has he really moved on?
This topic was created in the Pisces forum by pink candy on Monday, April 23, 2007 and has 12 replies.
hello i am new here and yet have another question about puzzling pisces ex.after a long going on/off relationship he broke it off!
only few days before everything was great between us.he just decided not to be my boyfriend out of nowhere and broke it off with a text message!not only that he found someoneelse first!but not like someone he already knew he deliberately looked for smb she has so many similar qualities to me!comes from similar background, even looks similar.and he said he moved on doesnt wanna know anything to do with me just like that!no explanations, no reasons!
after trying very hard all i could find out was that he said to this new girl the reason we split is because i cheated on him!! which is not true at all he doesnt have any evidence i did, i don think i did anything to make him believe that way either!the only think i can think of is i was away for work one night had some drinks after and decided to stay in a hotel he wasnt aware and called i told him on the phone and my battery run out! 2 days after i got a text saying i am not the one!
i am just too tired and hurt with all this. if this is his desicion i cant do anything but accept it.all i am trying to do is ease the pain get some sort of closure. but now he puts up his and his new gf's pictures on a website where he knows i would see showing that how loved up they are etc.
i try not to look! it feels as if he is trying to make me jealous but why? if he is happy and moved on why all these stupid mind games?or is it me reading into it?
only few days before everything was great between us.he just decided not to be my boyfriend out of nowhere and broke it off with a text message!not only that he found someoneelse first!but not like someone he already knew he deliberately looked for smb she has so many similar qualities to me!comes from similar background, even looks similar.and he said he moved on doesnt wanna know anything to do with me just like that!no explanations, no reasons!
after trying very hard all i could find out was that he said to this new girl the reason we split is because i cheated on him!! which is not true at all he doesnt have any evidence i did, i don think i did anything to make him believe that way either!the only think i can think of is i was away for work one night had some drinks after and decided to stay in a hotel he wasnt aware and called i told him on the phone and my battery run out! 2 days after i got a text saying i am not the one!
i am just too tired and hurt with all this. if this is his desicion i cant do anything but accept it.all i am trying to do is ease the pain get some sort of closure. but now he puts up his and his new gf's pictures on a website where he knows i would see showing that how loved up they are etc.
i try not to look! it feels as if he is trying to make me jealous but why? if he is happy and moved on why all these stupid mind games?or is it me reading into it?
You could be bad to the bone! and say "guess what....the hotel guy was real"...."I had the best fcukin sex in my life and would trade all my yesterdays with you for that one night of passion with that guy"....ciao - good-luck you will need it!!!!........sorry sorry sorry I am being so flippant with you Pink Candy.....there's nothing you can do, you can't force guy to get back with you, nor would you want to......you simply become unavailable to him......if he wants you back, he will have to come chase you, apologize and woo you around big time......actions speak louder than words.....make him act - you are the Queen......who is he????
Alana x
Alana x
"a long going on/off relationship he broke it off!"
The relationship didn't sound stable all along.
"now he puts up his and his new gf's pictures on a website"
It seems reasonable to me for a person to put pics up of a new love ..
"it feels as if he is trying to make me jealous but why? if he is happy and moved on why all these stupid mind games?"
It doesn't sound to me as though mind games are being played by him, for didn't you say, "he said he moved on doesnt wanna know anything to do with me just like that!no explanations, no reasons!". I would think that a person playing mind games would be all charming one minute and pushing you away the next.
I really just have one question that pops in my mind .. for all the rest of this seems normal when two people break up .. one moves on, the other in pain .. that is the way it works. Why did you lie to him? If you truly wanted to make a relationship with this man and your aim was true and you don't like mind-games .. then, why did you lie?
"i was away for work one night had some drinks after and decided to stay in a hotel he wasnt aware and called i told him on the phone and my battery run out"
Under ordinary circumstances, the Piscean is very trusting, allows their partner space, and is understanding .. there shouldn't be any reason for him NOT to believe your lie, such as, your car broke-down .. however, he KNEW it was a lie, for it was the straw that broke the camels back and he broke up, once and for all.
Why lie? Normally, a person only lies when there is something hide.
The relationship didn't sound stable all along.
"now he puts up his and his new gf's pictures on a website"
It seems reasonable to me for a person to put pics up of a new love ..
"it feels as if he is trying to make me jealous but why? if he is happy and moved on why all these stupid mind games?"
It doesn't sound to me as though mind games are being played by him, for didn't you say, "he said he moved on doesnt wanna know anything to do with me just like that!no explanations, no reasons!". I would think that a person playing mind games would be all charming one minute and pushing you away the next.
I really just have one question that pops in my mind .. for all the rest of this seems normal when two people break up .. one moves on, the other in pain .. that is the way it works. Why did you lie to him? If you truly wanted to make a relationship with this man and your aim was true and you don't like mind-games .. then, why did you lie?
"i was away for work one night had some drinks after and decided to stay in a hotel he wasnt aware and called i told him on the phone and my battery run out"
Under ordinary circumstances, the Piscean is very trusting, allows their partner space, and is understanding .. there shouldn't be any reason for him NOT to believe your lie, such as, your car broke-down .. however, he KNEW it was a lie, for it was the straw that broke the camels back and he broke up, once and for all.
Why lie? Normally, a person only lies when there is something hide.
Or, perhaps, I read that wrong .. did you mean your battery on the phone ran out?
"i was away for work one night had some drinks after and decided to stay in a hotel he wasnt aware and called i told him on the phone and my battery run out! 2 days after i got a text saying i am not the one!"
Is it normal for you to stay away over night for your work?
Was he always suspicious?
This just seems so unreasonable .. I'm trying to figure out what the "straw" was.
Something about this particular episode was the breaking point.
Is it normal for you to stay away over night for your work?
Was he always suspicious?
This just seems so unreasonable .. I'm trying to figure out what the "straw" was.
Something about this particular episode was the breaking point.
DC- no he is 29
Alana- Thank you for all your nice comments.well i am not planning to do anything just trying to get on with my own life but it is very difficult since i feel let down and betrayed right now.
P-Angel- i think you misunderstood me i did not lie to him but you are right relationship was not stable for other reasons(his family and my family problems)but he never wanted to end it for such a lame reason before!i knew he was quite insecure deepdown but he never admits it and acts the opposite like he doesnt care which makes it harder for me to understand what he actually cares.i would assume it is normal for me to stayaway
we dont live together i have my own place and he has his. at the time it was the reasonable thing to stay in a hotel rather than driving 2 hours after couple of drinks.
Was he always suspicious?
he does not show any emotions i cant address what makes him tick.i thought in time he might feel comfortable and things might improve.
i told him on the phone that i was staying over but before giving too much detail where etc.my phone phone died. he did not ring me the next day or the day after only 3 days later texted me to break up!
Alana- Thank you for all your nice comments.well i am not planning to do anything just trying to get on with my own life but it is very difficult since i feel let down and betrayed right now.
P-Angel- i think you misunderstood me i did not lie to him but you are right relationship was not stable for other reasons(his family and my family problems)but he never wanted to end it for such a lame reason before!i knew he was quite insecure deepdown but he never admits it and acts the opposite like he doesnt care which makes it harder for me to understand what he actually cares.i would assume it is normal for me to stayaway
we dont live together i have my own place and he has his. at the time it was the reasonable thing to stay in a hotel rather than driving 2 hours after couple of drinks.
Was he always suspicious?
he does not show any emotions i cant address what makes him tick.i thought in time he might feel comfortable and things might improve.
i told him on the phone that i was staying over but before giving too much detail where etc.my phone phone died. he did not ring me the next day or the day after only 3 days later texted me to break up!
People who immediately post pictures of themselves with the new "victim" on their myspace..facebook..whatever...this is desperation at its finest, in my opinion. It is definitely for your benefit.
"why all these stupid mind games?"
I'm not sure what mind games you are referring to. What games?
Did he not post a pic of you on his Myspace when you were together?
Other than the pic posted, I can find anything in what you said as being a game played.
I figured you meant the battery on your cell phone once I re-read it, but, didn't know how to unpost a post.
Just move on .. if it hurts to look, then find something else to do instead. Every time you pull up his Myspace, you only torture yourself .. go for a walk, instead.
I'm not sure what mind games you are referring to. What games?
Did he not post a pic of you on his Myspace when you were together?
Other than the pic posted, I can find anything in what you said as being a game played.
I figured you meant the battery on your cell phone once I re-read it, but, didn't know how to unpost a post.
Just move on .. if it hurts to look, then find something else to do instead. Every time you pull up his Myspace, you only torture yourself .. go for a walk, instead.
I can find
* can't .. I can't find
* can't .. I can't find
no as far as i know he did not post my picture
yes i am trying to move on it does hurt like hell and i feel my self-esteem crashed!
mind games? like i said maybe it is me reading into it too much maybe i am not being objective!just little things only i would know!like stuff we talked before pictures of places they went i wanted to go!
like silly things i liked about him she happens to like it too and she left a message to his space similar to how would i comment and carried on
"he is all mine girls he is all mine hehe"
it is either a big coincidence or she is being manipulated by him- he is great at that-or it is me
yes i am trying to move on it does hurt like hell and i feel my self-esteem crashed!
mind games? like i said maybe it is me reading into it too much maybe i am not being objective!just little things only i would know!like stuff we talked before pictures of places they went i wanted to go!
like silly things i liked about him she happens to like it too and she left a message to his space similar to how would i comment and carried on
"he is all mine girls he is all mine hehe"
it is either a big coincidence or she is being manipulated by him- he is great at that-or it is me
Actually, from what you just said .. it sounds more like SHE is the one being an ass, I would be surprised if she isn't the one who wanted the pic up, merely judgeing from your last post.
But, that certainly doesn't excuse his behaviour either.
But, that certainly doesn't excuse his behaviour either.
* wouldn't .. wouldn't be surprised.
Damn, I can't talk today, nor type .. apparantly.
Damn, I can't talk today, nor type .. apparantly.
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