Calling all Pisces males & Females! ADVICE NEEDED

I am taurus female and currently I like this pisces male. i'll give a bit of back drop. we have known eachother since 3rd grade and lost contact with eachother and randomly gotten into contact with one another our junior year of high school through a program. initally then we weren't into eaachother at all. I eventually invited him to my prom as my date. He ended up going away for college for 2 years and we managed to stay in contact with one another and developed a crush on eachother. We would text eachother everyday and skype sometimes even talk on the phone. we ended up losing our virginity to one another . eventually he came back to my city to stay since he was going to school out of state and was having financial issues so due to the fact that we are both college students he said he isn't ready for a relationship and wants to focus on his career. so we ended up taking a break from one another for 6 months, he had stopped texting me and answering my calls during this time when we both had just turned 20, so then that summer i met someone else and ended up sleeping with this person. a huge mistake on my part. when he came back to me i told him about it from the beginning because we have the kind of relationship where we tell one another EVERYTHING & we talk about EVERYTHING. so, when he came back to me the december of 2011 we were ok just rekindling things the following january of 2012 i lost my dad... which was hard for me. then i found out he slept with a girl i went to high school with which devistated me on top of the emotional issues i was going through. I kind of just brushed past it and didn't really talk to him about it a lot because i was really hurt and when us taurus people hurt, we hurt. fast forward now to 2013 we have been ok, i guess i noticed a change in him during march of this year. calls and texts became less frequent and i decided to do some snooping. so, i saw on twitter there was another girl and put 2 and two together at first he was hesitant about it but, then he told me he liked her a lot. and i was very upset about it. so, now its the summer time usually during summer we spend some time together i built up the courage to ask him if he loved her and he told me he did, i asked him if he was in love with her or is it just love then he's like he doesn't know. i mean we argued everyday this summer because of this. He told me how he felt when i slept with someone else during the break, he told me i was supposed to be his one and onl

I am taurus female and currently I like this pisces male. i'll give a bit of back drop. we have known eachother since 3rd grade and lost contact with eachother and randomly gotten into contact with one another our junior year of high school through a program. initally then we weren't into eaachother at all. I eventually invited him to my prom as my date. He ended up going away for college for 2 years and we managed to stay in contact with one another and developed a crush on eachother. We would text eachother everyday and skype sometimes even talk on the phone. we ended up losing our virginity to one another . eventually he came back to my city to stay since he was going to school out of state and was having financial issues so due to the fact that we are both college students he said he isn't ready for a relationship and wants to focus on his career. so we ended up taking a break from one another for 6 months, he had stopped texting me and answering my calls during this time when we both had just turned 20, so then that summer i met someone else and ended up sleeping with this person. a huge mistake on my part. when he came back to me i told him about it from the beginning because we have the kind of relationship where we tell one another EVERYTHING & we talk about EVERYTHING. so, when he came back to me the december of 2011 we were ok just rekindling things the following january of 2012 i lost my dad... which was hard for me. then i found out he slept with a girl i went to high school with which devistated me on top of the emotional issues i was going through. I kind of just brushed past it and didn't really talk to him about it a lot because i was really hurt and when us taurus people hurt, we hurt. fast forward now to 2013 we have been ok, i guess i noticed a change in him during march of this year. calls and texts became less frequent and i decided to do some snooping. so, i saw on twitter there was another girl and put 2 and two together at first he was hesitant about it but, then he told me he liked her a lot. and i was very upset about it. so, now its the summer time usually during summer we spend some time together i built up the courage to ask him if he loved her and he told me he did, i asked him if he was in love with her or is it just love then he's like he doesn't know. i mean we argued everyday this summer because of this. He told me how he felt when i slept with someone else during the break, he told me i was supposed to be his one and onl

I am taurus female and currently I like this pisces male. i'll give a bit of back drop. we have known eachother since 3rd grade and lost contact with eachother and randomly gotten into contact with one another our junior year of high school through a program. initally then we weren't into eaachother at all. I eventually invited him to my prom as my date. He ended up going away for college for 2 years and we managed to stay in contact with one another and developed a crush on eachother. We would text eachother everyday and skype sometimes even talk on the phone. we ended up losing our virginity to one another . eventually he came back to my city to stay since he was going to school out of state and was having financial issues so due to the fact that we are both college students he said he isn't ready for a relationship and wants to focus on his career. so we ended up taking a break from one another for 6 months, he had stopped texting me and answering my calls during this time when we both had just turned 20, so then that summer i met someone else and ended up sleeping with this person. a huge mistake on my part. when he came back to me i told him about it from the beginning because we have the kind of relationship where we tell one another EVERYTHING & we talk about EVERYTHING. so, when he came back to me the december of 2011 we were ok just rekindling things the following january of 2012 i lost my dad... which was hard for me. then i found out he slept with a girl i went to high school with which devistated me on top of the emotional issues i was going through. I kind of just brushed past it and didn't really talk to him about it a lot because i was really hurt and when us taurus people hurt, we hurt. fast forward now to 2013 we have been ok, i guess i noticed a change in him during march of this year. calls and texts became less frequent and i decided to do some snooping. so, i saw on twitter there was another girl and put 2 and two together at first he was hesitant about it but, then he told me he liked her a lot. and i was very upset about it. so, now its the summer time usually during summer we spend some time together i built up the courage to ask him if he loved her and he told me he did, i asked him if he was in love with her or is it just love then he's like he doesn't know. i mean we argued everyday this summer because of this. He told me how he felt when i slept with someone else during the break, he told me i was supposed to be his one and onl

only and how he fell out of love with me after i did that. this is all new information to me. he says he still likes me. he still contacts me, we hang out from time to time.. i haven't been that much of understanding until now the girl is a cancer.. so yeah. i've asked him why does he even still talk to me or any of that and his response was "at the end of the day i'm not going to be with her." he told me that its complicated because she's musilm. he also told me that she let him stay with her when he was going through some stuff at school a few months ago, how she buys him food and helps him out. he's told me he wnats to live, and he is willing to compremise. also told me that the first time he "talks" to another girl i blow it out of porportion. He's like there's so many other girls but i don't do them out of respect for you and he hasn't slept with anyone else out of respect for me. he told me he doesn't love me but lately i've just been trying to give him his space. the other night he told me goodnight. a big part of me wants to give up, but a small part wants to stay around. we are not in a relationship but, i like him a lot it's just i have my days when i'm confused about everything. i left some stuff out just to shorten this but my question is whats going on? HELP!!!! there's more details but, i will add them later.

i'm not sure of his birth chart but his birthday is february 27th, 1991

my birth chart is
rising sign: Libra
sun: Taurus
moon:cancer
Mercury:taurus
Venus:Cancer
mars:Cancer
Jupiter:Leo
saturn:Aquarius
uranus:Capricorn
Neptune:capricorn
pluto:Scorpio
n.node: Capricorn

He sounds like a mess to me. Flopping around with an answer or excuse for everything....
Were you guys ever in a relationship?

no @deezie we have never been in an official relationship. but, i feel the same i really feel he is a mess inside and doesn't want to own up to it. when it's me he always shows me and tells me how strong he is and how nothing ever bothers him. I try to ask him but, of course he isn't going to be honest. I just feel he's all over the place as a taurus female i can sense that much.

Personally, I'd be concerned about his intentions for me at this point in his life. That bit about this chick at school buying him food and "helping him out". mehhhh.. I dunno.... seems a little lacking in the self reliance category.

I agree, I think that's where i am confused sometimes. he's actually about to graduate from college just as i am. but i just don't know. I mean i admit my mistakes you know? i help him out so much like at the moment i am unable to go see him all the time but, i have given him money for his apartment, to help him settle in, i've offered to buy him food when he comes back up here. I try but at the same time. i want him to be able to do more for me and himself. He had an internship over the summer to sell insurance policies and i signed up for one just to help him make money. the amount of money he makes all depends on how many people he gets to come into his office. I try, i do. so, i'm not really sure of what to do anymore. I just want to disappear but if i do he won't ever talk to me again. @Dezzie what do you think is going on?

as far as the other chick im not sure. he's told me he doesn't want to be with her and gets mad when i bring it up when we hang out. they aren't in a relationship either. i feel like he's trying to get back at me because he is hurt still for what i did. but what doesn't make sense to me is how can you not know if you love someone or in love with them? If you love/ are in love with someone wouldn't you want to be with that person? @deezie

Honestly... from what I'm reading.... He said he isn't ready. He wants to focus on his career. He said this to you. He has yet to finish college, which means the career is still a ways out to being solidified (especially when you consider his industry).

He appears to be using whoever will allow him to at this point in time. This girl at school. You.

I believe that yes, if you love/in love with someone you'd want to be with that person. But this applies to the girl at school, as well as yourself. He may like you, but it sounds like he's either not in the place where he likes himself enough, or he's quite content playing the field right now.

Without other details... you guys weren't in a relationship. You met someone and slept with them. So what? He's hurt by that? What right does he have? Did you break an agreement with him? He wasn't even speaking to you at that time. Was he expecting you to wait around for him? So if this is a 'revenge' thing (the girl at school)... um... it's the dumbest revenge I could think of.

I'd tread lightly. Don't invest any more emotion into him than you already have. I'd suggest, no sex. No helping him out financially. Helping a guy out won't make him love you.

I said he was flopping more in terms of life. Not in terms of their situation. I agree, he's been fairly clear about that.

I'm not trying to be harsh on him like "oh he's failing life". I just mean when he said he's not ready for a relationship... it shows.


goddamn. I give up for tonight.

i left a lot of stuff out i am not trying to be with him right now, where did it say that i wanted to be with him? and he did tell me he slept with the other person to get back at me. and i have never asked him for an explanation i just asked him how he feels. i'm fine with being just his friend that's all we are in my opinion thanks for your advice though. its appreciated. he's made it clear that he doesn't want to be with anyone this is stuff that has happened over-time not recently. i know he doesn't love me and i can care less about that.

oh i agree he definately isn't ready for a relationship and neither am i, i do respect that. but i DON"T WANT HIM TO LOVE ME!!!!! where are you guys getting that from? I am just here to help him out. I have a career that i would like to focus on as well and as of right now, i just enjoy his company. I can't predict anything. Maybe we could fall in love one day i don't know but, right now falling in love isn't in the cards for me. I just feel im too young for that right now. I only help him because he comes to me and asks. i am not doing it in hope of gaining something, i just do it to show him i care. at this point i really don't know what i feel for him you know? @Dezzie

@cornfuzzled4ever i left some stuff out but.. this stuff happened almost 2-3 years ago when we were 20-21 and he is just now telling me how what i did hurt him and how he fell out of love but, it makes no sense to me because we weren't in a relationship. i don't really care if it's by business or not when you sleep with someone i know it's not cool at all. i am not mad at him for it but it's the simple fact he did this 5 months after i lost my dad. all of this stuff about me being his one and only he is JUST Now telling me all of this.

everything he has done.. has changed my views as well. i mean he say's he likes me and would like to be with me.

personally for me right now i just don't know anymore. i definitely have my guard up. i just want to be friends. we "Talk" but i am really not ready for a commitment with anyone. maybe when i turn 28 or 30 right now i'm only 22. so.. I have a lot of thinking to do. I like him a lot but for the remainder of this year.. i'm just focusing on myself.

im not concerned about any of that actually, i was describing how i felt at that point and time...there isn't any problem at all. why would you think there's one? i was just trying to gain other people's point of views on the situation. if i had a problem i'm sure i would've stated that somewhere in the passage i wrote...

that's one of the issues, i typed more stuff out but the website cut it short. and he had been telling me a lot of stuff up until that point. so he had been saying a lot of stuff even after he found about the other guy and i told him that out of honesty. I felt if we are going to try and build a relationship then i shouldn't hide something like that.

let me give you a time line.. so in 2011 we take a break for 6 months, during that 6 months i met someone else. mind you he gave no guidelines and we weren't OFFICIALLY together. so december of 2011 he comes back we just try to be cool again. I tell him what happened at first he was like oh, ok thats weird.. no reaction really. then 2012 comes around i lost my dad and was going through a lot he sleeps with this chick i know, i let it go because i was dealing with a lot anyway and we just moved passed it. now.. in 2013 he tells me all of this stuff after i found out about him and this female. i'm not mad about it because he's been honest with me and we are not in an official realtionship so there's nothing i can do at all. not worried about that.

he tells me now, that i mean a lot to him, he cares about me and likes me, and he would like to be with me and he doesn't like when i bring it up because when we are hanging out that's our time together..

honestly the biggest issue is me, i don't know if i want to be with him, i just kinda have this thing where when we are together i just think about everything that has happened in the last.. 2 1/2 years and i just get really sad and completely shut down on him. like i won't talk or anything. i am hurt because i didn't know i hurt him and our friendship was on the line. i am not ready to be with anyone right now but i just feel like a bad person.

he has already told me that he's gonna talk to other girls and i'm like alright whatever.. nothing i can do. then he's like he wasn't gonna be intimate with other people but, he would rather do it now than later... what is later? whats going to be happening later? so i'm like.... ok.

then he hasn't told the other girl that he is talking to me or whatever. i felt he should tell her just because she is really falling in love with him it seems like. my thing is if you love someone wouldn't you tell that person everything upfront? he was like well she knows we aren't together and im free to do whatever i want.

i guess what i'm asking here is why would you just love/fall in love with a person just to do that kind of behind their back? why fall in love with someone before getting into an actual realtionship? maybe it's just me but idk

your welcome :-) my thing is that we weren't even in a relationship then when i slept with the other guy, so i don't understand why that hurt him, and i don't understand why he is waiting until now to tell me he fell out of love with me? like if you loved me in the first place why did you want to take a break?? he made that decision on his OWN at that time. he didn't even let me have any say so.. i'm thinking i was never gonna see him or talk to him again.

it's not even about the females, it's just that i feel he's STILL trying to get back at me although he said him loving her/falling in love whatever just happened. i don't care about that. i just feel he's hurting still and isn't being honest. i feel if me and him are gonna try to even be together in the future.. honesty is key. with me i feel like he feels he has to be this strong person because i am, he never really shows me he is in pain all he does is tells me how nothing bothers him which i know is a LIE. but this other chick he went to her with his problem, and his excuse was that he didn't talk to me because i had stuff going on. all i told him is that what he goes through, i go through too you know? the only thing i had going on this year was problems finding a job and it took me 6 months to find one.

i mean i am fine now of course, but this is a rough patch. i mean i'm his friend first before anything so of course i am going to be concerned about him. i'm like that with everyone in my life.

i guess your right.. i mean we hung out a lot this summer. I just get confused because...

he tells me he loves her/in love with her (since he doesn't know yet) but doesn't want to be with her...

but he likes me, and would like to be with me.. idk why i am confused about that but i am. maybe there's something im missing i mean i know what i just typed out but its like i'm lost still.

recently i haven't really been talking to him because i've been busy with school and work but, i did just send him a nice text. honestly, his friendship is very important to me. i am not in a rush for anything, i don't like to rush, i'm just going with the flow right now.

i don't like to force people or try to control them.

but i am not a mind reader... when you tell me that you want a break and i try to talk to you and you don'y answer my calls or texts, eventually i'm going to go away and think you don't want to be bothered. but i still feel bad i've even told him that. i told him that i would rather risk losing his love than for me to play him or lie to him.

i know how he feels because now i feel the same way, maybe that is why all this is happening the way it is.

Taurus female and Pisces male is the most interesting combination. I've learned a lot. i don't force him to tell me anything. I just ask him questions but as of now i realize that me doing that wasn't/ isn't going to make anything better. if anything it just makes the situation worse. but thank you :-)

Posted by cornfuzzled4ever
It hurt him because he had different expectations of the situation than you. He wanted to take a break to focus on other stuff. He saved himself for you. He expected that you'd do the same. It was a naive and perhaps baseless assumption on his part. His feelings got hurt. Nothing you did wrong, but again; he was disillusioned.

Idk what to tell you beyond that. I've said more than I should have already, methinks 😛

i have one last question for you....

why is it that he loves her/in love with her (although he isn't 100% sure yet) but he already knows he doesn't want to be with her?

*& why is it that he likes me and would like to be with me? is it because i was his first & he was mine or what?

that's what i dont understand..

You're both really young. This relationship was never set in stone. It was always an on/off, back and forth thing. It's been my experience that those kinds of relationships never last. They can be hard to get out of as well because the push/pull dynamic can really hook you. Thing is, you're ultimately in love with a fantasy, an image of him you have in your mind, that's untarnished by the real man. Talking/texting and not spending quality time together is not real. You're both looking for validation from each other but minus the sex and commitment. Is this what you want? Of course not. That's why you have to be the strong one and walk away. There really are plenty of fish in the sea. When you're ready, get out there and meet new people. There are men out there who have more to offer. This one's just too confused and you never had a very strong connection or it wouldn't have taken this on/off turn. Sometimes you just have to accept that it's not meant to be. Free yourself and let him go.

yeah thanks, he has recently gotten into a relationship with the girl.. the last time i talked to him he told me that he's ready for a relationship just not with me yet. I have a lot going on i am a college student trying to get my own place and focus on my career which is my top priority. As for us not being meant to be together i am not sure yet since we are very young. and the timing for us just isn't great at the moment. he said that he wishes that we happened differently. but before i had a phone conversation with him, we met up for a bit and it was weird because i had asked him if he has a girlfriend and he was like to and i was like are you sure and he was like no.. we said our goodbye gave me a hug and a kiss and this is recent then a few day's later we had the phone conversation. When I did talk to him I told him that him & her will be a long term relationship and he was like things change, I said when you are in love with someone you stay with that person forever and he started laughing like it was funny. he also said that he can't be there for me romantically right now and would like to be friends. I am fine with that but since this is all fresh and new i can't be his friend right now. I am focused on me. as a tauruean we tend to over think things sometimes, maybe i am looking too much into this. At the end of the day, I would love to have a relationship with him.. just not now. maybe the girl can give him all the things he needs now that i can't. she can give him love, a place to stay down in college and other things. when in the long run i can provide those things for him in the future. so until then i will be finishing school, working and trying to find a roommate for a place. just because we aren't meant to be now, doesn't mean we aren't meant to be period. only time can tell.

as of now, i am letting go at this point in my life, I have things to get done. I do want a commitment eventually in the long run. But, why would I get into a relationship with him now if he is unsure about what he want's and doesn't have everything together yet himself? And i am sure There's a high chance of getting cheated on also since we are young so im kind of glad that we aren't meant to be right now. I want to be around when he's stable and has things figured out more. I just don't want to be an ex- that's in and out of his life you know? or a female that's around for the moment, I want to be SET in his life eventually and that's something he can't give me right now and he knows it. I want more than what he's willing to give me and he doesn't have it all together yet, i rather him tell me all of this now than later.

it's ok that he's gotten into a relationship with this female, yes he has told me they have a connection she's just like him etc.. i mean i feel we need to have more experience & grow.. and time for me to mature more and change into the best woman i can be. sometimes as young people we don't really know what we want, sometimes certain things are good for that moment you know? but the more time i spend away is more time we both heal, grow and then maybe learn to understand one another more..over time and create an unbreakable bond. if i ever talk to him again LOL.. but it happens you know?

Awww, (((hugs))) I totally feel ur pain coz am in almost the same situation too. Time will tell, if u were destined to be together, ull eventually get together

exactly, that's how I feel. I have to learn how to play it cool. if i try to force him to do things it will never work. and he seems to go with the flow of life. if i am constantly asking him relationship stuff he's gonna swim the other way. if i am blessed with a second chance.. things have to change on my part. I have to just be his friend again and see where it goes. just not now.

I am taurus female and currently I like this pisces male
I WISH I HAD GOT TO THIS SITE SOONER I COULD OF SAVED A LOT OF
POSTING YOU ARE TAURUS WHY LOWER YOURSELF FOR A PISCES
DO YOU WANT TO BE AT THE BOTTOM OF THE FOOD CHAIN?
DO YOU WANT PEOPLE TO LOOK DOWN ON YOU?
IS THERE SOMETHING IN YOUR BACKGROUND WHERE YOUR SELFESTEAM WAS SHATTERED?
I HOPE THIS HELPS.

I am not lowering myself for anyone at all. And I don't have low self esteem at all. I don't want to be any of those things which is why I'm distancing myself from him at the moment so..... Yea.. thanks for your comment.

If you didn't read everything I wrote including other comments, maybe you should read them. I said we are both young right now only 22.. I am going away from him so, I can get myself together & if it's meant to happen/be it will. If we cross paths again. Timing is off right now. And I have other things to worry about.. Which myself being number one. Until then, I will be focusing on school & my life.

I will be focusing on school & my life.

YES YOU NEED A LIFE

Thanks lol I already have one. I appreciate your imput.