Do Pisces fall out of love easily?
It usually says that Pisces fall in love easily. I want to know if they fall out of love easily.
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
Nope .. however, we have the ability to put a shield up, regardless of our feelings, and distance ourselves from our partner if we believe the union is over and we haven't found the right opportunity to swim, yet.
Secondly, don't believe everything you read because we don't fall in love easily either .. our real life partner is on the other side of the rainbow, so to fall in love with a living person is actually quite hard.
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It's complicated, and then I'm not sure we even know the difference between actually being in love, and the idea of it.
Here's the best indicator I can tell with just my own self .. I am compelled to help people, to aid them, to rescue them (even if they don't ask for it) .. and this feels very intense inside, I MUST help someone if I feel they are suffering in any way.
However, when I am loving somebody, or in love (as it's perceived on the other side as how being in love should feel) .. then my compulsion to assist somebody is not as intense, and I will focus on my partners needs instead.
That's as close as I can get to giving you an idea ... we HAVE to serve, we aren't complete unless there is someone to take care of. So, if your Pisces boy/girlfriend is still aiding other people randomly then s/he doesn't feel that this is being satisfied within him/her. If s/he has stopped with a lot of the running to help somebody and is focusing on you and what you need to be taken care of, then this "need" inside of them is being fulfilled.
Whether it's actually "in love" would be nearly impossible to tell, for we process how we love somebody NOT by a physical person, rather, how it "feels", or should feel as it's experienced within an illusion.
P is right. And to answer your question I would have to say yes. For me it's not necessarily a shield... I can just cut off my feelings completly really easy. For instance... I can be madly in love with someone... and they could do something very small... yet mean so much to me.... and hurt me without unintentionally. Immediately my romantic love will vanish. And it's very hard to get it back. We tend to distance ourselves from unpleasant thoughts and feelings. That seems almost contradictory to our natural willingness to place ourselves in other peoples thoughts but it tends to be a defense mechanism. And that does feel like a shield.
The reason I don't say shield is because in my experience I don't put a wall up... I completely remove myself from the situation.. no need for a shield if I never talk to them again right?
-J Oh... and unlike P's feelings... I do fall in love easily. Very. I love human nature.... the bad and good. However I fall out of love as easily as i fall in.
-J
i can only speak for myself...i don't fall in love or out of love too quickly at all. it takes time for me to even say i love you and when i do i mean it. however, if i see certain things in my love's behavior that seems out of line i will take pause. if this behavior continues then i will talk to him about it. if it then continues, then i will start to mentally pull back and watch him. now he will not know that i am doing this, i am looking to see if his words are matching his actions. i am at this moment still in love but if i see his behavior continue i will again to talk to him telling them exactly what i am seeing and experiencing from his actions and/or words.
if this continues, i will cut it off eventhough i am still in love...then i will go through a process of grieving for the relationship and for some unexplained reason one day something will snap and i won't have feelings for that person anymore. the crying will stop and i will be anew and i will go on. i never go back to an old love, not even to kiss them. when it is over it is over. i am not like some people who go back and fourth....and i think this shocks some people who are used to that back and fourth behavior. so to the person on the other side it does look like i fell out of love quickly but it took a lot of bullsh*t from them to get me there.
the end.
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And, when we severe the cord .. somehow, we can just walk away and never think of it again.
How do we do that? I can do it with anything, a lover, a friend, a job .. just feel so deep, so intense, like my heart is going to stop .. then, like the flip of a switch, it's gone.
However, I don't know that I actually fall "in love" with a live person. Inside an illusion, I can. Infatuation is easy for me.
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"now he will not know that i am doing this, i am looking to see if his words are matching his actions"
I do that too, Phishy ..
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But, really, though .. what is "in love"?
Every person experiences life differently .. we all make our own realities with each passing life-lesson, so "love" to one person may feel completely different to another.
p-angel - yeah...that's a pisces skill..but it has helped me dodge several bullets...whew!
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Phishy, there is someone named kel on the Cancer board who has mentioned your name as being a dual identity to him and he's getting spammed for it. Do you know him?
The thread is called ... cancer______ attack of an id
LOL!! no i don't i will go check it out...
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May 04, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 1078 · Topics: 68
Well, speaking only from my own experience, not all Pisces, I can say that there have been times when I've mistaken infatuation for love (though mostly when I was much younger). In these situations, I got along really well with these people and there was a significant connection, but I wasn't able to fall in love with them (and it became clear after about three months; I guess that's my trial period or something). But when I've really loved someone, it has taken me years to recover after the relationship ended (and a lot of time spent piecing myself back together). Maybe it's b/c I invest all of myself in another person when I really care about them. I don't think Pisces love lightly.
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Of course not notso .. it's certainly NOT because a person just knows they are in love, it's because Elvis Presley told them.
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SG, can you always tell the difference between love and infatuation?
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I guess you just have to know yourself well enough to know when you care about someone so profoundly that they are able to pervade even your soul. One way of knowing is when pain accompanies the thought of living your life without that person. I remember lying awake some nights just watching the Taurus sleep (my longest relationship) and crying sometimes at the thought of anything happening to him (a little excessive I know, but that's love). Love is also building your hopes and dreams around that person. I always know when I love someone, b/c it's at that point that I start imagining sharing my life with that person, wanting to have kids (when most of the time, I'm not even sure I want kids), growing old with that person, etc. Again, you just have to know yourself well enough to recognize a significant change of state in yourself that can only happen when someone has a hold on you. And I know this is going to sound really, really corny (but I swear it's true), the few times I've really loved someone, when I'd look into their eyes, It was like seeing a reflection of myself in their eyes (b/c we had grown so close).
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How many times would you say you all have been in love?
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I agree Sagi..I think a baby is (ideally) the most visual manifestation of two people's love for one another. Also, on a subconcious level, I think it reflects the idea of an everlasting love b/n two people, as it transcends the self and metaphorically time as well (through future generations continuing the lineage)
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Well, I can't relate to the baby thing, since I wanted to get pregnant at 6 by my dad, since he's the only 'daddy' I knew.
< moon in Cancer
"Not initially but eventually. That's why I don't rush into a relationship and it takes time to get me to commit"
So, does this mean that at first, it might be mistaken for love, only to later find out that it's infatuation? Or, do you just not put a label on how you feel exactly until enough time has gone by to identify how you are feeling towards the person?
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What notso? You are one of the wittiest people in these parts.
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lol, like that wasn't known, already.
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oops, wrong thread .. pardon
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So then, how did you know you were in love with him Notso?
This is good talk my fellow Pisces (:
Especially:
P-Angel
"However, when I am loving somebody, or in love (as it's perceived on the other side as how being in love should feel) .. then my compulsion to assist somebody is not as intense, and I will focus on my partners needs instead."
"Whether it's actually "in love" would be nearly impossible to tell, for we process how we love somebody NOT by a physical person, rather, how it "feels", or should feel as it's experienced within an illusion."
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sumthing_phishy
"i don't fall in love or out of love too quickly at all. it takes time for me to even say i love you and when i do i mean it. however, if i see certain things in my love's behavior that seems out of line i will take pause. if this behavior continues then i will talk to him about it. if it then continues, then i will start to mentally pull back and watch him. now he will not know that i am doing this, i am looking to see if his words are matching his actions. i am at this moment still in love but if i see his behavior continue i will again to talk to him telling them exactly what i am seeing and experiencing from his actions and/or words."
"...if this continues, i will cut it off eventhough i am still in love...then i will go through a process of grieving for the relationship and for some unexplained reason one day something will snap and i won't have feelings for that person anymore. the crying will stop and i will be anew and i will go on. i never go back to an old love, not even to kiss them. when it is over it is over."
So on point! You both have taken the words out my mouth
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Jul 26, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 569 · Topics: 69
Because they think everyone is their savior.
No, we dont fall out of love easily. Or atleast i dont.
@ P-Angel
Whether it's actually "in love" would be nearly impossible to tell, for we process how we love somebody NOT by a physical person, rather, how it "feels", or should feel as it's experienced within an illusion.
I like this comment, so can you elaborate more on what you mean.
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Its more a matter of falling into reality.
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Jul 28, 2007Comments: 28 · Posts: 921 · Topics: 39
do pisces fall out of love...? not even lol i'm usually the last one out of everybody to get over something hurtful...
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I dont think Ive ever been in 'it'.
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Infatuation ... it's hard to tell the difference sometimes.
Normally, for me .. I'll let a week go by and usually, the intense feelings of "wanting him NOW" subsides a tad .. ooops, then, it's infatuation. But, at the time .. it's so powerful.
Can any one help me , l have a Pisces friend in Spain who l love to bits, and we were getting on like a house on fire , l even went out there in Feb and all was good although she had some lodgers staying in her flat, to whom one she was dating . the situation was very complicated far to much to go into. Anyway she talked how she was looking forward to me coming over again in May and having dinner with her family again and staying in her flat instead of a hotel.
So here is the Problem ,since April just before flying there she told me she had problems and her brother who she does not live with, and only found out was her brother in the last few years was in a comafrom a car accident. now not to seem cold or doubt what she has told me , but every-time l call she will not answer , and when she does its if l call from another number . she says she has problems and she is depressed ... but why answer when it's not my number when she tells me she does not answer to anyone
Also she knows l just want an answer to know if we are still friends and she will not reply l get nothing i even make it easy by asking but nothing . the first maill l got after a few calls was that she did not hate me! and is not lying to me just she has many problems ,but then why all the confused actions and not returning my messages when she always use too.
l am finding this frustrating hurtful and cold , but have no control as she lives in Spain and lm in England she's left her previous address so lm told, and l did try when l was their in May ,but no answer
Her previous lover said she always lied , but she would say she never lied.and it was her lover that was a liar!! . so please all you Pisces can you explain this crazy behavior! l have all the patience of a cancer in the world but she behaves like she does not know me ,walks around in a costant trance at the age of 31yrs.
seems very lazy , but l know Cancer's can be like this too because we are dreamy ! so l understand that side,
Even to find a job was an effort for her and she cold not hold a job for a week it seems, such a lack of effort for life,her adopted parents needed her to pay the rent once the cuban Lodgers Moved out ,which she said she could not wait for, so she would have her life back! as they would boss her around all the time, but when they left it was like she died inside , they use to tell her when l was on msm live talking to her to turn it off yet it was her flat,
So my question is what to do , forget all the messages we sharded emails , laugths and promises, like we never meet , or sit and hope one day she will call , but somthing tells me she will not. Honest replys please, and lm open to questions too. thanks guys.
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The truth is right in front of you ..... if your heart wasn't invested, the truth would be obvious.
Here's help ... take your feelings out of the scenerio, and pretend it is happening to a friend or family member ... and then you'd be able to see with clarity.
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Take this small piece of the puzzle for example ....
"every-time l call she will not answer , and when she does its if l call from another number . she says she has problems and she is depressed ... but why answer when it's not my number when she tells me she does not answer to anyone"
You are only looking at (that) that happens. That she does this isn't definitive, it's an action, and this action is the only thing you are able to see, to wonder why.
So, carry it beyond (that) she does this .... to see (what) it means to do it.
Is that kind of like the girl who gets upset (that) a guy wolf-whistled at her?
Nevermind her mini skirt which was so short is showed her ass, because to think about it would tell her (what) just happened.
oK that was to complicated in thought , so yes l am looking at her actions , but if l were watching from outside it would seem she does not wish to know me , but why say you do and l mean the world to her because of the close things we share , then deaf me out. i can only think she cannot deal with reality and it's a Pisces way of dealing with cutting you off , when the loose interest! but like l say whats the big deal just say it's not working as friends , instead of going to great depths with lies .... about depression and coma's.
l travelled all the way out the to see her in Spain and she could not be bothered to come and see me or for me to meet her, Weird!!, and rude! , so l don't care now but what a waste of time ..l stuck by her through her problems then she just bins me after she got these folk out her life , how do people live with them selves ..is this really how Pisces, are because lm a water sign ,but l would and can honestly say never done this to any friends , l always end it amicably, so both parties know what went wrong.
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*Nods head in agreement with P-Angel* She pretty much hit it on the head with her first post.
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"if l were watching from outside it would seem she does not wish to know me , but why say you do and l mean the world to her because of the close things we share , then deaf me out"
You are letting yourself get bogged down with why she is being contridictive, in hopes that would just come back to say she wants to be with you ... instead of actually believeing yourself when you say that her actions show she does not wish to know you.
Here is something to think about with the why, then, since you insist .... she is trying to avoid you, side-step you .... and you are not recognizing it.
"I travelled all the way out the to see her in Spain and she could not be bothered to come and see me or for me to meet her, Weird!!, and rude!"
She was likely thinking the same thing about you when you went to see her, after this time of her trying to avoid you ... wtf does he want? Can't he take a hint?
"i can only think she cannot deal with reality and it's a Pisces way of dealing with cutting you off , when the loose interest!"
Actually, every person cuts the other off when it isn't working out.
It doesn't matter how she cut you off .. you're not suppose to sit there and delude yourself into thinking it must mean something else since you wouldn't behave this way ... obviously your way of behaving is going to visit the person after they've lied and treated you like shit.
I mean com'on .. what do you want?
Why must you allow yourself to be tortured, when you know what is right in front of your face, because you said it in here, so you know ... and then take the position of being some kind of victim.
She's lying to you, avoiding you, being an ass ..... so what the fuck are you doing trying to make justificatin in your head that she must be meaning something else if she isn't coming right out and saying it ..... are you deft?
"so I don't care now but what a waste of time"
Who you are you trying to kid? Of course you care .... you barfed up this old thread just to talk about how much this is bothering you.
Are you lying to us .. or yourself?
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daft .... geez, funny shit right there
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Us pisces don't fall outta love easy. Thats for sure. We just know how to lock folks out of our lives. Especially if they have done something wrong to us. Just the fact that we are the type of people that are willing to give and we expect the people around us to have the same heart (although usually not the case) the minute that trust or whatever is broken. Its hard to get em back. Its a game of tug of war, but you gotta play it gracefully.
Guys Not worried about the rejection , but the fact someone is so weak that they cannot at the age of 31 speck their mind! Is a sad story.
l did not loose her friendship through lack of trust or me doing wrong ! but purely because l am happy with a guy, and she fancied me...
big time and could not handle the fact l just wanted to be a girl friend ! not a girl sex friend...... does it make sense now! also she was
rejected by a Cuban girl who she married, and l helped her kick her out , because her cuban girlfriend had the cheek to move another girl
In who she was dating before she married my friend , so she could come to Spain from Cuba.\
l was asked to help her! because these girl were taking over her home, so l did ,,but with many nights of her go on about how they were
destroying her life etc. etc. ... l think once l helped her get rid of them ,the reality kicked in and she as just realized herself that she still
misses them and all the crap!! they bought into her life . l am glad she is not in my life now she totally drained me .. l thought Cancers were dreamers ,
but she really took it to another Level .... so thanks for the feedback but life is simple by saying what you mean not running scared and saying one thing
And meaning another , so childish.