Help me Figure Out this Pisces Man

Hello!

So I met this Pisces man via the internet. We went on two dates, the first one he planned and paid for the second I planned and paid for. We had awesome dates great conversation, and they both ended with kisses. Both of which I was very nervous about because I wanted to make sure I gave the impression that I was a lady. For example, he walked me to my car and leaned in for a kiss and I gave the quickest peck on the lips and jumped into my car.

Well my problem is now he doesn't text or call and if I text I sometimes don't get replies. I've read that some Pisces are waiting for you to verbalized that you're interested but I'm nervous to do that cause I'm not sure if he really likes me. I asked him while we were kissing if he liked he and he said yes, but that answer could have been influenced by my kiss.

I just would like to know if theres a way to know for sure if he's feeling me or not? And should I just let him know that I'm interested and want to keep seeing him?

I'm a Libra by the way.

Tell him verbally that you're interested and want to keep seeing him? You already know the answer to your own question. Be a little more confident libra babe.

Posted by Spring2011

I asked him while we were kissing if he liked .....

You've already stated that you gave a quick peck and jumped into your car ..... then you turn around and insinuate that you had a make out session, if we are to believe there was enough time to hold a conversation about feelings

Posted by Spring2011

..... I wanted to make sure I gave the impression that I was a lady.

So, you are in it to make impressions, rather than be what/how you are.

How could you possibly expect a person to be able to be real with you ... if you are operating according to a plan, rather than according to your nature?

He will be able to sense if you're real/false, which will be the deciding factor of whether you're in with him or out.

I agree with P-angel, you always have to be yourself if you want things to work out long term.

What do you mean by figuring him out?

He's just like you.

Have you figured yourself out yet, as to why your concerns are on an image you want to display. Are you afraid of him seeing who you are?

Why do you want to present him with an impression that you designed?

An ulterior motive?

I'm sorry. I didn' articulate myself well ..After the first date I gave the quick peck. And the second date was the make out session.

And I've had some bad luck with guys trying to just jump right into sex so I try not to kiss on the first date to let them know I would like to take it slow.


I'm a little new to this dating thing and all advice is welcome.

If I were you, my question to myself would be -


Does my essence of being a lady not shine through? In that I have to manipulate his perception of me?

And when I say impression I meant I am a lady and I want to make it clear on the first date if that makes more sense.

P-Angel,
That is true, he should be able to sense it. You're completely right about that.

Well libra babe, I think that showing a guy you aren't easy is good. I take things slow with people I date too so I understand you. But you have to be more confident and communicative. Maybe he likes taking things slow too. Sometimes us females want to read too much into it.

Yes, I am a Libra and I can't help but to overthink. So how exactly do I move forward with this. Wait til he reaches out to me or should I make a move? Or has my lack of transparency through his eyes ruined it for me?

Pisces and libra are not a good pairing in the first place? Just think, you aren't official and you're already having trouble communicating and understanding him. If any guy, regardless of his sign, is interested in a girl, he's going to make that first move, and try to get close to you on his own. He's going to get turned off if you start chasing him and that's literally the last thing you want.

Yea, I agree. I just can't help shake the feeling that he's being hesitant because he doesn't know how I feel, and I just wanted to give him the greenlight.

Yea, he could not be interested too. But I've read of Pisces being distant because they need to "recharge". I came to this forum to decipher which one.

IMO, you messed up when you took the lead in making the plans for the second date AND for paying. You didn't allow him to pursue you...like a lady would.

Posted by djbuck1
You're overthinking this, and you're engaging in mental constructs because you don't want to accept that: 1) this is not within your control; and, 2) this is going down by the bow.

I don't care what his sign is. If he was into you, he'd be pursuing you. You can't maneuver him into doing that. You're just setting yourself up for a disappointment at best, or to be used like a shake and bake bag at worst.

I was in a relationship with a Libra woman for eight years. It did not start out anything like you are describing. And this "advice" about Libras and Pisces not being compatible is crap, by the way.

Stop mind-boinking yourself. Stop trying to strategize some way to get him back. Drop it, and move on. If he has second thoughts and wants to come back around, he will.

Im thinking you might be right.

You're two very complicated people when it comes to emotions, but you should never have to prove anything to anyone. Once you let him know that you like him and you're interested, that's it! No further explanation needed. All this back and forth, should I, should I not is just foolishness. If someone really likes you, you'll know. I don't care what sign a person is, the law of attraction from one human being to the next is very simple. You shouldn't have to play guessing games. If he's interested, he'll make contact, but if you decide to pursue a relationship with this person, just be aware that once a person goes cold on you for what you consider to be a bogus azz reason instead of just saying what he likes or dislikes about you is a clue as to the type of behavior you're in for. When someone is important to me, I will always make time to respond whether it's one minute or five minutes, I'll make the concerted effort even if I'm extremely busy. In my opinion, when a person abruptly stops talking/contacting you and their not dead or sick, that means you're of no importance to them. Decide if that's the type of relationship you want to be in. You just need to move on Dear.

Posted by djbuck1
You're overthinking this, and you're engaging in mental constructs because you don't want to accept that: 1) this is not within your control; and, 2) this is going down by the bow.

I don't care what his sign is. If he was into you, he'd be pursuing you. You can't maneuver him into doing that. You're just setting yourself up for a disappointment at best, or to be used like a shake and bake bag at worst.

I was in a relationship with a Libra woman for eight years. It did not start out anything like you are describing. And this "advice" about Libras and Pisces not being compatible is crap, by the way.

Stop mind-boinking yourself. Stop trying to strategize some way to get him back. Drop it, and move on. If he has second thoughts and wants to come back around, he will.

+100% ....when someone really likes you...especially in the early stages of dating, all they want to do is spend time with you. Their not going to to the distance thing unless their having doubts or playing serious games.

Soo I'm pretty sure Pisces are physic cause he ended up texting me and asking what I thought about our dates. He did mention that he is unsure of our chemistry. Per him, the first date went well but the second one it seems like it was alittle hard to make conversation at times.

I'm going to just going to keep it moving cause yes it does seem like a headache in the making.

Well..Good for you and like everyone is saying, if he's interested, he'll come a calling and then decide where to go from there. I'm thinking "friend zone" though, but that's just my opinion.