Do all pisces get like this?

Im a pisces and have had some bad experiences when it comes to love, and i tend to get negative feelings. For example, I have this guy (capricorn) who has told me everything I needed to hear in order to say, yeah, he is the one. He asked me to be his gf, tells me he misses me, tells me that he could see himself marrying me. He even asked me if i would marry him if it came down to it. But two days of hardly hearing from him is freaking me out. Im here thinking of all the excuses why he hasnt contacted me. As you may know, some guys will stop all together contacting you, and avoid you when they are no longer interested. This may or may not be the case, but its freaking me out. Maybe its my low self esteem creeping out. But what can one do? Has any of you pisces had the experience where the guy doesnt contact you and you feel like, oh no! it might be over? How do you handle this? Am i too fast to jump the gun? I dont want to bombard his cell with texts. I really feel like it because I havent heard from him since early last night and usually he has texted me by now.

I am how you are. and I know how hard it is when you're waiting on someone but you have to learn to try and get those thoughts out of your mind because for all you know something could just be wrong with his cell or something and then you get worried over nothing.

but the most important thing ive learned is to just be happy with yourself and if/when you get a text it will just be a happy addition to your day and not what you've been sitting around waiting for and worrying about.

try and relax 🙂

Thanks for the input, dreaming. I know its because Im freaking out. there can be many reasons as you say, that can keep him from contacting me. He wasnt home the last time he texted me, so it can still well be that he is still not home to charge his cell. I just hate being this way. Too stressfull.

Posted by paranormalbadgirl
Thanks for the input, dreaming. I know its because Im freaking out. there can be many reasons as you say, that can keep him from contacting me. He wasnt home the last time he texted me, so it can still well be that he is still not home to charge his cell. I just hate being this way. Too stressfull.

no prob 🙂 and yeah I totally get ya, it sucks not really knowing whats going on...

after not hearing from him since early last night he finally texts me. I had sent him six texts telling him i was worried, and that i hope to hear from him soon. the first text he sent said, "im at a ball game." the second one said, "yeah, im sorry hun just been busy." I told him i understood, that i loved him, and that ill wait until he texts. then the last text he wrote, "i love you too." Im still not comfortable with this. It stresses me out still, because his texts are so bland to me. I guess Ill eventually find out whats going on but it torchures me inside nevertheless.

I just realized I am ovulating. UUgghh! Maybe that is what is making my hormones and thinking go haywire. :p

Posted by piranhaparadiise
Stay away when you are pmsing etc...you will over react...

Need to rewire your way of thinking...the way you go about things...

Have a whatever approach...that's the only way a Pisces can be at peace with themselves...

Stand back and watch what happens 🙂

One important thing I will stress to you and any woman/man/beast

Do NOT REACT to any negative thing...e.g not text when you think he/she should...not call when he/she said he would etc...SO WHAT...I have a life...they have a life...let's rock it that way 😄

You will only push him away and put pressure on him and also you cause unneeded stress and anxiety on yourself for nothing... because quite frankly what will be will be...

For the last 2 months I have rewired the way I approach situations in my life the way I handle things...I keep my emotions at bay and if I am pmsing I stay the treetrunk away from people hahaha BECAUSE I realised I was causing a commotion at the times I was pmsing...

Live and learn...took me the third time to realise things won't always be in my control...of course I always knew that but I am quite stubborn at times and I like things my way...had to release that pressure... 😄

Im learning to do this as well with. Especially with a Taurus man who is an old friend. i am finding that if I take that approach with everything, it helps me a LOT. Highly recommend this approach.

thanks for all the input. makes alot of sense. I just have to stop letting my temporary freaked out emotions get to me. yes i am dating this cap. it has been day three, and still waiting for him to change back or at least tell me whats going on.

today, i woke up and texted him. i told him i loved him and asked him how he was, and that ive been thinking of him. He responded with, " im thinking ill text you in a bit." looks like a red flag to me. I guess ill wait to see what he finally tells me. Sad how we give a person who we feel is worth everything and they just might not feel the same way about you after all. He told me such beautiful things and it did feel like he meant them. He calls himself honest, loyal, and loving. If he was just leading me on then that makes him a liar. He even told me he hates liars. Im preparing myself for the bad news. Meanwhile, like you guys said, I have to think about myself and get myself off the floor. Its so freakin hard, but I know i have to do it for my own sake.

very good advice you guys. Yesterday morning i texted him asking what he was up to and that i hope he has a good day. He responded with, "thinking, ill text you in a bit." It is now the next day and I never got a text back from him. I will not text him again until he texts me first. Like you guys said, I will give him time to think. I will do my own thing and not worry about him. Im actually feeling better today and not mad as I was before. As a matter of fact, last night i had a dream that he was chasing me. I hid in places to avoid him finding me. Hmmm... I wonder what that was all about?

Nope, I'm not like you, at all.


I don't run to shiny things .. I'm not gullible.


Sounds like this guy tells you pretty words to stroke your feelings .. and you fall blinded by "whatever" he says.


I would never stoop to such a thing .... anybody can say words, my dog can say the word "bark"




A man better show he is one before he steps up to me ... period.

Posted by paranormalbadgirl
today, i woke up and texted him. i told him i loved him and asked him how he was, and that ive been thinking of him. He responded with, " im thinking ill text you in a bit." looks like a red flag to me. I guess ill wait to see what he finally tells me. Sad how we give a person who we feel is worth everything and they just might not feel the same way about you after all. He told me such beautiful things and it did feel like he meant them. He calls himself honest, loyal, and loving. If he was just leading me on then that makes him a liar. He even told me he hates liars. Im preparing myself for the bad news. Meanwhile, like you guys said, I have to think about myself and get myself off the floor. Its so freakin hard, but I know i have to do it for my own sake.

Oh, good grief! He doesn't call you for a whole TWO days and you're already going into drama mode! So if a man doesn't call you ALL THE TIME, it must mean he's "leading you on"? I think it's not him. It's YOU. You have a "woe is me" attitude. I foresee that you'll eventually break up with him. Not because he's "leading you on" but because YOU are pushing him away. Who knows? He may just DELIBERATELY cheat on you just so that you'd leave him alone.

Or knowing how sneaky yet quietly self-sacrificing these Caps are, he may just cheat to make HIMSELF look like the bad guy just so that YOU would be spared the feelings of guilt knowing that it was it was YOU who pushed him away.

To me, it sounds like you've found a rare Capricorn; one that actually TELLS you he loves you (most of these Devilmen rarely SAY it..even though you'd FEEL their love. They're doers...not talkers. They'd rather SHOW you that they love you rather than spew empty words of love out of their mouth).

Another thing: You may have noticed this: Your Sea-Goat will tell you words of love to your face more often than in text messages or e-mails. My experience is that they HATE saying affectionate, lovey-dovey things over an impersonal object such as a cell phone. They'd rather do that to your face.

Stop reading too much into it & stop imagining the worst (hard for a Pisces to do, I know). Do you know that Capricorns have to juggle, like, 20 different tasks all at the same time? Why do you think they usually become such successes? They're hardworkers & overachievers, baby. Ever occur to you that he may have rec

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Ever occur to you that he may have received your texts when he was in the middle of an important meeting/study session, etc? And you somehow think that this is a "red flag"? That he's going to "cheat on you"? "Leading you on"? Just because he isn't continuously spewing words of love at you?

Look, I think you need to spend more time on the Aries, Taurus, Capricorn, Aquarius & Leo forums. Find out how to be mentally stronger from all these "leader" signs. Your fellow Pisces here will only tell you what you want to hear & further aggravate your "woe is me, he's going to leave me" attitude. Afterall, you fishes all think & feel alike. Although I do sense, a couple of the fishes here are more sensible and I feel they can tell that you are over-reacting, they...being Pisces...are just too nice to tell that to you straight.

Don't sweat the small stuff, ok? And don't push this Cap man away from you because of your own insecurities. The Pisces woman/Capricorn man coupling has the potential to be a beautiful union.

And oh, yeah.. Capricorn's ruling planet, the cold, harsh, slave-driver Saturn is going through a SUPER storm right now:

http://blogs.wsj.com/photojournal/2011/07/11/saturns-super-storm-captured-by-cassinis-cameras/?mod=google_news_blog<BR>
So that may affect their mood swings (hey, they're half-water after all...so they have all the emotional turmoil that the water signs go through too)

I especially like this qoute from the above link:

—One might think that after years in orbit around Saturn, we are now accustomed to great big happenings and fantastic spectacles. But far from it. It is the shock of the unexpected, the intense mind-grabbing, eye-popping, soul-stirring thrill of seeing the unseen that gets us every time. And, as all of you well know, that is what this glorious, history-making exploration of Saturn and its magnificent realm is all about.??

beowolf thanks for the insight. The more i learn the better for me. Im making a big deal and i wish it didnt affect me so. Thats one of the things about being a pisces i do not like. Im actually feeling better today (day two, lol) Its nightfall. So I will occupy my mind with other things. Oh, and another thing he did tell me once that it drives him crazy when i think im not good enough. The reason why he said that is because I dont like to see him without my makeup on (yes, silly I know). And I have been on the Capricorn forum, and yes, they have been giving me a lot of insight.I appreciate all you guys.

I don't think it's you. Maybe something happened to his phone, i.e., it got stolen. Maybe he's been really busy with work.
I say keep yourself busy so you're not thinking about this. You want to keep being the cool, beautiful Pisces girl that he fell in love with in the first place.

I agree with a previous post about the whatever approach. I need to learn it too, especially with my Aquarius crush.

Hope this helps!

--Fellow Pisces

Well, i got dumped, lol. He told me that he doesnt have time for a relationship and that he is too busy, that maybe later he will hit me up. I went on vacation for some ghost hunting and I was supposed to drive down to see him. Days before he told me he was excited to see me, etc. Then when i arrived i texted him telling him where i was staying and the room number. No response. Then I texted him the next day, and he didnt even know it was me texting him. Why? cuz he had deleted my number! what a coward! He just assumed id get the hint or something. I feel so foolish. At least i had my friends keeping me busy for the days i was out there. but still, i spent every night alone in my room thinking about him, feeling sad and mad at the same time. So unfair!

He sounds like a real a-hole...maybe he was trying to give you the hint a while back but acting excited to see you in a few days and then IGNORING you sounds so cowardly...and I dont believe he didnt recognize your number. I think he was being mean so you'd get pissed and leave him be. I know, it sucks and it hurts but good riddance!

thats a bullshit way for him to handle things. not just in a romantic sense, but in a basic human to human interaction. it's disresceptful.

here's the thing though- it's not as simple as him being a bastard. you may now think those 'red flags' you saw earlier are confirmed by what's happened, and you were right to feel that way. but this is more a case of self-fufilling propechy, i.e he noticed you needed alot of reassurance/attention and couldn't handle that. putting it simply, you texting him during his quieter periods brought it home to him that a relationship with you would involve alot of carrying- fair assesment or not, that's how you came across.

when a relationship is in it's fledgling stages, that type of behaviour can make somebody uncomfortable. you have to work on being more relaxed and patient.. because even though the silence from a man's end feels omnious, usually they're taking a step back to assess their feelings for you and where things should go. maybe it's apprehension, maybe there's somebody else in mind and they haven't made a decision between you yet. but the way you handle yourself during that time is very important.

i did the same thing recently. all it took was one needy text from me and me and my guy went from 'i'm looking forward to seeing you next, how was your day' to 'i don't think we're compatible.' i treaded all over his thinking space (or assesment phase, whatever) because i wanted confirmation he wasn't having second thoughts about me. i see it like i gave him the perfect excuse to end things because i expected reassurance from him and he wasn't in right place to do that. looking back, my text was very pessimistic and defeatist :p

and the smarter the guy is, especially in emotional terms, the better they'll be able to read your intentions and take against the expectations or pressure you might be putting on them. it's very easy to be unaware of how you're coming across.

it's like our doubts accelerate theirs. something to keep in mind.

Hey PBG. I've responded to your concerns before on the Cap forum and am going to do the same here as well. Bottom line? Your own insecurities and self-fulling prophecies brought about the break-up with your Cap. You are not a victim of "foul-play" but of an unyet learned ability to be in love with YOU over a man. Once that is achieved no man Cap or otherwise will be able to break you down or make you a fool for loving them more than yourself. The texting and constant declarations of love and so on toward this low-key mostly undemonstrative sign is a no-no until you have truly gotten to know them and them you. That could take years. Your actions in his eyes were likely that of someone wearing a flashing neon sign that says "I am desperate, clingy and nothing without you." Now maybe this is an exaggeration but then again maybe not.

All I know is a Cap man will make up his mind about you when he is ready and if you push him he'll walk away without a look back. The sad thing is that Pisces Woman/Capricorn Man are some of the most beautiful pairings around and I am sure that his feelings for you were likely genuine and probably deeper than you know. His words could have been true yet it was his actions that you couldn't handle and THAT was the real test with this guy...how you react to him in any given situation. If you are into you more than him there would have been just as others stated...a whateva attitude that would have kept your Cap intrigued and moving toward putting forth more of the effort to please your need for demonstrated security. But you didn't let the man breathe and when he came back around you sent out the clingy vibe and it turned him off. Maybe with some time away from you and the situation he may re-think his decision and find a reason to come back to you. But you have to allow him that time and space by moving on with your life and making it the happiest and most fulfilled that you can which includes dating others if the opportunity arises. Don't sit around like us pisces can do and wallow in woe as me. Take a deep breath and start working on some self-love.

Posted by Pidelight
Hey PBG. I've responded to your concerns before on the Cap forum and am going to do the same here as well. Bottom line? Your own insecurities and self-fulling prophecies brought about the break-up with your Cap. You are not a victim of "foul-play" but of an unyet learned ability to be in love with YOU over a man. Once that is achieved no man Cap or otherwise will be able to break you down or make you a fool for loving them more than yourself. The texting and constant declarations of love and so on toward this low-key mostly undemonstrative sign is a no-no until you have truly gotten to know them and them you. That could take years. Your actions in his eyes were likely that of someone wearing a flashing neon sign that says "I am desperate, clingy and nothing without you." Now maybe this is an exaggeration but then again maybe not.

All I know is a Cap man will make up his mind about you when he is ready and if you push him he'll walk away without a look back. The sad thing is that Pisces Woman/Capricorn Man are some of the most beautiful pairings around and I am sure that his feelings for you were likely genuine and probably deeper than you know. His words could have been true yet it was his actions that you couldn't handle and THAT was the real test with this guy...how you react to him in any given situation. If you are into you more than him there would have been just as others stated...a whateva attitude that would have kept your Cap intrigued and moving toward putting forth more of the effort to please your need for demonstrated security. But you didn't let the man breathe and when he came back around you sent out the clingy vibe and it turned him off. Maybe with some time away from you and the situation he may re-think his decision and find a reason to come back to you. But you have to allow him that time and space by moving on with your life and making it the happiest and most fulfilled that you can which includes dating others if the opportunity arises. Don't sit around like us pisces can do and wallow in woe as me. Take a deep breath and start working on some self-love.

+1

GIRL....
I USE TO GET ALL BENT OUT OF SHAPE.
USE TO KEYWORD.

NOW, I WOULDNT DARE.

FOR WHAT?

WHY THE FUCK WOULD I WANT A MAN THAT DISPLAYED THESE ACTIONS?

SETTING YOURSELF UP FOR FAILURE.

RED FLAGS & INTUTION, HONEY.

I WISH A GUY WOULD NOT CONTACT ME FOR DAYS AFTER SAYING SUCH THINGS.

GUYS LIKE HIM TICKLE ME PINK.

I INSTANTLY CANCEL CONTRACTS OF FOOLISH MEN THAT DISPLAY FOOLISH ACTIONS.

IM TRULY NOT THE ONE FOR EXCUSES OR GAMES OR LINES OR BROKEN PROMISES OR ANY BULLSHIT.

WHY BOTHER?

IF A GUY DOESNT CONTACT ME, I DONT CONTACT HIM.

100% OF THE TIME THEY COME RUNNING BACK. ASKING ME WHERE IVE BEEN & WHY I HAVENT CONTACTED THEM.

MY REASON. I WAS BUSY!

THEN, THE BALLS IN MY COURT.

SO I DO WHAT THE FUCK I WANT & SAY WHAT THE FUCK I WANT & TREAT THEM LIKE THE FUCK I WANT.

WITHOUT ANY THOUGHT OR CONCERN.

WHY?

FOR A MAN TO THINK HE CANCOME RUNNING BACK, HE HAS TO BE A FOOL.

SO I PLAY HIM LIKE ONE.

THEN HE'S SITTING WONDERING & CALLING & TEXTING.

IN THE THEN IM DISGUSTED BY THESE FOOLS & IGNORE THEM ALL.

UNTIL IM GOOD AND READY.

AND IM ONLY GOOD AND READY UNTIL IM BORED OUT OF MY MIND AND HAVE NOTHING TO DO.

EMOTIONALLY DETACHED, OF COURSE.

THEY SENSE THINGS HAVE CHANGED.

DUH!

DID YOU REALLY THINK THINGS WOULD BE THE SAME.

BANG YOUR HEAD ON THE WALL, IF SO...

WOMEN STOPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP
STRESSING YOURSELF OVER A MAN.

MEN FEEL WE NEED THEM, SO THEY PLAY ON THAT EMOTION.

I KNOW THIS, SO...

I PLAY MY PART RIGHT.

PLAYING MYH PART MEANS... REALLY NOT GIVING A FUCK IF HE CALLS/TEXTS OR WANTS TO HANG OUT.

BECAUSE I HAVE BETTER THINGS TO DO THAT WILL RING BACK 100% POSITIVE RESULTS...

WHICH IS WORK ON ME MYSELF & MY FUTURE.

I KNOW I WILL DO WHAT I HAVE TO TAKE TO MAKE SURE IM HAPPY & SUCCEED.

OTHER PEOPLE. NOT SO SURE.

SO... I DO WHAT I DO BEST.

ME. WHAT I WANT.

LOVE MEN BUT IM REALLY DISGUSTED BY THEM.

I MEAN, REALLY, HOW COULD I NOT BE...

I KNOW MY SOULMATE IS OUT THERE.

THE MAN THAT HAS ALL THE QAULITIES I NEED.

WE SHALL MEET ONE DAY!

UNTIL THEN, IT'S ALL ABOUT ME =)

NO MAN NEEDED.

GET A VIBRATOR & DOG =)

a kitten works too 😉

Posted by nimbue
thats a bullshit way for him to handle things. not just in a romantic sense, but in a basic human to human interaction. it's disresceptful.

here's the thing though- it's not as simple as him being a bastard. you may now think those 'red flags' you saw earlier are confirmed by what's happened, and you were right to feel that way. but this is more a case of self-fufilling propechy, i.e he noticed you needed alot of reassurance/attention and couldn't handle that. putting it simply, you texting him during his quieter periods brought it home to him that a relationship with you would involve alot of carrying- fair assesment or not, that's how you came across.

when a relationship is in it's fledgling stages, that type of behaviour can make somebody uncomfortable. you have to work on being more relaxed and patient.. because even though the silence from a man's end feels omnious, usually they're taking a step back to assess their feelings for you and where things should go. maybe it's apprehension, maybe there's somebody else in mind and they haven't made a decision between you yet. but the way you handle yourself during that time is very important.

i did the same thing recently. all it took was one needy text from me and me and my guy went from 'i'm looking forward to seeing you next, how was your day' to 'i don't think we're compatible.' i treaded all over his thinking space (or assesment phase, whatever) because i wanted confirmation he wasn't having second thoughts about me. i see it like i gave him the perfect excuse to end things because i expected reassurance from him and he wasn't in right place to do that. looking back, my text was very pessimistic and defeatist :p

and the smarter the guy is, especially in emotional terms, the better they'll be able to read your intentions and take against the expectations or pressure you might be putting on them. it's very easy to be unaware of how you're coming across.

it's like our doubts accelerate theirs. something to keep in mind.

wow... so nicely said. something every woman needs to keep in mind. *save*

thank you, shell 🙂 coming from you that's a massive compliment. i always agree with your posts.

Posted by nimbue
thank you, shell 🙂 coming from you that's a massive compliment. i always agree with your posts.

🙂 you're sweet

You guys are the best! Your points of view have helped me with my situation. Maybe one day the cap that broke my heart will come back. Maybe not. I got another guy knocking at my door. And guess what? Another freakin cap! But this one is brutally honest and doesnt waste time with games and such. He knows what he wants and what he doesn't. He seems intrigued with me for i am not clingy at all with him. I let him decide when we talk, text, etc. He has been pretty good with keeping in touch. And if i dont text or call for like two days he will wonder what the heck is going on. And everytime we talk he always asks me if I am going to go see him to make sure im not bullshitting him. I think the experience i had with the first cap has gotten me prepared for this second cap. So we shall see what happens 🙂