Casual with Pisces
This topic was created in the Pisces forum by cancer chic on Friday, April 23, 2010 and has 11 replies.
Hi, I'm new to the Pisces forum! I have two close female friends who are Pisces and I have recently gotten involved with a male. As a Cancer, I am really interested in developing the intuitive language of Pisces, especially since I am on the rebound from a man-of-few-words Virgo (relationship ended in February). This Pisces guy has been hanging out with my two roommates since January. He started coming on pretty strong to me a few weeks ago -- hand on the small of the back, flirting, sitting close -- in front of all of our mutual friends! This usually isn't my style but he was pretty charming. I had sex with him two Wednesdays ago: our first physical interaction. He hung around for me after work at the bar on Saturday, and we've hooked up maybe three more times since? He comes over a lot to hang out with my male roommate; they can play video games until 6 in the morning, those nuts. Pisces spends the night here every night, but more often seems to choose the futon in the hall than my queen sized bed, although one night he came in at 3AM and delivered a fun surprise. Our relationship is a very casual one, which I like since I am graduating in 2 weeks. However, I would like to feel a little more fulfilled... I am trying to curb those natural Cancer gooey feelings and have actually been successful in not being too pushy with him -- if he wants to play video games, I tell him to have a good night type-thing. But I do have a voracious sexual appetite! And these maybe/maybe not games are killing me, especially when he's just in the hallway.
He is only 19, which is an age I never thought I would stoop to. I enjoy his refreshing, excited perspective on life since we're on opposite ends of the collegiate spectrum. He is very caught up in idolizing his older male friends. He will often look to them for opinions instead of just to me, or seek a response from them even if I give one. However sometimes I catch him looking at me, especially if something's funny, and he always makes sure to tell me that he's coming back if he leaves. Also, our relationship is really well-kept; only four other people know that we're sleeping together.
Is his immaturity a large factor in his behavior? Are Pisces likely to be passive in arrangements like these, or do you think it's more likely that he is only interested sometimes? Is there a positive way to introduce the idea of having sex more often?
Thank you so much for helping me!! I truly appreciate your fishy insight. :-)
He is only 19, which is an age I never thought I would stoop to. I enjoy his refreshing, excited perspective on life since we're on opposite ends of the collegiate spectrum. He is very caught up in idolizing his older male friends. He will often look to them for opinions instead of just to me, or seek a response from them even if I give one. However sometimes I catch him looking at me, especially if something's funny, and he always makes sure to tell me that he's coming back if he leaves. Also, our relationship is really well-kept; only four other people know that we're sleeping together.
Is his immaturity a large factor in his behavior? Are Pisces likely to be passive in arrangements like these, or do you think it's more likely that he is only interested sometimes? Is there a positive way to introduce the idea of having sex more often?
Thank you so much for helping me!! I truly appreciate your fishy insight. :-)
Pisces cancer can be amazing especially if you are aggressive. The most beautiful experience i have had was with a cancer woman. If you tell him its real and asfe youll have as much sex as you want. He will toss away those games in favor of you as long as he knows you want a serious relationship. Casusal with pisces never ends well. We in general dont like it. He will be wise at his age so younger wont be so much a of a factor.
But you can ask for what you want without fear of being rejected. He will love you like no other and make you feel things youve never felt. But hes passive. Jsut do it if you want it. But if your going to be leaving soon i dont suggest it because you will rip one another apart. the pain and suffering associated with pisces and cancer parting is life long. You will love / hate him for the rest of your life.
Choose wisely and this match is intense when reciprocated. Youll mother him and he will please you and shower you with affection. Your crab shell will be soft unlike anything before. If you think its long term aggressive is your choice here. If not let it go.
But you can ask for what you want without fear of being rejected. He will love you like no other and make you feel things youve never felt. But hes passive. Jsut do it if you want it. But if your going to be leaving soon i dont suggest it because you will rip one another apart. the pain and suffering associated with pisces and cancer parting is life long. You will love / hate him for the rest of your life.
Choose wisely and this match is intense when reciprocated. Youll mother him and he will please you and shower you with affection. Your crab shell will be soft unlike anything before. If you think its long term aggressive is your choice here. If not let it go.
Thanks for your replies!
Sometimes I find it hard to be the aggressor -- I can't read him and wouldn't want to come on too strong. Before we had sex he was fairly aggressive with me, letting me know with his body language that he was interested. Currently, we've slept together three times and fooled around once. He's stopped his public flirtations with me, but I'm not sure why, unless he's trying not to give me signals.
I spoke with a mutual friend who says that he told her that he's down to keep things casual between us. After this conversation, when I was alone with Pisces I told him I wanted something casual and regular; he said, "Sure, if you want to," and wouldn't say anything more definite... even though when I called him out on the "if you want to," he said that he didn't mean to say it like that? Also, he keeps talking about going to Detroit or Kansas for the summer, even though I'm probably staying in town and his family's house is only 30 minutes away. I understand that he wants to get away; to me signs aren't pointing that he wants anything serious. The sex is really good though; I'm enjoying opening him up to new possibilities.
When in a room full of mutual friends, how do you signal to someone that you would like to disappear to them?
Is it sad and unusual that quite often he would rather play FIFA until 6AM with the guys than go to bed with me?
How do you like a woman to come on to you? When is it socially appropriate or not appropriate?
Sometimes I find it hard to be the aggressor -- I can't read him and wouldn't want to come on too strong. Before we had sex he was fairly aggressive with me, letting me know with his body language that he was interested. Currently, we've slept together three times and fooled around once. He's stopped his public flirtations with me, but I'm not sure why, unless he's trying not to give me signals.
I spoke with a mutual friend who says that he told her that he's down to keep things casual between us. After this conversation, when I was alone with Pisces I told him I wanted something casual and regular; he said, "Sure, if you want to," and wouldn't say anything more definite... even though when I called him out on the "if you want to," he said that he didn't mean to say it like that? Also, he keeps talking about going to Detroit or Kansas for the summer, even though I'm probably staying in town and his family's house is only 30 minutes away. I understand that he wants to get away; to me signs aren't pointing that he wants anything serious. The sex is really good though; I'm enjoying opening him up to new possibilities.
When in a room full of mutual friends, how do you signal to someone that you would like to disappear to them?
Is it sad and unusual that quite often he would rather play FIFA until 6AM with the guys than go to bed with me?
How do you like a woman to come on to you? When is it socially appropriate or not appropriate?
Stoop ?????
You act as though being 21 compared to 19 is way more adulthood, when in reality .. it's the same maturity level, if we aren't considering any other life factor. When we aren't considering, since your reference was aged based. Apparantly you are thinking that you are above him, since you used the term "stoop", and that is very disrespectful of a term to use, especially when it's used in the same breath to talk about your belief of him being immature.
You're his slut, what else do you expect?
He sleeps elsewhere and crawls into your bed at the wee hours of the morning to fuck you and you don't mind since you are really horny all the time anyway ...... and you actually think he is suppose to want more from a woman who is that easy?
In his mind .... it takes nothing to get in your panties .. why the hell would he regard you any higher?
You honestly think he is supposed to have respect enough for you to even care that feelings exist, when you have a vagina that asks for no worth?
And you're surprised?
Really?
Wow, is that a Cancer trait .. or just you?
You act as though being 21 compared to 19 is way more adulthood, when in reality .. it's the same maturity level, if we aren't considering any other life factor. When we aren't considering, since your reference was aged based. Apparantly you are thinking that you are above him, since you used the term "stoop", and that is very disrespectful of a term to use, especially when it's used in the same breath to talk about your belief of him being immature.
You're his slut, what else do you expect?
He sleeps elsewhere and crawls into your bed at the wee hours of the morning to fuck you and you don't mind since you are really horny all the time anyway ...... and you actually think he is suppose to want more from a woman who is that easy?
In his mind .... it takes nothing to get in your panties .. why the hell would he regard you any higher?
You honestly think he is supposed to have respect enough for you to even care that feelings exist, when you have a vagina that asks for no worth?
And you're surprised?
Really?
Wow, is that a Cancer trait .. or just you?
I suppose this is all you .. you have given him a snapshot of yourself for him to wiegh for value. Isn't that how it goes with every relationship?
We see it all the time, don't we? A person comes in here all upset because of how the other sees them, and the only thing the other can really see is what you have shown him/her .. isn't that correct?
So, it's up to you ... you can either get some dignity and close your damn legs ... or you can get your gratification more if you play your cards right. He might even be up to a 3-some with the male roommate, you never know. Pisces men like men, also ... so, this could be your dream come true.
We see it all the time, don't we? A person comes in here all upset because of how the other sees them, and the only thing the other can really see is what you have shown him/her .. isn't that correct?
So, it's up to you ... you can either get some dignity and close your damn legs ... or you can get your gratification more if you play your cards right. He might even be up to a 3-some with the male roommate, you never know. Pisces men like men, also ... so, this could be your dream come true.
"Is his immaturity a large factor in his behavior?"
I just re-read ..... and I don't see what immature behaviour you reference.
I just re-read ..... and I don't see what immature behaviour you reference.
He doesn't seem like a loser to me .. he seems like a guy who is acting within terms that have been established as acceptable.
Apparantly she wants there to be the development of feelings based off of giving him intercourse .... she is in error, he's a guy, he's not going to develop feelings because she gave him her kitty.
Why women think like that is beyond me .. I suppose it's because girls really don't comprehend that guys aren't girls, not really.
Anyway, it would seem that she is making the suggestion that he is the loser because he isn't "falling" after getting laid .. that doesn't make him a loser in any sense of the word.
She is the one who set the tone, set the stage of what is acceptable treatment she will allow to happen to her.
Apparantly she wants there to be the development of feelings based off of giving him intercourse .... she is in error, he's a guy, he's not going to develop feelings because she gave him her kitty.
Why women think like that is beyond me .. I suppose it's because girls really don't comprehend that guys aren't girls, not really.
Anyway, it would seem that she is making the suggestion that he is the loser because he isn't "falling" after getting laid .. that doesn't make him a loser in any sense of the word.
She is the one who set the tone, set the stage of what is acceptable treatment she will allow to happen to her.
Posted by Lauren89
chill out. Can't you? She just thought she could
What makes you think I'm not chilled?
arrogant much?
YOu have no fucking clue what she is thinking .. you only know what you are thinking.
P-Angel: I actually have pretty-well controlled feelings about this guy. Yes, ideally I would love to cuddle and watch movies but I honestly don??t know what I would do if he magically fell in love with me; certainly not expecting that. I get miffed when he doesn??t want me, but I think that??s normal and I try not to show him because I know it??s my ego.
As far as being a ???loser?? goes, I have NEVER called him that. I said he was immature and I based this on his age and behavior. This Pisces and I both have a lot of life experience, but mine is more extensive than his simply because I have traveled more and been involved with more in my personal life at this point. Yes, I know things about his life. I have had conversations with him; it's not all sex. He, at the end of his freshman year, is in a very different place than me, at the end of my senior year. He literally follows his older male friends around and looks for their approval with everything he says. He is younger than my younger brother, which is weird to me. That is what I meant by immaturity; I'm not trying to just make superficial judgments. I think the things he says are funny and certainly make him unique in his circle of older friends.
I don't seen anything wrong with having sex with him if that's all either of us wanted out of it. Would I like for it to continue? Yes. If it doesn't, will I be heartbroken? Absolutely not. And he will still be over here all the time. And we will still hang out as friends. However, this casual situation is new to me. I have emerged from a 2-year off/on relationship, it's taken me a while to be on the rebound, and I'm willing to try new things. If this ends up being a "few nights" stand, so be it. But can you blame me for wanting to get my kicks if I can?
Also, I'm not into male/male.
He has approached me since I originally posted this forum. The sex was awesome. We chatted beforehand, but no pillow talk afterwards. I told him that I??d like for it to happen more often??_ it??s been two days so far; we??ll see. The timing of things has been really tricky lately with Mercury in retrograde. He's been really friendly but I am annoyed that we only have sex on his terms. I've often found that these things happen when the dude wants it; how is that fair? I think it's bizarre how my sex drive is motivating me but he'd sometimes rather play FIFA.
Skuddles has a really good point ??? I think there was a possibility that I could have had quite a
As far as being a ???loser?? goes, I have NEVER called him that. I said he was immature and I based this on his age and behavior. This Pisces and I both have a lot of life experience, but mine is more extensive than his simply because I have traveled more and been involved with more in my personal life at this point. Yes, I know things about his life. I have had conversations with him; it's not all sex. He, at the end of his freshman year, is in a very different place than me, at the end of my senior year. He literally follows his older male friends around and looks for their approval with everything he says. He is younger than my younger brother, which is weird to me. That is what I meant by immaturity; I'm not trying to just make superficial judgments. I think the things he says are funny and certainly make him unique in his circle of older friends.
I don't seen anything wrong with having sex with him if that's all either of us wanted out of it. Would I like for it to continue? Yes. If it doesn't, will I be heartbroken? Absolutely not. And he will still be over here all the time. And we will still hang out as friends. However, this casual situation is new to me. I have emerged from a 2-year off/on relationship, it's taken me a while to be on the rebound, and I'm willing to try new things. If this ends up being a "few nights" stand, so be it. But can you blame me for wanting to get my kicks if I can?
Also, I'm not into male/male.
He has approached me since I originally posted this forum. The sex was awesome. We chatted beforehand, but no pillow talk afterwards. I told him that I??d like for it to happen more often??_ it??s been two days so far; we??ll see. The timing of things has been really tricky lately with Mercury in retrograde. He's been really friendly but I am annoyed that we only have sex on his terms. I've often found that these things happen when the dude wants it; how is that fair? I think it's bizarre how my sex drive is motivating me but he'd sometimes rather play FIFA.
Skuddles has a really good point ??? I think there was a possibility that I could have had quite a
Your explanation makes it sound like you just want him to fuck you .. alot of fucking.
Again ... you are his slut. If you are fine with that, then none of us in here give a fuck.
YOu made a point in the OP to mention that he looks to his friends input after you have spoken ... why would you even mention that? You apparantly thing you are above him.
You are only two years older than him and you act like that makes you mature and him immature ... sorry to burst your bubble, but any woman who has no integrity that she would fuck for the sake of it, without any kind of commitment .. IS the immature one in this scenerio.
Yes, you are the one who is immature ..... according to the actions you have mentioned.
Seriously ... you're just a ho, nothing more.
Again ... you are his slut. If you are fine with that, then none of us in here give a fuck.
YOu made a point in the OP to mention that he looks to his friends input after you have spoken ... why would you even mention that? You apparantly thing you are above him.
You are only two years older than him and you act like that makes you mature and him immature ... sorry to burst your bubble, but any woman who has no integrity that she would fuck for the sake of it, without any kind of commitment .. IS the immature one in this scenerio.
Yes, you are the one who is immature ..... according to the actions you have mentioned.
Seriously ... you're just a ho, nothing more.
Posted by Tony_So_Stellar!!!
@ P-Angel,
OMG. . . . . You're just brutal with it aren't you?But hey, I like that. Tell 'em like it is.
Tony_So_Stellar!!!
Hey, Tony, I'm still me !!!!!
Blunt, point blank ........ shooting straight.
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