don think a piscean and cancerian were meant to be

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by Crabbypatty on Sunday, June 19, 2011 and has 32 replies.
As I look back on my past relationships, I realize that the only men I have ever dated was pisces men. Upon realizing this, every guy who has approached me I make sure I ask them theirp sign and sure enough they are all pisces. If I ever run into a scorpio then it becomes flirtatious but he's already taken.I know what the compatability says about love between a piscean and cancerian but I think its all wrong. My point? well I have been married to a piscean for almost 10yrs, I thought things were great but I find that he kept secrets, and lies, hid money from me when me and the kids were in need. His female friends were indeed lovers, and his flirting had become an addiction. So now I meet another guy whom is also pisces and our relationship has gone further to the point of love, I havent divorced my husband yet but I lost interest in him period. My new pisces guy, we have been on and off
For months and we get back together, he misunderstand everything I say, alwys want me to go see him, never gives me in return, and I don't ask either. If I text him or call him sometimes he wont answer, he tell me he need to ne left alone so I comply. Well I havent seen him in a month and we are busy people, he tried to make plan for friday but I ended up at my mom in long island so I text him and he start cursing me out and breaking up with me he said I have time for everyone else and not him and that he is tired of the next week bullshit and jus said he is done at this point im giving up on pisces men and is starting to believe thatcancers and pisces were never meant to be at all that the stars are wrong!
Your checking the sun signs, try checking his Moon and Venus sign thats where a relationship and friendship tends to tell you where your Pros and cons are.
i think sometimes pisces and cancer take their bond for granted and expect the other to 'know' what they're thinking/feeling.
Posted by Lena828
Two very passive signs, difficult to get it to work. Which is why fish go so well with no nonsense straightforward signs like Aqua,


If any Pisces on here has had a relationship with an Aqua that "went well"... I'd love to hear about it
^^ I'm talking about the males btw
Posted by Nights22
Posted by shellshocker
Posted by Lena828
Two very passive signs, difficult to get it to work. Which is why fish go so well with no nonsense straightforward signs like Aqua,


If any Pisces on here has had a relationship with an Aqua that "went well"... I'd love to hear about it


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hehehe! you're fast dayzy/nights
Ok so here is both our natal charts
his chart:
sun-pisces/ascendant-scorpio
moon-capricorn/II-sag
mercury-aquarius/III-cap
venus-aquarius/IV-pisces
mars-scorpio/V-aries
jupiter-cap/VI-taurus
saturn-scorp/VII-taurus
uranus-sag/VIII-gemini
Neptune-cap/IX-cancer
pluto-scorp/midheaven-virgo
lilith-pisces/XI-libra
ascnode-gemini/XII-scorp

Here mine:
sun-can/ascendant/aries
moon-virgo/II-gemini
mercury-gem/III-gem
venus-gem/IV-can
mars-libra/V-leo
Jupiter-scorp/VI-virgo
saturn-lbra/VII-libra
uranus-sag/VIII-sag
neptune-sag/IX-sag
pluto-libra/midheaven-cap
lilith-cap/XI-aqua
ascnode-can/XII-pisces
Idk, cancer-scorpio is a bit of a nightmare but cancer-pisces is pretty sweet. There can be very few 'rules' in the relationship tho, only two or three and everything else rolls with the tide.
I was with an Aqua w/ a Virgo Moon AND Aqua Venus.... alone time was never a problem.
Ya, both Cancer n Pisces are super needy, it's when they're feeling needy that's the problem. Hard to get on the same page of togetherness and solitude.
Posted by MidniteStar
Aqua in Venus is a tough cookie for sure! I was with an Aqua Sun who had a Gemini Moon and an Aqua Venus for two years. I wanted to rip my hair out. I have learned though that that combination is just not for me. God help the poor soul it is for. I don't know how I lasted two years with him. I was insane I guess and addicted.


Dear lord! You poor girl Sad
Posted by periperilicious
I'm strong and dominant.
In and out of the bedroom...


This is pretty random... ?
Well being that im an aries ascendant and a virgo moon and my venus is gemini although I dont know what that means. I was always impaitient but also very direct and you know aries ascedants are impatient we dont think we just do it or say it and he one time told me I speak my mind too much. Everytime I say something he get mad and break up wit me like every week.
@nights22 Lol you are I think I just might have to.
@nightss I meant you are right sorry.
Posted by Lena828
Two very passive signs, difficult to get it to work. Which is why fish go so well with no nonsense straightforward signs like Aqua, Virgo, Aries, Cap etc. Anyway Pisces are heart breakers, our partners either learn to love the pain or keep on walking by.


I seem to get along great with Capricorn and Aries (I'm pisces/aries cusp). Maybe this can be attributed to my moon in Aries and a Capricorn stellenium. Virgo there seems to be an initial attraction (opposites attract?) that seems to fizzle out quickly.
OP, it sounds like you are getting played, there had to be some warning signs down the road that you either ignored or didn't pick up. For instance the guy that needs alone time -- he certainly doesn't make you a priority.
Posted by Crabbypatty
As I look back on my past relationships, I realize that the only men I have ever dated was pisces men. Upon realizing this, every guy who has approached me I make sure I ask them theirp sign and sure enough they are all pisces. If I ever run into a scorpio then it becomes flirtatious but he's already taken.I know what the compatability says about love between a piscean and cancerian but I think its all wrong. My point? well I have been married to a piscean for almost 10yrs, I thought things were great but I find that he kept secrets, and lies, hid money from me when me and the kids were in need. His female friends were indeed lovers, and his flirting had become an addiction. So now I meet another guy whom is also pisces and our relationship has gone further to the point of love, I havent divorced my husband yet but I lost interest in him period. My new pisces guy, we have been on and off
For months and we get back together, he misunderstand everything I say, alwys want me to go see him, never gives me in return, and I don't ask either. If I text him or call him sometimes he wont answer, he tell me he need to ne left alone so I comply. Well I havent seen him in a month and we are busy people, he tried to make plan for friday but I ended up at my mom in long island so I text him and he start cursing me out and breaking up with me he said I have time for everyone else and not him and that he is tired of the next week bullshit and jus said he is done at this point im giving up on pisces men and is starting to believe thatcancers and pisces were never meant to be at all that the stars are wrong!


i've been with my cancer gf for 6 yrs and we have our ups and downs too..one thing about cancer girls is ya'll do like to be all up in a person's space..and ya'll get extra emotional which makes me sick sometimes, but other then that, ya'll cool..
and i think depending on the type of person you are, you end up picking certain types of men..so if you want to change that routine, you have to change who you are in some form or fashion..its not always about a sign either
@mic you're right any pisces man I found had not ever made me a priority. @damen its funny how I gave him space, then he wanna switch up on me and tell me i'm not paying him enough attention. when I want something he will not give it,when he want sonething its right here and now. I give attention its to much,when I hold back or dont call him for a day I get cursed out. I'm seriously starting to believe that whatever pisces man I end up with he is either a lie and cheat, or seriously bipolar, or the in da closet kind not saying that any of u pisces men or women are that way.
Posted by Crabbypatty
As I look back on my past relationships, I realize that the only men I have ever dated was pisces men. Upon realizing this, every guy who has approached me I make sure I ask them theirp sign and sure enough they are all pisces. If I ever run into a scorpio then it becomes flirtatious but he's already taken.I know what the compatability says about love between a piscean and cancerian but I think its all wrong. My point? well I have been married to a piscean for almost 10yrs, I thought things were great but I find that he kept secrets, and lies, hid money from me when me and the kids were in need. His female friends were indeed lovers, and his flirting had become an addiction. So now I meet another guy whom is also pisces and our relationship has gone further to the point of love, I havent divorced my husband yet but I lost interest in him period. My new pisces guy, we have been on and off
For months and we get back together, he misunderstand everything I say, alwys want me to go see him, never gives me in return, and I don't ask either. If I text him or call him sometimes he wont answer, he tell me he need to ne left alone so I comply. Well I havent seen him in a month and we are busy people, he tried to make plan for friday but I ended up at my mom in long island so I text him and he start cursing me out and breaking up with me he said I have time for everyone else and not him and that he is tired of the next week bullshit and jus said he is done at this point im giving up on pisces men and is starting to believe thatcancers and pisces were never meant to be at all that the stars are wrong!


You're 91 years old, and now you get it? Seriously?
wow that was helpful.
You talked about a lot of men in the OP, which leads one to believe that you've experienced a lot of relationships.
And in all of them, you only talk about how/what went wrong with them .... are you saying that you were actually an observer, and not a participator?
If all of your relationships turn out the same way .... when then does it become apparant that the problem is you?
In fact, it is you all along ... since relationships are appointed. You are with who you choose to be with .. so if your choices are wrong, then that's on you to mend and not the other person to be expected to own up to your bad choices.
rabby, Im a crab too so I completely understand where you are coming from. But listen to your fellow repliers... What Damien said is absolutely true! You are who you attract. If you want a great quality man in your life you have to be a great quality woman. Remember that old saying, "do me bad once, shame on you. Do me bad twice, shame on me." Well, its completely shame on you for continuously picking the "wrong" guys. Us cancers have something that most don't and that's very strong intuition. There is something about these losers that appeal to you, and its sad to say, but that's where your downfall is. Love yourself and leave these men alone. Sooner or later, the right one will come. Good Luck & Watch out for those red flags, DO NOT ignore

@nadia:no one is wrong at all its what I allow to happen and dont realize it cuz at somepoint I need to put my foot.down but my intuition has been so out of whack lately at some point I think a time of solitude would be best

Ladies and Gentlemen,
As a Decan III Pisces, I can assure you all that the Pisces-Cancer match works, and it works very well.
I am currently romantically involved with a Decan III Cancer, and it is wonderful. We talk all the time, and really enjoy each other's company.
The critical things to remember are as follows:
1.) Time. Give each other time to get to know each other. This is not the type of relationship to be rushed, since it is a very powerful and special one. Rushing it will most likely crash it, as a train crashes when it moves at a dangerously high speed.
2.) Companionship. This relationship will most likely offer great soul-touching companionship in addition to the great sex. Yes, sex is important, but talking to each other like you are best friends is also important because you need to communicate when you are having a relationship. It's a good mix of friendship and romance.
3.) Patience. Fish need Flora time, just as Crabs need their Shell time. No need to fight like cats and dogs when the other is retreating into their private time area. Just let it go, and the other will surface sooner or later. Anything over a week though means it's probably starting to go sour. Just make sure you talk to each other even when you are taking some time out to be alone.
Posted by PiscesPosterBoy
I hate to slightly bump this but whatever lol Tongue
I find that relationships with other water signs are always miserable. Love them to death and all but there is just too much emotion. Too much manipulation.
Personally, I tend to go for Air or Fire signs. With a nice earth moon and a watery Venus Tongue
Preferably, with Moon Exalted in Taurus smile
Oh and Aqua Venus is the devil Devil (Can you tell I'm biased yet Tongue)


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Hmmmm. . . This is tricky, because most of the times I'm not good with Cancers. Don't get me wrong, I'm a deeply, sensitive and emotional guy, but there's also a part of me that's rational, cool & aloof, which strangely offends people. I have a friend who's a Cancer with Venus in Gemini from Boston, who has served in the Army with me. Out of all the medics that I worked along side with, he was the only one who actively stayed in touch with me too this very day. It's weird, but its the Cancer-Gemini or vice/versa combination that I seem to get along with. I guess it has something to do with the way Cancers get me emotionally, but also the Gemini influences vocalize those emotions, which is pretty cool.
Why ScorpioFish? Good for you..sucks for PiscesPoster, so?
{-- Moon in Taurus and an Aries Venus. (And also thinks Aqua Venus tends to be The Devil! haha) So I guess that makes me pert' near perfect? *cheeky grin*
However -- you're far too young for me, PiscesPosterBoy.. and I'm off the market anyway.. damn Libras are my kryptonite always, with all those Libra planets hanging out in my House VII (Marriage House). Doomed, I say... can't escape the Libra attraction lol
Oh, and on topic.. my second husband was a Cancer.. my very best friend for five years before we got married. He died far too young, and if he had not -- I'm sure we'd still be together. The man straight up adored me and swore the sun rose and set on me. Left some pretty big shoes to fill, he did.
But other than him.. I just don't seem to mesh well with Cancers (or most Scorps).. Can't figure it out.. but I'm the common denominator.. so I figure it's ME, not THEM.. maybe partially due to me having NO Cancer or Scorp planets in my chart, at all.
Posted by Nefer
Oh, and on topic.. my second husband was a Cancer.. my very best friend for five years before we got married. He died far too young, and if he had not -- I'm sure we'd still be together. The man straight up adored me and swore the sun rose and set on me. Left some pretty big shoes to fill, he did.


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Aww, don't be sad for me, shellshocker... I had him, and I had a love most people seek and never find. And the end of his short time on earth.. was spent with the woman who loves him still, and always will, and bore his sons to carry on his name.. a piece of US, forever. He set the bar impossibly high, and men have since failed to meet those standards set and left me unmoved. No, it's probably not fair -- but once you've been loved like that, mediocrity will never suffice.
It's been tough on my Libra, these standards, this bar. And I've been stubborn and unapologetic for it -- 98% is not enough for me, sorry. His choice was to rise to the challenge and meet or exceed expectations.. or leave me unmoved and get left behind when *swish swish* I disconnect and swim away.
So I've had AMAZING love three times... my long-lost Virgo soulmate, my dearly missed Cancer husband, and my Libra beloved. Honey, no one should feel sorry for me.. I've been blessed beyond measure!
@nefer you made me feel soooooooooooooooooooooooo more depressed today. sorry but i can't help feeling sorry for you. i am a cancerian too, and when you know she is the one, you finally feel at home and then die (sobbing)
Posted by highlander
@nefer you made me feel soooooooooooooooooooooooo more depressed today. sorry but i can't help feeling sorry for you. i am a cancerian too, and when you know she is the one, you finally feel at home and then die (sobbing)


Well.. now I TRULY know what it means when it's said: It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
I know it to my bones.. and I know it to be true. I'd never trade one moment I had with him, not even to avoid the pain that followed and is still a dull ache deep in my heart. And at the hospital, where he spent the last eight days of his life.. he said to me, with tears in his eyes, "I'd rather die now, loving you.. than live sixty or seventy more years never knowing your love." And he meant it.
When you find love like that, highlander.. you will find that you no longer feel sorry for me, and will feel mildly surprised that you ever did.
I've never had a problem with a cancer. On the flip side, I could NEVER date a Virgo, Capricorn-yes, Taurus-maybe, Scorpio-hell no, Gemini-not in this lifetime, Pisces-only if I'm sedated, Aries-definitely not, Libra-I would have to dumb myself down, Leo-I'm not that shallow, Aquarius-just friends thank you. So basically for me there are slim pickings from the astrological pool.

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