doesn't know why. AS has seen doctors in the past and thought he was better but apparently he is still quite depressed.
2. About a year ago, I slept with someone and ended up telling AS about it. At the time, I thought he didn't have feelings for me and that we were just friends so I stupidly shared what happened. He got pretty upset and told me that he doesn't want to hear about those things. For the next few months, things were different. He wasn't as open and affectionate with his communication. He sort of went to a dark, sarcastic place. It was only a few months ago, when I sent him a thoughtful holiday card, that he started opening up again.

Current situation:
He just turned 30 this past weekend and I happened to be in his city, so I stopped by the bar where he was celebrating with friends. This was the first time we had seen each other in two years. The chemistry was intense. AS was really drunk and I could tell he wasn't happy. He kept saying he wanted to go home, even though it was his birthday celebration and his friends were with him. He ended up making a move on me, and we went back to his apartment and had sex. Before we did, however, I told him I like him and asked how he feels. He said he really likes me. I told him I don't want to do this and then never hear from him again. He said "neither of us wants that." He also said I'm not like any other girl.

Fast forward to the next morning, and things were great. He was really cuddly and affectionate. He ended up having to leave to meet friends for his birthday brunch but told me "I really don't want you to think that I'm trying to ditch you. I want you to understand that." We hugged goodbye and that was it.

I haven't heard from him since and now I'm kind of concerned that maybe he doesn't actually have feelings for me. I'd appreciate any advice you have. Thanks!

it's only Tuesday. chill

My boyfriend has the exact same placements and judging by that, i'd say that he's really not that interested. It could be the distance maybe.... Are u willing to move for this guy?

You happened to be in the city he was and coincidentally it was his birthday? He probably felt you came all that way for him, made good use of the timing, had some fun and that was that. I wouldn't go reading into it much further. When a Pisces man wants you, there is no distance that will stop him.

Just speaking from my own experience here.

I think the Aqua/pisces combo can be hell. I agree the chemistry is great when there's a lot of mystery but as soon as one starts to question it the whole thing seems to crumble. I remember when I first met my pisces it literally was bliss but I did have a lot of questions like you did.

At the beginning I turned much of it off because I wasn't expecting anything and to let things unfold. I think she initiated that first question with me "what if". It made me think too so then it became much of a cat and mouse game. A lot of push and pull in between. I don't think it helped (me Aqua/pisces and her Pisces/Aqua) and ultimately that whole in our dream world and the need for alone time clarified it for both of us.

So I guess take what other said with a grain of salt, pisces usually mean what they say but don't place too much importance behind it because their actions speaks very clearly. Like Aquapiscescusp said, if they really feel it distance isn't going to be an issue.

Posted by onesweetworld

I'm new to this forum but you all seem like such a friendly, compassionate bunch .....

lol

Posted by onesweetworld

Background:
I have strong feelings for a Pisces man, let's call him AS, who I've known for a few years now. We didn't really get close until two years ago, and have been texting/emailing quite often since.

Logic would dictate that the reason for texting/emailing for these two years were with intentions of becoming close, for bonding purposes of two people. You even say you have strong feelings for him.

So, it's safe to assume from what you wrote above, that the two of you are working on trusting each other, working on developing a relationship.

then ..... you do a mind fuck on him ... such the below ....

Posted by onesweetworld

1. AS is depressed and he doesn't know why. AS has seen doctors in the past and thought he was better but apparently he is still quite depressed
2. About a year ago, I slept with someone and ended up telling AS about it.

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1. you know he's in a depressive state ... so, you ...
2. tell him you fucked someone



At this point, you are considered a cunt, and deserve no respect.

Posted by onesweetworld

.... and I happened to be in his city, so I stopped by the bar where he was celebrating with friends.

This was the first time we had seen each other in two years.

Looks like you just happened to know what bar he was in, also ... stalker much?

Posted by onesweetworld

..... I could tell he wasn't happy. He kept saying he wanted to go home, even though it was his birthday celebration and his friends were with him. He ended up making a move on me .....

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It's safe to assume here that the reason why he ended up hitting on you is because you wouldn't leave him alone. By your own words, you realize he is NOT happy and wanted to leave ... it would also be safe to assume that the reason why he wanted to leave was because you were there. If he had wanted to leave sooner, and it was nothing to do with you, then he would have left and wouldn't have been there when you arrived.

Don't fuck with a Fish .... your feelings will end up hurt. Once you fuck with us, we'll play you like a fiddle.

Trying to maintain a relationship when you're not in the same state is really hard. That alone makes it difficult to move forward. Second, no judgments here cuz I've done the same, but you got intimate way too soon. Women do this and, more often than not, it harpoons our chances of developing something real. The real problem isn't from a game playing aspect but from understanding that having sex changes things and puts pressure on the rela. Plus not getting intimate helps you think more clearly and try to figure out if this guy you think you like is really right for you. Us ladies tend to go "all in" way too soon and assume he's "the one" but really it's only over time you know if you're compatible. Even if you've been friends for a long time, taking things to a sexual place puts incredible pressure and guys, more often than not, do pull back. The "push and pull" game is normal behavior the first 3 months, regardless of sign. That means if you really want this to have a shot at moving forward you gotta chill out and go with the flow. Stay in friendly email contact and think (on your own) more seriously about the logistics problem. Good luck! Pisces are great guys but you gotta be real patient and take things slow, which is really what you should be doing anyway. Good luck!

To JasonDeluca:

Thanks for your thoughts. Yes, it's not good to go after someone who is depressed. I've been there myself in the past and you're definitely not in a place to be in a relationship.

I think I'm attracted to his sense of humor, his charm, his general outlook on life (sans the depression) and we've known each other for awhile so there's history and a feeling of comfort with each other.

I also forgot to mention that he was unable to...perform. We tried several times, both the night of and the morning after. He was really upset with himself and told me it's not my fault. He has been talking to his therapist about it and he feels it's linked to his psychological problems. He has apparently even used a brain machine (no idea what that is) in the past that a doctor prescribed to help him feel better.

I guess he's more depressed than I realized.

Looks like you just happened to know what bar he was in, also ... stalker much?

We were texting earlier and he invited me.

It's safe to assume here that the reason why he ended up hitting on you is because you wouldn't leave him alone. By your own words, you realize he is NOT happy and wanted to leave ... it would also be safe to assume that the reason why he wanted to leave was because you were there. If he had wanted to leave sooner, and it was nothing to do with you, then he would have left and wouldn't have been there when you arrived.

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I never said I wouldn't leave him alone and I don't know why you are assuming he wanted to leave because I was there. If that was the case, he would have left regardless.

To your earlier point, yes, it wasn't smart that I screwed someone else and told him about it. I don't have a defense for that, I was just an idiot.

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I also forgot to mention that he was unable to...perform. We tried several times, both the night of and the morning after.

forgot to mention?

I can't stand when people manipulate information to receive a desired response. Seems like you play false... and I don't even know you

pay back is a bitch

Posted by shellshocker

Posted by onesweetworld


I also forgot to mention that he was unable to...perform. We tried several times, both the night of and the morning after.

forgot to mention?

I can't stand when people manipulate information to receive a desired response. Seems like you play false... and I don't even know you

pay back is a bitch

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I agree...

It sounds like you forced yourself (and him) in that situation and him being the sensitive, caring Pisces couldn't quite tell you that he's maybe not that into you.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
When a Pisces man wants you, there is no distance that will stop him.

100% agree, he will do anything.