His mother called me by the ex girlfriends name..

So I've been dating my little fish for about 2 years. Anyhow we recently broke up for about a month...got back together and decieded to take a family trip 3 weeks into being a couple again. His family joined us on this trip...mother..brother...sis...uncle and a few other family kids. Well long story short he dated a girl before me for about 2-3 years. On this trip his mother called me by her name a total of 5 times (2 day trip)!!!!!! Never in two years has she done this and all of a sudden she forgets who i am!!! I dont know how to take this or at least at the time. Many questions were runnig through my mind...

1. the mother doesnt like me and is trying to make me feel shitty (which i dont think is likely cos she always talks about how great i am and she always phones me for favors and so on...

2. the mother still talks to her

3. He's brought her around the family during our breakup (but she just recently got engaged!) who knows marriage doesnt mean much to people anymore! right?

I guess non of this really matters because he broke up with me!!!! he broke up with me!!! shouldnt it have been the other way around!!!!

Keep in mind i wasnt upset with him at all!!! I was more concerned! I asked him after the first 3 times....

Baby can i ask you a question (as my eyes glossed over) when was the last time your ex girlfriend was around your family because your mother just called me by her name 3 times in the last two hours (he didnt hear it at this point because he was outside working on something).

He started flipping out on me saying i dont trust him and maybe we shouldnt be together. It was something i should ask his mother not him and continued to act in this manner. Shortly after attacking me he broke up with me!! Said it was my guilty conscience! lol! i dont get it....

I tried my best to approach the situation as best as possible considering you know how us aries can be. i though about it for about half an hour and made sure i was calm enough to approach it without directly accusing him or making him upset but didnt matter i still upset him either way!

Im in shock...

what do you think—

No big deal .... when I first married my husband, I was called by the name of his first wife for a couple years.

Who hasn't mixed peoples names up before?

Yeah but we broke up over it....

lv24 .. why didn't you ask his mother why she was calling you by the ex-girlfriends name?

I didnt want to make her uncomfortable. I'm sure she felt bad. Anyway we have now been broken up for 3 weeks without any contact at all. Its just all so confusing and im sure there is more to it and im just being blind. Weve been off and on before but this time around it just seems real. Plus I'm tired! Its weird because i dont even feel heart broken, more confused than anything.

I had doubts about the relationship towards the end and the mother just made me want to wash my hands of it. I dont think i would have broken up with him so i am kinda glad he had the strenght to do it himself. when a person is done their done....

you live and learn....

Interesting...

Another Pisces man swims away for weeks after being confronted by his girlfriend with an issue he can't or doesn't want to deal with. And nonetheless regarding a woman other than his girlfriend.

Yep... interesting!

MsA ... before you take a position in which is condenscending because of your own grief .. it would be prudent to read the history behind this relationship.

The people in here who know this situation, and lv24 .. are familiar with the dynamics of this union that has been in trouble for 2 years, both participating in the obstacles that have led them here.

There have been numerous times, in which lv24 fully comprehends, where she has pulled away from him because of situations which have arosen in which she has to take responibility ... and maturally has done so.

So, please read the history before making assessments based on your own injured feelings with a Pisces.

Thank you.

I have to ponder the injured part. I know I was but I am not sure how much (if) I still am. I know that no matter what I read on the boards I don't have the full story. I don't know anyone IRL and have followed very few relationships consistently/continuously.

I was just commenting on what I gathered from what was posted. If I did more harm than help then I do apologize. That wasn't intentional. But, how come it's always everyone else who's wrong in a Pisces/? relationship conflict? 🙂

MsA .. where exactly in my words to lv24 was it said that she fucked up and the Pisces did not err?

Again ... you are speaking from your own injury here. For not one word has been spoken in this thread to validate this comment below.

"But, how come it's always everyone else who's wrong in a Pisces/? relationship conflict?

I noticed you're big on putting "awfully descriptive words" in people's mouths lol. I never said she effed up. But, her post led me to believe that she is innocent in the incident in question. So, I used it as an added example to my list.

You confirmed that she played a role > third paragraph of your post to me. So, I said I wasn't trying to hinder her receiving understanding in her situation by using her situation to prove my point and further cause her to not see her role in it (whatever that might be).

But, it's because you usually point out the faults of those involved with the Pisces that I asked my ending question. In my situation, you did not say my Pisces was in err. But, he was/is. 🙂

"it's because you usually point out the faults of those involved with the Pisces"


MsA .. think about this from a logical standpoint, and perhaps this answer will become clear to you.

In any situation, in which a person relates to you events that have happened within a scenerio .. they are talking about a 3rd person who isn't here to speak for themselves. And in so doing, when a person who has been hurt, or upset, for whatever reason .. is speaking from a view in which thier perception has been altered due to these hurt feelings. And because these feelings are hurt, their perception of "why" this 3rd party has done what they have done to hurt them ... is askewed BECAUSE of this pain.

In other words .. a person will say something like, "I did nothing wrong, he did this to me for no reason." ... when in fact, this isn't the truth. When two people participate in a dispute .. this is NOT a one-sided situation .. yet, for people to express that they didn't do anything to cause it, is actually attempting to project to us that it is a one-sided situation.

You are here to speak for your actions .. he is not. If you will notice in here, if you have a desire to take the time to do so, you will notice that when a person comes in here and honestly relates the role they played to bring them and their partner to this place (whatever this place is) ... I don't put all blame, nor all accusation on them because they are forthcoming with accepting that this was a two-sided situation, in which they participated in the issue.

With your situation, for example .... you can only see where he fucked up and hold no accountibility on yourself for being in error in any way. So, since your aim is to put all blame on him, and he is not here to testify for himself .. I will. By no means, nor under any circumstances will you find me placing a guilty verdict with an unfair trial on a person who is absent .. rather, I will point at you and make you answer for yourself because YOU are the one present.

Sorry .. not happening.

I am always honest about my role in any situation. Plus I agreed that what I did is what led to us breaking up. As retarded as that seems. Had I kept my mouth shut I'd still be with him. 😛

The situation that lv24 brought to this thread didn't concern the Pisces and so it was not one-sided. It was a simple thing, mom called her the ex-gf's name 5 times and she shared that with him, asked him when did he last see her and he flipped. This is the same thing that happened with me and my Pisces, I asked him a question and he couldn't handle it and he skipped. See a pattern? 😉

So, the conclusion would be that Pisces men have issues being asked questions by their gf's when it comes to other women. Why is that? 🙂

MsA .. do yourself a favor and read the history of lv24 and this Pisces man.

If you choose not to have the full details of Lv24's situation, as has been posted in this forum, and then attempt to paint a picture of the Pisces man behaviour, with intentions of putting him within a pattern .... then sobeit, that's your choice.

However, don't expect me to take you seriously ... because I can clearly recognize that your intentions are to put a label on Pisces men referencing that this kind of behavour is what made your Fish swim, so that you can pardon yourself within your own injury ... so, if a guilty verdict is laid on him because you can see a pattern of behaviour, then this is the ultimate culprit, and not anything you have done.

I'm done with you ... you have no interest in hearing any truth about this, or your situation .. rather, just looking for an excuse.

Have a good life .. and I hope you find it 🙂

Wow! I didnt mean to upset anyone! LOL! Everyone gets so upset around here lately...

Hey, lv24 ... you didn't do it ... I'm just cleaning house.


How are you doing? Has he contacted you yet?

No contact yet but at this point I truly think its for the best. I am a lot happier. I miss the times we had together but honestly we were two different people and we were both walking around on egg shells around one another. Maybe one day we can be friends but at this point I think we are better off apart. Its been about a month (almost) and i am pleased that he has been strong enough not to contact me and I pleased that i have been just as strong. I think he is still in love with his ex girlfriend and this has played a big part in our relationship. I thought it was going to be a lot harder to get over and to my surprise I am doing great. I think I was done long before this incident...as was he.

I know longer have his contact information and I have done away with all the material things that remind me of him. This is how I know I no longer feel for him as I once did.

The funny part is that I have a friend that has been in my life for about 9 years and he has asked me out a few times. I of course am not ready to date but he is being a bit persistant. I've come to find out that he is also a Pisces....lol! I cant get away from you guys....lol!

"I thought it was going to be a lot harder to get over and to my surprise I am doing great."


I'm not surprised at your strenght and courage .. it's what you girls are made of 🙂 ... eventhough this hurts, it's probably the best thing, for you two were tearing each other a part, sometimes, and that's not healthy for anybody. I have faith in Aries women (and men) .. I know that you'll pull from this what you need to push forward, in the right direction, rather than wallowing in the downfalls of failure.

Another Pisces man?


Run .......................................... your ass off 🙂

lv cusp ... I'm so glad you're back 🙂

How's DC? I hope he's doing great. Give him hugs for us.

PA, stop trying to get rid of me. That's not nice 😛

I am inquisitive, it's my way of gathering ideas to analyze. Such as this injury you speak of with me. I'm not bitter about my break-up. I am no stranger to break-up and so I accept that it wasn't meant to be. It's a learning experience and life goes on. I was most injured during the time when he was MIA. For a Virgo that's nerve-wrecking because I don't have answers to my 5 W's abd 1 H. Once he finally called I got closure because I found out the reasons behind him leaving. I learned that swimming away for long time frames was the way he handled problems. I was honest with myself that if I make him unhappy he doesn't need to be with me. I realized that if this is how he handles adversity small or big then I can't be with him because I have questions and want answers and absence doesn't bring me that. So, I healed based on those conclusions a while ago.

The only thing I have not gotten past is if what I did was truly what sent him swimming. I just don't believe that anyone would give up on a potentially great relationship the first time conflict arose. I don't cast people off for things like that. Betrayal is the main reason I would cast someone out of my life. And, I know when I've been awful to somoeone and with him I was never a mean, critical, biatch because I loved him and wanted us to be happy. I felt we were and so there was nothing that I would do to ruin that. Believe me.

So, no, I don't feel better justifying that he really wanted to be with another woman. I want everyone to be happy in love. I get nothing from holding on to someone who loves someone else. So, I am not trying to blame him for what happened, I just want him to be honest about it. I respect the coward's way of doing things. Send me a text, email, in-system voicemail. I don't care just get that honesty out. 🙂