How to be there for a Pisces man/ understand him?

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by TaurusGem619 on Saturday, August 31, 2019 and has 17 replies.
I’ve been dating a Pisces man for about 6 months. It started off casual, recently he asked me if I wanted to be “his”? He wouldn’t get off the topic, until I answered yes. As I was waiting for him to say “girlfriend” but by this point I understand his emotional detachment, his need for distance, and need to recharge. He’s talked about introducing me to his mom and friends. (He’s military, stationed in my hometown, his friends in family are in NY/around the world) he’s talked about staying in my town with me or us getting out and disappearing. Well, he’s depressed, injured, and I see a lot of pain in him when he shares his feelings and past of abuse, etc. I wish there was a way to comfort him. I’m a Taurus, 22, and he’s a Pisces, 27, I want to know what goes into his mind. I want to understand where his need for distance comes from, I want to know how to get him completely comfortable with me, where when he needs to recharge, me being there doesn’t “drain” him even more. So a question to Pisces men and women alike, how would I go about getting him to understand that I’m not judging him, I don’t see him as weak, and how do I go about not draining him during a recharge? (He’s told me that he’s only comfortable with 2 people being around him during his recharges and that would be his female best friend and his cousin both stationed across the country)
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I’ve been dating a Pisces man for about 6 months. It started off casual, recently he asked me if I wanted to be “his”? He wouldn’t get off the topic, until I answered yes. As I was waiting for him to say “girlfriend” but by this point I understand his emotional detachment, his need for distance, and need to recharge. He’s talked about introducing me to his mom and friends. (He’s military, stationed in my hometown, his friends in family are in NY/around the world) he’s talked about staying in my town with me or us getting out and disappearing. Well, he’s depressed, injured, and I see a lot of pain in him when he shares his feelings and past of abuse, etc. I wish there was a way to comfort him. I’m a Taurus, 22, and he’s a Pisces, 27, I want to know what goes into his mind. I want to understand where his need for distance comes from, I want to know how to get him completely comfortable with me, where when he needs to recharge, me being there doesn’t “drain” him even more. So a question to Pisces men and women alike, how would I go about getting him to understand that I’m not judging him, I don’t see him as weak, and how do I go about not draining him during a recharge? (He’s told me that he’s only comfortable with 2 people being around him during his recharges and that would be his female best friend and his cousin both stationed across the country)
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I’ve been dating a Pisces man for about 6 months. It started off casual, recently he asked me if I wanted to be “his”? He wouldn’t get off the topic, until I answered yes. As I was waiting for him to say “girlfriend” but by this point I understand his emotional detachment, his need for distance, and need to recharge. He’s talked about introducing me to his mom and friends. (He’s military, stationed in my hometown, his friends in family are in NY/around the world) he’s talked about staying in my town with me or us getting out and disappearing. Well, he’s depressed, injured, and I see a lot of pain in him when he shares his feelings and past of abuse, etc. I wish there was a way to comfort him. I’m a Taurus, 22, and he’s a Pisces, 27, I want to know what goes into his mind. I want to understand where his need for distance comes from, I want to know how to get him completely comfortable with me, where when he needs to recharge, me being there doesn’t “drain” him even more. So a question to Pisces men and women alike, how would I go about getting him to understand that I’m not judging him, I don’t see him as weak, and how do I go about not draining him during a recharge? (He’s told me that he’s only comfortable with 2 people being around him during his recharges and that would be his female best friend and his cousin both stationed across the country)
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Ok...is he telling her he has a female friend who is ONLY woman non-related he is comfortable with?

Is it like a hint ‘I have a gf’ missed?
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You said he has ptsd

You need to back off of him. I know of a lot of men who had ptsd and murdered their significant others. Just leave the dude alone!!
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Posted by Sjess

You said he has ptsd

You need to back off of him. I know of a lot of men who had ptsd and murdered their significant others. Just leave the dude alone!!
PTSD as in from his childhood issues. He has crazy nightmares where he shakes all night. He’s never gotten violent. He says he’s seen some friends murdered in NY when he was kid. But not from the military. He’s never even raised his voice at me. Tbh, we’ve never even gotten to an argument.
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Posted by Sjess

You said he has ptsd

You need to back off of him. I know of a lot of men who had ptsd and murdered their significant others. Just leave the dude alone!!


PTSD as in from his childhood issues. He has crazy nightmares where he shakes all night. He’s never gotten violent. He says he’s seen some friends murdered in NY when he was kid. But not from the military. He’s never even raised his voice at me. Tbh, we’ve never even gotten to an argument.
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It doesn’t really matter what it’s from. It’s still dangerous.

Anyway I’m just dramatic and always think of worse case scenario so don’t mind me
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Posted by Gemitati

Ok...is he telling her he has a female friend who is ONLY woman non-related he is comfortable with?

Is it like a hint ‘I have a gf’ missed?
No he’s single. Best friend has her own man. He shows me their messages and all that. But I trust him. My insecurity is coming from my ex (as I walked in on him and my friend/coworker having sex) but this one is different, I just remember females texting his phone when we first got together on our first few dates. I haven’t seen anything in the past 5 months. And the constant need for space, has me just nervous. I just find myself comparing our relationship to his exes. “Was he this distant w them or is this just me?” Etc
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Posted by Loyal

Say less do more. He feels comfortable around two people because he reasonates with the energy they give off. Pisces are nototrious for picking up on energy as well reading body lanugage. I wold know because I'm a Pisces man and anybbody could tell me this, that and the third but the energy will tell me way more than what just flew out of their mouth.
Ok bet. I think you’ve given me advice a few months ago. I appreciate the tips. You definitely help as I tend to overthink
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Posted by TaurusGem619
Posted by Sjess

You said he has ptsd

You need to back off of him. I know of a lot of men who had ptsd and murdered their significant others. Just leave the dude alone!!


PTSD as in from his childhood issues. He has crazy nightmares where he shakes all night. He’s never gotten violent. He says he’s seen some friends murdered in NY when he was kid. But not from the military. He’s never even raised his voice at me. Tbh, we’ve never even gotten to an argument.


It doesn’t really matter what it’s from. It’s still dangerous.

Anyway I’m just dramatic and always think of worse case scenario so don’t mind me
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Your definitely right. But I’m pretty realistic and I value my safety and believe me if he was in any way showing signs of being violent, I wouldn’t put myself in that position. He’s actually a extreme sweetheart
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Posted by Gemitati

Ok...is he telling her he has a female friend who is ONLY woman non-related he is comfortable with?

Is it like a hint ‘I have a gf’ missed?


No he’s single. Best friend has her own man. He shows me their messages and all that. But I trust him. My insecurity is coming from my ex (as I walked in on him and my friend/coworker having sex) but this one is different, I just remember females texting his phone when we first got together on our first few dates.ething I haven’t seen anything in the past 5 months. And the constant need for space, has me just nervous. I just find myself comparing our relationship to his exes. “Was he this distant w them or is this just me?” Etc
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Ok. I think we have something to discuss. My Aries also is ptsd victim.

He was a complicated child growing up and his older brother tried to kill him until Aries became bigger and beat shit out of him so...there is lots of issues plus anxieties...and I wasn’t aware at first. Because he wasn’t about to date me. I was supposed to be a one night stand so after about 10th date he decided to talk to me but I was already in loooove so you understand...

First date I’d grabbed his hand and he jerked it out of my hand so I thought he was shy...no shit! He is a nut!

So to make it quicker...there is no sudden touching, god forbid at night in bed...🧟‍♀️

And even I am standing in front of him - I have to say ‘let me hug you’ before I actually do. And it’s not always happily received...used to piss me off!

Until I’ve seen the same thing happened with his son when he grabbed his hand...oops! THEN it became real.

Does it sound similar familiar?
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And space yes. Physically not like dissapearing kind of space.

We don’t get communication space.

Only when next to each other too close sometimes he is moving away so I know it’s claistrophobia kicking in.

But communications - no space. That’s enough for me.
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I feel like pisces are always feeling the world is collapsing on them. My boyfriend complains about that alot. Which can be really whiney to me lol. But with that said as I fellow mutable sign I try and change it up for us. Take him out to dinner, help with laundry walk our dogs in a new place. Spread some type of energy change that's positive in whatever way I can it can really help the ebb and flow of things. Don't be his mother but try and show him postivity in a different way and sometimes that can motivate for them to re charge. That happens with mine anyway. But you know I can just get as watery with my cancer rising and scorp mars. Thank god for fire moon
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Posted by TaurusGem619
Posted by Gemitati

Ok...is he telling her he has a female friend who is ONLY woman non-related he is comfortable with?

Is it like a hint ‘I have a gf’ missed?


No he’s single. Best friend has her own man. He shows me their messages and all that. But I trust him. My insecurity is coming from my ex (as I walked in on him and my friend/coworker having sex) but this one is different, I just remember females texting his phone when we first got together on our first few dates.ething I haven’t seen anything in the past 5 months. And the constant need for space, has me just nervous. I just find myself comparing our relationship to his exes. “Was he this distant w them or is this just me?” Etc


Ok. I think we have something to discuss. My Aries also is ptsd victim.

He was a complicated child growing up and his older brother tried to kill him until Aries became bigger and beat shit out of him so...there is lots of issues plus anxieties...and I wasn’t aware at first. Because he wasn’t about to date me. I was supposed to be a one night stand so after about 10th date he decided to talk to me but I was already in loooove so you understand...

First date I’d grabbed his hand and he jerked it out of my hand so I thought he was shy...no shit! He is a nut!

So to make it quicker...there is no sudden touching, god forbid at night in bed...🧟‍♀️

And even I am standing in front of him - I have to say ‘let me hug you’ before I actually do. And it’s not always happily received...used to piss me off!

Until I’ve seen the same thing happened with his son when he grabbed his hand...oops! THEN it became real.

Does it sound similar familiar?
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No. Not really. He only jumps if he’s awakened sudden or tickled. Now he used to be ready to swing, if I came up behind him, or if I touched his neck, thighs, or underarms with my hands suddenly. Now I believe he’s used to me being very touchy. He actually relaxes now when I touch him and he’s very touchy himself as well. Any boundaries he has when it comes to touching, he’ll let me know. As of now, he just shakes violently in his sleep, although as corny as it may sound, he doesn’t shake if he knowingly falls asleep in my arms.
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Posted by Sag898

I feel like pisces are always feeling the world is collapsing on them. My boyfriend complains about that alot. Which can be really whiney to me lol. But with that said as I fellow mutable sign I try and change it up for us. Take him out to dinner, help with laundry walk our dogs in a new place. Spread some type of energy change that's positive in whatever way I can it can really help the ebb and flow of things. Don't be his mother but try and show him postivity in a different way and sometimes that can motivate for them to re charge. That happens with mine anyway. But you know I can just get as watery with my cancer rising and scorp mars. Thank god for fire moon
Okay. Thanks. That seems to help. He used to require a lot of recharging. Now, it’s maybe once a month during our time together, as I only see him about 3 days out the week. But lately, he’s only needed to recharge on the anniversary of his brothers death, but other than that , he seems to be getting used to me. Although, he just told me he hates being told what to do, rules, and that’s why he likes being alone and living without authority.
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by TaurusGem619
Posted by Gemitati

Ok...is he telling her he has a female friend who is ONLY woman non-related he is comfortable with?

Is it like a hint ‘I have a gf’ missed?


No he’s single. Best friend has her own man. He shows me their messages and all that. But I trust him. My insecurity is coming from my ex (as I walked in on him and my friend/coworker having sex) but this one is different, I just remember females texting his phone when we first got together on our first few dates.ething I haven’t seen anything in the past 5 months. And the constant need for space, has me just nervous. I just find myself comparing our relationship to his exes. “Was he this distant w them or is this just me?” Etc


Ok. I think we have something to discuss. My Aries also is ptsd victim.

He was a complicated child growing up and his older brother tried to kill him until Aries became bigger and beat shit out of him so...there is lots of issues plus anxieties...and I wasn’t aware at first. Because he wasn’t about to date me. I was supposed to be a one night stand so after about 10th date he decided to talk to me but I was already in loooove so you understand...

First date I’d grabbed his hand and he jerked it out of my hand so I thought he was shy...no shit! He is a nut!

So to make it quicker...there is no sudden touching, god forbid at night in bed...🧟‍♀️

And even I am standing in front of him - I have to say ‘let me hug you’ before I actually do. And it’s not always happily received...used to piss me off!

Until I’ve seen the same thing happened with his son when he grabbed his hand...oops! THEN it became real.

Does it sound similar familiar?


No. Not really. He only jumps if he’s awakened sudden or tickled. Now he used to be ready to swing, if I came up behind him, or if I touched his neck, thighs, or underarms with my hands suddenly. Now I believe he’s used to me being very touchy. He actually relaxes now when I touch him and he’s very touchy himself as well. Any boundaries he has when it comes to touching, he’ll let me know. As of now, he just shakes violently in his sleep, although as corny as it may sound, he doesn’t shake if he knowingly falls asleep in my arms.
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Very similar anyway. And yes I hope it’ll end and I see the improvement but being LDR doesn’t help.

And not shaking in your arms sounds promising. Good luck. 👍
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Posted by Sag898

I feel like pisces are always feeling the world is collapsing on them. My boyfriend complains about that alot. Which can be really whiney to me lol. But with that said as I fellow mutable sign I try and change it up for us. Take him out to dinner, help with laundry walk our dogs in a new place. Spread some type of energy change that's positive in whatever way I can it can really help the ebb and flow of things. Don't be his mother but try and show him postivity in a different way and sometimes that can motivate for them to re charge. That happens with mine anyway. But you know I can just get as watery with my cancer rising and scorp mars. Thank god for fire moon


Okay. Thanks. That seems to help. He used to require a lot of recharging. Now, it’s maybe once a month during our time together, as I only see him about 3 days out the week. But lately, he’s only needed to recharge on the anniversary of his brothers death, but other than that , he seems to be getting used to me. Although, he just told me he hates being told what to do, rules, and that’s why he likes being alone and living without authority.
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Yep that's a mutable thing forsure haha
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