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So I recently went on a week long vacation with a solo female travel company, and this Pisces guy who was the founder, was also our trip manager and accompanied us. All through the trip he gave me compliments, teased and flirted quite a bit, however, I took it easy considering he was generally sweet and funny to everyone on the trip. One evening, he sat next to me on the bus, and asked me after a long silence, whether I thought me and him had a vibe, and whether I could consider a casual relationship with him. He explained how and why he was not looking for something serious, due to nature of his job and previous experiences. Also, we had a long discussion on relationships, and our individual views, experiences in love, etc.
Me being a traditional Cap, I was a little taken aback, so there was an awkward silence from me, which I feel unnerved him. But I gently told him my view on relationships was much different, that I wanted something serious, and that he barely knew me. In my mind, it was a red flag that he’d ask me out like this. I also wondered if he just wanted a one night stand or something like that, but he mentioned going on dates, meeting each other friends, doing chill things together, etc beyond the trip too, just without the commitment tag. It was a little too unconventional for me, so the conversation ended with him letting me know that i should give it another thought and if I ever changed my mind, I should let him know.
I wasn’t angry or upset,just surprised. Later he did ask once again whether I had given it any thought, and I said I hadn’t, as even though he’s dreamy and thoughtful, I like stability and was done with casual relationships going nowhere.
After the trip ended, I wrote a glowing positive review for this vacation and his company on an online forum. And post that, he messaged apologising for his behaviour towards me on the trip, saying sorry and as he’d crossed a line which he shouldn’t have. Asked if we could stay friends.
I am a little confused by his behaviour. He wanted something casual, which I declined. But I was not holding him criminal for it. And neither had I expressed anything negative anywhere about him, the trip, or our conversation. So where does his unsolicited apology come from?
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
Propositioning a client is most likely frowned upon by his company. He’s just doing damage control.
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Sep 19, 2020Comments: 2926 · Posts: 1607 · Topics: 4
He was unprofessional so he apologized. You weren't offended so I don't see the problem. 🤷
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
I’m guessing your not the only woman he propositioned for casual sex on the trip. Bet you someone complained to the company and he is on his second strike reaching out to make sure your not his third.
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May 29, 2021Comments: 1662 · Posts: 2225 · Topics: 11
Yeah I know several trip organizers who use it to hook up. I ignored them before u knew two were fighting over him on our way to a trip when they found out about each other.
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May 29, 2021Comments: 1662 · Posts: 2225 · Topics: 11
Btw is his name Eduardo lol
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Nov 10, 2021Comments: 11 · Posts: 102 · Topics: 4
Relaxed young fella living easy, fishing, having fun…why not? Just never mind it. But you are falling ARENT you? So try to re-focus.