How to get back a pisces male...... help please!
This topic was created in the Pisces forum by virgo29 on Tuesday, May 20, 2008 and has 25 replies.
I'm a virgo and the pisces i was seeing won't even talk to me anymore, we dated for about en months and since Feb. everytime I try talking to him he's so mean and hostile with me. I asked him if I had done anything but he didn't really respond. When you guys do this, just pull back without any warning what is the best approach. I don't wnt to make him more angry with me. Your help is much appreciated.
What does it take to get you guys back?
What does it take to get you guys back?
Yeah, Virgo, what's the missing piece, here? It usually takes something pretty huge to make us openly hostile to someone. When we're not on message boards, that is. 
I know something happened but he won't tell me. From the beginning (10 months ago). And since I need your honest help. We started met last year in May and saw each other between his travelling, it was great in the beginning and even though we saw each other when we could my feelings for him never left me. I don't know what to do, we were toggether last in February and then it just all stopped. His birthday was in March and he asked for me to come out for drink but my dad was sick and in the hospital so I couldn't go. He was kinda mean with me giving one word answers when i called, so I though it best to leave him alone for a bit, I called him last night and he told me he was engaged, obviously it could be true but why be so mean about it, Did I mean nothing to him all this time, i know he wasn't seeing anyone and he couold very well be engaged within 2 months but I don'tr beleive it and I just don't get it. I nkow your thinking, that if he tells you he's engaged then just leave it alone, but wow what a 360. I've always been there no matter what time it was and then this? Please help.
I never was dishonest or cheated.
I feel like I'm helplessly in love with someone who hates me and I don't even know why. Not one day, not one minute has gone by that I haven't thought about him since the day I met him.
Have you tried telling him what you just told us?
I do feel hurt, soo hurt and I must have done something really bad for him to want to hurt me like this. Do you think this was intentional, I know I sound pathetic, and wanting to be with him feels even more pathetic. know I souldn't want to be with him. I guess there is no way of fixing this.
Sea siren,
He makes it so difficult to talk to him, and after yesterday I can only feel that the hates me and I dont know what to do .
If there is anything you can think of please let me know.
He makes it so difficult to talk to him, and after yesterday I can only feel that the hates me and I dont know what to do .
If there is anything you can think of please let me know.
unhealthy is right, i've completely lost my appetite
I would send him an email or write him a letter expressing what you just said here, if he's not receptive to talking to you via phone or in person. Don't do four pages front and back or anything. Short, to the point and with your true feelings.
Based on whether he responds or not, you'll then have your answer.
Based on whether he responds or not, you'll then have your answer.
I knew these were the answers I was going to get, and even though I wish what everyone was saying wasn't true, I feel better, I still hate myself right now for whatever reason but I do feel better
You guys are a true blessing for those that are soooo lost, and I'm not as lost anymore. Thank you.
O god, me too, this is way too hard for me to go through again, i'm barley doing it now.
Exactly! Virgo, the letter is for you. It can give you a measure of closure because, honestly, if he doesn't respond, then he's just an a $ $ ! You don't need someone who treats you that way.
I've been in situations before, though, when other people have interfered in my relationship. I don't know if I'm right, but the vibe I get from this is that someone told something about you that isn't true.
I've been in situations before, though, when other people have interfered in my relationship. I don't know if I'm right, but the vibe I get from this is that someone told something about you that isn't true.
again, your all angels, it's not pointless, you have no idea how good it was to be able to talk to all of you about this, I don't feel like talking to my friends right now as they have never seen me like this and they never new how much I was really feeling for him, they had their own problems at the time and so I didn't wan't to burden them with all of this. Sometimes the people you think are the strongest are actually the weaker ones. Thank you soo much, I'm forever greatful. I am listening though.
The hostility he's throwing around really throws me here, Virgo. It's very uncharacteristic of most men (especially Pisces men) with no reason. I don't know...something's missing here, and I don't think you know about it either.
I thought that too, but I can only do so much if he's not talking to me. I even asked him yesterday why he's turn to hate me so much and I got nothing., and truly, after the engagement comment, I'm so hurt. It makes me feel like I wasn't worth anything, I don't want to be angry with him even though I think I have evey reason to but bottom line is I love him, never told told him but from the first day I met him. and i kow people will say that's bullshit, but you had to be there and I could put my life on it that he felt it too, that's why this is driving me so nuts. I was in a 7 year relationship and that didn't even hold a candle to this.
sounds to me like he is being cold in order to distance himself from you. also sounds like an ex came back and now they are engaged and that's why he is distancing himself from you. I would completely let it go. when a pisces is being mean, it means he doesnt want to be bothered so dont even try. give him the cold shoulder like he deserves. and good luck to you. sorry you are hurting. I know it stinks.
yeah pisces men are stupid. Fuck them. lol
Seriously though I would never do that to a girl I was with.
If we weren't together I just disappear if I'm not into it, when I was younger ofcourse =).
Seriously though I would never do that to a girl I was with.
If we weren't together I just disappear if I'm not into it, when I was younger ofcourse =).
if he actually WAS able to totally 'escape' from the relationship (which personally, i see my virgo and i being together until death...lol) chances are...there will be no cooperation, and persistance on your part will be perceived as offensive, disrespectful, or even threatening...some fish have trouble actually 'leaving' people and STAYING away...partly because the separation is almost similar to having ones soul drained entirely...it's easy to pull us back...but if the will to abandon someone is strong enough...there will be no return...
-jack
-jack
" .. there will be no cooperation, and persistance on your part will be perceived as offensive, disrespectful, or even threatening .."
Yeah, I see that in this situation. It's doubtful that he has another woman to whom he is engaged. This was just an excuse to get you to leave him alone, I'd be willing to wager.
It's easier for a woman to put this thought in her head because then it would give a valid reason for him doing this to her ..... instead of accepting that he just doesn't want to be with her any longer because that is too harsh of a pill to swallow.
The reason why it seems so unreal that he is engaged is likely because it isn't true .. you even said in the OP that you doubted this and thought it to be a lie. Isn't this a common line? Maybe not engaged, but, don't a lot of people say things like, "I'm involved with somebody else", or, "I have a boyfriend", or something similar when they are trying to blow somebody off?
There's no way for us in here to know what led up to his decision to swim away from you, only you know what happened in the relationship to create this distancing ... but, what I do know is that Pisces (usually) only swim away from someone when they feel the union is hurting them in some way. When we are happy with a person .. we do NOT swim (normally).
So, I would warrant he just wasn't happy, or perhaps he couldn't see where this relationship was going in a direction in which he could find happiness with you. This doesn't mean you did anything .. it just means that he wasn't happy.
Sometimes, relationships just end, and it's nobody's fault.
I also know that Pisces won't continue in a relationship if they aren't happy. Many people will continue to plug along, and endure the suffering of being unhappy .. and a Fish simply won't do this. If the relationship isn't right, for however we process right for us .. then we swim away, rather than put forth any more effort.
Yeah, I see that in this situation. It's doubtful that he has another woman to whom he is engaged. This was just an excuse to get you to leave him alone, I'd be willing to wager.
It's easier for a woman to put this thought in her head because then it would give a valid reason for him doing this to her ..... instead of accepting that he just doesn't want to be with her any longer because that is too harsh of a pill to swallow.
The reason why it seems so unreal that he is engaged is likely because it isn't true .. you even said in the OP that you doubted this and thought it to be a lie. Isn't this a common line? Maybe not engaged, but, don't a lot of people say things like, "I'm involved with somebody else", or, "I have a boyfriend", or something similar when they are trying to blow somebody off?
There's no way for us in here to know what led up to his decision to swim away from you, only you know what happened in the relationship to create this distancing ... but, what I do know is that Pisces (usually) only swim away from someone when they feel the union is hurting them in some way. When we are happy with a person .. we do NOT swim (normally).
So, I would warrant he just wasn't happy, or perhaps he couldn't see where this relationship was going in a direction in which he could find happiness with you. This doesn't mean you did anything .. it just means that he wasn't happy.
Sometimes, relationships just end, and it's nobody's fault.
I also know that Pisces won't continue in a relationship if they aren't happy. Many people will continue to plug along, and endure the suffering of being unhappy .. and a Fish simply won't do this. If the relationship isn't right, for however we process right for us .. then we swim away, rather than put forth any more effort.
One thing about this situation of yours that leaves a question in my mind ... you had said (paraphrasing) that he didn't know how you felt about him, and that you loved him ... you said that your friends don't know how much you are into him .. you said that he never told you he loved you but you know he did. How do you know he loved you?
Are you sure about that? Wouldn't it seem logical that IF he loved you then he wouldn't have swam away?
What is forming in my mind here .... you have these deep feelings for him in which you didn't tell him, and as these feelings you have for him started to develop, you then assumed the attention he gave you meant he loved you back.
This is quite common for women to do .. and is the #1 reason why our hearts break in half. We can be friends for ages with a guy and tolerate any non-emotional expression he may withhold, or if he expresses emotions, we put it into perspective to mean exactly what it is he is trying to convey ... however .. as soon as we develop loving feelings for a guy, suddenly EVERYTHING he does or says from that point forward, we trick ourselves into believing he is expressing love for us because this is what we want it to mean.
This goes for all women, not just you ... our emotional curse in life.
Anyway .. listen, Pisces are very, very, very perceptive, we pick up on every nuance around us, every little twinkle of the eye, or tone of a voice, we notice if your walk is different, or the way you fold your arms .... we notice any and all differences a person has as they relate to us.
And I'd be willing to wager that your demeanor changed around him, since you fell in love with him .... and if you believed in your head that he was in love with you, too, eventhough he never told you that, then this is the reason why he ran. If he tells you there's another woman in his life, then he's hoping that you will stop chasing him down.
I really don't see this as him being an asshole in any way. I do the same thing .. we all do. If there is a person who is crazy about us, and assumes we feel the same way back ... we run our asses off in the other direction, and in so doing, we will tell them ANYTHING to get them to leave us alone.
Virgo29 ..... this just sounds like a case where you fell for a man who didn't share these same feelings back, and once he picked up on the Love-Vibes you were sending out .. he dipped.
Are you sure about that? Wouldn't it seem logical that IF he loved you then he wouldn't have swam away?
What is forming in my mind here .... you have these deep feelings for him in which you didn't tell him, and as these feelings you have for him started to develop, you then assumed the attention he gave you meant he loved you back.
This is quite common for women to do .. and is the #1 reason why our hearts break in half. We can be friends for ages with a guy and tolerate any non-emotional expression he may withhold, or if he expresses emotions, we put it into perspective to mean exactly what it is he is trying to convey ... however .. as soon as we develop loving feelings for a guy, suddenly EVERYTHING he does or says from that point forward, we trick ourselves into believing he is expressing love for us because this is what we want it to mean.
This goes for all women, not just you ... our emotional curse in life.
Anyway .. listen, Pisces are very, very, very perceptive, we pick up on every nuance around us, every little twinkle of the eye, or tone of a voice, we notice if your walk is different, or the way you fold your arms .... we notice any and all differences a person has as they relate to us.
And I'd be willing to wager that your demeanor changed around him, since you fell in love with him .... and if you believed in your head that he was in love with you, too, eventhough he never told you that, then this is the reason why he ran. If he tells you there's another woman in his life, then he's hoping that you will stop chasing him down.
I really don't see this as him being an asshole in any way. I do the same thing .. we all do. If there is a person who is crazy about us, and assumes we feel the same way back ... we run our asses off in the other direction, and in so doing, we will tell them ANYTHING to get them to leave us alone.
Virgo29 ..... this just sounds like a case where you fell for a man who didn't share these same feelings back, and once he picked up on the Love-Vibes you were sending out .. he dipped.
"Anyway .. listen, Pisces are very, very, very perceptive, we pick up on every nuance around us, every little twinkle of the eye, or tone of a voice, we notice if your walk is different, or the way you fold your arms .... we notice any and all differences a person has as they relate to us."
Pisceans who have drug & and alcohol addictions don't pick up on anything remotely perceptive.
P-Angel your Aries and Leo in your chart makes you extremely anally aggressive.
Pisceans who have drug & and alcohol addictions don't pick up on anything remotely perceptive.
P-Angel your Aries and Leo in your chart makes you extremely anally aggressive.
anally agressive?
what??
what??
Wow, I want to ask YOU the same things about the virguy, he completely ignores me but never told me to leave him alone. Does he still mind my texts? As for the pisces guy, he probably still has feelings for you. Cause when I get over someone, they dont get me mad anymore, its more apathy than anything.
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