BackStabbing, Two-Faced Gemini's

Hey Ya'll,
Dreamy-Eyez here. You know, today for me was very upsetting, because I've gotten a revelation that my 17 year old Gemini sister hates me. I honestly do not understand or atleast I thought I did. Whenever she gotten in a bad mood, it led to us fighting. Right after I thought we made a truce, it all fall back into the same pattern all over again. She would come to me laughing and joking like she's my best friend, then she'll flip on me. I then resorted to ignoring her and then leave the house for a walk. One day, after I came back from a walk, I saw that my mom and my sister left the house to go somewhere. I saw all of my sister's magazine's on the coffee table, so I took them to her room and put them on her dresser. When I turned around, I saw alot of hateful things written on the walls about me. I was deeply hurt by this, because I thought we were getting along so fine, yet I see this. I couldn't look at her, and what was a shame was that she was being nice to me. I didn't speak to her because I felt like she was being superficial with me. When I confronted her about it, she couldn't give me a straight answer and lied about being mad at our mother, yet she took it out on me. (Yeah, b*llsh*t.)It's disturbing of how she can smile in my face, yet feel another way inside. I left from home for 3 weeks, then I returned. I went on the internet to see these instant messages popping up from men she's talking to. She claimed to have been talking about WWE wrestling, but I began to grow concern for that they are men. I let the issue slide after finding out that they are in another timezone. This morning, I checked the e-mail that's in our computer and my sister sent one of the guys an e-mail. I read it, and I was shocked to see some of the things she said. It was like a totally different person typed that e-mail. She referred to the guy as "Big Dick" and referred to herself as a "Bitch". She then told the guy " I hope you haven't lost interest in me." Then she said some things about me in the e-mail that gotten me so upset that I left the house again. At first, I thought it was just menstrual cramps for her moodiness, but now I see that it's indeed personal. She has something agains me and I confronted her about it. Of course, she played innocent and lied about it, but I had no choice than to leave her the Hell alone. I talked to my mom about this, and my mom told me of the time my sister tried to trick her into letting her go out with a grown man for dinner, by telling her that the school was having a "Big Brother/Big Sister program". (Yeah B*llsh*t!) My mom called the school to see that my sister lied. My sister is growing into a backstabbing, two-faced, self-proclaimed b*t*h. I cannot stand it, yet I'm hurt. I'm thru talking to her because she'll never tell the truth. Tell me people, Are alot of Gemini's like that?

LOL! Another one who thirve on their lies...And they are telling that Pisces men suck, liars etc. Let the people see what are the real liars are...

My thought is, I wish this girl were your girlfriend, not your sister. Because then you could dump her and all would end. But here, you can't.

I always hated liars. They are like a pain in the ass. Especially people like your sister. Two faced ones. Some liars are honest. They tell you that they lie to you. And some liars are dishonest. They not just lie to you, but they also have no balls to tell you that they lie. Maybe your sister afraid of you and that why she hides things from you.

Once a person starts to lie like your sister do in the way of lying to the family members (remember she lied to your mother too) that is the sign that she doesn't care about you at all. She doesn't care about what you think, she doesn't care about what her mother think. She doesn't give them worth as a close family members. Why should you care for her?

You've said that she's 17 years old. 18 years old person is an adult. She will be 18 in the next year. She will be free of all of you. What you gonna do then? Can you stop doing herself things that you would never appretiate such as sex with many men? Of course no.

My mother is Gemini, and if she wasn't my mother perhaps we would never tolerate each other for a week (because of her not me, she calms down when her shitty behaviours is about to come out). My best friend was a Gemini but we always avoided the conflicts (we knew that there are conflicts between us, but we have never spoken about them). Once we have faced the conflicts, the frenship has ended.

Some people do need to crash into the ground pretty bad before they wise up. Your sister is one of them. She will learn the importance of the family when her problems will make her hit the ground. No one will help her, except her family. Some people need to get hurt before understand that. Such a tactless people are in the world...Nothing can do to them. Also people who can't live in peace with their family members, can't live in peace with anyone. This is simply the proof that she will get hurt in the future. She will lie to the people in the same way. And when people will know that, they will dump her. That will make her to come into such sites like we have here, and then she will understand that no one is better than the family are.

She is toying with you dude. Nothing is as hurtfull than a sister/brother who hates you and at the same time plays role of nice to you. A person who hides true themselves in such a nasty apperiance or mast is simply shows that these people are far beyound the point that they wish to solve the problems between two of you. They are not just hate you, but they also toy with you. Do you think acting with them in the same way will be respecting your true self?

Another sign of her carelessness to you is that when she lied to you about instant messages. She told you that she was talking to men about wrestling? And yet you've discovered that she was talking to them like a real men. You see, this is another proof that they ways of communication is closed. There is no point in bringing this topic with her...

Actually I would like to know too why women feel need in acting like that with their families.

And yes. I know that is your nature to try to fix people, but hell...you can't. Leave them with their lives. The only one who will get hurt by trying fix them will be you. Save your breath. Focus on your own things.

Backstabbing and two facedness from a gemini,thats impossible.-Yea,that was sarcasm. Lots and lots of similar experiances with them.Theres only two of twelve that I haven't caught at least yet anyways lieing in one way or another.Also thier little sluts as soon as they hit puberty but everyone else are hos.Fore warning you will always end up being the bad guy if you get pissed at them or what they are is turned around on you being that.

"Fore warning you will always end up being the bad guy if you get pissed at them or what they are is turned around on you being that."

So true.

Tia:

I've tried what you have said about Gemini's on my mom with becoming bad guys. SHE DOESN'T GIVE UP!!!

Yeah,if they know you give up on arguing with or questioning and basically keep to yourself they run with it more because they can with less problems.My guess is they love drama and never want to be the one to at fault.I basically avoid them all together including my stepdad.Yeah,that was real fun,only he liked to scribble hatefull things about himself to accuse us,myself,brother and sister of being angry about the divorce of our father.Our father was never around until after the divorce we didn't care about that.So it would turn into an admit it arguement between siblings and me while he's sitting back getting a laugh out of it as well as babied by our mom.Eventually started to catch him in the act,one time my brother wasn't even there for a week and he was still an attempted target.My mom finally got her head out of her butt too and left him.

What's up Ya'll,
Dreamy-Eyez here. Haffo and Tiamat, thank you for you shared view and experiences. My Gemini sister just showed me an ugly side to her that I never knew existed. I thought we were friends, but we were nowhere near that. I felt like as if I never knew her and she's a stranger to me now. I talked to my mom, and she was no help at all. She just kept giving me these bullshit excuses of how my sister was just like her when she was a little girl, then she'd start daydreaming about her childhood. I was hurt by finding out how she always felt about me by seeing the e-mails and tehe writings on the walls. What made it worst was that she pretended that we were so great, but that was a lie. I now see her as a BACKSTABBING, TWO-FACED, COWARDLY, BOTTOM-FEEDING, SELF PROCLAIMED B*T*H!!! I am just so angry to have been betrayed again. This wasn't the first time this happened to me, and I feel so stupid to have never seen it coming. I'm so damn stupid when I'm so damn protective and loving of those I love, yet I never knew the ones I love. I'm so fucking stupid.

I'm so damn stupid when I'm so damn protective and loving of those I love, yet I never knew the ones I love. I'm so ing stupid.

If you ask me, I think you are retarded for calling yourself stupid. First of all, that is your sister...why shouldn't you give her the benefit of the doubt? Then if you did and she ruined it, why should you blame yourself? You should not...

Some people, including siblings just don't wish the best for us and sometimes do hurtful things. I can't really give you much advice because my sisters & I have ALWAYS been very close...even fights only last a min. then we are back to being best friends...BUT I can tell you that it is possible to love a person as I am sure you love yours without dealing with their drama.

Good Luck!
CL/CM2

Yeah,don't worry about it dreamy eyes,you just learned some info you don't like.Everyone experiances that at one point or another,if everyone was right all the time it'd be boring and leave nothing to learn.What doesn't kill ya just makes you stronger and wiser.Sometimes it takes until geminis are old to realise they do need this or that in thier lives.Seems like they have the mind of a child that wants to grow up too quick,or they see other people experiancing bad things and kinda force it on themselves so they can have something to talk about too.If lucky she could still be just one of those geminis who are the just white lies and don't actually mean any harm.They need something to relate to sometimes.

Thats Sad. . . I have had my share with Gemini's and my advice is to pretend like you are lying about something and spark their curiosity to the thought of possibly trusting you.

I think the reason your sister lies to you is because she cant trust you and otherwise thinks you problay dont know better anyways— From what I read you are older than her DreamyEyes— Right— Are you a pisces—

I know pisces can take things too seriously sometimes.. I do.. and we are fragile when we spend all of our energy caring about a person and then they basically spit on you by not giving a rats ass.. but maybe try showing the lighter side of your personality to her—??...

I think your sister is angry or sad about something that may have happened.. I dont know just making a assumption here—?

This may sound off the wall but maybe try telling her in a very calm, emotionless voice that you dont care anymore and that you both are entitled to do what you want individally without SCREAMING or being UPSET and she may open up to you without having to pretend to your being "niceness" or "caring" I have found that sometimes Gemini's sometimes feel pressure and uncomfortable with emotion
As weird as this advice is I hope that somehow it may help...

Sleepkel23

Hey Ya'll,
Dreamy-Eyez here. I guess I shouldn't blame myself, but I feel as if I may have done something, but what? My sister and I fought a month ago and I compromised with her. A few days later, she turn on me again. I just remained calm and only observed things. I talked to my mom about it, but she is absolutely no help at all. All she said was that my sister was just like her when she was at that age. You want to know something? My mother is so nasty towards her brothers and sisters. None of them come over anymore to visit her, because the same way my sister is to me, my mom is like that to her siblings. I think it's sad how she didn't try to prevent my sister from developing her ways but she did nothing and I resent her for that so much. I try to help my sister and be there for her, yet I get slapped in my face with dis-respect and betrayal. I did tell my sister tat I nolonger cared of what she does and that communication will be to a minimum. That happened and it'll continue for the best. Thank you all for your replies.

WHOA WHOA WHOA..i've never felt so hated in my life lol.. I'm a gemini and yes we can have "dual personalities" but as far as being ...and i'm sorry never once did i do any of that to my sister or anyone i love, so it's not a gemini thing thats just your sister. Anyway how can you blame someone by there sign thats like saying "MY BROTHER SMELLS AND HES A PISCES, ALL PISCES SMELL" OR "MY CUZINZ A SCORPIO HE'S A MUDERER, THEY ALL ARE" yes true if you get us mad we are not nice ppl to know...but that goes for any sign or anybody. Thank you.. ciao

WHOA WHOA WHOA..i've never felt so hated in my life lol

People here can make you feel PRETTY bad about being your particular sign...Here's a hug! I like Gemini's!

juicy, i know how you feel after reading what they say about aries ppl hahaha

Scorps are insanely jealous,etc.etc.,I don't take it as seriously anymore and actually juicy you scare me by how much you like scorps,used to reading the opposite lol.

i like scorps too, november is my busiest month cause there's a birthday party every two days. and all the clich?s i read here don't apply to the scorps i know, they're friendly and warm and have a wicked sense of humour, which i like.
if what i read about my sign was true, i'd be loud, egoistic and irascible, which describes everthing i'm not.
so don't take the whole stuff too seriously 😉

geminis das my twin sign dammnit leave em alone although they lie,lol. for reasons i cannot fathom at times,lol.It's for protection and desperation i guess. Still love em.

2 sharks swimming in opposite directions:

I hate to put it down to an astrology thing,but I married a Gemini,I held out for a long time and a lot of women to get married and I ended up marrying her.I'll regret it all of my life it's not all her fault but i just don't want to be romantically involved with any more Gemini women ....ever. i haven't seen her in almost 4 years and I don't care if I never see her the rest of my life. Somethings wrong with them they seem to be about arguing for arguments sake,you never know what you're going to get from day to day. Exasperating i understand a lot of things now in an astrological way. I see why John was fed up with Paul McCartney.

LOL tiamat, i like them bc there real & if they have something to say there going to say it, maybe a little to blunt at times but i respect that. Plus i love there will power from every one of them i experienced they all had it, very sexy. As for gemini's being two faced ..it's not that were two faced, we always see "two sides to every story" we listen to people and agree with both parties and see there points. As far as being crazy etc yeah we are, myself included all my friends. I'm not about to sit here and judge people according to there sun signs, it goes alot deeper then that, and for someone to do that in my opinion is immaturity/jealousy. So i don't take it to heart, just laugh it off....until the taurus part comes out and all i see is red and "DESTROY!" with a little skitzo in there....LOL ciao

(hugs) to everyone!!!!!!!!!!! yes evan the ones who hate geminis 😢 lol

2 sharks swimming in opposite directions:

Dear juicy exotica I could never hate you.

Dreamy Eyez.

Your sister is obviously a player. She tries to set up situations that works best for her. She is weak right now. She has to play. This will continue until she gains power. When this will hapeen I suggest you to do not expect anything from her. This kind behaviour is twisted form of power struggle. She also lacks alot of social skills. She tries to gain power and delay problems and confrontations which ultimately leads us to think that she plays delaying games.

The source of her problem is her arrogance. She tries to control people.

What's up Haffo,
How've you been? It's been a while since I've been on this forum and I have to admit that it's quite entertaining seeing you go off on some of the users of this site. (Laughs.) Oh and what you said about my Gemini sister, you pretty much hit the nail on the head. She is arrogant and tries to play people with manipulative games, but my best defense to that is not to react to the things she says and does. You want to know something? Things have gotten better and she has given up because I don't react to her. In addition to that I have a job that keeps me out of the house. That girl seriouly has issues and I hope she grows out of them. I'll always be her big brother who'll catch her when she falls, but in between those times, I'll stay my distance. Dreamy-Eyez, out.

Yeah

But I think I need to add something here too.

You want to help her when she fall on the ground. This is very honorary behaviour. I respect to that. This shows your true nature, which means that you are in right path towards the top of people. You should know that you should not allow anyone to bring you down and make you feel bad for who you are, because whoever will say this will surely resent what you do and say.

Now the main point. My life thumb rule is to allow people to face the consequences. There is no right or wrong action in the life. Different choises bring different consequences. Sometimes some consequences are more difficult to pass than others. People who do not practise on consequence control, does not have a right to live among people. Those people will also not let others to live as well. Now, people who does not practise on that, should be allowed to face the consequences to some degree. Because then only then, they will know the amount of price they have to pay for their stupidness, and only then they will start practising it in future.

What I'm trying to tell you here is to allow your sister to face consequenses. Sometimes big ones. But not "that" big ones that will destroy her life. However, life experience shows that some people need to experience big shocks to align themselves to right path. Those situations are the most tragic, but there is nothing we can do for them. If they reject help from people and therefore reject to live together, then they should know what does it mean to live alone. This is something we cannot fix. There is no cure for it. I do however know where this come from. The source of this is arrogance. Arrogace towards people where they think that they should act controversially to everything that people said to them.

Take this situation as an example:

A little girl who is very successful in her school is drawing a picture. Her mom brings her a dessert and says "Hi sweetie, I made this dessert to you because I know you like it". What girl does? She takes the dessert and throws it in the floor and says: "I do not want to eat that dessert because I didnt ask you to bring it to me!!! You must bring me the dessert then when I ASK you to do this". On the worse situation this girl mutters something that everyone could hear it: "When they say no, I must say yes. When they say yes, I must say no".

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Such people are rebels. They are against people. They are against community. They hate people! And such kind of behaviour is never tolerated by people. Especially today! No one allows someone to control them!

Your siter will learn to respect people...In hard way...And you have no power to stop that.

Your best weapon against her is to let her suffer.

Hi Haffo,
"Let her suffer." You say? Hmmm. . . Or in other words, if you keep on shielding her from the fire, she'll never know how bad the burn may be in order to know better than not to play with it. I'm totally feeling what you are saying. Can you believe that I always talk my mom out out giving her a beating whenever she gets in trouble. I guess all of that led to her arrogance, which eventually backfired on me. I'm nolonger going to shield her from deserved consequences, because if I do, she'll never learn which means she'll never learn "humility".

Haffo, I appreciate the discussion. Thank you and I look forward to seeing who'd you go off on next. (Laugh.)Take Care. Dreamy-Eyez, out.