HOW DO I MEND A HEART BROKEN BY A PISCES MAN?
This topic was created in the Pisces forum by noproblem on Tuesday, August 1, 2006 and has 21 replies.
Help!!!! I am in utter turmoil and NEED some help. Almost 7 months ago my Pisces man stopped seeing me. No explanation/conversation/texts or e-mails..just stopped. He has never told me why and seeing him on a daily basis is eating me up. He seems to be totally unaffected by it all, I obviously didn't mean that much to him, I was probably just another notch on his bedstead! I, on the other hand, cry daily, am miserable and just want him to talk to me. Talking at work is impossible and he won't respond to text messages....the women out there will understand what I am going through. Is there anyone who can give me guidance as to what I should do now, other than get drunk and call him all the names under the sun. I am seriously considering seeing a shrink as I feel unhinged.
"the women out there will understand what I am going through"
Then, I guess I must male, trapped in a female body, because I don't know what you are going through. Perhaps, if this just happened 2 weeks ago, I might.
But, 7 months?
I'll give you help in figuring this out, if that's what you want. But, rest assured, my opinion will be with you looking at your problem.
Then, I guess I must male, trapped in a female body, because I don't know what you are going through. Perhaps, if this just happened 2 weeks ago, I might.
But, 7 months?
I'll give you help in figuring this out, if that's what you want. But, rest assured, my opinion will be with you looking at your problem.
Seven months has gone by and, "I, on the other hand, cry daily, am miserable and just want him to talk to me." Are you 12 years old?
If you are an adult, then . . . please . . . do, "I am seriously considering seeing a shrink"
This isn't normal behaviour for an adult, not normal at all . . . so, perhaps, seeing that he's Pisces and naturally intuitive . . . he sensed that your not normal, an emotional roller coaster, ready to crash and burn, so . . ran like hell.
I just wonder, though, if it had been YOU leaving . . . would you still be whinning about it? Probably not . . . so, the problem is YOU having rejection issues. Some people are like that and yes, they need a shrink to fix this problem within themselves. These kinds of people can handle anything, such as your name suggests (noproblem), so long as they are ones directing. But, let someone leave them, suddenly there's this huge problem, isn't there?
He's gone . . that's life. When you grow up and have a real relationship, you'll understand. If you are grown up, once you get over YOUR OWN "Drama", you'll understand that continueing to badger someone for SEVEN MONTHS is stalking, it's behaviour that needs professional help.
If you are an adult, then . . . please . . . do, "I am seriously considering seeing a shrink"
This isn't normal behaviour for an adult, not normal at all . . . so, perhaps, seeing that he's Pisces and naturally intuitive . . . he sensed that your not normal, an emotional roller coaster, ready to crash and burn, so . . ran like hell.
I just wonder, though, if it had been YOU leaving . . . would you still be whinning about it? Probably not . . . so, the problem is YOU having rejection issues. Some people are like that and yes, they need a shrink to fix this problem within themselves. These kinds of people can handle anything, such as your name suggests (noproblem), so long as they are ones directing. But, let someone leave them, suddenly there's this huge problem, isn't there?
He's gone . . that's life. When you grow up and have a real relationship, you'll understand. If you are grown up, once you get over YOUR OWN "Drama", you'll understand that continueing to badger someone for SEVEN MONTHS is stalking, it's behaviour that needs professional help.
Not uncommon behaviour for a Pisces male.
Sorry, but he's not going to talk to you again unless he thinks it's for his own gain, if he ever does, don't waste any time on him.
You need to think about getting past feeling a need to talk to him, rather than focusing on how to get him to talk to you again.
Sorry, but he's not going to talk to you again unless he thinks it's for his own gain, if he ever does, don't waste any time on him.
You need to think about getting past feeling a need to talk to him, rather than focusing on how to get him to talk to you again.
Of course, he would seem uneffected by it. In his mind, it's over and you keep trying to talk about it, texting him. You're stalking him because you need to have some kind of closure to get past this.
Unfortunately, closure has to come from within yourself. It's up to YOU to let go, not him. Besides, what could he possibly tell you, that you don't already know? If he ever did stop to answer the question, he would say, "It's over, we're finished." Well, you already know this, don't you? So, the solution to your problem has to come from within yourself. YOU are stopping YOU from growing, because YOU refuse to let go.
That's not his problem . . it's yours.
Throughout your whole life, people are going to walk away. Employers might fire you. Friends decide not to be your friend any longer . . and none of them OWE you an explanation. This will just happen, sometimes, with no warning. You have to do what the rest of us do everyday . . . shake the old crap off, look straight ahead at what opportunities are before you and walk towards it without harboring bad feelings about past experiences.
Sucks being adult sometimes, we have to take care of our own emotional well-being. We can no longer depend on our parents to nurture us and make us feel worthy any longer. Giving us a place to be complete and valuable, comes from our own ability to overcome our obstacles and this is one of your obstacles.
Unfortunately, closure has to come from within yourself. It's up to YOU to let go, not him. Besides, what could he possibly tell you, that you don't already know? If he ever did stop to answer the question, he would say, "It's over, we're finished." Well, you already know this, don't you? So, the solution to your problem has to come from within yourself. YOU are stopping YOU from growing, because YOU refuse to let go.
That's not his problem . . it's yours.
Throughout your whole life, people are going to walk away. Employers might fire you. Friends decide not to be your friend any longer . . and none of them OWE you an explanation. This will just happen, sometimes, with no warning. You have to do what the rest of us do everyday . . . shake the old crap off, look straight ahead at what opportunities are before you and walk towards it without harboring bad feelings about past experiences.
Sucks being adult sometimes, we have to take care of our own emotional well-being. We can no longer depend on our parents to nurture us and make us feel worthy any longer. Giving us a place to be complete and valuable, comes from our own ability to overcome our obstacles and this is one of your obstacles.
Being a pisces male, I can best advise you on this.Firstly, whats your sun sign.Secondly, you need to give more details, as to what was going on, in the 7 months you were together.Cause he clearly has a reason why he cut you off.
Thirdly. you OBVIOSLY, did something wrong
stop holding out on the info, and give the full 411
Thirdly. you OBVIOSLY, did something wrong
stop holding out on the info, and give the full 411
Thanks everyone for their input. I will tell all so that you have an idea of what has been going on. 4 years ago I started work here and during the course of a day I saw this fantastic good looking man and had to ask who he was. Name was given and I couldn't believe what I was looking at. We chatted, flirted and got on well. This remained like this until April of last year, when I plucked up the courage to send him a text about his football team. Things progressed from there, we texted feverishly for a few months, flirted outrageously at work and things came to a peak in Sept/Oct and Nov of last year when an affair started. I was on cloud nine for those 3 months, he was attentative, loving and seriously sexy. Then in January of this year after our last lunch date (and sex included,I might add) he stopped contact, didn't reply to e-mails or texts. how annoying is that! just cut me dead as if I didn't exsist. I wouldn't mind if we had had a row but we had a lovely lunch, with him saying that he really loves this (he was talking about the sex we were having at the time)then when we got back to work..... nothing. Explain that please and you wonder why I am heartbroken.
Oh and I am a Gemini..forgot to mention that and, yes I know, Pisces and Gemini are a no go.
P-ANGEL....this is for you....for your information I am older than you, so don't you dare lecture me on lifes problems.
Hi Archer....he has never said a word. I have sent text's and asked what I did to piss him off/what went wrong etc etc...I don't get anything back. We can't talk at work as its all hush hush, and he won't go to lunch anymore. I have given up but it is always at the back of my mind WHY!! I need to know..the not knowing is what is driving me crazy. Gemini's need to know WHY. And why does he keep flirting with me at work, he doesn't make any sense to me.
Message posted by: noproblem on 8/2/2006 3:53:33 AM
P-ANGEL....this is for you....for your information I am older than you, so don't you dare lecture me on lifes problems.
Dare? lol, you're a funny one. I rule, you don't . . that's life.
P-ANGEL....this is for you....for your information I am older than you, so don't you dare lecture me on lifes problems.
Dare? lol, you're a funny one. I rule, you don't . . that's life.
Perhaps, you should come into your adulthood, then and comprehend that stalking isn't the mature thing to do.
Do don't want to appear as child, then carry yourself as an adult. How you present yourself, is your choice and obviously he didn't like the way you carried yourself, either.
So, if actions speak louder than words. What you have is words, what I have is words. He had action . . . and he ran like hell.
That pretty much is it in a nutshell. When in a relationship with you, the guy ran his ass off, without so much as a hint in your direction.
Instead of bitching about it, look at it for what it means.
Do don't want to appear as child, then carry yourself as an adult. How you present yourself, is your choice and obviously he didn't like the way you carried yourself, either.
So, if actions speak louder than words. What you have is words, what I have is words. He had action . . . and he ran like hell.
That pretty much is it in a nutshell. When in a relationship with you, the guy ran his ass off, without so much as a hint in your direction.
Instead of bitching about it, look at it for what it means.
I don't find what he did strange at all. People just walk away all the time and they don't owe anybody anything. Now, he could have been considerate enough to give an explanation, but, he doesn't have to.
You can't take that, so, it's probable that there were a lot of things you couldn't take about him. This is just one example of how you refuse to accept something. I'm sure there were more. There IS a reason why he left. There's a reason why everything happens.
If he sensed that you weren't an accepting person, then that would be reason enough to end a relationship. He and was apparantly right, you refuse to accept. From the outside, looking in, judeging by your actions, rather than your words, he did the right thing in dropping you from his life without further ado.
I mean, if you don't accept him, then why should he even care how you're feeling?
You can't take that, so, it's probable that there were a lot of things you couldn't take about him. This is just one example of how you refuse to accept something. I'm sure there were more. There IS a reason why he left. There's a reason why everything happens.
If he sensed that you weren't an accepting person, then that would be reason enough to end a relationship. He and was apparantly right, you refuse to accept. From the outside, looking in, judeging by your actions, rather than your words, he did the right thing in dropping you from his life without further ado.
I mean, if you don't accept him, then why should he even care how you're feeling?
I hope this isn't too impersonal but ehow.com has some worthwhile recommendations on mending a broken heart.
http://www.ehow.com/how_116958_mend-broken-heart.html
Good luck.
http://www.ehow.com/how_116958_mend-broken-heart.html
Good luck.
Hi everyone. Thanks a million for your kind words...catfish, many thanks for that website...I have been to it and am glad that I am not going crazy, seems that broken heart's are common! He came into my office today, all smiles as usual. Had an interaction with him over some chocolates on my desk, all touch feely with me, proding me telling me I will put on weight with them. He seems to make a point of commenting on my hair/clothes etc. He sends me so many mixed messages I don't know whether I am coming or going. He is such a complex character. Can I just say that I feel better have aired my turmoil, rather than keeping it bottled up and would like to thank you all for helping me. This sort of thing shouldn't happen at my age having my head turned round by a younger! will let you know how things go in the future. thank you all once again.
Hi....one thing I haven't considered with this breaking up thing. Working with him!!!!! I avoid going anywhere he is but sometimes we bump into each other. This morning I was in the canteen when he walked past, saw me and came in for a chat.I have never been in this situation before where I am still on talking terms with a former lover...usually its daggers drawn and guns at 100 paces, if you know what I mean. Yet I can't hate him, I still have very strong feelings for him and, being a gemini, I have told him, in no certain terms, how I feel and I think that may have something to do with his withdrawing, I think I scared him off by being too outspoken. The annoying thing is that he has said that the feelings mutual so how the hell (sorry about that) can he change how he feels. I am sorry I am rambling again. Boy this is doing me some good!!
Noproblem, I have been reading your thread, and my best advise is, you need to run like hell. As a pisces female, I have done this to guys before, and it is very misleading. Pisces are very strange, and we have an intuition to things, and sometimes do not realize till after the fact. I think what happen was you may have been too outspoken. Speaking from experience with a Gem/Pisc relationship, it is complex, my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years is a Gemini. After we were together for a couple of months he said that famous phrase "I love you" my eye balls must have been the size beach balls b/c he quickly followed with I know you may not feel the same way and I understand. That was good on his part, b/c if he would have pushed, he would have pushed me right away, and I probably would have never called or spoke to him again. Once we are scared away, we rarely return. Even though you two may still talk, and flirt, I don't beleive he is serious, for if a pisces loves you, you know it, and we would never do anything to harm or hurt the people we truely love. You deserve better than that. On a last note, don't show him any emotion, it doesn't do any good, once a Pisces has made up their mind they don't want to be in a relationship, they won't!!! Best of luck to you, and hold your head up! Remember: Every sixty seconds you spend upset, is a minute of happiness you will never get back.
Hey no prob. I just got here. Didn't read everyones utter rubbish - it got a bit boring after the first few really. Now the below may help?
Ok so a couple of years ago I was shagging the dude at work for around 7 months - a couple of my friends & a couple of his knew but that was it - work did not know. He has been devoiced & has 2 young kids. I went on a holiday & we shagged before I left - when I came back I sent a group text saying I was back & hey all - I had sent one to him & I was really hoping he would send one back but nothing. He said nothing I said nothing & we both just carried on - because I was way too proud to ask him what was going on I didn?t get an answer. He came to some of my parties & I shagged one of his close mates. It really hurt me when I never got a response - Yeah I did cry - lots. I got angry too. I met my man the weekend after I shagged his mate & we have been together for around 10 months & live together now so all is good. I took my man to the cricket & it so happened that this dude from work was at the cricket too - we went & had a chat & we were both fairly drunk & I finally said to him I kind of wondered what happened to you - He said the reason was because he was starting to care about me & he didn't wan to get hurt again - He still bugs me to this day about coming round to his place - I never realised all that time that it was because he cared & was scared & proud - People have different reasons for not going through with a relationship.
I have to confess I have dumped guys because I didn't like the shoes he was waring - nasty? Yes - very!! I had my reasons. This guy of your probably has his too - move on because you are not giving yourself the chance to meet someone whom deserves your attention. Besides that I honestly recommend (even If you are way not into it) HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!!!
Ok so a couple of years ago I was shagging the dude at work for around 7 months - a couple of my friends & a couple of his knew but that was it - work did not know. He has been devoiced & has 2 young kids. I went on a holiday & we shagged before I left - when I came back I sent a group text saying I was back & hey all - I had sent one to him & I was really hoping he would send one back but nothing. He said nothing I said nothing & we both just carried on - because I was way too proud to ask him what was going on I didn?t get an answer. He came to some of my parties & I shagged one of his close mates. It really hurt me when I never got a response - Yeah I did cry - lots. I got angry too. I met my man the weekend after I shagged his mate & we have been together for around 10 months & live together now so all is good. I took my man to the cricket & it so happened that this dude from work was at the cricket too - we went & had a chat & we were both fairly drunk & I finally said to him I kind of wondered what happened to you - He said the reason was because he was starting to care about me & he didn't wan to get hurt again - He still bugs me to this day about coming round to his place - I never realised all that time that it was because he cared & was scared & proud - People have different reasons for not going through with a relationship.
I have to confess I have dumped guys because I didn't like the shoes he was waring - nasty? Yes - very!! I had my reasons. This guy of your probably has his too - move on because you are not giving yourself the chance to meet someone whom deserves your attention. Besides that I honestly recommend (even If you are way not into it) HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!!!
Hi Piscesgirl and Pisces....I did tell him that I loved him and that he will always mean the world to me. If he was scared of a serious relationship he shouldn't have mucked around with my head and heart. I still get butterflies in my stomach when I see him and a bad case of the shakes but I will hold my head up and get on with my life. tonight will be the test..he will be working cabbying and I MUSN'T send him a text. Life must go on...this never happend when I was a teenager...then I just broke up with boys and got on with my life but there is something about this man..can't put my finger on it..but he has done something to my being, thats the only way I can describe it..he changed me forever. must get on with some work now.
Awww, that's so awful . . . imagine . . . a man not feeling all sentimental like a woman. Who would have thought . . . . he must be behaving like I don't know . . . a man.
My god, quite your whinning and get over it, for christ sake.
He's a dude . . ya, tell him you love him and let all these feelings pour out a little more, maybe you haven't smothered him just quite yet.
He's not FEMALE . . ah, dah . . . he's not scard of a relationship . . . you're just stupid about men.
My god, quite your whinning and get over it, for christ sake.
He's a dude . . ya, tell him you love him and let all these feelings pour out a little more, maybe you haven't smothered him just quite yet.
He's not FEMALE . . ah, dah . . . he's not scard of a relationship . . . you're just stupid about men.
Ldy! Sorry I have been really busy after the holiday - Yes I went on a ski holiday with mr bf & met his family 
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