Hey I need help big time and badly!!!!!!!!
This topic was created in the Pisces forum by shuvayu on Friday, June 13, 2008 and has 18 replies.
Alright I have been in love with a pisces female for the last 8 years...It started when we were in school....I am a leo...It started when she was in love with another guy and they were many people who were after her..her lover was a weak yet gem hearted guy...but he was too weak...so I gradually became friends with this female.and protected her and her affair from every possible odds...After that I finished my high schooling and went away to some other place to pursue my grads...In the mean time I tried about everything to get over her...but cudn't in the mean time her on going affair didnt last..and with time she fell in love with another guy....which didnt last too....
Initially i did think it was infatuation..later i realised it was love..so i have returned back and i told her my feelings...she said she wants to be friends...i said ok...being a leo i dont hide any feelings..and neither do i try dominating her...but she goes on like blah blah blah....over the last few years she tried her hands at three things and yet she diversified..she couldn't stick to one of her ambitions....
I love her and am damn strong enuf to carry this relation thru...when ever i have asked her out she has come...i have asked her out this sunday...and she has agreed....I know there are many men hitting on her...but i am not loosing my cool and am willing to play the waiting game...I cant leave without her..Guys try understanding..I am an Indian..and I love to death...am in no hurry to push things...help me out..plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
Initially i did think it was infatuation..later i realised it was love..so i have returned back and i told her my feelings...she said she wants to be friends...i said ok...being a leo i dont hide any feelings..and neither do i try dominating her...but she goes on like blah blah blah....over the last few years she tried her hands at three things and yet she diversified..she couldn't stick to one of her ambitions....
I love her and am damn strong enuf to carry this relation thru...when ever i have asked her out she has come...i have asked her out this sunday...and she has agreed....I know there are many men hitting on her...but i am not loosing my cool and am willing to play the waiting game...I cant leave without her..Guys try understanding..I am an Indian..and I love to death...am in no hurry to push things...help me out..plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
If she has all these men after her are you sure she will be faithfull to you? Just cause you think she's amazing doesnt mean she's amazing inside, and you could get hurt later down he road. It sounds like she doesnt know what she wants. Sooooo she being faithful could be iffy. Fishes will swim if they are presured. You should see how she feels about you.
I am not pressurizing her neither am I hiding anything. She feels for me.Once I had a fight with her and she said that she wont meet me if we fight again...whatever I am taking her home.....forever..she never hides anything from me..all she says that she needs her space and i dont have any probs with it..she tells me the guys who proposed her...whom she fell for and how they left her....Christ sake give me a solution coz I am a fighter..infact I am a peaceful warrior..and I believe in one thing "It isnt over until its all over"....dont tell me negatives...give me the positives if u can...so that i can work on it and reduce the negatives....plzzzzzzzzzzz
If its meant to be its meant to be. I cant tell the future and niether can anyone else. Sounds cheezy, but follow your heart as will she.
Could be your Pisces was deeply hurt by you in the past. And if she ever felt "rejected" by you in the past she may not be willing to allow you to hurt her again. Oh she'll be friends with you,....but to allow you to be romantic with her again after emotionally wounding her.....I don't know about that. Not usually or likely.
You'd have to do a LOT to earn her trust again and it would have to be monumental actions and gestures to prove it. But....before you go about trying to become a fairytale come true for her in proving your undying love...assess the past of your relationship with her. If you've never had a romantic relationship with her before....chances are she may not think if you as romantic partner material. If she did,....you'd DEFINITELY know when a Pisces is romantically interested ! No doubts at all !!!
You'd have to do a LOT to earn her trust again and it would have to be monumental actions and gestures to prove it. But....before you go about trying to become a fairytale come true for her in proving your undying love...assess the past of your relationship with her. If you've never had a romantic relationship with her before....chances are she may not think if you as romantic partner material. If she did,....you'd DEFINITELY know when a Pisces is romantically interested ! No doubts at all !!!
There are several ways to reach a Pisces ... since you are good friends, I would suggest trying to make her dreams a realization for her. We dream so much that it's a no wonder we can't get anything accomplished, for another spin-off of the dream begins and enchants our imagination.
You said that there are things she wanted to do, but, never accomplished them .. this is normal for a Pisces without direction.
Be her direction for her ... make it happen for her .. without controlling the situation, and most people find that difficult to do. Whatever it is .. be interested in it too .. WANT it, share it with her, be passionate about it .. hold her hand and gently guide her towards whatever it is she dreams about.
We envision life ... this is how she has to live, so make yourself a part of what she envisions as she plays out situations in her life by making yourself a part of what she fancies .... if you are a part of her dreams, shuvayu, then you are a part of her to the core.
You said that there are things she wanted to do, but, never accomplished them .. this is normal for a Pisces without direction.
Be her direction for her ... make it happen for her .. without controlling the situation, and most people find that difficult to do. Whatever it is .. be interested in it too .. WANT it, share it with her, be passionate about it .. hold her hand and gently guide her towards whatever it is she dreams about.
We envision life ... this is how she has to live, so make yourself a part of what she envisions as she plays out situations in her life by making yourself a part of what she fancies .... if you are a part of her dreams, shuvayu, then you are a part of her to the core.
We gravitate towards people who cherish the same things we do, so we can soak in the feelings of another person loving something as much as we do.
Whatever it is ....
If she loves animals .. then do volunteer work for a zoo in your spare time, or an animal shelter .. and once you've gotten to know the animal's personalities and have a relationship with the animals .. take her there to show her that you are one with them and can talk to their hearts.
If she loves music .. then share this with her, take her on the dancefloor and don't just dance to the music .. let it rivet through your whole body .. FEEL the music in your soul with her.
We are touched and moved by the natural wonders in the world ... anything that has to do with nature or creativity moves us. You could capture her just by rejoicing in a thunder storm and letting the rain soak into you .... you could capture her by sitting on your knees in the grass watching a butterfly.
Whatever it is ....
If she loves animals .. then do volunteer work for a zoo in your spare time, or an animal shelter .. and once you've gotten to know the animal's personalities and have a relationship with the animals .. take her there to show her that you are one with them and can talk to their hearts.
If she loves music .. then share this with her, take her on the dancefloor and don't just dance to the music .. let it rivet through your whole body .. FEEL the music in your soul with her.
We are touched and moved by the natural wonders in the world ... anything that has to do with nature or creativity moves us. You could capture her just by rejoicing in a thunder storm and letting the rain soak into you .... you could capture her by sitting on your knees in the grass watching a butterfly.
I fixed that above ... I'm terribly sorry if that sounded discriminative or prejudice, that wasn't my intent and I apologize to any Native American to whom that might have offended.
Nah I was never in a relation ship with her before....Even though I loved her a lot I could never tell her....I was always a friend for her whom she could trust..the reason being when she went through a broken relationship i was there for her....She was the boxing bag in school...everyone tried to get the better of her..and I being a hardcore LEO hate to see the weak being destroyed....so I stood between all difficulties in her way..We parted after school...I left to another place and I did my grads..but trust me I oculd never forget her...When you love a person u want the best for the person...I too do the same...I am a leo and I do get attention from girls..but 7 years...I am 25 and she 22...Moreover she is in a zodiac cusp (24/2/1986)...P -Angel...ur really great...help me out..
P- angel I am waiting...plzzz.......
Don't be fooled into thinking that if you jump threw all these hoops of fire trying to make a Pisces dream come true or get involved with the things she loves is going to win her love for you. That happens in dreamland. Besides you're compromising who YOU are to become who SHE IS instead of just being you and doing the things you like. It's nice that you want/willing to do all those things for her, with her, etc it is wonderful as it shows you are intensely in love with her but.......if she isn't feeling the chemistry you can't MAKE it happen thru manipulation.
Just do the simple thing. Tell her how you feel. Whether you say it verbally or write it in a letter.......tell her how you feel and be willing to accept whatever response you get. Pisces are hopeless romantics and if you put it all out there HONESTLY you'll get all the answers you need to know without playing all the games and the time it takes to play them. You'll know where you stand and if it isn't meant to be....you won't be suffering yearning for someone that may not be in the same place as you at this time.
I'll tell you this: Pisces women are very empathetic to others feelings. It isn't likely that she would be unkind to you if she didn't think of you any more then a good friend. Pisces nature is typically full of compassion so she will be gentle with your heart one way or the other. Best of luck!!!!!!
Just do the simple thing. Tell her how you feel. Whether you say it verbally or write it in a letter.......tell her how you feel and be willing to accept whatever response you get. Pisces are hopeless romantics and if you put it all out there HONESTLY you'll get all the answers you need to know without playing all the games and the time it takes to play them. You'll know where you stand and if it isn't meant to be....you won't be suffering yearning for someone that may not be in the same place as you at this time.
I'll tell you this: Pisces women are very empathetic to others feelings. It isn't likely that she would be unkind to you if she didn't think of you any more then a good friend. Pisces nature is typically full of compassion so she will be gentle with your heart one way or the other. Best of luck!!!!!!
"if she isn't feeling the chemistry you can't MAKE it happen thru manipulation."
...i agree, though it's always nice to do certain things for her, the best gift you can give her is 'who you are.' What more can you do? (perhaps get her involved in more of your own interests, or strike out and discover something new altogether.) A pisces will either feel the chemistry and attraction, or they won't. And since love is a BIG guiding factor for Pisces, love & romance must always be sincere, first.. It can never be forced. If anything, she needs your continued warmth, strength and encouragement as a good friend. Btw, i like your will-power & tenacity. Though stay gentle & don't come on too strong or forceful. Pisceans like strength & confidence, but not pressure. She needs to feel secure & consistently comfortable with you. You're putting yourself out there, so if it's meant to happen, it will! Best of luck, however it turns out for you..s*
(btw, as SF mentioned, Feb 24th is not on the cusp..)
...i agree, though it's always nice to do certain things for her, the best gift you can give her is 'who you are.' What more can you do? (perhaps get her involved in more of your own interests, or strike out and discover something new altogether.) A pisces will either feel the chemistry and attraction, or they won't. And since love is a BIG guiding factor for Pisces, love & romance must always be sincere, first.. It can never be forced. If anything, she needs your continued warmth, strength and encouragement as a good friend. Btw, i like your will-power & tenacity. Though stay gentle & don't come on too strong or forceful. Pisceans like strength & confidence, but not pressure. She needs to feel secure & consistently comfortable with you. You're putting yourself out there, so if it's meant to happen, it will! Best of luck, however it turns out for you..s*
(btw, as SF mentioned, Feb 24th is not on the cusp..)
well mystic fish thanks for your wishes...I will tell you exactly what happened....the first day we met she told me what her plan was...i asked her casually and normally....she said she didn't want to settle down in the next 5 years...no probs with that....i am her best friend...she never hides anything from me....i am approaching this slowly.....calling her up twice a week....being normal...asking her out once a month...she says dont rush things as she needs her space...i said ok...i dont mind... we were child hood friends...and i waited 7 years to meet her...i can definitely wait for 5 years....and yes she did speak about sex......and good sex ,her fantasies..
Why on earth would you spend 12 years of your life pursuing someone? That is not living, go live and experience. Maybe she will come around maybe she never will. You don't want to throw years of your life away for something that might not work, at least I would not.
I have a feeling she wants to be with you but knowing you're surrounded with many girls feel that you may be unfaithful so now you're in the probability zone, she just can't decide what to do with you. BEST ADVICE: have a heart to heart conversation with her in a quiet, private place and pour yourself out to her. If she still wants to be friends, cry it out and move on. "There are plenty of fishes in the sea".
Hey what happened....come on say something...things are going pretty kool with me...am not rushing things giving it time....whenever i call her out she comes...i call her she responds...and suddenly she asked me that do i like her coz she is beautiful??? i answered that indeed she is beautiful but she has a heart which is more beautiful and she liked the statement...which i answered honestly and not flattery....tell me am i going the right way....
one more thing....leo males are considered to be the ultimate masculine sign in the zodiac ...where as pisces female are the most feminine....everything in us is the opposite including our venus...mine in virgo her in pisces....opposites atrract and mesh together...then still why do people say fire and water dont mix....
Wow, leo/pisces...Shuvayu, sometimes a relationship depends on elements other than zodiac compatibility, it's more individualized, so please look beyond... Yet, since your dream girl is a pisces, she should have the common pisces characteristics, so here is a thing you may be interested in knowing: Leos are a little too sarcastic for us, well at least for me
No offence please! It just hurts sometimes...So if you really like this girl, be manly but gentle to her
No offence please! It just hurts sometimes...So if you really like this girl, be manly but gentle to her Leave Your Feedback
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