How to suceed in studies as a pisces ? How to build self confidence ? Need help

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by Isa-bananafish on Saturday, December 12, 2020 and has 16 replies.
Hi everyone !

I'm new on this forum and discovered astrology not so long ago, and I find a kind of help and reassurance in learning about pisces personality. I guess I feel more understood, and understand myself better. I apologize in advance for my english, I'm not a native speaker.

Here is my main problem : I struggle a lot in my studies, because I often feel anxious and stressed especially with deadlines, and this brings me a kind of "mental block" when I need to get to work. In the end, I always find myself hurry to get my work done few days before the deadline because I couldn't find a way to begin to work earlier. Yet I often booked my week-ends and free time to work, and forbid myself to get out or doing anything else. But most of the time I can't manage to get to study, so I just loose my day (my work is not done and I stayed all the day at home trying to work). I eventually begin to work in hurry but in the end I'm not really proud of myself because the result in not up to my expectations (lack of time of course). Often I'm not able to give something finished (complete?) to my teacher, or it's just mediocre. I hate myself so much for this, I wish I could be organized and make great things of which I could be proud.

I observed that when we have to do a collective work, for example in two-person team, I don't really have to face this issue, it's way easier for me to start to work and I don't want to make things difficult for my work partner. I have to write my essay for newt week and I'm so much late... I'm fed up to find myself in those kind of situations and really want to change it.

Pisces friends, do you face the same issues ? Have you got some advices to get motivated and stop being stressed in order to work serenely and not have to work in hurry ? I'll be very grateful to hear about your stories and points of view about this. Have a great day !
Procrastination is a Pisces art.

Fine art as we are the masters of it.

If your having difficulty concentrating on your studies is that perhaps because you are in the wrong major? I changed mine 3xs in school. It may feel like a set back. But better to take an extra year or so to discover your passion then graduate quickly get stuck in a career path/job you hate but feel compelled to stay at to pay off those student loans. Next thing you know you've blinked and it’s 10 years later and you finally have the guts to start over.

I approached school as a necessary roadblock between me and my goals. In the real world no one cares about your gpa or where your degree is from. It’s a foot in the door requirement.

(Unless of course your pursuing multiple degrees)
Are you paying for school yourself?

I was motivated because I didn’t want to waste my money. Main reason I chose to live near campus and commute 30-40mins to work. I will always show up since I’m getting paid, but making it easy to get to class means less excuses to bail.
A huge thanks to all for your answers.

@LiterallyStalinG thank you, I've heard about visualization and I now believe this could help me.

@MadTwins80 I've never tried this kind of stimulants but it scares me a bit as I know I can become quickly "addict". And I would prefer to fix this "by myself", but you're right it could be an option at short term !

@dOpehEad I often try to be self-disciplined but it's a disaster, my brain has a mind of its own and sees only what brings him immediate pleasure, and is extremely fearful when there is risk of failure. But maybe I'm wrong and it's possible to work on it and "get used to it" as you said, I really hope so.

@LadyNeptune Yes, this is unfortunately a pisces characteristic...

"you are in the wring major" : I always call myself into question about this, it's really important to me and I just can't do something if I don't feel connected to it one way or another. But even if I still have doubts sometimes, I really chose by myself what I'm studying - I'm in the art and social design field - and this really makes sense for me. But in every schooling there are "obligations" (I know it's unavoidable) such as exams, and above all, a kind of pressure that blocks me because I'm often afraid not to be equal to the the level expected. Writing this makes me think that the lack of self-confidence is really linked to my issue.

I'm in a public school (no fees), but I have to pay half of my rent and food needs.

"I approached school as a necessary roadblock between me and my goals" : you're right, this is so true, I really need to remember this more often.

I find Pisces work better after immediately told to do something or right before it's due. So, have you tried to start the assignments the very first day or two you've been told??

One of my closest friends is a Pisces and the only time he can study is immediately when told. Those first few days he buckles down and stubbornly goes deep into all of it. Then right before he reviews and sees of there's something he doesn't understand. He's one of the hardest working people I know and definitely if you need help with anything right now he's good for it. Have you tried this tactic??
Here let me tell you, im a pisces.

So theres job vacancy in my government, they say the pay is the highest among other government vacancy so many people go and try to get this job.

Me ? im just apply because the vacancy quite many.

Every people try so hard, like buy book "how to succeed this" and pay someone to train them to succeed taking this job.

Meanwhile im just being the lazy me and when the test show up im just hoping i get lucky.

And guess what ? from 10.000 people who try to get the job and 300 people get accepted, my rank is 166. Even in my lazy mode i could achieve that, imagine if i become my diligent self and being discipline.

I dont know if its because my sag moon or obviously because of my genetic, but if its a pisces thing know that "you always have the gift that others dont have, your natural intelligence, where others need to try hard to go to that point you could go to that point easily, all you have to do is use that gift God gave you to good use".
@GemCurioThe1 Wow this is very interesting ! What you said rings a bell because my mother always tells me that when I was a child at primary school, I used to do all my homework right after school at the very beginning of the holidays to get rid of those obligations as quick as possible. I have no idea how I switched my inner operation, but I guess I should try to work this way again, your friend is very inspiring to my eyes ! Thank you so much for sharing your advice and your friend experience, I'll definitely try to do like him next timesmile)

@MadTwins80 Thanks for your advices, you're right, I also strongly believe in links between body and mind and can testify that sleep is all for me. Meditation is very precious too. Also I didn't know about ginkgo, thanks !

@einspisces Your experience gives hope, thanks for sharing. This could mean that we (pisces) are not doing good to become self-disciplined (or at least it's not our strength), but we manage to succeed by another way, like by the road less travelled ?
You are a last minute person, meaning that you can achieve more things and better things under pressure. This is the way your brain operates, and to be honest, it’s awesome. Don’t ever try to follow the crowd.

One thing you can try in advance, is writing down the main ideas and definitions. Understand connections, aka how do these ideas fit into the big picture. The most relevant things. You’ll fill the gaps later one, days before your deadline. Don’t just read sentence after sentence until you feel sick of it. Scan it for keywords, things you can associate with your main ideas. Interesting things that fire your imagination. Follow them outside your curriculum, google them.

The person marking your essay is doing it according to a plan. It is actually marking the main ideas, the rest—how much you develop them—is a bonus. You can develop one idea at nauseum, at the detriment others, but still get only 20% for it. Make sure you write something —at least a definition or a phrase—about all the other too.

Don’t get stressed. It’s not about how much you can memorise, but how much you understand. About the personal skills you can develop.
Posted by Undine

You are a last minute person, meaning that you can achieve more things and better things under pressure. This is the way your brain operates, and to be honest, it’s awesome. Don’t ever try to follow the crowd.

One thing you can try in advance, is writing down the main ideas and definitions. Understand connections, aka how do these ideas fit into the big picture. The most relevant things. You’ll fill the gaps later one, days before your deadline. Don’t just read sentence after sentence until you feel sick of it. Scan it for keywords, things you can associate with your main ideas. Interesting things that fire your imagination. Follow them outside your curriculum, google them.

The person marking your essay is doing it according to a plan. It is actually marking the main ideas, the rest—how much you develop them—is a bonus. You can develop one idea at nauseum, at the detriment others, but still get only 20% for it. Make sure you write something —at least a definition or a phrase—about all the other too.

Don’t get stressed. It’s not about how much you can memorise, but how much you understand. About the personal skills you can develop.


This ^^^ !!!
@Undine Thank you very much for your message. I'll keep in mind your precious advices. The way I work is not really convenient to my eyes because I'm often late and overrun deadlines which is not well seen most of the time... But perhaps becoming aware of the fact that this kind of brain operation is valid as well will help me to take confidence and be less stucked by the stress. This makes me want to accept my natural inner behaviour, big thanks !

I'm not a pisces but as a sag I am definitely a last minute person when it comes to studies. My absolute best work has been done while under pressure. I agree with @Undine with making little notes or bullet-points when you think of ideas a few days before so you don't lose them then set a day to just kinda freehand it and feel your way through. That's how I go about any type of coursework or written work.

It took me years to realise this is actually how I work best and to go along with my natural flow. I work best in the evenings and late nights and somedays I set a day to get cracking but its just not the 'right' day for me. I don't force it if that happens but with deadlines you don't always have that option. Anyway I'm rambling.

All the best to you.
@Ninjagirl

thank you ♥

Yes going along with the flow is the best but not always compatible with deadlines.. Anyway listening to myself and observing when I work best will be helpfulsmile

For pisces it's important to suround yourself with similar minded people, because you're water sign, you'll take on people's energy's, the more similar goal people around you who do things to achieve them, the more likely you're going to be doing it, energy levels are really important.
I suggest you read the MBTI, take the test. Find out your strengths and weaknesses, implement the solutions by the mbti. Pisces is usually INFP,INFJ, ISFJ or ISFP. For instance, I am INFJ, I find myself studying alone productive. Pisces, need some alone time to process information, of which all introverts do.
@LithiK Yes that's so true energy level is so important... thanks for the reminder

@chris19 I did it once, if I remember well I was INFP, I have to do it again ! thanks for the advicesmile
@dOpehEad That sounds a good idea, I'm sure it can help. thanks!