Help with Pisces Man...so confused!

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by SAM5582 on Wednesday, November 9, 2011 and has 18 replies.
To start, I am sorry in advance for the long post but this has been building up for a while now. I am a libra. Yes I know they say libras and pisces don??t match but we have the most amazing chemistry, physically and mentally. I just love Pisces I guess! My best friends are pisces as well and we are inseparable. So, I have been working closely with a pisces male for about 2 years now. There has always been an attraction between us and up until a few months ago, we never acted on it. We were both in relationships and would just flirt at work. A few months ago we started texting more than usual and we ended up talking about how we were so attracted to another and decided to go out for drinks and well ya know. We both knew it was wrong but 2 years of look but no touch got to us both. Fast Forward a few months and we are both idiots for thinking we could ever do such a thing and not get feelings. We both were acting like boyfriend and girlfriend. About a month into it my boyfriend and I had broken up, for many reasons. Mostly because we were both unhappy. I didn??t even tell the pisces we broke up because I didnt want him to think I broke up with him for him. Last week we went out for dinner and things were verrrrryyyy intense when we were finally alone. It was the most amazing night I have ever had. I know he felt it too. The next morning I got to work and I could just feel something was off. Sure enough he texted me and asked if I thought we should stop what we were doing. I was extremely upset and hurt especially after the night we had just shared. I told him ok but let him know it was hurting me. He said he didn??t expect things to get like this and he didn??t expect to have feelings like he did. He had told me how he fantasized about me being his girlfriend for the past two years but that he has a girlfriend and he can??t do this to her or himself anymore. I told him to please just give me some space at work and to not text me anymore to give me time to get over him.
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He begged me to be friends with him and said it would hurt him very much to have me not in his life at all. I told him I can??t do that, at least not now. He continued texting me all weekend asking me to meet up and talk about the future but then cancelled at the last minute. He said he didn??t think it was a great idea seeing me because things were tough enough as it is. I finally agreed to try a friendship with him but no promises. He still acts like he is my boyfriend and gets jealous about any other guy. He just keeps saying let??s try out the friends and see what happens. I didn??t tell him but I am so in love with him. I love every little thing about him. This has been a horrible week. I haven??t cried so much in my life. I just feel empty inside and I don??t know what to do. Do I try and make the friends thing work with him? Do I just cut him off completely? I asked him why he wants to be friends so bad and if he has any other girl friends. He said no, not one but that he loves being with me and that I am just different. I just don??t get what is going on in that brain of his and he won??t tell me. It hurts terribly to see him all day long and know that he isn??t mine. What is he trying to do? I know he has a girlfriend and I do not know how their relationship is but I??m sure there is something missing for him to come to me. He says that I am perfect, he loves being with me, I am so much fun to be with and that he is so attracted to me??_.isn??t that the definition of a great girlfriend???? Someone please give me some advice as to how to deal with this situation ??
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You worded that perfectly. It does SOUND so simple in my head too when I tell myself this is wrong just stop but unfortunately there is this thing called feelings that gets in the way. I'm not proud of myself for what happened. I know I have it coming back to me that I cheated. Nobody is perfect.
Thank you intrigued for ur response. I guess I'm scared of his response when I finally say I can't talk to you anymore. But I know what has to be done. And yes I'm sure I have a lot of crying ahead of me. What I don't get is that he ended it because he doesnt want to hurt his gf but yet he keeps acting like my boyfriend minus sex so isn't that still cheating? Maybe not in a Pisces mind I guess?
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Posted by intriguedbypiscesman
To deal with a Pisces is to deal with him coming in and out of your life on a constant basis.


actually this is not true...if you have a Pisces coming and going in and out of your life...you have a Pisces not into you completely and just using you for emotional needs...
they are not about to hurt their partner by coming and going...they love to do anything for their partner...
It's just women/men have chosen the wrong Pisces for them...they settle and believe oh this is just how Pisces are...no this how the wrong person is for you !
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Posted by SAM5582

Thank you intrigued for ur response. I guess I'm scared of his response when I finally say I can't talk to you anymore. But I know what has to be done. And yes I'm sure I have a lot of crying ahead of me. What I don't get is that he ended it because he doesnt want to hurt his gf but yet he keeps acting like my boyfriend minus sex so isn't that still cheating? Maybe not in a Pisces mind I guess?


it looks like he is in his fantasy mode ...otherwise he would be yours completely...
Women need to get it through their thick head this is not about a Pisces mind or about being a Pisces...it's about a guy that can get what he can and have his cake and eat it too...
I'm going to do a P Angel move ::shakes head::
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Well luckily I got that through my thick head when I was 18. The reason I'm confused is because he doesn't want to "eat the cake" I've tested him to see if that is all he wanted and asked him 3 times now for just one more night and was turned down each time. So he doesn't want to have sex with me but still wants to hang out with me. Usually I can pick up on if a guy just wants a sexual relationship but this guy has me so confused.
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I told him we need to stop talking and he just won't accept it. He responds back with sad faces and crying faces. He says that he knows I want more and can't we just stay friends for now and see what happens. I said I need to move on this isnt right and he just keeps begging to be friends. I'm trying hard to be strong it is just so tough because I just hate seeing him upset and not to mention I have to see him all day long at work. He got jealous when I brought up a guy friend of mine. My guess was he is trying to keep me in his life in case things didn't work out with his girlfriend???
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Not at all Sad which is why I keep telling him no friends. He just won't take no for an answer and now I have to turn the hurt into hate just to end this so I can move on. Ugh!
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I guess in the back of my mind I was hoping that he just wanted to get closer to me mentally before he commits to me. I guess that would be way too good to be true though.
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Posted by SAM5582
I guess in the back of my mind I was hoping that he just wanted to get closer to me mentally before he commits to me. I guess that would be way too good to be true though.


He can't even commit to his girlfriend so how could he commit to you a woman that's not his girlfriend. Doesn't make sense.
Like mama always say, don't eat were you shit...
You are in a very shitty position...You can sit around feeling tortured or you can find a new job or transfer to a new department...
For future reference don't date/sleep with unavailable men it only leads to disappointment and heartbreak.
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There is no confusion when you have standards and refuse to settle for less. I let a Pisces man go this morning. We work in the same office and seeing him is not easy, but since I can't change what's happened, I would rather deal with the awkwardness and still be professional than to continue on with him with the information I now know.
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Thank you all for your replies. I needed that to come out of this haze of stupidity ive been in. I think i knew i was being an idiot and hoping for something that would never happen but i just didnt want to admit it. I needed the cold hard truth to wake me up. It hurts like hell but I have to deal with it! There is no way I can be friends with him. Even friends is still cheating on his girlfriend because i know there are feelings involved. Plus it is just delaying the inevitable. Its a small company so there arent any departments to transfer to and minus this nightmare of a situation i do love my job. I am just going to have to keep it professional and let him know i am done and to leave me alone. Again, thank you all for waking me up smile
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Verryyy true and i have learned a few lessons from this one! Do not eat where you butter! And do not get involved with ANYONE who is involved. I just have to be strong and not let him get to me.
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::: shakes head :::
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I'm sorry but my heart goes out to his g/f and not you. Not trying to be a bitc* but you were aware he has a g/f and you had a b/f at the time. You both shouldn't even went there to begin with. Now your free both of you are fooling around.
That poor girl!!! Geesh.... my heart pours out to her.
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Oh please don't use the line well he's the one with the g/f it's his choice. That is just a cop out and it cheapens you...
So please don't even go there. I've seen many people post or use that response.
Leave him alone... don't be friends walk away. You tried being friends and both of you took it to an inappropriate level, therefore you can't just be friend without wanting to touch, kiss and get busy.
I hope his g/f finds out and all hell breaks loose. That is my desire... a debt needs to be paid, just be prepared for what happens next! Drama will ensue once she finds out... I know if my guy (I don't have one at this time) cheated on me all hell would break loose and I don't cause drama I avoid it but in that case oh hell ya it will be brought to him and to you as well. ESPECIALLY when you were aware that he had a woman. Case and point don't touch other women's men... find your own.
I'm usually not opinionated with stuff, but these types of situations, get my Taurus and Leo vibes roaring. Sweet big baby jebus!!!!!!!!! WTF
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Posted by aquaj
Yep! They'll do that to ya.


I'm sorry but I have to disagree with this statement. Majority of pisces male/female are 100% loyal in relationships. Before then we might seem like a butterfly floating around from one interest to another but once we are focused we are focused and even if we were tempted to start something it would be emotional based not physical (when involved with another partner) again this is rare. We wouldn't go there because we are not the only ones involve in the situation. Pisces value other's emotions even more so than our own.
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Posted by tbird
Posted by aquaj
Yep! They'll do that to ya.


I'm sorry but I have to disagree with this statement. Majority of pisces male/female are 100% loyal in relationships. Before then we might seem like a butterfly floating around from one interest to another but once we are focused we are focused and even if we were tempted to start something it would be emotional based not physical (when involved with another partner) again this is rare. We wouldn't go there because we are not the only ones involve in the situation. Pisces value other's emotions even more so than our own.
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In this day and age most people do not know what it means to be in a committed relationship and fwb relationships are the norm, so there is no zodiac sign where the majority is 100% loyal. Most people nowadays do not respect themselves, nor do they respect their own relationships or other peoples relationships.
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